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Title: All them THINGS that I don't know
Post by: matt78 on Jan 19, 2006, 12:49 PM

Ennis:  "I'm gonna tell you this one time, Jack fu**in' Twist, an' I ain't foolin'. What I don't know - all them THINGS that I don't know - could get you killed if I should come to know them."


When he said the word THINGS in that loud aggressive tone I almost jumped out of my seat in the second viewing.
Powerful line

Title: Re: All them THINGS that I don't know
Post by: tpe on Jan 19, 2006, 01:42 PM
The way Ledger punctuated the word THINGS by hitting Gyllenhaal with both fists made ME jump. 

Very powerful line.
Title: Re: All them THINGS that I don't know
Post by: Toadily on Jan 19, 2006, 01:45 PM
I know, that scene was so amazing cause of the level of emotion.  When you think of how tight wound Ennis is in the other scenes and then you that!
Title: Re: All them THINGS that I don't know
Post by: jimnick on Jan 19, 2006, 10:07 PM
Ennis is essentially saying: "Jack, you are only for me!"

Jim
Title: Re: All them THINGS that I don't know
Post by: ethan on Jan 19, 2006, 10:13 PM

Ennis:  "I'm gonna tell you this one time, Jack f***in' Twist, an' I ain't foolin'. What I don't know - all them THINGS that I don't know - could get you killed if I should come to know them."


When he said the word THINGS in that loud aggressive tone I almost jumped out of my seat in the second viewing.
Powerful line

Even after seeing it 5th times, I still almost jumped out of my seat. Full of emotion. Could it mean that Ennis is the possessive type? But that is another topic.
Title: Re: All them THINGS that I don't know
Post by: jimnick on Jan 19, 2006, 10:19 PM
Ennis is essentially saying: "Jack, you are only for me!"

Jim

...and who could blame him?

Jim
Title: Re: All them THINGS that I don't know
Post by: Hermes1 on Jan 20, 2006, 02:24 AM
That was also Ennis' round about way of saying that he loved Jack... Sometimes possessiveness is the only way stoic people know how to express love.
Title: Re: All them THINGS that I don't know
Post by: tpe on Jan 20, 2006, 07:50 AM
That was also Ennis' round about way of saying that he loved Jack... Sometimes possessiveness is the only way stoic people know how to express love.

Welcome Hermes1.

I agree.  Also, in the case of Ennis, violence ironically becomes a telltale expression of love.
Title: Re: All them THINGS that I don't know
Post by: daveya26 on Jan 20, 2006, 07:57 AM
Interesting how they both spoke openly of their wives and other women (Jack's affair, Ennis' waitress) with jealousy but the thought of Jack with another man drives Ennis wild.  Its almost like the women arent a threat to them but another man could be, it could spoil something special and unique for them.
Title: Re: All them THINGS that I don't know
Post by: ethan on Jan 20, 2006, 08:10 AM
Interesting how they both spoke openly of their wives and other women (Jack's affair, Ennis' waitress) with jealousy but the thought of Jack with another man drives Ennis wild.  Its almost like the women arent a threat to them but another man could be, it could spoil something special and unique for them.

Very interesting observation. I never thought of this. This could further support the theory of acting straight which they both knew that women in their lives are just a cover-up.
Title: Re: All them THINGS that I don't know
Post by: tpe on Jan 20, 2006, 08:15 AM
Interesting how they both spoke openly of their wives and other women (Jack's affair, Ennis' waitress) with [sic] jealousy but the thought of Jack with another man drives Ennis wild.  Its almost like the women arent a threat to them but another man could be, it could spoil something special and unique for them.

Very interesting observation. I never thought of this. This could further support the theory of acting straight which they both knew that women in their lives are just a cover-up.

I completely agree that they did not consider the women in their lives as a threat to their relationship.  This is clear when Jack tries to hide his affair with the Texas neighbor by telling Ennis that he (Jack) was having an affair with the Texas neighbor's WIFE.

Also remember the exchange:

Jack: You and Alma...that's a life?

Ennis: Now you shut up about Alma...it's not her fault...
Title: Re: All them THINGS that I don't know
Post by: daveya26 on Jan 20, 2006, 08:37 AM
Sorry, I meant to say 'without jealousy', obviously ::)

That bit you quoted was in the movie, but interestingly not in the book.  To me, it seems as if Ennis is being protective of Alma, he feels some guilt and doesnt want Jack belittling her.
Title: Re: All them THINGS that I don't know
Post by: tpe on Jan 20, 2006, 08:54 AM
Sorry, I meant to say 'without jealousy', obviously ::)

That bit you quoted was in the movie, but interestingly not in the book.  To me, it seems as if Ennis is being protective of Alma, he feels some guilt and doesnt want Jack belittling her.

daveya26, correct.  The entire first fishing trip is an addition from the screenplay.  (Recall that the story only features the motel scene whereas the film moves parts of the motel scene dialog to this new fishing trip scene.)

Ennis was being protective of Alma because, in a sense, he did love her.  But this love was clearly on a different level and was not a threat to Ennis' love for Jack. That was why both of them could talk about their marriages without jealousy.  Had Alma been a threat, Ennis would never would have mentioned Alma directly to Jack.

Nonetheless, it is interesting to note that Ennis NEVER wanted to share Jack with Alma ('He's from Texas'  'Texans don't drink coffee?').  The same is true for Jack: he never wanted to share Ennis with Lureen ('The Big Horn aint in Texas...')  If Ennis and Jack could talk openly about their wives to each other, they were never NEVER comfortable discussing the other with their respective marital partners.  In fact, even Ennis' daughters and Jack's son were completely in the dark as to this special relationship.  In contrast to this, note that Ennis had no problem having both Alma Jr. and Cassie together with him.
 
This possessiveness speaks volumes of how they treasured the relationship.
Title: Re: All them THINGS that I don't know
Post by: Walford on Jan 21, 2006, 03:48 AM
Just occured to me how Ennis attacked the word "THINGS" and attacked Jack with it.  There's a subtext there that Ennis is disgusted by homosexual sex ("them things"), and still considers what he has with Jack as "ain't queer."  This also shows when he talks about what they have in Mexico for "boys like YOU."
Title: Re: All them THINGS that I don't know
Post by: coguaro on Jan 21, 2006, 04:16 AM
I think that in this scene Ennis is captured by his jalousie and maybe offended by the idea that their unique, special, love didn't have been respected by Jack behavior. For that he use  an aggressive language which maybe he listened when he was in his family house, the language he grown with. His cultural rotts coming out.
Title: Re: All them THINGS that I don't know
Post by: jimnick on Jan 21, 2006, 11:26 AM
I think that in this scene Ennis is captured by his jalousie and maybe offended by the idea that their unique, special, love didn't have been respected by Jack behavior. For that he use  an aggressive language which maybe he listened when he was in his family house, the language he grown with. His cultural rotts coming out.

I think you're right.  Ennis' distaste for being gay and fear of being found out stems from his upbringing.

Jim
Title: Re: All them THINGS that I don't know
Post by: City Slickin' Cowboy on Jan 23, 2006, 06:13 PM

Ennis:  "I'm gonna tell you this one time, Jack f***in' Twist, an' I ain't foolin'. What I don't know - all them THINGS that I don't know - could get you killed if I should come to know them."


I too believe this was Ennis' way of expressing his hurt if he knew for sure that Jack had been with other men.  When I saw this scene during my 2nd viewing I thought "Damn! He loves the hell outta this guy!"
Title: Re: All them THINGS that I don't know
Post by: Toadily on Jan 23, 2006, 06:19 PM

Ennis:  "I'm gonna tell you this one time, Jack f***in' Twist, an' I ain't foolin'. What I don't know - all them THINGS that I don't know - could get you killed if I should come to know them."


I too believe this was Ennis' way of expressing his hurt if he knew for sure that Jack had been with other men.  When I saw this scene during my 2nd viewing I thought "Damn! He loves the hell outta this guy!"

Yeah the first time I saw it I wasn't sure, I thought it was more of a homophobic thing but yes, it was Ennis's way of showing love in an odd way.
Title: Re: All them THINGS that I don't know...My take is different.
Post by: j on Jan 23, 2006, 08:38 PM
My take on this isso much different than many of you.


Ennis del Mar: I'm gonna tell you this one time, Jack f***in' Twist, an' I ain't foolin'. What I don't know - all them things I don't know - could get you killed if I come to know them. I ain't jokin'.

I thought about this when it was happening and to me it was not a love moment but a frightening veiled threat

Now remember when Ennis gets the postcard back? When he makes the call he is calm. (OK many people can be calm when they fear the worse) BUT it was almost like Ennis KNEW that Jack was dead.

What if Ennis found out all about the other men in Jack's life and went ballistic?

Jack frequented Mexico looking for sex, and who knows where else? Ennis basically stayed pretty much asexsual.

Have to say though that whenhe was in bed and turned his wife over, well it got me HOT::) ::)

BTW I love the name ENNIS!!!!

J


Title: Re: All them THINGS that I don't know...My take is different.
Post by: Allan on Jan 23, 2006, 08:51 PM
BTW I love the name ENNIS!!!!


Ennis literally means "island."  Ennis Del Mar = Island of the Sea.  And they say that no man is an island.....
Title: Re: All them THINGS that I don't know
Post by: j on Jan 23, 2006, 08:58 PM
Yes I knew that.He also was a great painter. : )
J
Title: Re: All them THINGS that I don't know...My take is different.
Post by: matt78 on Jan 24, 2006, 07:38 AM
it was almost like Ennis KNEW that Jack was dead.
What if Ennis found out all about the other men in Jack's life and went ballistic?


Are you insane???  You're suggesting that Ennis killed Jack????   :o
Were you paying any attention at all to the rest of the film??

I think this is highly unlikely...
Title: Re: All them THINGS that I don't know
Post by: j on Jan 24, 2006, 10:56 AM
No I am not insane, just like to see all different avenues as this is my vocation.
That said there is *a fine line between love and hate*.
Get a grip,huh?
J
Title: Re: All them THINGS that I don't know
Post by: coguaro on Jan 24, 2006, 12:50 PM
impossible. There is no trace of it in the final.. its absurd considering the immense love tehy proved

coguaro
Title: Re: All them THINGS that I don't know
Post by: tweric on Jan 24, 2006, 01:47 PM
Yeah... it's already known that Ennis went berserk when he was questioning Jack if he had done what Ennis thought he did. Once it's confirmed, Ennis simply broke down...(He really can't kill Jack.. so all the emotions back fired...to Ennis himself)

It just reminded me... Ennis was quite calm when Jack's father told him about the other man (I did see Heath's nostrils expended a very slight little bit). If it weren't because of the big fight earlier that year that he knew Jack had something going on on the side, Ennis might have broken down when he heard about it from Jack's father...
Title: Re: All them THINGS that I don't know
Post by: j on Jan 24, 2006, 01:53 PM
impossible. There is no trace of it in the final.. its absurd considering the immense love tehy proved

coguaro

I don't think it is absurd.
Hey, I thought this board was about what WE as individuals thought about the characters and what they and others and quotes symbolized.
While it is not what I think happened I cannot rule it out, as there are a lot of things that lead to believe Ennis could or did do this.
Heck ever read great mysteries?

J
Title: Re: All them THINGS that I don't know
Post by: coguaro on Jan 24, 2006, 02:21 PM
of course everything is possible but... there is no reasons because  Ennis homicide could been hidden in the story... and also it muder may give an ugly shading to the final and I think it would change the final message of the film.
Morevoer I think that Ennis never could be capable to premeditate murder... that isn't in his character. I could see him maybe kill someone because of an instinctive reaction (think about the scene on the fireworks on in the road after thanksgiven dinner!)

coguaro
Title: Re: All them THINGS that I don't know
Post by: j on Jan 24, 2006, 04:11 PM
of course everything is possible but... there is no reasons because  Ennis homicide could been hidden in the story... and also it muder may give an ugly shading to the final and I think it would change the final message of the film.
Morevoer I think that Ennis never could be capable to premeditate murder... that isn't in his character. I could see him maybe kill someone because of an instinctive reaction (think about the scene on the fireworks on in the road after thanksgiven dinner!)

coguaro

Well  let's say he found out about the other guy that Jack was talking about taking up to the family farm. He confronted Jack and his anger took over.
J
Title: Re: All them THINGS that I don't know
Post by: jimnick on Jan 24, 2006, 04:29 PM
Hi All:

This is very good discussion.  sharing and debating the what if's and how about's  is what we are all here foe.  Let us all keep in mind that it's our differences of opinion that we find so valuable on this forum.  Let us respectfully disagree with one another and encourage challenges to our individual view points.  Everyone's input is valuable and worthy.  If we wanted only to hear our own opinions, we could just talk to ourselves,.. and where would that get us?

This is a friendly place,  Disagree, but be friendly about it.
Title: Re: All them THINGS that I don't know
Post by: j on Jan 24, 2006, 04:56 PM
Sounds good to me ;)
J
Title: Re: All them THINGS that I don't know
Post by: skallywalla on Jan 24, 2006, 06:03 PM
impossible. There is no trace of it in the final.. its absurd considering the immense love tehy proved

coguaro

I don't think it is absurd.
Hey, I thought this board was about what WE as individuals thought about the characters and what they and others and quotes symbolized.
While it is not what I think happened I cannot rule it out, as there are a lot of things that lead to believe Ennis could or did do this.
Heck ever read great mysteries?

J

Yes, I've read great mysteries...however, if you're going to go that route, you have to look at whether you have any evidence that contradicts your theory (and thus, lead you to rule it out.)  Did you hear the noise Ennis made when he saw the postcard with the word "DECEASED" stamped on it?  It was like a guttural sound someone would make if hit in the chest.  That was the sound of suprise, shock, sorrow, - and did you see how he stopped dead in his tracks?  There was nothing in either his expression or his face to suggest anything other than that this was a complete shock, like a bolt of lightning and shook him to his core. 

Another thing to consider:  if he had perpetrated this crime, it would have been a crime of passion, heat-of-the-moment.  He wasn't a make plans type of guy, so it would have been near impossible for him to premeditate this crime.  Also - Jack says at some point in the film that he doubts "Ennis' pickup would make it to Texas."  He clearly was just scraping by so paying for public transportation would clearlyl be out of the question.  It was a looooong way from Wyoming to Texas.  And do you think it's probable that even though his own inhibitions about the love in his heart prevented him from reaching the one thing he wanted most for so many years that he would all of a sudden overcome those same inhibitions with *violence* in his heart? 

There are several things to suggest in the film that if Ennis is moved to violence, it's *in* the moment:  his punching Jack, his almost hitting Alma, his beating the random guy in the truck that almost ran him over up.   

Therefore, I think your presumption that there a lot of things to suggest he had the ability and the means and intent is faulty.  Finally, Annie Proulx's beautiful story does not suggest this in the least - "no, it was the tire iron" - and Heath Ledger's acting plus Ang Lee's directing do no support this at all.
Title: Re: All them THINGS that I don't know
Post by: City Slickin' Cowboy on Jan 24, 2006, 06:12 PM
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Skallywalla said:

"There are several things to suggest in the film that if Ennis is moved to violence, it's *in* the moment:  his punching Jack, his almost hitting Alma, his beating the random guy in the truck that almost ran him over up.   

Therefore, I think your presumption that there a lot of things to suggest he had the ability and the means and intent is faulty.  Finally, Annie Proulx's beautiful story does not suggest this in the least - "no, it was the tire iron" - and Heath Ledger's acting plus Ang Lee's directing do no support this at all."
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You've said it.  Nothing displayed in Ennis's character points to an involvement with Jack's death.  He could only kill Jack in the heat of passion.
Title: Re: All them THINGS that I don't know
Post by: matt78 on Jan 25, 2006, 04:55 AM
J-

Sorry for my impulsive post which in retrospect I should have worded more nicely.  I just had the feeling that you were making your suggestion for shock value.  It worked anyway!

Of course you're entitled to your opinion and interpretation.
 :-*
Title: Re: All them THINGS that I don't know
Post by: j on Jan 25, 2006, 09:47 AM
J-

Sorry for my impulsive post which in retrospect I should have worded more nicely.  I just had the feeling that you were making your suggestion for shock value. 


Sorry that yo thought that. This would mean I was a troll which I am not. : (

 It worked anyway!

I was thinking all sorts of things and when I spoke to a real life friend she came up with that scenario and it was one that I feel could have happened.

Of course you're entitled to your opinion and interpretation.

Yes I am. In my line of work we put out all sorts of interpretations . ; )
That said my feeling on Jack's death was that he was murdered by the FIL and cronies.


It is amzing how so many of  us are ,here and wanting to talk about this movie,huh?

J
 :-*
Title: Re: All them THINGS that I don't know
Post by: Kindred on Jan 25, 2006, 10:57 AM
Just as a point of clarification, the short story makes it clear that Jack's FIL dies prior to Jack's death.  The movie however does not relay this information and leaves open the possibility, which may have been intentional.
Title: Re: All them THINGS that I don't know
Post by: j on Jan 25, 2006, 11:17 AM
Just as a point of clarification, the short story makes it clear that Jack's FIL dies prior to Jack's death.  The movie however does not relay this information and leaves open the possibility, which may have been intentional.

Thanks for this. Interesting...
J
Title: Re: All them THINGS that I don't know
Post by: skallywalla on Jan 25, 2006, 11:21 AM
Whoops.  didn't mean to post twice - sorry about that!
Title: Re: All them THINGS that I don't know
Post by: coguaro on Jan 25, 2006, 11:46 AM
of course we can speculate about who killed Jack... but i cant imagine that it was Ennis...
Also looking at the film homicide scene I remember a group of aggressors (how it happen in classic group intolerance violence). It would mean that Ennis organize it or that he used some friends; in both cases I cant imagine Ennis could organize this plan... as we told before it seems that because of his character he could kill someone only for an impulsive reaction..
I cant consider  Ennis as killer..
Of course this is my opinion.


baci
coguaro

Title: Re: All them THINGS that I don't know
Post by: j on Jan 25, 2006, 11:49 AM
of course we can speculate about who killed Jack... but i cant imagine that it was Ennis...
Also looking at the film homicide scene I remember a group of aggressors (how it happen in classic group intolerance violence). It would mean that Ennis organize it or that he used some friends; in both cases I cant imagine Ennis could organize this plan... as we told before it seems that because of his character he could kill someone only for an impulsive reaction..
I cant consider  Ennis as killer..
Of course this is my opinion.


baci
coguaro

While I cannot see Ennis as a killer with other people I DO see Ennis as a follower that could be seduced by some straight guys unfotunately.

 I do not know who KILLED could have been Lureen, but it wasn't an accident.
Like you this is ONLY my opinion as well.
Nice to have all different opinions though.  :)

J


Title: Re: All them THINGS that I don't know
Post by: ethan on Jan 25, 2006, 11:55 AM
I was thinking all sorts of things and when I spoke to a real life friend she came up with that scenario and it was one that I feel could have happened.

skallywalla have valid points to discount the possibility you have suggested. (skallywalla, don't worry about duplicate postings - one has been removed). Sharing is wonderful and is what this forum about. Through sharing, we gain more understandings - not argumentative and confrontational. Direct constructive and respectful posts to every topic. Let's please keep that in mind.

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Yes I am. In my line of work we put out all sorts of interpretations . ; )
That said my feeling on Jack's death was that he was murdered by the FIL and cronies.

BBM is great because it opens to all interpretations. We are here to share our interpretations and help each other understand this great movie more. As Kindred has pointed out, Jack's father-in-law passed away before his death. So one more possibility to rule out.

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It is amzing how so many of  us are ,here and wanting to talk about this movie,huh?

Indeed. This movie has affected many and made this forum a wonderful place for discussion. Let's direct our thoughts to the topic at hand and minimize personal comments toward individuals.
Title: Re: All them THINGS that I don't know
Post by: j on Jan 25, 2006, 12:08 PM
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It is amzing how so many of  us are ,here and wanting to talk about this movie,huh?
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Indeed. This movie has affected many and made this forum a wonderful place for discussion. Let's direct our thoughts to the topic at hand and minimize personal comments toward individuals.
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?????? It seems to me you are implying that I am issuing personal comments to some posters. If so PLEASE point this out to me.
The only one that can remotely be construed as such as is my reply in *get a grip* after I was asked it I was insane.

If you are posting just to ME then I guess I am gone from here, as it is FAR TOO MODERATED. : (

J
Title: Re: All them THINGS that I don't know
Post by: ethan on Jan 25, 2006, 02:11 PM
?????? It seems to me you are implying that I am issuing personal comments to some posters. If so PLEASE point this out to me.
The only one that can remotely be construed as such as is my reply in *get a grip* after I was asked it I was insane.

If you are posting just to ME then I guess I am gone from here, as it is FAR TOO MODERATED. : (

J

j, please don't take it personal. My post is not just to you. In this fourm where posts are the only mean of exchange, we *all* need to be sensitive to what we say and have fun at the same time. Thank you for your support and understanding.
Title: Re: All them THINGS that I don't know
Post by: brokenheart5813 on Jan 25, 2006, 10:44 PM
A very powerful scene.  They can talk about being with women, but just the thought of Jack being with another man is too much for Ennis - because he is cheating.
Title: Re: All them THINGS that I don't know
Post by: francis.shim on Jan 27, 2006, 01:39 AM
Ahem...

Jus' thinkin'... way Ennis... so jealous of Jack and his going-on's...
Well... ain't it strange... us getting strung out on this thread too...
... jus' a thought.

Peace,
Frank
Title: Re: All them THINGS that I don't know
Post by: coguaro on Jan 27, 2006, 12:46 PM
Ive an idea about Jack homicide... do you remember the scene in the bar when Jack want to offer a beer to the rodeo clown? Well the offended clown after he refused that beer went to billiard table speaking with other cowboys  about something looking at Jack with some violence in theirs looks, of course they comment about Jack homosexuality...

I think such kind of people could decide to kill our Jack

baci
coguaro
Title: Re: All them THINGS that I don't know
Post by: AnitaSmith on Jan 27, 2006, 05:03 PM
That was also Ennis' round about way of saying that he loved Jack... Sometimes possessiveness is the only way stoic people know how to express love.

And herein lies my observation that Ennis is a very conflicted figure.  I found it personally frustrating that while Ennis expresses intense feelings over Jack's affairs with other men (the things he didn't know), Ennis wouldn't budge an inch to Jack's need to be together more frequently.  I thought it didn't make sense.  Now it dawns on me that Ennis must have been terrifically torn by the giant obstruction that kept him from freely loving Jack Twist.  When Jack states "I wish I could quit you!"  Ennis responds that he should, but he is weeping.  (i cried too).  The only time in the film that Ennis smiles and seemed geniunely happy was when he was in the presence of Jack Twist.  (Excuse my meandering.  This gorgeous film is still settling in for me.)
Title: Re: All them THINGS that I don't know
Post by: coguaro on Jan 27, 2006, 05:48 PM
Cant say Ennis is possessive.. he isn't so  present in Jack live. I think that he love Jack and that Jack was the only love for him; a special love that he couldn't admit to divide with other man especially the mercenary one (in Mexico).
Well I think that this kind of total love is not so frequent especially in homosexual world... this is more an heterosexual form of relationship.. I think that this kind of relation contain not only passion but also respect, honesty and of course love...I cant call this possessiveness (stoicism??). Is it so absurd to give a so big importance to our love and to hope to be so important to him? Well thats the only way I know to love..
I think to be to much romantic and idealist

un bacio
coguaro
Title: Re: All them THINGS that I don't know
Post by: ethan on Jan 27, 2006, 10:18 PM
Well I think that this kind of total love is not so frequent especially in homosexual world... this is more an heterosexual form of relationship..

coguaro, I am curious to know why this kind of relationship is not so frequent in homosexual world and is more a heterosexual form.  :)
Title: Re: All them THINGS that I don't know
Post by: rane99 on Jan 28, 2006, 12:01 AM
OMG. I JUST REALIZE WHAT ENNIS WAS SAYING..... WHEN HE said 'All them Things That I don't know WILL GET YOU KILLED IF I COME TO KNOW"  ...  Ennis was jealous of Jack's trips to Mexico and the thought of Jack with other guys pissed him off. 
from the short story: . ' Measure the fu**in short leash you keep me on, then ask me about Mexico and then tell me you'll kill me for needin it and not hardly never gettin it. '
Ennis was jealous and didn't want to know about jack being with other men.. I didn't realize how deeply Ennis felt about Jack until I saw that seen again. Wow.

Title: Re: All them THINGS that I don't know
Post by: francis.shim on Jan 28, 2006, 02:51 AM
Howdy...

Lots of great thoughts about *who and what killed Jack?"... so with your help maybe we should look at a quick summary of the theories:

1.  The accident with the tire iron trying to fix the car left Jack to drown in his own blood.
2.  Ennis killed Jack in a fit of jealousy.
3.  The clown who rescued Jack at the rodeo, because Jack wanted to thank him... maybe even more.
4.  Fellow ranchers who knew Jack was loving men.
5.  Randall who thought Jack was coming on to him and he did not want it.
6.  Randall who thought Jack was stealing his wife and he did not want that.
7.  Lureen had Jack killed because he divorced her.
8.  Jack's father, because Jack's ideas never worked out.
         (did I miss any?)

Anyway, stepping back and looking at what the story is about I then ask myself "why?".

Given that (1) was given to Ennis as the reason, then we should start there.  Ennis as soon as he heard the description of Jack's death from Lureen, as she droned the story like a robot... I felt that a part of him died... he was crushed and devestated.  What he did afterwards was not shown to be ambiguous... he really was anguished that Jack died.  We know that Ennis loved Jack... but we also know that Ennis feared having a fully open relationship with Jack, because of his own internalized homophobia, for which he has had to struggle with just to survive in his world.  It was this fear that had crippled Ennis' and Jack's relationship leading to a tragic end.... and we really cannot blame Ennis, since this fear is rampant amidst the Westmen.

Safely we can rule out (2)... since that just doesn't fit... and BBM is not a murder-mystery.  Now we look at the other reasons, and ask ourselves whichever one we pick... will it make a difference as to how Ennis would have re-acted?  Would any of the characters behave any differently with any ot the remaining choices?  Why wasn't there an investigation, if it was a murder?

I think the ambiguity of what really happened to Jack is, again, such a powerful way of showing the "unspoken intolerance", the silent apathy of the community... even Lureen's voice was ice-cold talking to Ennis about it.... and in Ennis' mind he could see that dreaded tire iron... he could see his beloved Jack being beaten to death by a posse of self-proclaimed vigilantes.  Ennis blamed it on the very thing that he feared most: homophobia.... not so much the men who carries it out in his mind... heck, he didn't even know which men they were... it was homophobia.

Now we do like tying up loose ends, but the story *had* to leave this dangling since it forces us to question all of this again and again?  "Why?"... with the same answer staring at us in the face... our own fear of seeing other people loving in a way we are not familiar.  It asks us, again and again, "Why?".  Why should we fear this?

I say... that I would rather let BBM be a really cool story about Ennis and Jack being in love with each other and that nothing and nobody else could have made that any different.  It just was and is.

Peace,
Frank
Title: Re: All them THINGS that I don't know
Post by: coguaro on Jan 28, 2006, 08:04 AM
About relationship... don't know Ethan... I cant have obviously a full idea of how gay people lead their relationship and what they are looking for. Ive only a vague idea of what happen around me than I cant generalize... but... in the majority of cases I didn't saw gay people looking for love and  doing importance first of all to feelings (...quite different from Ennis and Jack...) but always speaking of how that man could be... nice or sexy...giving to me the impression of  superficial thinking...
I don't want to judge nobody!!!!!  ;)
 ... gay web world is the same (continuous rappresentation of nude young man, muscle man, sex lessons and so on)... I mean that is rare to see a "romantic"  gay point of you of relations.  In my limitate experience Ive found this vision more present in my heterosexual friends... once again... thats only my experience...

...reading your posts I think that I will change my opinion!!! How I mistook!!!  :D

baci
coguaro
Title: Re: All them THINGS that I don't know
Post by: City Slickin' Cowboy on Jan 28, 2006, 12:34 PM
... gay web world is the same (continuous rappresentation of nude young man, muscle man, sex lessons and so on)... I mean that is rare to see a "romantic"  gay point of you of relations.  In my limitate experience Ive found this vision more present in my heterosexual friends... once again... thats only my experience...

...reading your posts I think that I will change my opinion!!! How I mistook!!!  :D

baci
coguaro

coguaro,

Here's a bit of information that may further enlighten you on members of the gay world....

The last time I was sexually active was with my ex.  This was nearly eight years ago.  I've known for a long time that I needed a  real connection in my life, not empty sexual encounters.  BBM has reminded me that love is a major ingredient for passion.  For me, there will be no substitute...I don't care how "hot" a person may be. I really need the connection.

I'm glad you are participating in this forum.  You seem to be a person who is open to hearing other opinions and viewpoints.  Keep posting!!

Jarrad
Title: Re: All them THINGS that I don't know
Post by: Hermes1 on Jan 31, 2006, 01:16 AM
Just occurred to me how Ennis attacked the word "THINGS" and attacked Jack with it.  There's a subtext there that Ennis is disgusted by homosexual sex ("them things"), and still considers what he has with Jack as "ain't queer."  This also shows when he talks about what they have in Mexico for "boys like YOU."

I totally agree!  Because then Jack says (with a little nervousness) "Hell yeah, I've been to Mexico!" in a sort of "So what?" way.  It was almost as if Jack was testing Ennis to see how angry that would make him, but also to see if he was willing to fight for Jack and keep him his.  It was a subtle way of Jack to say: "Ennis - you're slowly losing me.  I can't hold on any longer.  I'm giving up on us (after 20 years). I need you.  And I need you to come with me on our journey to fulfillment."  What I like about what Ennis had to say was that he demonstrated that what they had together transcended sexual orientation. It was a special love between only he and Jack.  If you noticed, Ennis didn't go around looking for other guys.  He was not even gay to begin with (Jack on the other hand, I have my doubts about).  Remember when Ennis says in that same last confrontation scene, "It's because of you that I'm this way!"  (This just kills me!).  In other words, Ennis wouldn't have fallen in love with Jack and then become paralyzed from loving anyone else in order to honor his commitment if it hadn't been for Jack offering him love.  In return, Ennis' love was true, pure and reserved only for him (especially after Ennis' divorce).  Ennis knew that he could never love anyone else so completely - woman or man - after having loved Jack.  But to use Ennis' words -"...two men living together? No way."
Title: Re: All them THINGS that I don't know...My take is different.
Post by: Patriot1 on Jan 31, 2006, 01:37 AM
it was almost like Ennis KNEW that Jack was dead.
What if Ennis found out all about the other men in Jack's life and went ballistic?

Are you insane???  You're suggesting that Ennis killed Jack????   :o
Were you paying any attention at all to the rest of the film??

I think this is highly unlikely...



The first and only time I have ever seen tense words between two people on this forum.
Title: Re: All them THINGS that I don't know
Post by: matt78 on Jan 31, 2006, 08:05 AM
Hello.   You have the quotes mixed up.  I was the one who made the jerky comments - I immediately regretted them and apologized.  This is supposed to be a friendly place where we share our love of the movie.  I let my attachment to Ennis and Jack get the better of me.
Title: Re: All them THINGS that I don't know
Post by: Patriot1 on Jan 31, 2006, 08:41 AM
Hello.   You have the quotes mixed up.  I was the one who made the jerky comments - I immediately regretted them and apologized.

I am sorry. I don't know how that happened.

Quote
I let my attachment to Ennis and Jack get the better of me.

I know exactly what you mean.  I am so attached to them I can hardly see the other actors.
Title: Re: All them THINGS that I don't know
Post by: jimnick on Jan 31, 2006, 10:56 AM
Let it go.

Leave it.

'nuff said.

It ain't no thang!

we look to the future and feel the love...

Jim

 :)   :)   :)  :)  :)
Title: Re: All them THINGS that I don't know
Post by: *Froggy* on Jan 31, 2006, 01:40 PM
Let it go.

Leave it.

'nuff said.

It ain't no thang!

we look to the future and feel the love...

Jim

 :)   :)   :)  :)  :)

 ;D ;)
Title: Re: All them THINGS that I don't know
Post by: TopGun on Jan 31, 2006, 05:57 PM
Hello.   You have the quotes mixed up.  I was the one who made the jerky comments - I immediately regretted them and apologized.  This is supposed to be a friendly place where we share our love of the movie.  I let my attachment to Ennis and Jack get the better of me.

Hey man,

You're a sweetheart. I like your honesty and passion.

Rick
Title: Re: All them THINGS that I don't know
Post by: BBBOY on Jan 31, 2006, 09:34 PM
Read the story. Read it real close. Ms Proulx has writen it all down. Ennis is trapped in his world, Jack journeys out and is killed in his. It is a classic story of love lost no matter how much we want it to be otherwise. It's why it matters. For the lonely ones, like me, it's why I keep going. I got to believe.
Title: Re: All them THINGS that I don't know
Post by: lacy8753 on Jan 31, 2006, 10:24 PM
Ennis clearly knows that Jack has been with other men-in Mexico.  "...those things I dont know willl get you killed.." His jealousy was a huge admission of his love and posseveness. Jack tells him that he had gone to Mexico...that he couldnt live on one or two high altitude f**ks.  Interestingly when Ennis says he's got a waitress, Jack says he's got a woman from a nearby ranch.  Jack was only conveniently honest. It wasnt a  WOMAN from a nearby ranch...
Title: Re: All them THINGS that I don't know
Post by: Mykey on Jan 31, 2006, 10:28 PM
Though never mentioned in the story or the screenplay,  One of those THINGS that might get Jack killed might be AIDS (or exposing Ennis to AIDS)....considering  the time frame....Just a thought..
Title: Re: All them THINGS that I don't know
Post by: francis.shim on Jan 31, 2006, 10:51 PM
Though never mentioned in the story or the screenplay,  One of those THINGS that might get Jack killed might be AIDS (or exposing Ennis to AIDS)....considering  the time frame....Just a thought..

Although you have a point and it is about the right time frame, I think if you take the context of the movie or Annie Proulx's original short story, Ennis is basically saying something like the following:

   "Jack, don't tell me that you going to Mexico where homophobes would shoot you, because if you are I am so angry with you for jeopardizing your life that I would want to kill you!!!"

I realize that that is not something that Ennis would or could say, because as you can see it is a paradox: he will kill Jack if Jack is going somewhere that would kill him.  Why?

... because he is jealous... not because he would kill Jack... and it is not really because of AIDS.

Jack and Ennis also live in fairly isolated areas and news of AIDS could easily have been bypassed due in part to homophobia again.

What do you think now?

Peace,
Frank
Title: Re: All them THINGS that I don't know
Post by: merry on Feb 02, 2006, 02:23 AM
Ennis is essentially saying: "Jack, you are only for me!"

Jim

You're right, he exactly says that, but in his own way...  What I love in this scene is the fact that it is the first time that Ennis doesn't succeed in hiding his feelings. Jack makes him mad with love and consequently, mad with jealousy.

Merry
Title: Re: All them THINGS that I don't know
Post by: JerBear418720 on Feb 02, 2006, 03:54 AM
Annie Proulx tells us in her essay in BBM - Story to Screenplay that the underlying theme of the story is destructive rural homophobia.

Because this is Ennis' story, and because he believes that nameless and faceless (watch the attack scene again) homophobes killed Jack, that makes it real for him and, therefore, THAT IS the reality, regardless of what actually took place (we are deliberately left to wonder).

Both men, of course, are emotionally murdered by that same viciously negative force.

We're also not supposed to know what Ennis means at the end when he says "Jack, I swear".  We could debate it all day, but I think it was meant to be Ennis' precious secret.  Part of the beauty of BBM is something none of us is used to - threads of the story that remain unexplained.  It makes total sense to me that an emormously private man like Ennis would hold parts of his own story in his heart and leave us puzzling.

I may be right, I may be wrong - only Annie knows for sure.
Title: Re: All them THINGS that I don't know
Post by: rabjr1 on Feb 02, 2006, 11:48 AM
Annie Proulx tells us in her essay in BBM - Story to Screenplay that the underlying theme of the story is destructive rural homophobia.

Because this is Ennis' story, and because he believes that nameless and faceless (watch the attack scene again) homophobes killed Jack, that makes it real for him and, therefore, THAT IS the reality, regardless of what actually took place (we are deliberately left to wonder).

Both men, of course, are emotionally murdered by that same viciously negative force.

We're also not supposed to know what Ennis means at the end when he says "Jack, I swear".  We could debate it all day, but I think it was meant to be Ennis' precious secret.  Part of the beauty of BBM is something none of us is used to - threads of the story that remain unexplained.  It makes total sense to me that an emormously private man like Ennis would hold parts of his own story in his heart and leave us puzzling.

I may be right, I may be wrong - only Annie knows for sure.


Ennis is extremely reticent, he does not have the extended vocabulary to put into words the emotions that he is feeling at this moment.  He is so overwhelmed with griief he cannot find the words to express it.  I mean, where would he begin?  Where would anyone of us begin?  They are trapped  inside him?   Maybe that is a good thing.  Maybe keeping them trapped inside him he keeps Jack there also.  Does time heal all wounds?  Not this one, not for Ennis.  It is a wound that will never completely heal.  Maybe he doesn't want it to, if it heals will it go away?  for good?
Title: Re: All them THINGS that I don't know
Post by: JerBear418720 on Feb 02, 2006, 12:47 PM
Annie Proulx tells us in her essay in BBM - Story to Screenplay that the underlying theme of the story is destructive rural homophobia.

Because this is Ennis' story, and because he believes that nameless and faceless (watch the attack scene again) homophobes killed Jack, that makes it real for him and, therefore, THAT IS the reality, regardless of what actually took place (we are deliberately left to wonder).

Both men, of course, are emotionally murdered by that same viciously negative force.

We're also not supposed to know what Ennis means at the end when he says "Jack, I swear".  We could debate it all day, but I think it was meant to be Ennis' precious secret.  Part of the beauty of BBM is something none of us is used to - threads of the story that remain unexplained.  It makes total sense to me that an emormously private man like Ennis would hold parts of his own story in his heart and leave us puzzling.

I may be right, I may be wrong - only Annie knows for sure.


Ennis is extremely reticent, he does not have the extended vocabulary to put into words the emotions that he is feeling at this moment.  He is so overwhelmed with griief he cannot find the words to express it.  I mean, where would he begin?  Where would anyone of us begin?  They are trapped  inside him?   Maybe that is a good thing.  Maybe keeping them trapped inside him he keeps Jack there also.  Does time heal all wounds?  Not this one, not for Ennis.  It is a wound that will never completely heal.  Maybe he doesn't want it to, if it heals will it go away?  for good?

So beautifully put, RAB!  I think that Ennis' pain will lessen over time, but never go away - you're right, what lessens into a dull ache over time will be what helps Ennis keep Jack alive in his heart.
Title: Re: All them THINGS that I don't know
Post by: backtobrokeback on Feb 02, 2006, 12:48 PM
To address the original question, I have to say that at every viewing, I've been quite sure that "All them THINGS that I don't know" is a declaration of love.  Since it's Ennis, that's about all we're going to get on the topic of love, but that was LOVE, way past simple anger and jealousy.  He isn't able to say how he feels positively, so yeah, it's threatening, but notice that (in the film), Jack isn't particularly fearful - he goes right on tearing in to Ennis. 

There's only one other place where Ennis reveals the depth of his love in words, and that's where I first start crying in the film, because it's crushingly sad, and yet the truth of his love comes right through (again, this the screenplay);

Jack: "for how long?"
Ennis: "long as we can ride it ... no reins on this one"

That is Ennis's promise of eternal love, expressed in the only way he knows how, AND with a nice touch: expressed in a rodeo metaphor that Jack would understand.  One of the most beautiful lines in the movie, despite the denial of the "kid and calf" living together that came right before it.  Basically, 'we can't be together, but we'll always stay together".   :'(  :'(

His outburst at the last fight they have is a mirror of this line.  He gave his heart to Jack and he must know Jack's heart is his, no matter what else Jack has done or will do to stay sane when he's away from Ennis. 

btb
Title: Re: All them THINGS that I don't know
Post by: Hermes1 on Feb 02, 2006, 09:04 PM
To address the original question, I have to say that at every viewing, I've been quite sure that "All them THINGS that I don't know" is a declaration of love.  Since it's Ennis, that's about all we're going to get on the topic of love, but that was LOVE, way past simple anger and jealousy.  He isn't able to say how he feels positively, so yeah, it's threatening, but notice that (in the film), Jack isn't particularly fearful - he goes right on tearing in to Ennis. 

There's only one other place where Ennis reveals the depth of his love in words, and that's where I first start crying in the film, because it's crushingly sad, and yet the truth of his love comes right through (again, this the screenplay);

Jack: "for how long?"
Ennis: "long as we can ride it ... no reins on this one"

That is Ennis's promise of eternal love, expressed in the only way he knows how, AND with a nice touch: expressed in a rodeo metaphor that Jack would understand.  One of the most beautiful lines in the movie, despite the denial of the "kid and calf" living together that came right before it.  Basically, 'we can't be together, but we'll always stay together".   :'(  :'(

His outburst at the last fight they have is a mirror of this line.  He gave his heart to Jack and he must know Jack's heart is his, no matter what else Jack has done or will do to stay sane when he's away from Ennis. 

btb

BTB-

This is SO true.  I particularly remember Ennis's face when he walks up to Jack to point his finger at him and threaten "All them things I don't know..."  Notice his face.  He's not *really* angry.  It's almost more of that kind of scrunched up angry look that a father would give his child to scare the child into NOT doing what he/she was not supposed to do.  Jack stands up to him but with a little fear in his stance. Sorta worried about Ennis' statement but more to what Ennis'  reaction might be to his response, "Hell yeah, I been to Mexico!."

There's a paternal side to Ennis but then that role is immediately reversed at the end of that scene when Ennis breaks down and says, "Well go ahead and leave me then."  This part REALLY knocks me down and out every time because it so reveals Ennis being worn down by the deep commitment that he made to Jack to love him eternally but confounded at the same time by not being able to give Jack exactly what Jack wants. And then there's poor Jack being so naively hopeful (an earlier BBM rendezvous: "Maybe you need to get outta here and move to Texas?? (Jack's eyes beaming at the thought!)....God bless their poor sweet souls!!!!!
Title: Re: All them THINGS that I don't know
Post by: romeshvr on Feb 02, 2006, 09:26 PM
Annie Proulx tells us in her essay in BBM - Story to Screenplay that the underlying theme of the story is destructive rural homophobia.

Because this is Ennis' story, and because he believes that nameless and faceless (watch the attack scene again) homophobes killed Jack, that makes it real for him and, therefore, THAT IS the reality, regardless of what actually took place (we are deliberately left to wonder).

Both men, of course, are emotionally murdered by that same viciously negative force.

We're also not supposed to know what Ennis means at the end when he says "Jack, I swear".  We could debate it all day, but I think it was meant to be Ennis' precious secret.  Part of the beauty of BBM is something none of us is used to - threads of the story that remain unexplained.  It makes total sense to me that an emormously private man like Ennis would hold parts of his own story in his heart and leave us puzzling.

I may be right, I may be wrong - only Annie knows for sure.

JerBear...I love the way you think...This is amazing...I like the last paragraph especially.......more and more I watch the movie...the 'I swear...' mystery becomes not important.... I'm try to enjoy the story and the way movie unfolds... I'm finding out that lately...sometimes in life it is better not to know certain things...Thanks JerBear....
Title: Re: All them THINGS that I don't know
Post by: Cowboy Cody on Feb 03, 2006, 03:43 PM

Ennis:  "I'm gonna tell you this one time, Jack f***in' Twist, an' I ain't foolin'. What I don't know - all them THINGS that I don't know - could get you killed if I should come to know them."


I too believe this was Ennis' way of expressing his hurt if he knew for sure that Jack had been with other men.  When I saw this scene during my 2nd viewing I thought "Damn! He loves the hell outta this guy!"

I thought that too, expressing the love that might cause one of them to be harmed in some unnamed way.
Title: Re: All them THINGS that I don't know
Post by: tweric on Feb 03, 2006, 09:27 PM
I'm not sure if it's some scratches on the film, but when Ennis turned his head before he said "then why don't you.." after Jack said "I wish I knew how to quit you", I think I saw a tear drop flying off Heath's left eye.....
Title: Re: All them THINGS that I don't know
Post by: Cowboy Cody on Feb 03, 2006, 09:39 PM
I'm gonna have to buy two DVD's to make sure I catch it all, I will wear one out at least.
Title: Re: All them THINGS that I don't know
Post by: bnjmn3 on Feb 03, 2006, 09:49 PM
I'm not sure if it's some scratches on the film, but when Ennis turned his head before he said "then why don't you.." after Jack said "I wish I knew how to quit you", I think I saw a tear drop flying off Heath's left eye.....

Heath is a projectile crier for sure.  Very powerful.
Title: Re: All them THINGS that I don't know
Post by: chameau on Feb 03, 2006, 09:53 PM
I'm not sure if it's some scratches on the film, but when Ennis turned his head before he said "then why don't you.." after Jack said "I wish I knew how to quit you", I think I saw a tear drop flying off Heath's left eye.....

Heath is a projectile crier for sure.  Very powerful.

Yes he is, did you noticed his tears at the divorce scene?
Title: Re: All them THINGS that I don't know
Post by: coguaro on Feb 04, 2006, 04:53 AM
Of course I saw all Ennis tears... this man is so plenty of repressed love..

coguaro
Title: Re: All them THINGS that I don't know
Post by: Cowboy Cody on Feb 04, 2006, 10:11 PM
He need't be repressed if he just would have opened up for Jack...ARGH!
Title: Re: All them THINGS that I don't know
Post by: backtobrokeback on Feb 05, 2006, 02:57 PM
He did, as much as he could.  But that's gonna nag you forever, CowboyCody.  We can't reach in there and shake Ennis to his senses. 

Title: Re: All them THINGS that I don't know
Post by: CherryCake on Feb 05, 2006, 05:38 PM
I'm not sure if it's some scratches on the film, but when Ennis turned his head before he said "then why don't you.." after Jack said "I wish I knew how to quit you", I think I saw a tear drop flying off Heath's left eye.....

I caught that too!  Wow, huh.
Title: Re: All them THINGS that I don't know
Post by: *Froggy* on Feb 05, 2006, 05:42 PM
I'm not sure if it's some scratches on the film, but when Ennis turned his head before he said "then why don't you.." after Jack said "I wish I knew how to quit you", I think I saw a tear drop flying off Heath's left eye.....

I caught that too!  Wow, huh.

Me too!!!!!!!!!!! :'(
Title: Re: All them THINGS that I don't know
Post by: chameau on Feb 05, 2006, 05:43 PM
I'm not sure if it's some scratches on the film, but when Ennis turned his head before he said "then why don't you.." after Jack said "I wish I knew how to quit you", I think I saw a tear drop flying off Heath's left eye.....

I caught that too!  Wow, huh.

Me too!!!!!!!!!!! :'(

Me to!

What's wrong with me, still not crying!  ???
Title: Re: All them THINGS that I don't know
Post by: bbmlover on Feb 05, 2006, 05:47 PM
I'm not sure if it's some scratches on the film, but when Ennis turned his head before he said "then why don't you.." after Jack said "I wish I knew how to quit you", I think I saw a tear drop flying off Heath's left eye.....

I caught that too!  Wow, huh.

Me too!!!!!!!!!!! :'(

Me to!

What's wrong with me, still not crying!  ???

I did not catch this..........needs another view.

Title: Re: All them THINGS that I don't know
Post by: chameau on Feb 05, 2006, 06:22 PM
Talking about Ennis tears

I'm craving for the Oscars night!

If Michelle wins ,will we see tears in Heath's eyes?

And vice versa indeed!

I bet the whole cast will got teary eyes if Ang gets it for best director.

Also best picture!

It's good to share dreams.  :P
Title: Re: All them THINGS that I don't know
Post by: Cowboy Cody on Feb 05, 2006, 07:28 PM
backtobrokeback - you just got me crying cowboy tears again with that one post.
Title: Re: All them THINGS that I don't know
Post by: backtobrokeback on Feb 05, 2006, 07:43 PM
My apologies.  Not my intention.  Sometimes things have to just be the way they are, and from that comes their significance, and our learning.  crap, got myself crying now.

"And maybe, he thought, they'd never got much further than that.  Let be, let be."

-backtobrokeback

(love love love your avatar, Cowboy Cody)

Title: Re: All them THINGS that I don't know
Post by: Cowboy Cody on Feb 05, 2006, 08:13 PM
backtobrokeback, Now I've went and made you cry bro. Guess we both could use a shoulder tonight huh? Love your avatar as well, made me cry like a baby when that scene hit the screen.

The "Let be. Let be." is important in that sense, as he also says it one other time as well.
Title: Re: All them THINGS that I don't know
Post by: francis.shim on Feb 06, 2006, 05:18 AM
Saw the movie in Montreal and just got back...

The scene that tears my heart up is coming just after this episode...

It is when Ennis falls to his knees and Jack holds him... but both of them not knowing how to handle their situation... and then the flashback to the dozy embrace... Ennis in the flashback ends it by saying "I'll see you in the morning..." and rides off while Jack looks on lovingly... then the movie flashes to where Ennis drives off in his truck... leaving a older Jack still looking as his lover rides away...

Gawd, I am crying while I am typing this...

When I think about the "let be, let be..."... I can only imagine the suffering that Jack is going through but it is clear Ennis has it *NO EASIER*... he couldn't stand it either.

Damn!!!  Damn!!! Damn!!!...  I wanted to shout to everybody "Just let them be... Just let them be... they have suffered enough!!!", but I guess Annie Proulx had to show us what she has found to be an awful truth... homophobia does not let a love like theirs be!  Damn it!!!

Peace,
Frank


Title: Re: All them THINGS that I don't know
Post by: rabjr1 on Feb 06, 2006, 07:43 AM
I'm not sure if it's some scratches on the film, but when Ennis turned his head before he said "then why don't you.." after Jack said "I wish I knew how to quit you", I think I saw a tear drop flying off Heath's left eye.....

I caught that too!  Wow, huh.

Me too!!!!!!!!!!! :'(

Me to!

What's wrong with me, still not crying!  ???


Knock down half a bottle of "Jack" hide the razor blades then finish the other half while listening the the sound track as you look through your photo album with pictures of people in your past that could have been your Ennis.  Works for me.

OR 14 double mocha expressos and a gross of "Little Debbies" followed by a gallon of Haggen Daz rocky road ice cream.  followed up by a double shot of insulin.
Title: Re: All them THINGS that I don't know
Post by: Cowboy Cody on Feb 06, 2006, 09:47 AM
There were times last night when I thought a shot of whiskey swilled straight from the bottle would be a good thing.
Title: Re: All them THINGS that I don't know
Post by: lowpro on Feb 06, 2006, 12:29 PM
Ennis:  "I'm gonna tell you this one time, Jack f***in' Twist, an' I ain't foolin'. What I don't know - all them THINGS that I don't know - could get you killed if I should come to know them."

When I first saw BBM I was very intrigued with the exact wording of this line.  It gets caught up in Ennis's back country manner of speaking (no insult intended - it is just his background and who he is).  I was thrown off by Jack's response in which he thinks Ennis has said (paraphrased) 'If I find out, I'll kill you.'  Having read a lot of comments and trying to imagine what's going on with Ennis I initially took the line from Ennis as a homophobic warning and concren for Jack that if the 'Island Man", Ennis Del Mar, came to know "them things",  there were already going to be a helluva lot other people some of whom would not be very tolerant that would know as well and that could get Jack killed (if not already by the time the news gets to the isolated "island').  Ennis may be isolated but he does have a keen awareness (paranoia?) of what others observe.  He may be very quiet but he is not blind.This awareness also comes to play vice-versa when the bikers show a complete disregard for Ennis and his family at the fireworks (More ways than one!).  And also when he makes the comment to Cassie that he was probably not much fun.

What do you think?

lowpro
Title: Re: All them THINGS that I don't know
Post by: Cowboy Cody on Feb 06, 2006, 03:03 PM
Ennis was voicing the best way how to let Cassie down, which at first was just to shut her out, but Ennis couldn't commit. Jack was the only one Ennis could ever commit to, ever. Jack was the same, he couldn't commit to his life with Lureen. He cared for, but didn't love her.
Title: Re: All them THINGS that I don't know
Post by: City Slickin' Cowboy on Feb 06, 2006, 03:12 PM
Ennis was voicing the best way how to let Cassie down, which at first was just to shut her out, but Ennis couldn't commit. Jack was the only one Ennis could ever commit to, ever. Jack was the same, he couldn't commit to his life with Lureen. He cared for, but didn't love her.

I noticed how women were not threats to their relationship.  Another man, however, would have sent either man completely over the edge.  Ennis was quite clear how he felt about that possibility.  Based on my observance of Jack, I think he would have gone nuts if Ennis had done anything he could catch wind of.
Title: Re: All them THINGS that I don't know
Post by: Cowboy Cody on Feb 06, 2006, 03:36 PM
Jack would have went ape-shit had Ennis done anything, which really isn't fair, but it is how two different people would have handled the situation. There's a tinge of jealousy to Jack, because I think he fell so hard for Ennis so early, the emotions were hard for Jack to keep the lid on, he needed so much more. He saw Ennis as a lifetime partner after the first night, and I think that scared Ennis somewhat, although he came to discover that he needed Jack as much as Jack needed him.
Title: Re: All them THINGS that I don't know
Post by: City Slickin' Cowboy on Feb 06, 2006, 04:51 PM
... He saw Ennis as a lifetime partner after the first night, and I think that scared Ennis somewhat, although he came to discover that he needed Jack as much as Jack needed him.

I really agree with you there.  Apparently he had given this much thought because he had no problem bringing it up that first night back on Brokeback.  It's a shame Jack died in this story, because I would have really enjoyed a sequel where they actually made a go of it.  There was enough fireworks between the two them to make an interesting story of their life together.  Lord knows their arguments would have drawn equal amounts of laughter and tears from an audience. 

IMO they surpassed Rhett and Scarlett as my favorite on-screen couple!!  ;D ;D ;D
Title: Re: All them THINGS that I don't know
Post by: stephan on Feb 06, 2006, 04:58 PM
... He saw Ennis as a lifetime partner after the first night, and I think that scared Ennis somewhat, although he came to discover that he needed Jack as much as Jack needed him.

I really agree with you there.

Hi guys, I really am appreciating what you're both saying here. For some time they seemed to be ok with getting together once in a while, though Jack took it like medicine. It was only later that they realised they couldn't stand it, but they didn't know how to fix it. So true of so many people nowadays too. How do you fix it ? It takes a lot of courage. Stephan
Title: Re: All them THINGS that I don't know
Post by: Cowboy Cody on Feb 06, 2006, 05:26 PM
They know they belong together but can't fix it. The let the obstacles of life stand in their way, but I think Jack would have thrown it all away had Ennis said come to me. I know he would have, Ennis you putz.
Title: Re: All them THINGS that I don't know
Post by: backtobrokeback on Feb 06, 2006, 05:51 PM
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Jack would have went ape-shit had Ennis done anything, which really isn't fair, but it is how two different people would have handled the situation. There's a tinge of jealousy to Jack, because I think he fell so hard for Ennis so early, the emotions were hard for Jack to keep the lid on, he needed so much more. He saw Ennis as a lifetime partner after the first night, and I think that scared Ennis somewhat, although he came to discover that he needed Jack as much as Jack needed him.

God it's like you're in my head and my life.  Maybe this is why I connect so strongly with the film.  SO very similar (except for the cowboy, poor, married to women and tragedy parts, of course). ;-)  My partner and I went through a similar courtship.

-backtobrokeback
Title: Re: All them THINGS that I don't know
Post by: rane99 on Feb 06, 2006, 06:00 PM
Ennis:  "I'm gonna tell you this one time, Jack f***in' Twist, an' I ain't foolin'. What I don't know - all them THINGS that I don't know - could get you killed if I should come to know them."

When I first saw BBM I was very intrigued with the exact wording of this line.  It gets caught up in Ennis's back country manner of speaking (no insult intended - it is just his background and who he is).  I was thrown off by Jack's response in which he thinks Ennis has said (paraphrased) 'If I find out, I'll kill you.'  Having read a lot of comments and trying to imagine what's going on with Ennis I initially took the line from Ennis as a homophobic warning and concren for Jack that if the 'Island Man", Ennis Del Mar, came to know "them things",  there were already going to be a helluva lot other people some of whom would not be very tolerant that would know as well and that could get Jack killed (if not already by the time the news gets to the isolated "island').  Ennis may be isolated but he does have a keen awareness (paranoia?) of what others observe.  He may be very quiet but he is not blind.This awareness also comes to play vice-versa when the bikers show a complete disregard for Ennis and his family at the fireworks (More ways than one!).  And also when he makes the comment to Cassie that he was probably not much fun.

What do you think?

lowpro



Yes.. in the short story I took it the same way as you. In the movie it seems  more as a  threat due to Ennis' jealousy.  That's why this movie and story is go great.  Makes ya think.
Title: Re: All them THINGS that I don't know
Post by: Cowboy Cody on Feb 06, 2006, 08:43 PM
Backtobrokeback - that because I took that personality test today...I'm a counselor  ;D
Title: Re: All them THINGS that I don't know
Post by: proulxfan on Feb 06, 2006, 11:41 PM
Where do you see evidence of Jack being jealous? He disses Alma, but I don't think he was really jealous of her as much as seeing her as an obstacle.
Title: Re: All them THINGS that I don't know
Post by: Cowboy Cody on Feb 06, 2006, 11:51 PM
Proulxfan - True that he sees Alma as the obstacle, but in the one scene when they are having it out, you do that jelous (maybe envious would have been a better word choice) for what one has and you can't.
Title: Re: All them THINGS that I don't know
Post by: proulxfan on Feb 07, 2006, 12:02 AM
I just still think that Jack, as portrayed by Gyllenhaal, has a very generous spirit and wouldn't have been unduly upset if Ennis had "strayed", though that obviously was never gonna happen. And in the heat of the argument might have exploded about it to cover for his own affairs-the best defense is a good offense...
Title: Re: All them THINGS that I don't know
Post by: Cowboy Cody on Feb 07, 2006, 12:05 AM
Proulxfan - Didn't think it about that way...good point buddy!
Title: Re: All them THINGS that I don't know
Post by: n061857 on Mar 25, 2006, 09:44 PM
Interesting how they both spoke openly of their wives and other women (Jack's affair, Ennis' waitress) with jealousy but the thought of Jack with another man drives Ennis wild.  Its almost like the women arent a threat to them but another man could be, it could spoil something special and unique for them.

Actualy, I thought that Ennis broadened the scope of his definition of fidelity following this exchange.  I think his feelings of jealousy and the intensity of his love as defined by that cause him to end his relationship with Cassie. ?????
Title: Re: All them THINGS that I don't know
Post by: sportstalk23 on Jul 04, 2008, 12:51 PM
Ennis was a man of few words but those few words summed up exactly what he felt for Jack which there was a love there that he couldnt say with his words but hey I know jealous when I see it and Ennis had it practically written on his forehead, Ennis laughed of Jack and the "foreman's wife" but he understood clearly the implications of what Mexico stood for and that unlike him Jack pursued other sexual relationships with men of which I understand considering i think Jack used those to deal with not having the life he wanted with Ennis but when Ennis got in Jack's face about all them things I dont know that was code word for if I find out what your really doing behind my back you will face my wrath and lets face it who gets jealous over something that's just a fling that doesnt matter which everybody can see wasnt Jack and Ennis that was more than a fling, although I think the line about "boys like you" was typical Ennis like the " I aint queer line just trying to distance himself from implications of being gay, but I thought that was was very intense and quite hot when Ennis got all up in Jack's face and Jack not backing down either  :d)
Title: Re: All them THINGS that I don't know
Post by: manhattangirl on Jul 06, 2008, 06:14 AM
When Ennis warned Jack about the things he didn't know, as hurtful as Mexico may have been to him.  I can't help but feel, he figured there was someone else. 

Ennis knew Jack and his nature, his sexual nature. The one of thing that Ennis couldn't resist, but kept at a survivalable distance, almost like self regulating oneself, when he pushed back the date of the next meeting, Ennis must have to show himself  he had have some sense of control.

Ennis knew there might be someone else Jack was seeing.  He already let it be known he steps out on Lureen, with the "foreman's wife", what make Ennis think he wouldn't step out on him.  Jack was too free.   

Going to Mexico is bad enough, but going to one particular person, someone you may have a connection with, some one constant, waiting.  Well that's a whole new can of worms.  Who did Jack had in Texas?  And I have to hand it to Jack, he was smart enough not to say too much.  Jack knew Ennis equally as well. 

This I think Ennis wouldn't have been able to handle, not from his Jack.   He'll see him dead first.  The dynamics of these two guys were so revealing.  Ennis couldn't make Jack stay put, to be only for him,  to stay within the rules established so many years ago, not give himself away to someone else.  Jack couldn't make Ennis stay put, and to build a life with him.  Both wanting the same thing but in different ways.

Title: Re: All them THINGS that I don't know
Post by: aintfoolin on Jul 06, 2008, 03:58 PM
When Ennis warned Jack about the things he didn't know, as hurtful as Mexico may have been to him.  I can't help but feel, he figured there was someone else. 

Ennis knew Jack and his nature, his sexual nature. The one of thing that Ennis couldn't resist, but kept at a survivalable distance, almost like self regulating oneself, when he pushed back the date of the next meeting, Ennis must have to show himself  he had have some sense of control.

Ennis knew there might be someone else Jack was seeing.  He already let it be known he steps out on Lureen, with the "foreman's wife", what make Ennis think he wouldn't step out on him.  Jack was too free.   

Going to Mexico is bad enough, but going to one particular person, someone you may have a connection with, some one constant, waiting.  Well that's a whole new can of worms.  Who did Jack had in Texas?  And I have to hand it to Jack, he was smart enough not to say too much.  Jack knew Ennis equally as well. 

This I think Ennis wouldn't have been able to handle, not from his Jack.   He'll see him dead first.  The dynamics of these two guys were so revealing.  Ennis couldn't make Jack stay put, to be only for him,  to stay within the rules established so many years ago, not give himself away to someone else.  Jack couldn't make Ennis stay put, and to build a life with him.  Both wanting the same thing but in different ways.



 To hear Ennis tell it, he had made some kind of deal with his boss to meet with Jack. In Ennis's defense he WAS trying to swing these meetings around his job. Jack could seemingly take off when he wanted, Ennis did'nt have that luxury.

Unless there was a decision on his part to go * all or nothing* like Jack wanted , this would continue. The staus quo would remain in place. Ennis was at the mercy of his boss.

I agree, Ennis seemed like he suspected Jack of "things he don't know" outside of Mexico. That there were other men Jack was involved with. On the one hand Jack knew Ennis would spas out in a major way had he mentioned his affair with Randall, but on the other hand, maybe Jack should have been honest with Ennis, getting the whole truth out there. Would there even be an affair with Randall if Ennis was taking care of business?  They'd tangle about it for sure, but Ennis seriously physically harming  Jack over it? well...I don't know. I feel Ennis had to know why Jack was out there cheating ,although suspecting and having it confirmed are two different things. What he did'nt know, but suspected , what he did'nt see with his own eyes , is bad enough, but when he actually hears Jack unapologetically admitting to Ennis about other men...well thats a different story. Ennis does'nt wanna be reminded that he is the reason Jack is vulnerable to *outsiders* especially when he holds their  relatinship  so close to his heart. Jack said it, he was'nt Ennis, sex once or twice a year was unacceptable to him. Ennis held the whole relationship possessivly as Jack being his, but when the cat was away...well you know what the mice do. They play. MO.
Title: Re: All them THINGS that I don't know
Post by: sportstalk23 on Jul 06, 2008, 04:32 PM
hmm good points raised aintfoolin and manhattan Jack was not like Ennis in which he could rein in himself in remember the "I'm not like you and a couple of high altitude f%cks a year" comment by Jack he had needs that he acted on and Ennis tried to make some concessions to be with Jack like his work schedule but he didnt want to make the BIG one that was make a life with Jack which had to be  beyond frustrating for Jack in my opinion Randall was not who had Jack's heart and at the end where the a-hole dad is telling Ennis about the foreman coming to Texas it had to be a blow to Ennis maybe he thought he lost Jack way before his death but to me it was all in those shirts  <^( how many of us would keep something that is a constant reminder of a person who caused you pain and heartache I've kept some things of old boyfriends but they werent the ones I loved and  broke my heart I got rid of those fast as soon as the tears dried and its something about Jack's mom where she seemed to know what Ennis meant to her son more than just friends when she invited him to come back to visit them again, like I said I think Mexico and Randall were substitutes for Jack when Jack told Ennis "hell yeah I been to Mexico" that was "hey I've got steam to blow off thanks to you it frustrates me Ennis that I want a life with you and your fear of reprisal if we do keeps driving me away, what do you expect me to do all year besides 4 or 5 fishing trips a year"
Title: Re: All them THINGS that I don't know
Post by: manhattangirl on Jul 06, 2008, 10:44 PM
To hear Ennis tell it, he had made some kind of deal with his boss to meet with Jack. In Ennis's defense he WAS trying to swing these meetings around his job. Jack could seemingly take off when he wanted, Ennis did'nt have that luxury.

Unless there was a decision on his part to go * all or nothing* like Jack wanted , this would continue. The staus quo would remain in place. Ennis was at the mercy of his boss.

I agree, Ennis seemed like he suspected Jack of "things he don't know" outside of Mexico. That there were other men Jack was involved with. On the one hand Jack knew Ennis would spas out in a major way had he mentioned his affair with Randall, but on the other hand, maybe Jack should have been honest with Ennis, getting the whole truth out there. Would there even be an affair with Randall if Ennis was taking care of business?  They'd tangle about it for sure, but Ennis seriously physically harming  Jack over it? well...I don't know. I feel Ennis had to know why Jack was out there cheating ,although suspecting and having it confirmed are two different things. What he did'nt know, but suspected , what he did'nt see with his own eyes , is bad enough, but when he actually hears Jack unapologetically admitting to Ennis about other men...well thats a different story. Ennis does'nt wanna be reminded that he is the reason Jack is vulnerable to *outsiders* especially when he holds their  relatinship  so close to his heart. Jack said it, he was'nt Ennis, sex once or twice a year was unacceptable to him. Ennis held the whole relationship possessivly as Jack being his, but when the cat was away...well you know what the mice do. They play. MO.

I agree with what you've said later in post, but I do sure have a problem with Ennis excuse about working.  Now this a man who'd quit jobs to be with Jack, and I know that's what he said to Jack not being like in the early days, he got "child support"  well in those early days he had a wife, and the kids.  That's why I don't think Jack totally bought into that excuse.  And in the end it wasn't the child support, it was him.

We see Ennis crumbling at the thought of Jack's quitting him.  And I think that was Ennis's problem just as you said that "possessive love"  he had for Jack.  He couldn't go all the way with him, but he had to have that "leash" just taut enough not let Jack stray too far.

Could Ennis kill Jack, sexual obsession, possessive love, and his rage all the ingredients, but Ennis wouldn't have warned him, he'd just  do it, unexpectedly like the punch.  But  Jack didn't care at this point, and he wasn't backing down.  Jack saw the irony of it, to kill him for wanting more, and not getting it.



   
 
Title: Re: All them THINGS that I don't know
Post by: tpe on Jul 07, 2008, 08:09 AM
Over the years, I have gradually come to the opinion that Ennis probably knew the "back story" behind Jack's affair with the Texas neighbor's wife.  Not that he knew about Randall explicitly -- but that Ennis understood this to be an indirect allusion to other affairs. 

It would seem that the same holds true about Jack's allusion to Mexico and Ennis seeming to know what it meant.  Granted, we don't know if Jack ever mentioned anything about Mexico prior to the Last Confrontation.  But I seriously doubt that Jack ever told him about what he did down South.  As is typical of Ennis, the trips to Mexico were part of the things he didn't "know", even though he understood preety much what it all meant.

Title: Re: All them THINGS that I don't know
Post by: manhattangirl on Jul 08, 2008, 06:07 AM
In the ss, it was mentioned that Ennis heard about what went on in Mexico.  This just reminds him that he really couldn't control Jack, questioning Jack's fidelity, the one thing Ennis does takes to heart when it comes to Jack, remember in the ss when they were in motel room Ennis asks him did he "do it with other guys".   It must have driven him nuts just to think about it.  So he warns Jack, making him aware that he knows what Jack was up to, and that there were consequences. 

And maybe this points are the differences in both men, Not the idea of commitment because both were committed to each other, but the idea of repressing the very thing you need, Ennis felt he had to do it in order to survive, Jack resisted because that what he needed to live.  JMO.
Title: Re: All them THINGS that I don't know
Post by: smartestsonia on Jul 08, 2008, 07:10 AM
Interesting how they both spoke openly of their wives and other women (Jack's affair, Ennis' waitress) with jealousy but the thought of Jack with another man drives Ennis wild.  Its almost like the women arent a threat to them but another man could be, it could spoil something special and unique for them.

that make complete sense..Ennis culdnt bear Jack with some other man..Jack meant too much to him and he dint want to share that with some other man
Title: Re: All them THINGS that I don't know
Post by: tpe on Jul 08, 2008, 12:26 PM

And maybe this points are the differences in both men, Not the idea of commitment because both were committed to each other, but the idea of repressing the very thing you need, Ennis felt he had to do it in order to survive, Jack resisted because that what he needed to live.  JMO.

A very subtle pouint here, although I agree with it.  I think many of us do the same in many circumstances, don't you agree?  That's why this will resonate in many of us, I think.
Title: Re: All them THINGS that I don't know
Post by: tpe on Jul 08, 2008, 12:29 PM
that make complete sense..Ennis culdnt bear Jack with some other man..Jack meant too much to him and he dint want to share that with some other man

Welcome, smartestsonia.  :)

In a way, I think Ennis was afraid of how much Jack meant to him, and perhaps sought to control it in spite of himself and in spite of what he wanted.  That seems to be why he seems to keep Jack at some distance, and yet guard him jealously from other men.

Title: Re: All them THINGS that I don't know
Post by: aintfoolin on Jul 09, 2008, 06:45 AM
I agree with what you've said later in post, but I do sure have a problem with Ennis excuse about working.  Now this a man who'd quit jobs to be with Jack, and I know that's what he said to Jack not being like in the early days, he got "child support"  well in those early days he had a wife, and the kids.  That's why I don't think Jack totally bought into that excuse.  And in the end it wasn't the child support, it was him.

We see Ennis crumbling at the thought of Jack's quitting him.  And I think that was Ennis's problem just as you said that "possessive love"  he had for Jack.  He couldn't go all the way with him, but he had to have that "leash" just taut enough not let Jack stray too far.

Could Ennis kill Jack, sexual obsession, possessive love, and his rage all the ingredients, but Ennis wouldn't have warned him, he'd just  do it, unexpectedly like the punch.  But  Jack didn't care at this point, and he wasn't backing down.  Jack saw the irony of it, to kill him for wanting more, and not getting it.



   
 

   Sorry, so long getting back ..work and all,

Jack was really pissed off about Ennis changing the dates, but feel that both Jack and Ennis were growing sick and tired of  the whole set up. The juggling, hiding and the  secrets and lies.

Ennis says he has to work and pay child-support until the girls are 18. Don't think he wanted any trouble from Alma  or the courts on that, she was not highly impressed in a positive way about "Jack Nasty" and how he played a factor in why she divorced Ennis.+ Ennis had this strong sense of duty to support them.  But that's his *other life* he's living at least two seperate lives, Jack being one, his girls and obligations another. He could'nt exactly tell his boss that he could'nt make the round up, or help shipping stock because he had to drive to the mountains and meet Jack.  Jack on the other hand , is part of a million-dollar family business.  He has more means and freedom to travel. Ennis has to juggle vacation time according to how his employer's ranch is run.  He's also older now and the days of quitting jobs was over. At least until his youngest child is 18.
 I felt he kept both  lives very compartmentalized in his mind., yes it has a direct effect on Jack having to live a double life  too, but he  was willing to give one up if he could have  the other.

When Jack says "we outta go to Mexico" , Ennis's reaction to it was not very promising. "Mexico"?.. All the traveling he's done is around the coffee pot trying to find the handle". Well duh? Here's your chance Ennis to *get out more*,  Jack was no longer impressed with cold hunting trips in Nov. He wanted to take Ennis to Mexico, have a little fun and just enjoy being with Ennis some place different, as some one once said , perhaps  where people tend to be a little more *open-minded about matters of the heart such as theirs than Riverton, Wyoming. Some place warm, where there's other people. Maybe settle there on a little ranch? hmmm.
 In any case these two were still talking two different languages in terms of where they stood in the relationship. Jack talking in terms of a permanent continuation , seeing Ennis more, not less. " never enough time", and Ennis talking more in terms of the status quo. More fishing, hunting, and any thing else that spoke of cold isolation in the Mts. I'm sure Jack enjoyed anytime alone with Ennis...until it had to end, that's what bothered him the most imo, it had to end and back to pretending again.

I really don't think Jack gave a damn about where they settled , as long as they were together, but he brought up Mexico , Ennis heard that, bringing it up again in response to Jack 's *better idea once*.  Hmmm...now it's "you been to Mexico Jack Twist? with that suspecting look on his face he has an idea what goes on in Mexico for boys like Jack. Boys like you? , the hell was HE thinking? This kind of threw me when I first saw it. All this time , Ennis is still seperating himself from Jack.  ( miscommunication  and disconnect at it's finest imo) I think it was the thing that set Jack  off on such a tear with Ennis.  He knew there was "all them things he did'nt know" existed, just did'nt wanna hear about it, discuss it ot even think about, but to kill Jack? really? Possesive? yes, obsessed? nah,  I think he was bluffing. .but it did  set Jack off to tell Ennis "just once" and for all that everything that he did  after Brokeback for 20 yrs. could be traced back to him , because of him he had done alot of deperate things, not all to be proud of.  He was looking for answers concerning the present and future, not the past. After all that has been said , not said ,and done  he finds Ennis ,was still lying to himself. Thanx.
Title: Re: All them THINGS that I don't know
Post by: tpe on Jul 09, 2008, 07:08 AM
 I really don't think Jack gave a damn about where they settled , as long as they were together, but he brought up Mexico , Ennis heard that, bringing it up again in response to Jack 's *better idea once*.  Hmmm...now it's "you been to Mexico Jack Twist? with that suspecting look on his face he has an idea what goes on in Mexico for boys like Jack. Boys like you? , the hell was HE thinking? This kind of threw me when I first saw it. All this time , Ennis is still seperating himself from Jack.  ( miscommunication  and disconnect at it's finest imo) I think it was the thing that set Jack  off on such a tear with Ennis.  He knew there was "all them things he did'nt know" existed, just did'nt wanna hear about it, discuss it ot even think about, but to kill Jack? really? Possesive? yes, obsessed? nah,  I think he was bluffing. .but it did  set Jack off to tell Ennis "just once" and for all that everything that he did  after Brokeback for 20 yrs. could be traced back to him , because of him he had done alot of deperate things, not all to be proud of.  He was looking for answers concerning the present and future, not the past. After all that has been said , not said ,and done  he finds Ennis ,was still lying to himself. Thanx.

I guess Ennis was perhaps trying to question Jack's faithfulness, and perhaps in some way justify his rejection of Jack's proposals over the years that they live together?

Title: Re: All them THINGS that I don't know
Post by: manhattangirl on Jul 11, 2008, 06:32 AM
We have a tendency to bypass that line,  "all those things I don't know, could get you killed if I ever come to know them.", but we shouldn't.    We don't want to think, that Ennis could actually do it, we love him. 

But this was the one moment, we see how deeply this "thing" went with him.  Up until that moment it was a guessing game, does he or doesn't  he love Jack, what did the pass twenty years mean to him, what was Jack to him?

No one, not Alma or Cassie kept him out of Jack's arms, neither of them could ease that need for Jack.  Ennis built his life around Jack.  But never understood what he was doing until the threat of him losing Jack could be for real. 

Oh yeah don't dismiss that line, because this is a man who couldn't come to terms with what going on, and couldn't come to terms with the thought it could be slipping away from him.

What would he do if  Jack just turned and walked away?   

 JMO.
Title: Re: All them THINGS that I don't know
Post by: tpe on Jul 11, 2008, 07:08 AM
We have a tendency to bypass that line,  "all those things I don't know, could get you killed if I ever come to know them.", but we shouldn't.    We don't want to think, that Ennis could actually do it, we love him. 

But this was the one moment, we see how deeply this "thing" went with him.  Up until that moment it was a guessing game, does he or doesn't  he love Jack, what did the pass twenty years mean to him, what was Jack to him?

No one, not Alma or Cassie kept him out of Jack's arms, neither of them could ease that need for Jack.  Ennis built his life around Jack.  But never understood what he was doing until the threat of him losing Jack could be for real. 

Oh yeah don't dismiss that line, because this is a man who couldn't come to terms with what going on, and couldn't come to terms with the thought it could be slipping away from him.

What would he do if  Jack just turned and walked away?   

 JMO.

Well, if we think of Jack's angry response to what Ennis said, we would think that Jack was telling Ennis that he had already killed him.  For me, Jack's response to Ennis's threat was not a counter-threast; his response was an acknowledgement of a life lost -- or wasted -- when it was theirs for the taking.

Title: Re: All them THINGS that I don't know
Post by: manhattangirl on Jul 11, 2008, 07:27 AM
Well, if we think of Jack's angry response to what Ennis said, we would think that Jack was telling Ennis that he had already killed him.  For me, Jack's response to Ennis's threat was not a counter-threast; his response was an acknowledgement of a life lost -- or wasted -- when it was theirs for the taking.
 


But take what you said about  Jack's meaning, and compare it to Ennis's life up until that point, it cost him, and now to lose it?   It was only at that moment did Jack understand.
Title: Re: All them THINGS that I don't know
Post by: tpe on Jul 11, 2008, 07:30 AM
But take what you said about  Jack's meaning, and compare it to Ennis's life up until that point, it cost him, and now to lose it?   It was only at that moment did Jack understand.

And I don't think Ennis understood until after he discovered the shirts.

Title: Re: All them THINGS that I don't know
Post by: manhattangirl on Jul 15, 2008, 04:19 AM
And I don't think Ennis understood until after he discovered the shirts.



You're right, Ennis didn't understand that he was loved until he found the shirts, but did Jack understand he was loved before he died? 
Title: Re: All them THINGS that I don't know
Post by: tpe on Jul 15, 2008, 07:11 AM
You're right, Ennis didn't understand that he was loved until he found the shirts, but did Jack understand he was loved before he died? 

I think he had always understood -- although he also understood that Ennis loved him imperfectly up until just before he died.  "Let be, let be."

 
Title: Re: All them THINGS that I don't know
Post by: babytammy7 on Jul 15, 2008, 08:49 AM
You're right, Ennis didn't understand that he was loved until he found the shirts, but did Jack understand he was loved before he died? 


I've wondered the same heartbreaking question over and over again. 
Title: Re: All them THINGS that I don't know
Post by: myprivatejack on Jul 15, 2008, 11:37 AM
You're right, Ennis didn't understand that he was loved until he found the shirts, but did Jack understand he was loved before he died? 

I think he understood it somehow,but always with the imperfection of the unfinished or uncomplet...And that sometimes he had some doubts about,if not Ennis love for him,his desire of keep on living in that way.IMO,for this reason,he had at the end a relationship with Randall,a man who could give him a security of being loved and-as we see in the last scenes-even of living with him.A way of being more secure and have a stronger self-esteem,perhaps?.
Title: Re: All them THINGS that I don't know
Post by: sportstalk23 on Jul 15, 2008, 04:56 PM
I tell myself that jack knew he was loved based on a few things

1. the "there aint no reigns on this one" as I keep saying if this didnt mean anything but meaningless sex it would have ended alot sooner like during the summer of 1963

2. The way Ennis acted when waiting for Jack he put on his best shirt the anticipation like he was gonna go nuts if Jack didnt hurry up and of course when Ennis Flo-Joed down those stairs with the quickness threw Jack against the wall and went at it  :clap: he didnt care at that moment who saw them he had to get to Jack and all that grabbing and caressing  :d)

3. "I wish I knew how to quit you" Ennis basically went to pieces over the thought that Jack all these years of only having a few moments over the years and living this part of his life in secret then the thought of losing Jack on top of it was too much for Ennis, he said he didnt know how much more of this he could stand

Jack understood Ennis better than anyone so i believe even though Ennis wouldnt commit to having a complete life with Jack that he couldnt not because he didnt love Jack
Title: Re: All them THINGS that I don't know
Post by: rimasworld on Jul 15, 2008, 07:12 PM
I tell myself that jack knew he was loved based on a few things

1. the "there aint no reigns on this one" as I keep saying if this didnt mean anything but meaningless sex it would have ended alot sooner like during the summer of 1963

2. The way Ennis acted when waiting for Jack he put on his best shirt the anticipation like he was gonna go nuts if Jack didnt hurry up and of course when Ennis Flo-Joed down those stairs with the quickness threw Jack against the wall and went at it  :clap: he didnt care at that moment who saw them he had to get to Jack and all that grabbing and caressing  :d)

3. "I wish I knew how to quit you" Ennis basically went to pieces over the thought that Jack all these years of only having a few moments over the years and living this part of his life in secret then the thought of losing Jack on top of it was too much for Ennis, he said he didnt know how much more of this he could stand

Jack understood Ennis better than anyone so i believe even though Ennis wouldnt commit to having a complete life with Jack that he couldnt not because he didnt love Jack

ITA I believe Jack had to know Ennis loved him, I mean over all those years there was such a deep friendship and passion. Ennis had a suppressed way of showing love where Jack was more open and truthful. But Jack understood Ennis probably more than Ennis understood himself and accepted it for the most part. The fact that Ennis had a struggle with commitment is what I think really frustrated Jack over the years and was kind of the last straw in that showdown. Lots of people in relationships have trouble with commitment, it's the final step, giving yourself totally to love and share your life with one person. And I really don't think Jack was going to start over with any other man either. It was just him thinking out loud at his folks because he was probably still mad at Ennis and also very hurt. How many of us have said things we don't mean when we are hurt and angry at the one we love most and some times share those thoughts with others? JMO 
Title: Re: All them THINGS that I don't know
Post by: aintfoolin on Jul 16, 2008, 04:18 AM
I agree, with this absolutley. Jack could read Ennis very well. What he could'nt speak verbally, Jack understood.  It's what imo is what kept Jack returning to Ennis yr. after yr.  He knew Ennis loved and needed him.The actions Ennis put forth were clear to him. Don't so much believe what Ennis says, but what he does,  how he acts and stay cautious of spooking him. Jack knew Ennis loved him IMHO.

When Ennis related the story of Earl and Rich so vividly to Jack,   Jack asks him "you seen this"?. I feel Jack also knew WHY Ennis could'nt admit he loved him.  This story  was the reason Ennis offers Jack why "no way" two men can live together. Why he coud'nt ranch up with him. Why he could'nt fullfill Jack's dream. Harm would come to Jack, him, or both.  Even though he is not committed in  as far as ranching up, he is comitted mentally, pysically, and emotionally to Jack." No reins on this one" of course Ennis's way of telling Jack that his feelings for him are undeniable.  Brokeback , despite marrying Alma,  was still very real to him after 4 yrs. "this one" meaning the first one , not the second one with Alma.  Jack is the *one* he wants the most. And for  how long?as long as they could ride it. I think Jack understood what that meant.  Ennis did love him till the end. My two cents. Thanx.
Title: Re: All them THINGS that I don't know
Post by: tpe on Jul 16, 2008, 07:44 AM
Thanks friends for all the wonderful posts.

Isn't it the greatest irony about this topic:  that the THING that Ennis didn't know was how much Jack understood him, in spite of everything?  The greatest irony was that the greatest THING he didn't know was the extent of that love, and Jack's knowledge that even if they would move on into separate realms, that love would endure, no matter how imperfect or unresolved it may be.

   
Title: Re: All them THINGS that I don't know
Post by: myprivatejack on Jul 18, 2008, 09:44 AM
Thanks friends for all the wonderful posts.

Isn't it the greatest irony about this topic:  that the THING that Ennis didn't know was how much Jack understood him, in spite of everything?  The greatest irony was that the greatest THING he didn't know was the extent of that love, and Jack's knowledge that even if they would move on into separate realms, that love would endure, no matter how imperfect or unresolved it may be.   

I've never thought about this in this sense,but you're right; to make things right,he first needed to know how much Jack understood him,even if that meant renounce to his dreams or adapt them to Ennis reality.But maybe it's true that the first and main thing he didn't know is the extent of that love...or that this thing was love indeed?.

Title: Re: All them THINGS that I don't know
Post by: tpe on Jul 18, 2008, 02:25 PM
Thanks MPJ.

One can argue that it was Jack's frustration over their love/relationship that inevitably killed him.   And Ennis did indeed came to know about it in the last confrontation scene.    A self-fulfilling prophesy, perhaps?  I hope this is not too far-fetched.
Title: Re: All them THINGS that I don't know
Post by: rimasworld on Jul 18, 2008, 02:44 PM
Thanks MPJ.

One can argue that it was Jack's frustration over their love/relationship that inevitably killed him.   And Ennis did indeed came to know about it in the last confrontation scene.    A self-fulfilling prophesy, perhaps?  I hope this is not too far-fetched.


Good point. I think after that last confrontation Jack was consumed with thoughts of Ennis more than ever.. should he stay, should he move on, should he wait for Ennis? Quite a bit was revealed that last meeting, enough to make Jack distracted in his daily activities from then on, enough that maybe even trying to change a tire caused him to not be concentrating enough on the task at hand, made one little slip up that cost him his life. 
Title: Re: All them THINGS that I don't know
Post by: tpe on Jul 18, 2008, 02:57 PM
Good point. I think after that last confrontation Jack was consumed with thoughts of Ennis more than ever.. should he stay, should he move on, should he wait for Ennis? Quite a bit was revealed that last meeting, enough to make Jack distracted in his daily activities from then on, enough that maybe even trying to change a tire caused him to not be concentrating enough on the task at hand, made one little slip up that cost him his life. 

Thanks rimasworld.  In whatever manner Jack died, I am quite certain that he had Ennis in mind up until the last moment.  In truth, I think he never left Jack's mind after the last confrontation, even as he mentally and emotionally prepared himself to "move on".

Title: Re: All them THINGS that I don't know
Post by: babytammy7 on Jul 18, 2008, 03:17 PM
Thanks rimasworld.  In whatever manner Jack died, I am quite certain that he had Ennis in mind up until the last moment.  In truth, I think he never left Jack's mind after the last confrontation, even as he mentally and emotionally prepared himself to "move on".

Agree with that, Thomas. Poor baby, always unable to quit thinking about Ennis, to quit loving Ennis. That's why I love Jack so much!!! He was truly faithful (yeah, I said faithful, even as he was with all those men in Mexico and Randall) to Ennis and faithful to his feelings till the very end.
Title: Re: All them THINGS that I don't know
Post by: aintfoolin on Jul 18, 2008, 03:37 PM
This is true.
 All them things he did'nt know including the extent of Jack's love may have lead directly to Jack's death. He was'nt there to protect Jack when he was murdered,( regardless of Lureen's story of Jack's death, Ennis assumes Jack died by the tireirons because someone found out he was gay).  Her explaination did not bring Ennis closure.. It all became clear to him only after he finds the shirts, that Jack always loved him, in spite of all those other suspicions.  By the time Ennis came to know there was at least one other man involved (Randall) Jack was dead, , nothing else really mattered except what he could have done to change that fact, Jack was gone.

Ennis was in a jeaulous rage when he said it. Actually,  he said if HE came to know them, suggesting that HE would   be the one to kill Jack. He was out done by fate. No doubt Ennis regretted those words imo.
Title: Re: All them THINGS that I don't know
Post by: babytammy7 on Jul 18, 2008, 03:44 PM
I quote word by word, Af.  ^f^
Title: Re: All them THINGS that I don't know
Post by: rimasworld on Jul 18, 2008, 05:06 PM
This is true.
 All them things he did'nt know including the extent of Jack's love may have lead directly to Jack's death. He was'nt there to protect Jack when he was murdered,( regardless of Lureen's story of Jack's death, Ennis assumes Jack died by the tireirons because someone found out he was gay).  Her explaination did not bring Ennis closure.. It all became clear to him only after he finds the shirts, that Jack always loved him, in spite of all those other suspicions.  By the time Ennis came to know there was at least one other man involved (Randall) Jack was dead, , nothing else really mattered except what he could have done to change that fact, Jack was gone.

Ennis was in a jeaulous rage when he said it. Actually,  he said if HE came to know them, suggesting that HE would   be the one to kill Jack. He was out done by fate. No doubt Ennis regretted those words imo.


Yes I think Ennis really regretted what he said out of anger and I believe he felt guilt on top of it when he found out it had come to pass and Jack had really died. But this was so realistic because in the heat of anger people often say things they don't mean to the one they love the most.
Title: Re: All them THINGS that I don't know
Post by: tpe on Jul 18, 2008, 05:14 PM
Agree with that, Thomas. Poor baby, always unable to quit thinking about Ennis, to quit loving Ennis. That's why I love Jack so much!!! He was truly faithful (yeah, I said faithful, even as he was with all those men in Mexico and Randall) to Ennis and faithful to his feelings till the very end.

What Ennis SHOULD have known was that every Randall ond Mexican hustler Jack consorted with was an attempt to find a surrogate for someone that Jack deemed irreplaceable.   The irony is that before the visit to LF, Ennis might not have realized who that someone was.
Title: Re: All them THINGS that I don't know
Post by: tpe on Jul 18, 2008, 05:16 PM
This is true.
 All them things he did'nt know including the extent of Jack's love may have lead directly to Jack's death. He was'nt there to protect Jack when he was murdered,( regardless of Lureen's story of Jack's death, Ennis assumes Jack died by the tireirons because someone found out he was gay).  Her explaination did not bring Ennis closure.. It all became clear to him only after he finds the shirts, that Jack always loved him, in spite of all those other suspicions.  By the time Ennis came to know there was at least one other man involved (Randall) Jack was dead, , nothing else really mattered except what he could have done to change that fact, Jack was gone.

Ennis was in a jeaulous rage when he said it. Actually,  he said if HE came to know them, suggesting that HE would   be the one to kill Jack. He was out done by fate. No doubt Ennis regretted those words imo.


Yes I think Ennis really regretted what he said out of anger and I believe he felt guilt on top of it when he found out it had come to pass and Jack had really died. But this was so realistic because in the heat of anger people often say things they don't mean to the one they love the most.



Of course, it was also noted a while back that a double meaning can be given to Ennis's threat -- that all those things he didn't know would lead to Jack's demise...

Title: Re: All them THINGS that I don't know
Post by: aintfoolin on Jul 18, 2008, 05:36 PM
Exactly rimasworld and tpe and thanks Baby Tammy.
 People say things while in the heat of and argument they don't really mean literally. Ennis may have FELT like harming Jack out of the hurt and pain, but just the title of the thread to me suggests  Ennis had suspected Jack was not totally faithful. Mexico was not his only suspicion. "all them things" suggests there was more. Being suspect is one thing but again, knowing for sure is another. ennis just did'nt want to acknowledge any of it or think about Jack with anyone else. Knowing about it would force Ennis to acknowledge his own faults regarding it. Yes, he was jeaulous, but he has to shift the blame onto some one else or he would have to admit to himself that Jack's infidelities were partly his own fault too.
Title: Re: All them THINGS that I don't know
Post by: tpe on Jul 18, 2008, 05:43 PM
Exactly rimasworld and tpe and thanks Baby Tammy.
 People say things while in the heat of and argument they don't really mean literally. Ennis may have FELT like harming Jack out of the hurt and pain, but just the title of the thread to me suggests  Ennis had suspected Jack was not totally faithful. Mexico was not his only suspicion. "all them things" suggests there was more. Being suspect is one thing but again, knowing for sure is another. ennis just did'nt want to acknowledge any of it or think about Jack with anyone else. Knowing about it would force Ennis to acknowledge his own faults regarding it. Yes, he was jeaulous, but he has to shift the blame onto some one else or he would have to admit to himself that Jack's infidelities were partly his own fault too.

I emphasize the sentence in boldface.  Perhaps it was facing up to his own shortcomings that Ennis feared the most...
Title: Re: All them THINGS that I don't know
Post by: babytammy7 on Jul 18, 2008, 05:43 PM
Exactly rimasworld and tpe and thanks Baby Tammy.
 People say things while in the heat of and argument they don't really mean literally. Ennis may have FELT like harming Jack out of the hurt and pain, but just the title of the thread to me suggests  Ennis had suspected Jack was not totally faithful. Mexico was not his only suspicion. "all them things" suggests there was more. Being suspect is one thing but again, knowing for sure is another. ennis just did'nt want to acknowledge any of it or think about Jack with anyone else. Knowing about it would force Ennis to acknowledge his own faults regarding it. Yes, he was jeaulous, but he has to shift the blame onto some one else or he would have to admit to himself that Jack's infidelities were partly his own fault too.

Agree, agree.  ^f^
Title: Re: All them THINGS that I don't know
Post by: sportstalk23 on Jul 18, 2008, 07:04 PM
What Ennis SHOULD have known was that every Randall ond Mexican hustler Jack consorted with was an attempt to find a surrogate for someone that Jack deemed irreplaceable.   The irony is that before the visit to LF, Ennis might not have realized who that someone was.


Bravo Tom  (:) (:) thats exactly how I feel about Jack going to Mexico or turning to Randall it was his needing something to occupy the pain of NOT BEING WITH ENNIS DEL MAR I never saw Randall as something serious even when Mr. Twist was explaining how Jack went from "I'm gonna bring down Ennis Del Mar and whip this ranch into shape", to "I'm bringing some divorced foreman to fix the ranch". At that moment Ennis might have thought  OMG I've lost Jack to someone else before he died maybe he did quit me, but then the shirts told Ennis no he never quit you I believe Jack had more faith in Ennis than Ennis had in himself.
Title: Re: All them THINGS that I don't know
Post by: rimasworld on Jul 18, 2008, 09:23 PM
Bravo Tom  (:) (:) thats exactly how I feel about Jack going to Mexico or turning to Randall it was his needing something to occupy the pain of NOT BEING WITH ENNIS DEL MAR I never saw Randall as something serious even when Mr. Twist was explaining how Jack went from "I'm gonna bring down Ennis Del Mar and whip this ranch into shape", to "I'm bringing some divorced foreman to fix the ranch". At that moment Ennis might have thought  OMG I've lost Jack to someone else before he died maybe he did quit me, but then the shirts told Ennis no he never quit you I believe Jack had more faith in Ennis than Ennis had in himself.

Yes all of these "things" were just temporary fill ins for Jack when he missed Ennis so bad he could hardly stand it. Ennis was his only option and I don't think he ever intended on living with another man anywhere. He said that because he was mad at and totally frustrated with Ennis and the entire situation at that point but he didn't mean a word of it. It would be Ennis or nobody. Many years ago he had given his heart and soul to the man he loved and that was Ennis. Nobody else could measure up, they all fell short.
Title: Re: All them THINGS that I don't know
Post by: babytammy7 on Jul 19, 2008, 01:47 PM
Bravo Tom  (:) (:) thats exactly how I feel about Jack going to Mexico or turning to Randall it was his needing something to occupy the pain of NOT BEING WITH ENNIS DEL MAR I never saw Randall as something serious even when Mr. Twist was explaining how Jack went from "I'm gonna bring down Ennis Del Mar and whip this ranch into shape", to "I'm bringing some divorced foreman to fix the ranch". At that moment Ennis might have thought  OMG I've lost Jack to someone else before he died maybe he did quit me, but then the shirts told Ennis no he never quit you I believe Jack had more faith in Ennis than Ennis had in himself.

So beautiful, baby. I agree with you.  ^f^
Title: Re: All them THINGS that I don't know
Post by: sportstalk23 on Jul 19, 2008, 02:03 PM
So beautiful, baby. I agree with you.  ^f^

 :t) :ghug: I couldnt believe I didnt see it sooner Tammy Jack always treated Ennis with so much love, respect and faith than anyone ever in his life it just jumps at you from the screen Jack was like you can do this-we can do this, but Ennis was trapped by what society says is immoral and poor Earl and Rich who were just living their lives not hurting anyone ,as a black woman from the south hell america which hasnt historically been great to people of color. My parents always said if somebody is going to take you out for their own bigoted reasons they go out living the life you deserve to have you will die with zero regrets, I'm sure regret, feeling cheated, and guilt are some of the things Ennis must feel after Jack's death thats why the thought of other men basically drove Ennis nuts, like this is what belongs to US and nobody else
Title: Re: All them THINGS that I don't know
Post by: atalley on Jul 19, 2008, 04:21 PM
I do believe that Jack knew that he was loved by Ennis before he died.  I often think of how Ennis was probably the last thing that Jack saw in his mind.
Title: Re: All them THINGS that I don't know
Post by: myprivatejack on Jul 20, 2008, 12:29 PM
I do believe that Jack knew that he was loved by Ennis before he died.  I often think of how Ennis was probably the last thing that Jack saw in his mind.

I'm absolutely sure that Ennis was the last memory Jack had in his mind before dying. :\'(  But I'm absolutely sure that,if this had happenned on the contrary,Jack had been the last memory and image in Ennis mind too...Because,even in spite of his denials,in spite of his more or less hidden homophobia,even if he didn't want to give it this name,Ennis was in love with Jack.And in spite of himself too...
Title: Re: All them THINGS that I don't know
Post by: tpe on Jul 21, 2008, 08:13 AM
Thanks friends!  Wonderful posts during the weekend!  :)

I guess after Ennis found the shirts, all them THINGS didn't matter that much anymore to him. 
Title: Re: All them THINGS that I don't know
Post by: myprivatejack on Jul 21, 2008, 09:32 AM
Thanks friends!  Wonderful posts during the weekend!  :)

I guess after Ennis found the shirts, all them THINGS didn't matter that much anymore to him. 

Of course not...I think that,in any case,the things that matters to him then were those ones he couldn't do anymore with Jack;the ones that could have brought more happy moments to both of them.Happiness that precisely these other things "he didn't know" had denied during almost 20 years.
Title: Re: All them THINGS that I don't know
Post by: tpe on Jul 22, 2008, 08:45 AM
Of course not...I think that,in any case,the things that matters to him then were those ones he couldn't do anymore with Jack;the ones that could have brought more happy moments to both of them.Happiness that precisely these other things "he didn't know" had denied during almost 20 years.

Was it good that in the end, he did got to know some of "them things"?  Surely, the Texas neighbor must have been a surprise to him.  Was it better that he got to know them?  It sounds like a self-fulfilling prophesy to me at this point, if you get my drift (about Jack getting killed if he should come to know them.)

Title: Re: All them THINGS that I don't know
Post by: atalley on Jul 22, 2008, 09:54 AM
Good point.  I never thought of it that way.  Both of his worst thoughts came to pass.
Title: Re: All them THINGS that I don't know
Post by: smartestsonia on Jul 23, 2008, 04:34 AM
He meant to say that u can only be mine and no other man can have u as u r meant only with me and no one else
Title: Re: All them THINGS that I don't know
Post by: manhattangirl on Jul 23, 2008, 05:04 AM
He meant to say that u can only be mine and no other man can have u as u r meant only with me and no one else

I agree with this.  I have one question though, could this be the reply to Jack's "I miss you so much I can hardly stand it"?   
Title: Re: All them THINGS that I don't know
Post by: tpe on Jul 23, 2008, 07:17 AM
Good point.  I never thought of it that way.  Both of his worst thoughts came to pass.

To his infinite regret, I suppose.  Noody likes playing Cassandra.

Title: Re: All them THINGS that I don't know
Post by: tpe on Jul 23, 2008, 07:20 AM
He meant to say that u can only be mine and no other man can have u as u r meant only with me and no one else

I agree with this.  I have one question though, could this be the reply to Jack's "I miss you so much I can hardly stand it"?   

In a way, his threat was sort of a compliment, no?  It is better to realize that the one you love is jealous than indifferent.  In this way, it can be seen as a sort of "negative" admission of love, don't you agree?  MG, was this what you meant?

   
Title: Re: All them THINGS that I don't know
Post by: atalley on Jul 23, 2008, 02:07 PM
I definitely see it as a compliment that stems from jealousy.  Slightly  *o) ...I was just thinking-after Ennis collapsed into his arms and said "I can't stand this no more, Jack"; I was surprised that he drove away, as I thought he meant "I can't stand being away from you anymore".  Was there more discussion between them in the SS?  Just curious.
Title: Re: All them THINGS that I don't know
Post by: manhattangirl on Jul 23, 2008, 04:21 PM
I definitely see it as a compliment that stems from jealousy.  Slightly  *o) ...I was just thinking-after Ennis collapsed into his arms and said "I can't stand this no more, Jack"; I was surprised that he drove away, as I thought he meant "I can't stand being away from you anymore".  Was there more discussion between them in the SS?  Just curious.
In the ss it's somewhat different than in the movie, Jack remains in his truck, Ennis collapses then recovers on his own, and the scene goes on:

"...they torqued things almost to where they had been, for what they'd said was no news.  Nothing ended, nothing begun, nothing resolved.."


I think this may be what you were asking.  From my perspective nothing changed between them, they didn't end it, they didn't make any sort of declarations or promises, it all remained the same. ( I love AP's  use of words).      JMO.

Title: Re: All them THINGS that I don't know
Post by: manhattangirl on Jul 23, 2008, 04:46 PM
In a way, his threat was sort of a compliment, no?  It is better to realize that the one you love is jealous than indifferent.  In this way, it can be seen as a sort of "negative" admission of love, don't you agree?  MG, was this what you meant?

   

 Yes, You see it,  but I also think this is what sets Jack off on his tirade.   Ennis would kill him if he ever found out he was with someone else, in other words, " you are mine, and mine alone", but he limits the time they are together, or not just saying outright,  "you're gonna be with me always".   Ennis is not doing this, not coming down off the fence he's been sitting on for twenty years,  this what enrages Jack.   Jack's fed up, time is passing, and there is not enough of it, I can understand why he wished he could quit Ennis.   JMO.
Title: Re: All them THINGS that I don't know
Post by: sportstalk23 on Jul 23, 2008, 06:42 PM
Yes, You see it,  but I also think this is what sets Jack off on his tirade.   Ennis would kill him if he ever found out he was with someone else, in other words, " you are mine, and mine alone", but he limits the time they are together, or not just saying outright,  "you're gonna be with me always".   Ennis is not doing this, not coming down off the fence he's been sitting on for twenty years,  this what enrages Jack.   Jack's fed up, time is passing, and there is not enough of it, I can understand why he wished he could quit Ennis.   JMO.


exactly manhattan Jack did have the line about "the short f-in leash you keep me on" said it all about Jack's frustration like, "damn Ennis what more do you expect from me we see each other only a handful of times a year then, you go back to your fake life and I go back to my fake life, but you want me to be faithful to you as a complete relationship yet you refuse to take the final step of making this a complete relationship. I understood Jack's tirade as much as I understood Ennis's continued reservation about taking that step
Title: Re: All them THINGS that I don't know
Post by: rimasworld on Jul 23, 2008, 07:21 PM
If Ennis would have just answered Jack in silence or some sort of grunt like he did many times, Jack would have taken that as indifference and hey he doesn't care what I do does he?, when he said "Yeah I've been down in Mexico, is that a f***ing problem?" But Ennis throwing his jealous hissy fit allowed Jack's floodgates to open and he spewed out all that had been festering in his gut for many years. This was a long time coming.
Title: Re: All them THINGS that I don't know
Post by: tpe on Jul 24, 2008, 07:41 AM
Do we consider Ennis's "threat" to be a good or a bad thing in the long run?  I know that it did open the floodgates as far as jack was concerned, but perhaps this would have been inevitable? 

I had started a thread a long time ago about the "possessiveness"  of Ennis, and I cited the threat as the prime example.  I remember some interesting exchanges there -- not everyone agreed that he was especially possessive.  Are we to distinguish between possessiveness and jealousy?

Title: Re: All them THINGS that I don't know
Post by: rimasworld on Jul 24, 2008, 11:14 AM
Do we consider Ennis's "threat" to be a good or a bad thing in the long run?  I know that it did open the floodgates as far as jack was concerned, but perhaps this would have been inevitable? 

I had started a thread a long time ago about the "possessiveness"  of Ennis, and I cited the threat as the prime example.  I remember some interesting exchanges there -- not everyone agreed that he was especially possessive.  Are we to distinguish between possessiveness and jealousy?


Just going by my own experience, I think those 2 emotions can be 1 in the same. I feel they also stem from insecurity which seems to breed them.


Title: Re: All them THINGS that I don't know
Post by: sportstalk23 on Jul 24, 2008, 01:47 PM
Do we consider Ennis's "threat" to be a good or a bad thing in the long run?  I know that it did open the floodgates as far as jack was concerned, but perhaps this would have been inevitable? 

I had started a thread a long time ago about the "possessiveness"  of Ennis, and I cited the threat as the prime example.  I remember some interesting exchanges there -- not everyone agreed that he was especially possessive.  Are we to distinguish between possessiveness and jealousy?



I think it was jealous and possessive  can be one in the same Ennis didnt mind when it was the "forman's wife" he thought that was funny but when the mexico implication came out he was far from pleased, he kept trying to get Jack to be ok with their situation "if we cant fix it we gotta stand it", and but really Jack would tolerate it but he was never ok with it. The thought of Jack turning to other men wasnt something Ennis could tolerate. Jack was his and his alone and that threat was to me just that a threat, he wouldnt seriously harm Jack besides that "I dont wanna say goodbye punch". He felt them too having a life together would cause them harm and he didnt want that.

But didnt we love the way Jack didnt back down and let Ennis just throw that threat out and leave and we saw the end result of that confrontation didnt we
Title: Re: All them THINGS that I don't know
Post by: jessicat80 on Jul 24, 2008, 05:40 PM
I think it was jealous and possessive  can be one in the same Ennis didnt mind when it was the "forman's wife" he thought that was funny but when the mexico implication came out he was far from pleased,

I just saw this scene again on Bravo, and after Ennis does kinda laugh at the idea of Jack and the forman's wife, he then pauses, gets serious, and glances at Jack...like he doesn't like the idea.

I wondered at this.. if that reaction had to do with Ennis being jealous of Jack with someone else, or possibly upset that Jack might be so attracted to women also, that he would actually risk sleeping with a married woman.... while Ennis is trying so hard to deny his attration to men.

After this thought...this guilt... festering in his mind all night, would it then make Ennis that much more ticked off at the Mexio confession? Like, wait, I thought you just threw in my face that you still like women a lot; now it turns outs your attracted to other men as much as me, except you;re actually doing something about it.

???
Title: Re: All them THINGS that I don't know
Post by: atalley on Jul 24, 2008, 07:47 PM
I don't think that's why he gave Jack the serious look that night.  I think that's the best he could do when Jack says "sometimes I miss you so bad I can hardly stand it".  He felt the same way in his head and heart, but couldn't bring himself to say it out loud.  Later that night, we find them spooning in the tent.  Intimacy was proof of his love.  (I love that scene...just wish there was more).

Anyway, (during the argument), after Jack mentioned Mexico, Ennis then realized Jack had been seeing other men.  This is what set him off...the thought of Jack being with another man-this made him FURIOUS! ^*) Jack was his and no one else's.  He knew the women were just for a "cover".

Anyone else have any ideas?


 
Title: Re: All them THINGS that I don't know
Post by: manhattangirl on Jul 24, 2008, 08:42 PM
I just saw this scene again on Bravo, and after Ennis does kinda laugh at the idea of Jack and the forman's wife, he then pauses, gets serious, and glances at Jack...like he doesn't like the idea.

I wondered at this.. if that reaction had to do with Ennis being jealous of Jack with someone else, or possibly upset that Jack might be so attracted to women also, that he would actually risk sleeping with a married woman.... while Ennis is trying so hard to deny his attration to men.

After this thought...this guilt... festering in his mind all night, would it then make Ennis that much more ticked off at the Mexio confession? Like, wait, I thought you just threw in my face that you still like women a lot; now it turns outs your attracted to other men as much as me, except you;re actually doing something about it.

???
Wow, yeah, there can a lot to conclude about what Ennis thought of Jack's confession. 

Remember they didn't look at their relationship as being unfaithful to their wives in itself,  to be married was what you're suppose to be, taking care of your family was what you had to do.  Their relationship was separate and apart from that. 

But for Jack to step outside the bounds of that relationship had to have work on Ennis mind that night, and this in the wake of the Cassie confession, in some way he wanted to let Jack know he was faithful to him.

But Jack displayed a freedom Ennis never experienced.  A freedom of spirit, and of his body that Ennis in some way had shut down, if not,  hinder a bit.  That's why the change in the planned meeting in August.  I never quite believed he couldn't make the meeting, but stall it a bit yes.   Ennis knew how to tighten that leash when necessary, and Jack knew it.  Was it out of fear of losing him?     


 

 
Title: Re: All them THINGS that I don't know
Post by: jessicat80 on Jul 24, 2008, 09:39 PM
Wow, yeah, there can a lot to conclude about what Ennis thought of Jack's confession. 

Remember they didn't look at their relationship as being unfaithful to their wives in itself,  to be married was what you're suppose to be, taking care of your family was what you had to do.  Their relationship was separate and apart from that. 

But for Jack to step outside the bounds of that relationship had to have work on Ennis mind that night, and this in the wake of the Cassie confession, in some way he wanted to let Jack know he was faithful to him.But Jack displayed a freedom Ennis never experienced.  A freedom of spirit, and of his body that Ennis in some way had shut down, if not,  hinder a bit.  That's why the change in the planned meeting in August.  I never quite believed he couldn't make the meeting, but stall it a bit yes.  Ennis knew how to tighten that leash when necessary, and Jack knew it.  Was it out of fear of losing him?     

 

That's really interesting, the idea that they didn't feel like their relationship was cheating on their wives. even more so, the idea that Ennis is only truly jealous when Jack admits to other men....

When Ennis threatens Jack, is he upset that Jack is cheating on him with other men because he only considers sex with men meaningful to Jack and meaningful to himself because they are gay, and Ennis admits to himself that they are gay?

Or is he upset/mad that the idea of Jack having sex with multiple men makes Jack gay, while Ennis refuses to view himself as such, and had up to that point, refused to view Jack as either? (like in the short story when it says Ennis refused to admit he was holding another man during the dozy embrace)

And P.S. MG, It never crossed my mind that Ennis lied about not being able to meet in Aug, that's interesting; is there a thread devoted to that?
Title: Re: All them THINGS that I don't know
Post by: rimasworld on Jul 24, 2008, 09:51 PM
Wow, yeah, there can a lot to conclude about what Ennis thought of Jack's confession. 

Remember they didn't look at their relationship as being unfaithful to their wives in itself,  to be married was what you're suppose to be, taking care of your family was what you had to do.  Their relationship was separate and apart from that. 

But for Jack to step outside the bounds of that relationship had to have work on Ennis mind that night, and this in the wake of the Cassie confession, in some way he wanted to let Jack know he was faithful to him.

But Jack displayed a freedom Ennis never experienced.  A freedom of spirit, and of his body that Ennis in some way had shut down, if not,  hinder a bit.  That's why the change in the planned meeting in August.  I never quite believed he couldn't make the meeting, but stall it a bit yes.   Ennis knew how to tighten that leash when necessary, and Jack knew it.  Was it out of fear of losing him?     
 


Maybe it was Jack's more independent older freedom of spirit coming thru that night talking about another besides Lureen that started Ennis thinking and probably getting more insecure and jealous. I think it was ok with him that Jack had relations with his wife but it upset him to know Jack was seeking it elsewhere with any other men or women. Maybe Ennis thought he was getting lower on Jack's priorities,  and yeah felt he needed to tighten that leash to get more control of the situation.

 

Title: Re: All them THINGS that I don't know
Post by: aintfoolin on Jul 25, 2008, 06:57 AM
This is a very interesting conversation . '
I'll add my two cents by saying that Ennis was'nt even thinking of Mexico, until Jack himself mentioned Mexico, like atalley says.  (" We otta go to Mexico" )I think it gave Ennis a clue. He puts two and two together and concludes that Jack has been there.  If it was sex with  a woman Jack needed, there was Lureen, and possibly a foremans wife.. Why would Jack go to Mexico? alone. In Ennis mind, it's where "boys like you" go to play. Possibly on more than one occassion? Men, and sex with other men. When Jack speaks of "needin somethin he hardly ever gets", it's sex with another man.
 I don't even feel that what Ennis felt he had on Jack was considered a *leash* to him. Those were Jack's words, how he felt. Ennis simply expected Jack to be faithful to him, because  to Ennis, they had an unspoken * arrangment that they would be the only men either would be sexually active with and Jack was breaking the *unspoken*  rule. Sure he was jeaulous, he loved Jack, Jack was his partner/lover in a supposedly monogamus relationship. Unfortunately, Jack had a much higher  sex drive than Ennis. Once or twice a year is just not enough. MO

 




Title: Re: All them THINGS that I don't know
Post by: tpe on Jul 25, 2008, 07:55 AM
Interesting conversation, indeed.

I do think that possessiveness and jealousy can be one and the same thing, and the root is in a sense of personal insecurity.

I have never really considered the possibility that Ennis was jealous when Jack consorts with other women.  I always thought that he would rather see him consort with women, if only to make sure that he isn't involved with other men.  So this possibility intrigues me, although I am not particularly sympathetic to the idea.


And yes, I do't feel that Ennis really inderstood the constraints he put on Jack -- he simply thought that what was good enough for him was good enough for Jack, I suppose.  His jealousy can therefore be understood in part as a reaction to seeing Jack doing things he himself never considered doing.  It was as if there was a whole world in Jack that Ennis had barely touched or understood.


Title: Re: All them THINGS that I don't know
Post by: rimasworld on Jul 25, 2008, 12:36 PM
Not sure if this is the right place for this thought, but it does have to do with quitting Ennis. I was thinking of something I hadn't before now. A time connection between Jack and Alma's relationship with Ennis. After both had witnessed a crucial event, they both stuck it out with him for their own reasons for about the same amount of time after it happened. Alma being crushed by seeing her husband practically climbing another guy in the reunion scene and Jack being rejected and sent away in the post-divorce scene. Those 2 events right there would have been reason enough for both of them to quit Ennis a lot sooner than they did, but it took all those years for Alma to quit him and the same amount of time for Jack to wish he could and seriously be thinking about it. Just another little tidbit in the movie I think is interesting. 
Title: Re: All them THINGS that I don't know
Post by: atalley on Jul 25, 2008, 03:55 PM
That's a good point...Alma did stick with the marriage for many yrs.  She probably knew that she could not support her and the girls alone.  As for Jack, he wasn't about to give up the "love of his life"-he had no idea how to "quit Ennis"; I don't think he would've seriously thought about it.  MO

As to Ennis tugging on the leash...I never thought that he was lying about not being able to meet Jack in Aug.  I believe that he really had a problem getting of from work.

I do still, however, get upset with him after Jack drives 14 hrs. to see him only to be sent away. >:(  He could've sent the girls to Alma's for awhile.  28 hrs. of driving...THAT is LOVE! <^( <^( <^( <^( <^(
Title: Re: All them THINGS that I don't know
Post by: sportstalk23 on Jul 25, 2008, 04:20 PM
The I miss you so much I can hardly stand tells me that during the times Jack couldnt stand it he reacted just like yall mentioned the long drive how his heart must have broke for him to drive all that way to Mexico :\'( , just like when people are upset they do the opposite of constructive but destructive, when I had heartbreak I fall into bed and tend not to leave it, or I devour any and everything edible around and who hasnt had the date with that bottle of tequila. Jack had faith because he was a dreamer but that faith got tested quite a bit by Ennis, there in lies the "I wish I knew how to quit you", if you can believe I saw this same thing on Sex and the City with Carrie and Big  ;D. Carrie said the pain of leaving can be tougher than staying, because at least while your in the relationship you still have that person in some way, but once you cut the cord and their gone what do you have left? I think actually quitting Ennis would have been awful for Jack as much as not having 100% of Ennis, but dammit Ennis should have been more clear in that post card or letter about his intentions  >:( he could have told Jack hey I got the girls this weekend but next week end is us but thats how I would have wrote it  ;)
Title: Re: All them THINGS that I don't know
Post by: tpe on Jul 28, 2008, 08:57 AM
I think part of Jack's response in the Last Confrontation was to tell Ennis that there were things he didn't know also included sacrifies he (Jack) had to bear over the years.  I think he was trying to tell Ennis that it was more than just his trips to Mexico and his casual or more serious encounters with other men.  All the things Ennis didn't know included all those things he refused to acknowledge in their relationship.

 
Title: Re: All them THINGS that I don't know
Post by: atalley on Jul 28, 2008, 10:08 AM
Very good Thomas.  All of the sacrifices he had made during the 20 yrs.  All of the pent-up anger comes tumbling out when he finds out that he will only have a wk. in Nov. for the entire yr. with Ennis.  Unacceptable.  I don't think, however, that he stopped to think of the sacrifices that Ennis made all those yrs. until Ennis broke down.  I was so glad when he grabbed Ennis for dear life to comfort him. :\'(
Title: Re: All them THINGS that I don't know
Post by: rimasworld on Jul 28, 2008, 06:13 PM
Yes Ennis really was a tortured soul wasn't he? Sometimes my heart just breaks for him
and his lost opportunity with the person he loved more than life itself   :\'(
Title: Re: All them THINGS that I don't know
Post by: manhattangirl on Jul 28, 2008, 06:31 PM
Very good Thomas.  All of the sacrifices he had made during the 20 yrs.  All of the pent-up anger comes tumbling out when he finds out that he will only have a wk. in Nov. for the entire yr. with Ennis.  Unacceptable.  I don't think, however, that he stopped to think of the sacrifices that Ennis made all those yrs. until Ennis broke down.  I was so glad when he grabbed Ennis for dear life to comfort him. :\'(

Ennis life was exactly that, he lived for Jack.   Every decision he made, every job he took, ever real feeling he had, was for Jack.  Ennis didn't understand it, and probably deny it, but he was in love. 
Title: Re: All them THINGS that I don't know
Post by: tpe on Jul 29, 2008, 09:22 AM
Thanks friends.

I think what makes these 2 characters great collide in the last confrontation.

For Ennis, he is a great character because of his being a tortured sould constantly struggling under a seemingly calm surface of stoicism.

For Jack, he is a great character because he rides the emotional turmoil to the end -- fighting it within himself and within Ennis, and never backing down up to the very end.  The significance of the nam,e "Jack Twist" is indeed so very apt. 
Title: Re: All them THINGS that I don't know
Post by: myprivatejack on Jul 29, 2008, 11:38 AM
Ennis life was exactly that, he lived for Jack.   Every decision he made, every job he took, ever real feeling he had, was for Jack.  Ennis didn't understand it, and probably deny it, but he was in love. 

I agree,MG;Ennis life turned around Jack.Even if his life changed in the last years,and his economical and familiar duties avoided him to see his lover as often as he wanted.Even if this situation sometimes seems provoked by Ennis himself,as a way of running away from a socially bad considered relationship.Even the strength of his own denials and fears,even the strength of himself against the thought itself,Ennis was madly in love.
Title: Re: All them THINGS that I don't know
Post by: rimasworld on Jul 29, 2008, 02:24 PM
Oh my and that look on Jack's face after admitting he'd been in Mexico and saying "is that a f***n problem?" So many emotions in that face, anger hurt regret sadness love, he knew right after he said it that it had broken Ennis's heart. 
Title: Re: All them THINGS that I don't know
Post by: tpe on Jul 30, 2008, 07:34 AM
I agree,MG;Ennis life turned around Jack.Even if his life changed in the last years,and his economical and familiar duties avoided him to see his lover as often as he wanted.Even if this situation sometimes seems provoked by Ennis himself,as a way of running away from a socially bad considered relationship.Even the strength of his own denials and fears,even the strength of himself against the thought itself,Ennis was madly in love.

He was in love without even knowing it.

Title: Re: All them THINGS that I don't know
Post by: tpe on Jul 30, 2008, 07:35 AM
Oh my and that look on Jack's face after admitting he'd been in Mexico and saying "is that a f***n problem?" So many emotions in that face, anger hurt regret sadness love, he knew right after he said it that it had broken Ennis's heart. 

It was a mixture of guilt and indignation.  He probably felt that all this was so secondary/subordiante to the main issue that kept them apart over those years.  It was a symptom and not the problem.
Title: Re: All them THINGS that I don't know
Post by: rimasworld on Jul 30, 2008, 01:36 PM
He was in love without even knowing it.



I go back and forth on my opinion on this. Ennis referred to it as "this thing that got hold of him" and I'm wondering how couldn't he have known deep down in his heart what it was?  but then again he was so conflicted.. I don't know.
Title: Re: All them THINGS that I don't know
Post by: myprivatejack on Jul 30, 2008, 01:38 PM
He was in love without even knowing it.

And without daring to call it so...

It was a mixture of guilt and indignation.  He probably felt that all this was so secondary/subordiante to the main issue that kept them apart over those years.  It was a symptom and not the problem.

Of course,you're right againˇ. The real problem was another one,much deeper indeed.Even if Jack could feel guilty for his faithless behaviour,he knew perfectly well that it was the symptom that both of them were being faithless not physically,buy emotionally to each other and their hopes.In this sense,I've always thought that Jack was more faithful,even if he had many occasional lovers,to his first and main idea and wish.
Title: Re: All them THINGS that I don't know
Post by: myprivatejack on Jul 30, 2008, 01:42 PM
I go back and forth on my opinion on this. Ennis referred to it as "this thing that got hold of him" and I'm wondering how couldn't he have known deep down in his heart what it was?  but then again he was so conflicted.. I don't know.

You're right too.But,letting aside his inner conflicts,I think he knew it in his soul and heart,but he couldn't and...didn't want to? accept it in his mind.And also that,as I said in my former post,he didn't dare to put the name of love to what he was feeling,because it wasn't suitable between two men.
Title: Re: All them THINGS that I don't know
Post by: tpe on Jul 31, 2008, 11:19 AM
And without daring to call it so...

Of course,you're right againˇ. The real problem was another one,much deeper indeed.Even if Jack could feel guilty for his faithless behaviour,he knew perfectly well that it was the symptom that both of them were being faithless not physically,buy emotionally to each other and their hopes.In this sense,I've always thought that Jack was more faithful,even if he had many occasional lovers,to his first and main idea and wish.

True, he didn't dare call it so een when he knew it was so.

And yes, with Ennis, it was an emotional faithlessness that matched Jack's physcial one.  And in the case of Ennis, it was made much more grave/henious by virtue of his not being faithful to his true self.

 
Title: Re: All them THINGS that I don't know
Post by: tpe on Jul 31, 2008, 11:21 AM
I go back and forth on my opinion on this. Ennis referred to it as "this thing that got hold of him" and I'm wondering how couldn't he have known deep down in his heart what it was?  but then again he was so conflicted.. I don't know.

Because people compartmentalize things -- never allowing one part of the self to meet with another.  This is a very recognized part of the human condition.  Deep down, he knew and didn't know.  They resided in opposing and totally separate mansions of the Heart, shall we say.

Title: Re: All them THINGS that I don't know
Post by: aintfoolin on Aug 24, 2008, 01:13 AM
I agree with these great posts myprivatejack,tpe, and rimasworld,

 I am reminded in Ennis's case of the devil and angel scenario of one on each shoulder whispering into his ears. One telling him that deep down iside, he knows it's love and that he should embrace it, the other reminding him that it's totally forbidden to embrace it.
 It was too much for Ennis to ask of himself. An inner battle  or tug of war for his soul. His feelings for Jack vs society , culture, and childhood teachings.  Either way Ennis looks at it, it's  Love vs  the fear of love, with a price too high to pay for either..   Meanwhile the message  Jack gets is ...his love for Ennis is not enough, especially when expressing it out loud is not an option. but what more could he have done to show his love? His frustration is clear. Nothing short of Jack's death could allow Ennis to see the true worth of Jack's love or self love. Only then could Ennis receive/embrace  true love and give it as well. MO.
Title: Re: All them THINGS that I don't know
Post by: smartestsonia on Aug 25, 2008, 02:56 AM
I agree with this.  I have one question though, could this be the reply to Jack's "I miss you so much I can hardly stand it"?   

Hey manhattangirl..i think that Jack also felt that Ennis is only his and no one else..thats why he wanted Ennis to leave Alma and them both to stay together..However, Ennis was scared to do so....
They belonged together ya..thats the ultimate truth...
Title: Re: All them THINGS that I don't know
Post by: tpe on Aug 25, 2008, 07:29 AM
I agree with these great posts myprivatejack,tpe, and rimasworld,

 I am reminded in Ennis's case of the devil and angel scenario of one on each shoulder whispering into his ears. One telling him that deep down iside, he knows it's love and that he should embrace it, the other reminding him that it's totally forbidden to embrace it.
 It was too much for Ennis to ask of himself. An inner battle  or tug of war for his soul. His feelings for Jack vs society , culture, and childhood teachings.  Either way Ennis looks at it, it's  Love vs  the fear of love, with a price too high to pay for either..   Meanwhile the message  Jack gets is ...his love for Ennis is not enough, especially when expressing it out loud is not an option. but what more could he have done to show his love? His frustration is clear. Nothing short of Jack's death could allow Ennis to see the true worth of Jack's love or self love. Only then could Ennis receive/embrace  true love and give it as well. MO.

In a way, all the things that the didn't "know"  included just how much they loved each other.  Ironic.

Title: Re: All them THINGS that I don't know
Post by: atalley on Aug 25, 2008, 07:07 PM
That's a good point that I've never thought about!  :clap:
Title: Re: All them THINGS that I don't know
Post by: tpe on Aug 27, 2008, 07:57 AM
That's a good point that I've never thought about!  :clap:

Thanks atalley.  Alas, it is also so sad.  :(

Title: Re: All them THINGS that I don't know
Post by: myprivatejack on Aug 27, 2008, 12:08 PM
In a way, all the things that the didn't "know"  included just how much they loved each other.  Ironic.

One more time,you hit the nail on the head,Thomasˇ (and excuse me if the expression isn't right... ;D ).Maybe this is the real and main thing that they didn't know-specially,what Ennis didn't know or what he didn't want to know...-and what was the root of all their tragedy.
Title: Re: All them THINGS that I don't know
Post by: tpe on Aug 28, 2008, 08:43 AM
One more time,you hit the nail on the head,Thomasˇ (and excuse me if the expression isn't right... ;D ).Maybe this is the real and main thing that they didn't know-specially,what Ennis didn't know or what he didn't want to know...-and what was the root of all their tragedy.

Thanks MPJ!  The movie is so rich in multiple levels of meaning (and ironies!) that I wouldn't be surprised if this were true. 
Title: Why did Ennis doubt Mexico and "all them things", how did he know
Post by: youbet on Aug 19, 2012, 07:39 AM
Was wondering how did Ennis know about Jack straying .. about Mexico and "all them things... get you killed". Ennis appears to be a person with not much initiative , i doubt he would ever do a research!. They didn't have common friends or even acquaintance, its not facebook age them he would stalk and find out, they didn't meet regularly, neither did they meet at each other's place that he would come accross evidence. Neither did Ennis ask too many questions, Jack must have been lying then how the hell did he know

Anybody can throw some light this question has been bugging me for some time now ! ??? ... wonder if i have missed any minute detail which could cue
Title: Re: Why did Ennis doubt Mexico and "all them things", how did he know
Post by: chowhound on Aug 20, 2012, 03:44 PM
Was wondering how did Ennis know about Jack straying .. about Mexico and "all them things... get you killed". Ennis appears to be a person with not much initiative , i doubt he would ever do a research!. They didn't have common friends or even acquaintance, its not facebook age them he would stalk and find out, they didn't meet regularly, neither did they meet at each other's place that he would come accross evidence. Neither did Ennis ask too many questions, Jack must have been lying then how the hell did he know

Anybody can throw some light this question has been bugging me for some time now ! ??? ... wonder if i have missed any minute detail which could cue

Hi Youbet,
  It's an interesting question but there are few definitive answers.
  I've always assumed that Ennis knew about Mexico's reputation for easy gay sex from jokes or allusions to it that he'd heard from fellow workers. Indeed, this is what the short story suggests:

[Ennis]:"You been a Mexico, Jack?" Mexico was the place. He'd heard."

However, how Mexico got this reputation then and whether it was accurate or not, I've no idea. As far as I know, it's certainly not its reputation today. Any older Brokies remember Mexico having such reputation in the sixties or seventies?

How often Jack has indeed "been a Mexico" is a different but related question. We, the audience, know he has been once after Ennis's rejection of him but was this the only time? I doubt it but from Jack's impassioned reply to the Mexico question, it sounds to me such visits have been  infrequent:

"Count the damn few times we been together in nearly twenty years. Measure the f/ckin' short lease you keep me on, then ask me about Mexico and then tell me you'll kill me for needin' something I don't hardly never get".

"...something I don't hardly never get" suggests to me that Jack's Mexico visits have been very few and far between.


Title: Re: All them THINGS that I don't know
Post by: thunderwolf on Jun 18, 2014, 03:13 PM
I loved that scene so much. Probably my second favourite in the entire movie, and short story.

To be honest, I can't rationalise properly what I think it means.

I look on it like this. Ennis life is built on control and a face of making do with what you can't change. So, 'all them things that I don't know' would simply be the things he knows exist, but can't change. So he'll make do and 'stand' them out.

The script and the story tell us that Jack had braced this confrontation for years, and here it came, late, and unexpected. In both the script I've got, and the short story, when Jack talks about the good life they could've had together they say "You wouldn't do it Ennis', where as the film as released features 'You didn't want it Ennis'.

Not wanting the life together, is not want Ennis 'wanted' it's what he 'wouldn't do'. Huge difference, I wonder why they went with this. But, in the film version, when Jack is lamenting the good life they could've had together, Ennis is silent, but he's nodding. So he agrees. They could've had a good life, but didn't, and wouldn't.

They kind of reconcile, although nothings resolved, nothings ended, nothings changed. The power of their embrace almost brings everything to where it was, although things said, can never be unsaid.

Title: Re: All them THINGS that I don't know
Post by: bluemountainsky on Aug 23, 2014, 02:16 PM
I loved that scene so much. Probably my second favourite in the entire movie, and short story.

To be honest, I can't rationalise properly what I think it means.

I look on it like this. Ennis life is built on control and a face of making do with what you can't change. So, 'all them things that I don't know' would simply be the things he knows exist, but can't change. So he'll make do and 'stand' them out.

The script and the story tell us that Jack had braced this confrontation for years, and here it came, late, and unexpected. In both the script I've got, and the short story, when Jack talks about the good life they could've had together they say "You wouldn't do it Ennis', where as the film as released features 'You didn't want it Ennis'.


Not wanting the life together, is not want Ennis 'wanted' it's what he 'wouldn't do'. Huge difference, I wonder why they went with this. But, in the film version, when Jack is lamenting the good life they could've had together, Ennis is silent, but he's nodding. So he agrees. They could've had a good life, but didn't, and wouldn't.

They kind of reconcile, although nothings resolved, nothings ended, nothings changed. The power of their embrace almost brings everything to where it was, although things said, can never be unsaid.



Ennis was so conflicted the entire time. Part of him knew what he felt for Jack was love, and not just any love, but true love, epic love, the other half of his soul. The other part knew it was forbidden and was afraid to face his true feelings. There's the part that recognized what he was, as evidenced by him telling Jack "If my dad were to alive and he were to walk through that door right now, he'd get the tire iron"...clearly Ennis knew that he was "one of those guys", or the time when Ennis asks Jack if he ever gets the sense that people know, and he shared with him the experience of walking around Riverton wondering if people could know his secret just by looking at him.

This is acknowledgement from Ennis that he is love with another man, and therefore "one of those guys", as would be described by his father and other homophobic people. Then at the last meeting he says to Jack "what boys like you do in Mexico"...the other part of himself that is denial about who he really is. But of course at the forefront of Ennis' reaction to Jack seeing other men is his faithfulness and devotion to Jack. That's why Jack lied about Randall, and told Ennis at first that it was Randall's wife he'd been seeing when we all know it wasn't her, it was Randall. Women were no threat to their relationship, because they both knew that the women were just part of the lie, just a cover-up so society would not suspect that they're gay. Hence, Jack doesn't care if Ennis is married to Alma or seeing Cassie, but who knows what he would have said if Ennis had ever been with another man. Unspoken between them was that faithfulness, each one tacitly feeling like he belonged to the other.

That is why if one of them were to see another man, that would be cheating, infidelity, betrayal. Even though it's pretty clear that although Jack was seeing other men, they were just flings because he couldn't stand life without Ennis. Jack was lonely, heartbroken, sad, miserable, and needed to fill his life with something to distract him from his situation with Ennis. If Jack had gotten the life he wanted with Ennis, then he wouldn't have been unfaithful.
Title: Re: All them THINGS that I don't know
Post by: Mahogany on Oct 04, 2014, 10:37 PM
Ennis is jealous of Jack being with other men, and Jack is jealous of Ennis being with women.
Jack never had to worry about Ennis being with other men, because he knew Ennis wouldn't, and he thinks Ennis could enjoy having sex with women.
But, we see Ennis doesn't enjoy Alma or Cassie, not because he deslike women, he would deslike every partner who was not Jack.
Title: Re: All them THINGS that I don't know
Post by: bluemountainsky on Oct 04, 2014, 11:03 PM
I don't believe Jack was ever jealous of Ennis being with women...he just wanted Ennis to stop living a lie and come live with him. He wished Ennis would just stop pretending to be something he is not. Jack never saw Ennis's marriage to Alma or relationship with Cassie as a threat...rather Jack probably rolled his eyes at it. Jack never worried about Ennis being with any other person, really, because he knew how faithful Ennis was. Neither one cared if the other slept with women, because that was society expected, it didn't have any meaning, there is no competiton. They married and dated women because society told them they have to, but to sleep with other men is to cheat on the other, once again it's another tacit admission by Ennis that they are both gay, only a relationship with another man actually means something. Ennis in the end faces the possibility that Jack might actually leave him, hence he gets angry.

That shows that on a deeper level Ennis recognized that what they had is love, and had doubts again because he was afraid Jack had been using him all that time. And I also do believe the reason he couldn't enjoy being with Alma and Cassie is in fact because he could not form a romantic connection with any woman. Ennis tried to prove to himself that he wasn't gay, he was like many people who suffer from internalized homophobia. They actually believe you can wish being gay away, and that's what Ennis tried to do, but of course you can't do that. It's just the way you're born, like you can't change the color of your eyes, or how tall you are. To deny the fact that Ennis is gay is to do what Ennis did to himself. He was in denial because he did not want to accept something that is just simply a trait, due to the huge stigma and shame that society made it to be. If he had lived in a world where homosexuality was seen as exactly as normal as heterosexuality, and where being a man was not associated with being macho and the way that society thinks men should be, then there is no doubt that Ennis would have accepted himself from day one. But he lived in a world where it was seen as something disgusting, and wrong, the worst sin. He lived in a homophobic, patriarchal world where he was taught that queers are inferior. Hence it's no surprise that he denied his true self. Many gay men still do to this day, even though society has made a little bit of progress regarding homosexuality, there is still a long long way to go.

Like Jimmy in Forever Blue, he saw this "thing" as a curse because that's what society taught him, he didn't want to be what society ridiculed and abhorred so much. He couldn't realize that finding true love was the best thing to ever happen in his life, a true blessing. His true love was indeed a man, and if he hadn't been gay...then well, his true love obviously would not have been a man, and he could never have become attached to a man the way he became attached to Jack. He might have loved in a platonic way like brothers, but not in a deeply romantic way the way he did with Jack. Cassie was exactly like Jack in so many ways. The only difference is the physical...she was a woman. Imagine if Ennis had met Cassie before he met Alma and Jack, would he fall in love with her the way he fell in love with Jack? I definitely don't believe so at all.

There was more to Ennis not being able to be with any woman then the fact that they weren't Jack. Ennis would have never been with any other man for two reasons: his fidelity to Jack, and his denial of his homosexuality. He went through all those years trying to convince himself that both he and Jack weren't gay...that's exactly what closeted gay men in denial do. It's okay if it's just Jack, he told himself. When he found out Jack was having affairs with other men, he had to deal with the truth that Jack is indeed gay, and that so is he...that is part of the reason he got so angry. He was still so homophobic that he did not want to accept the truth about himself, Jack, and their relationship. Even though deep down he KNEW they were exactly like "those guys" Rich and Earl, as he said it himself. The other reason he got angry is because Jack was cheating on him, and for the first time he thought Jack was going to leave him for someone else. He understood then that Jack might end the relationship with him, and was afraid of that. Because for all his talk of "why don't you just leave me be", what Ennis really felt inside was that he was inseparable from Jack. He couldn't live without Jack. He need Jack in his life, because it was the only good thing that ever happened to him, and because deep down he knew he loved him.
Title: Re: All them THINGS that I don't know
Post by: lzara23 on Dec 16, 2014, 01:07 PM
Hello everyone! I've been reading some of your thoughts on this post and they are really profound and I agree with the most of them. That scene is really beautiful and heartbreaking at the same time, we use to see Jack so sweet and calm always and dissapointed at times, but always being a support for Ennis, but when he gets caught for "Mexico" he uses all that indignation to free himself and say everything bad to Ennis, who shows his feelings and makes my heart melt  :_( it's so sad how Enni's face shows all that anger and jealousy, and at the same time so beautiful...  :_( I think the director should give us some more footage for Christmas  :_(
Title: Re: All them THINGS that I don't know
Post by: rimasworld on Dec 21, 2014, 10:22 PM
Hello everyone! I've been reading some of your thoughts on this post and they are really profound and I agree with the most of them. That scene is really beautiful and heartbreaking at the same time, we use to see Jack so sweet and calm always and dissapointed at times, but always being a support for Ennis, but when he gets caught for "Mexico" he uses all that indignation to free himself and say everything bad to Ennis, who shows his feelings and makes my heart melt  :_( it's so sad how Enni's face shows all that anger and jealousy, and at the same time so beautiful...  :_( I think the director should give us some more footage for Christmas  :_(
I could easily watch another hour or more of new scenes in this movie, I love it that much.
Title: Re: All them THINGS that I don't know
Post by: lzara23 on Feb 26, 2015, 03:24 AM
Hi guys! anyone finds it funny the way Ennis says "go ahead" in that scene? I mean,he's says "Go on" I have nothing to feel guilty about, not like you... it makes me laugh  :s)