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Title: Sobering Moments
Post by: aintfoolin on Jun 06, 2007, 06:03 AM
All the characters in the movie had moments where they had a *sobering up *an awakening to a fact or event that made them wake up and smell the coffee about something.
 A wake up call so to speak. What are the characters most serious and solemn /profound moments?
 

  My most profound moment in the movie for me is SNIT. It took alot for Ennis to walk into the tent. Many things had to take place in Ennis's mind before this could occur. First he had to admit  to himself that what had happened in FNIT is something he liked. Then he had to go through the back and forth about wether he was " queer" Then how to look Jack in the eye and figure some way to explain to himself and Jack that he wanted more. Well Ennis being Ennis, after analyzing and what iffing to death finally comes to a decision to leave the log and go in Jack's direction. I think this is the moment when he truly fell in love with Jack and knew it. Could've ran away..but he did'nt cuz he could'nt.
Title: Re: Sobering Moments
Post by: manhattangirl on Jun 06, 2007, 06:29 AM
Great subject:

I think Jack's sobering moment, was when Ennis drove off, after the final confrontation, the look on Jack's face told us he wasn't nineteen any more, but a man, he saw his lover in pain, and had to make a decision.   He was letting Ennis go.

When Ennis waited for something from Jack concerning November, and took the unusual step to write him, you knew that Jack wasn't coming back, they had to move on separately,  but instead the postcard came back with deceased stamp on it, problem over.
Title: Re: Sobering Moments
Post by: jackster on Jun 06, 2007, 07:09 AM
Ditto - great subject aintfoolin'

Lureen:
To me her "moment" came on the phone, when Ennis told her about herding sheep up on Brokeback back in '63, and her eyes teared up. To me it's like "Oh, my God. THAT's why it was his favorite place! And THIS is the guy!" She had a lot of pieces to put together and to comprehend in those few moments. She did pretty well (bravo Ms Hathaway) with great composure and was still able to tell Ennis he should go up and see Jack's folks in Lighting Flat.
Title: Re: Sobering Moments
Post by: tpe on Jun 06, 2007, 12:26 PM
Excellent topic!  And wonderful posts.

For Alma, it was seeing Ennis and Jack kiss during the reunion.  It ate into her before she even understood what it all meant.

For Cassie, it was the exchange starting with "I don't get you, Ennis del Mar..."  It was an admisssion that she loved and continues to love in vain.

Title: Re: Sobering Moments
Post by: JT on Jun 06, 2007, 12:37 PM
Great subject indeed!

To me, another of Ennis' moment is finding the shirts in Jack's closet.  A wake up call to how much Jack loved him. 
Title: Re: Sobering Moments
Post by: welshwitch on Jun 06, 2007, 02:05 PM
"I wish I knew how to quit you" is Jack's realization of his own helplessness in regard to Ennis and a sudden acknowledgement after all these years of the fact that he might be better off without him.
Title: Re: Sobering Moments
Post by: aintfoolin on Jun 06, 2007, 03:01 PM
These are all excellent posts guys. Bits of insight into their states of mind at different times in their lives.
 They all learned that falling in love is the easy part. Being in love and staying in love is a little bit harder to achieve. It proved elusive to all of them.

 Had Jack lived 100 years, I don't think he would  ever forget this line.: "Aint no reins on this one"  This told Jack that Ennis, after all this time is without a doubt in love with him.  For a brief moment Jack had hope.  Something to take with him back to Texas.  For him it is a basis to continue trying. He had his heart and Ennis was actually admitting it in words. Ennis cannot bring himself to just say " I love you" but this is as close as it gets for him and Jack realized this. Sweet but sad too. 
 I'm a nightowl worker in RL so I must go , but I shall return !. Thanks. Later on fellow Brokies !
Title: Re: Sobering Moments
Post by: welshwitch on Jun 07, 2007, 12:35 AM
there's Ennis reply to Jack's question as to whether he's going to try to go back to Brokeback the next summer and Ennis's reply that he's getting married and will try to get something on a ranch. That tells Jack that Ennis intends this to be the end of their relationship - hence the look on his face as he drives away.
Title: Re: Sobering Moments
Post by: tpe on Jun 07, 2007, 12:21 PM
For the elder Newsome: the Thanksgiving scene in Jack's house.  He realized there and then that Jack could stand up to him.  I wonder how many times this ever happened in his life -- where people actually stood up to him.  It seemed that he was used to always having his way...

Title: Re: Sobering Moments
Post by: manhattangirl on Jun 07, 2007, 04:40 PM
What about when Jack driven all those miles for nothing, after Ennis wrote him about the divorce.  Ennis stumbling around trying to explain to Jack in strained words  how he misunderstood, how paranoid Ennis looked, clumsily explaining to Jack his girls were there, and to keep to the schedule,  seeing him the following month, and apologizing Jack for the misunderstanding.  How painful for Jack, and how sobering that moment was and what he did to make that pain go away. 
Title: Re: Sobering Moments
Post by: tpe on Jun 07, 2007, 05:31 PM
What about when Jack driven all those miles for nothing, after Ennis wrote him about the divorce.  Ennis stumbling around trying to explain to Jack in strained words  how he misunderstood, how paranoid Ennis looked, clumsily explaining to Jack his girls were there, and to keep to the schedule,  seeing him the following month, and apologizing Jack for the misunderstanding.  How painful for Jack, and how sobering that moment was and what he did to make that pain go away. 

Yes, I think this was the beginning of the end.  It was a milestone moment for Jack, when he probably first realized that his dream was not to be.

Title: Re: Sobering Moments
Post by: LuvJackNasty on Jun 07, 2007, 07:08 PM
Great topic and great posts  :)

Jack:The Divorce scene
Jack wasn't worth the risk or Jack felt he wasn't. I think he did a LOT of thinking after that smackdown in the divorce scene- I'm sure that's not the first time he cried but I think it all really hit home for him that it was Ennis and no one else preventing them from being together; it was unavoidable at that point and on that long ride back to Texas, he had nothing but long hours and many miles to reflect on the last 12+ years. We've all been there- we "know" it but then comes a time when we KNOW it.  Jack was replaying their relationship, probably berating himself and the things he denied or pushed down all came to the surface. And sweet Jack disappeared into the darkness in Mexico.
Title: Re: Sobering Moments
Post by: welshwitch on Jun 08, 2007, 06:32 AM
that walk into the dark is like a descent into hell - it must have shown Jack what his life was - a loveless marriage, rejection by the man he had loved for years, paid-for sex in a dark alley. Hardly surprising that /randall's offer was a wake-up call to show him that there was another way.
Title: Re: Sobering Moments
Post by: aintfoolin on Jun 08, 2007, 08:06 AM
 Probably hated himself  at moments during that long drive back to Texas. for not being able to stop himself from falling deeper into this thing with Ennis too. your so right. LJN, if I may. Jack loved him so deep that he was driven to tears behind this realization that it was Ennis , an essential part of himself  who was the culprit in them not being together, not Alma.
His frustration with Ennis, drove him to desperation and anger.  Ennis left him with no direction after this.

Yes, we've all been there as you said, So shocked at some realization that comes out of left field  suddenly and hits you upside the head.  someting that you just could'nt see or did;nt want to see. More anger is directed toward himself for not allowing himself to see what was right in front of his eyes. It's the old " how could I've been so stupid effect" !.......Yet he shows up again without delay the next month. He had it bad.

Another sobering moment  I think ,is when after all the "drinkin and talkin was done, Alma had to know things between her and Ennis would never be the same again.  How could she compete with Jack, another man for her husband's love ?
 She had no idea how to deal with this. By the time of the scene where Ennis is packing for yet another trip to *fish * with Jack, he 's so energized about  the whole thing, that he forgets his fishing  gear on the table. She had to know they were giving new meaning to the word *steelhead*. " Jack Nasty"  this fishing buddy from Texas, had stolen her man and she did'nt know how or when it actually happened. She had to think of her husband of four years in a very diferent light and that's hard. A sobering thought for her.

 Exactly WW . and in his state of mind at the time it must have felt like he was walking blindly into some other zone, not really of himself. or his world. A dark unknown place where solid reality does'nt exist for him. Calls of  of "Senor"  from male hustlers in his head ,he must have cursed Ennis.
Title: Re: Sobering Moments
Post by: zephK on Jun 08, 2007, 08:42 PM
...and now for something almost completely different:


Part 1.  Ennis and Jack, the Yin and the Yang, Caution and Abandon.

  Jack is always “trying” so hard because he doesn't have the patience or maturity to take responsibility for reaching solutions.  As Mr. Gyllenhall has said, just the “trying” to get it right is all he can manage.  (This may be one of the soul-scars left by Papa Twist, but Ennis is so in love with this “lovable loser” trait he sees it as "endearing," and it actually is a part of Jack's charm for him.  Jack may have loved “a little dog,” but Ennis loves Jack, likewise.)  Just as he shoots at the coyote without breathing or aiming properly, Jack habitually acts before really being ready to do the task: shooting the coyote, and missing for lack of preparing for the shot; “I can use a can opener,” and he spills the beans (!); bitchin’ at Ennis for being late with the supplies before he discovers that Ennis opened a head wound in a fall from the horse; blows up at LD on Thanksgiving – not saying LD didn’t deserve it all right, but still, Jack let fly with a few years of frustration all at that one moment, just like he fires his entire ar**nal at Ennis in the final fight.  Jack's personal history is one of precipitous actions, taken without preparation, before all the facts are considered.

Part 2:  The portrayal of the change in Jack’s thinking.


  For the longest time I couldn't understand the camera moves during Ennis's initial pleadings to Jack to understand (those aren't excuses - they're real, they're reasons):  at first Ennis is behind Jack's head, the he appears to the left of Jack (over Jack's right shoulder), in sharp focus.  By the time he gets to Don Wroe’s cabin,” He's headed back behind Jack's head, then out the other side, seen over Jack's left shoulder.  Then he goes back, blocked out by jack's head, and something happens:  The focus shifts from Ennis to Jack, who’s shaking before he speaks, saying, “Never enough time, never enough.”

Part 3:  The Sobering Moment.


  I think we are witnessing Jack decide to tell Ennis everything that's been on his mind for 20 yrs.  In warm-up to the grand bitch-out, Jack offers no help, no alternative and even seems to encourage the pent-up venom generated by 16 years of hard-packed frustration to explode all over Ennis.  He unreasonably places the entire burden of his problem on Ennis, as if his happiness were Ennis's responsibility.  As easily as Ennis could give up his fear of getting them killed, Jack could come up with a compromise - we are not shown that he even tried.  When he finally notices the anguish he’s caused Ennis, and finally can spare a thought for the man he loves, he puts the brakes on himself, stopping his horrendous tirade.  He knows how thoroughly hateful that he’s being because his intention is for these words to hurt, not to introduce or enhance a satisfactory resolution to his complaints.  Only when Ennis collapses does he recognize his incredibly striking progress towards the total demolition of the one he loves, and the drowsy embrace pops full-blown into his mind.  This is Jack, finally realizing that Ennis has loved him all along.

Part 4:  Good Reasons.


  And this is what all the yelling and whining and cheating is actually all about. The real result of the aching loneliness "inspired" by Papa Twist is Jack's biggest problem: "I need to be loved, all day long, every day, I need to know.  Reassure me."  In the midst of the fight, he remembers the long warm drowsy embrace, finally realizing that he’s had all along that “thing” he wanted most – by any other name, it is still love from Ennis.
  Just as everyone in the world knows Ennis is clueless about naming the “feeling,” the “thing” which makes the fishin’ trips irresistible to him, most don’t see that Jack, although an aggressive charmer, is equally clueless, and so it is, in this moment of utmost stress, he finally comes to the accurate conclusion that almost everything Ennis has done since they met has been to be with him, to comfort and protect him from the outrages of a hostile world.  It takes remembering the drowsy embrace of 20 yrs prior during a highly emotional crisis for him to actually remember the DE not only for his original negative assumptions about it (what it is not – not face to face, etc.)  but for what it accurately is: it is Ennis, nonverbally (as usual) speaking (and maybe even speaking beyond his capacity to comprehend thoroughly his own message - people do that, and Ennis is surely a person most likely to do that), saying I love you.
 
Part 5:  A realistic alternative conclusion.


As Ennis collapses, Jack ultimately and decisively remembers the DE as it really was: it was everything he wanted and his own anxiety prevented him from seeing.  It was simply Ennis, unconcerned with anything but Jack, there just to hold him.  Jack's "Eureka!" moment, he sees the break in the prince’s armor where the love has been showing all along!  He had feelings for me way back then!  He has feelings for me now!  He loves me!  The bastard lied, he isn’t straight.   It took me f*ckin’ long enough to get it.  Ah, sweet Jesus, I love him, what have I done to him, to us?  (Maybe this is something of what is behind the look on Jack's face as Ennis’s truck is going away.)
Title: Re: Sobering Moments
Post by: orangetruck on Jun 09, 2007, 11:57 PM
Nice in-depth descriptions, zeph  :)

I agree with most of it. More specificly, I tend to agree up until certain points in nearly each paragraph. Where the weight becomes expressed exclusively on Jack, I tend to fall back to neutral. I can see how Jack was one to jump the gun, careless as he was. But I think this characteristic was also the necessary glue, time and time again - something almost identical to his bitching and lashing out. Given circumstance, they both had to lash out. And like how they reacted to love, this act, too, was quite a contrast. I think with having been starcrossed, yin/yang of Ennis and Jack was prominent as the foundation that would always support them when clearly nothing else around them would. They could only eventually agree with each other through the quiet means of rambunctious, secluded love.
When Jack comes off as unprepared, licentious or selfish, I think he's the most misunderstood cowboy, much before a gay one. I think like Ennis he's affected by nonverbal love. That is to say he can feel but not comprehend it. And I agree Jack's childhood must have been sacrificed by his dad's severely traditional ways, leaving his palms wide open. But I still tend to believe Jack's inner responsibility to care for the man he loves is his greatest (naive, yes) motivation, as he continuously interrupts Ennis' path towards becoming much too like father Twist who may not have been as silent as Ennis but in the name of love could only express something much more painful. Ennis' progressive resemblance to father Twist seemed climax before the peak of last confrontation.
To have made it 20 years, unable to verbalize love but able to dish out "... will get you killed if I come to know them" may be an example of how love would have always been conquered by fear had Jack not milked it for 20 years. He clearly understood Ennis needed him, and couldn't bare seeing him swallowed by the lost cause of his past; I'm not dismissng the idea that Jack is still looking to fill the void from his own, but I think he recognizes his father in his lover and something before doom is going to have to give.
And this is what he chooses to do - give love, present love (and yes, expect it as well). Both men need this comfort. Jack must have recognized that the only way to progress from the past is to change. Love already had their feet in the door. Jack wasn't about to shut the door and hide in his room. And Ennis didn't have one to hide into. So he did it with every step. Jack was Ennis' glimpse into the present which, alone, was out of Ennis' league.

When Jack watches the truck roll away into dust, I don't see Jack feeling as though he's pushed Ennis away. I think what hits jack is the sound of Ennis' own wheels and, as the dust begins to thin, the clarity of doom settling down not just with the weight of 20 hopeful years but with the past as a whole and, soon enough, the rest of his life.
But whether it were to come from Jack's redundant faith or his death, Ennis was destined to learn the language of love. He may have found it on some vulnerable SNIT wavelength. He may have seen it, looking out of his trailer's window, adjacent Alma Jr... He may finally have.
But what he didn't do this time was append the voice of his heart to the same dead end accord he'd thus far obeyed. Nope. This time he reckons those bigots can find themselves a new puppet cowboy.


Yes, perhaps a little after the fact, Ennis, but nonetheless ... good for you.

Title: Re: Sobering Moments
Post by: aintfoolin on Jun 10, 2007, 03:10 AM
...and now for something almost completely different:


Part 1.  Ennis and Jack, the Yin and the Yang, Caution and Abandon.

  Jack is always “trying” so hard because he doesn't have the patience or maturity to take responsibility for reaching solutions.  As Mr. Gyllenhall has said, just the “trying” to get it right is all he can manage.  (This may be one of the soul-scars left by Papa Twist, but Ennis is so in love with this “lovable loser” trait he sees it as "endearing," and it actually is a part of Jack's charm for him.  Jack may have loved “a little dog,” but Ennis loves Jack, likewise.)  Just as he shoots at the coyote without breathing or aiming properly, Jack habitually acts before really being ready to do the task: shooting the coyote, and missing for lack of preparing for the shot; “I can use a can opener,” and he spills the beans (!); bitchin’ at Ennis for being late with the supplies before he discovers that Ennis opened a head wound in a fall from the horse; blows up at LD on Thanksgiving – not saying LD didn’t deserve it all right, but still, Jack let fly with a few years of frustration all at that one moment, just like he fires his entire ar**nal at Ennis in the final fight.  Jack's personal history is one of precipitous actions, taken without preparation, before all the facts are considered.

Part 2:  The portrayal of the change in Jack’s thinking.


  For the longest time I couldn't understand the camera moves during Ennis's initial pleadings to Jack to understand (those aren't excuses - they're real, they're reasons):  at first Ennis is behind Jack's head, the he appears to the left of Jack (over Jack's right shoulder), in sharp focus.  By the time he gets to Don Wroe’s cabin,” He's headed back behind Jack's head, then out the other side, seen over Jack's left shoulder.  Then he goes back, blocked out by jack's head, and something happens:  The focus shifts from Ennis to Jack, who’s shaking before he speaks, saying, “Never enough time, never enough.”

Part 3:  The Sobering Moment.


  I think we are witnessing Jack decide to tell Ennis everything that's been on his mind for 20 yrs.  In warm-up to the grand bitch-out, Jack offers no help, no alternative and even seems to encourage the pent-up venom generated by 16 years of hard-packed frustration to explode all over Ennis.  He unreasonably places the entire burden of his problem on Ennis, as if his happiness were Ennis's responsibility.  As easily as Ennis could give up his fear of getting them killed, Jack could come up with a compromise - we are not shown that he even tried.  When he finally notices the anguish he’s caused Ennis, and finally can spare a thought for the man he loves, he puts the brakes on himself, stopping his horrendous tirade.  He knows how thoroughly hateful that he’s being because his intention is for these words to hurt, not to introduce or enhance a satisfactory resolution to his complaints.  Only when Ennis collapses does he recognize his incredibly striking progress towards the total demolition of the one he loves, and the drowsy embrace pops full-blown into his mind.  This is Jack, finally realizing that Ennis has loved him all along.

Part 4:  Good Reasons.


  And this is what all the yelling and whining and cheating is actually all about. The real result of the aching loneliness "inspired" by Papa Twist is Jack's biggest problem: "I need to be loved, all day long, every day, I need to know.  Reassure me."  In the midst of the fight, he remembers the long warm drowsy embrace, finally realizing that he’s had all along that “thing” he wanted most – by any other name, it is still love from Ennis.
  Just as everyone in the world knows Ennis is clueless about naming the “feeling,” the “thing” which makes the fishin’ trips irresistible to him, most don’t see that Jack, although an aggressive charmer, is equally clueless, and so it is, in this moment of utmost stress, he finally comes to the accurate conclusion that almost everything Ennis has done since they met has been to be with him, to comfort and protect him from the outrages of a hostile world.  It takes remembering the drowsy embrace of 20 yrs prior during a highly emotional crisis for him to actually remember the DE not only for his original negative assumptions about it (what it is not – not face to face, etc.)  but for what it accurately is: it is Ennis, nonverbally (as usual) speaking (and maybe even speaking beyond his capacity to comprehend thoroughly his own message - people do that, and Ennis is surely a person most likely to do that), saying I love you.
 
Part 5:  A realistic alternative conclusion.


As Ennis collapses, Jack ultimately and decisively remembers the DE as it really was: it was everything he wanted and his own anxiety prevented him from seeing.  It was simply Ennis, unconcerned with anything but Jack, there just to hold him.  Jack's "Eureka!" moment, he sees the break in the prince’s armor where the love has been showing all along!  He had feelings for me way back then!  He has feelings for me now!  He loves me!  The bastard lied, he isn’t straight.   It took me f*ckin’ long enough to get it.  Ah, sweet Jesus, I love him, what have I done to him, to us?  (Maybe this is something of what is behind the look on Jack's face as Ennis’s truck is going away.)


 Hi there Zephk, This is an excellent post with lots of legit points and I agree with most of them.

Your first point:
 Jack was one without the proper masculine role model as a child. His father pushed his very need to please him  away  , I think he learned that love and acceptance were fleeting. He never saw respect from the one person he was desperate to get it from. Think this what led to lack of "manly" skills in shooting, riding etc. Who taught him? Certainly not his old man.

 No one did, he no doubt taught himself. He had the basics, but lacked detail. Jack said " Never taught me a thing, never come to see me ride."  This is what I call totally ignored this is. It's a miracle he turned out as well adjusted as he was. But he had problems... self esteem and fear just like Ennis. Jack maintained sense enough to know that once you find a good thing, you hold on tight itand never let it go...This can be done to a fault.

Your second point:

 Jack was shaking his head thinking that "He's got time for everything and everybody but me. When you going to find time for me Ennis? Ennis is trying to appease Jack with hunting trips and other things, but Jack is getting the feeling that this was becoming a " bitch of an unsatisfactory situation" , then he compares now to the way things used to be. The status quo has worn thin.

Third point:

Jack is seeing his dream slowly dissolve  before his eyes. He tells Ennis BBM is what everything is built on, It all stems from that one summer, but now because of Ennis's refusal to ranch-up and live with him Ennis's has;nt progressed past that point of that summer, I think he was saying that he was living in the real world and was trying to let Ennis know that he was ready to take it all on , it's sink or swim together but Ennis could'nt buy that big of an adjustment in himself. 

They never discussed why they were doing what they were doing either. Deeds, events and actions spoke for them but this is sometimes not enough. If you never hear some verbal analysis from your partner, your asking for trouble imo Jack, did open up on Ennis with both barrels loaded, but he had to do it. 20 years holds alot of anger and resentment. Especially if Jack feels Ennis is reeponsible for putting him in positions of vulnerabilities and temptation by not being availiable at times when  a little TLC was needed. Ennis was'nt taking care of business in more ways than one.

In the meantime Ennis is thinking: Christ he's mad, reeaall mad. His reasons are also legit. He is not in the same jposition Jack is when it came to a job. Jack worked for a family owned business and he was in the family, which gave him a big advantage over Ennis as far as vacation time  or anytime a guy takes weeks off from work. Jack gets scolded, Ennis gets fired. So his reasons seem legit to me. Even reminded Jack of times when nieither had money. He stood his ground .

It was only a matter of time. or timing if you coulda asked Jack. But both had legit beefs to me , No surrender, no defeat, ..and no comprimise.

Forth point:
 There's nothing uncommon about a partner wanting reassurances  of their lover's commitment., but I feel Jack wanted respect and equality in the relationship, not a clinging, dependent  welp. He wants Ennis, but not smothering and breathing down his neck every day and night or vice-verse.  Just quiet reassurrance that Ennis was still his one and only. His dream can only survive if Ennis agrees to live with him taking the relationship to the next level. Ennis was not that and niether was Jack. Perhaps Jack saw in the DE the contraets in Ennis and the relationship then , when he was so full of hope for him and Ennis and now in the present there seems to be none.

Last point. I agree totally with this. To me it was Jack's most profound realization.


    Here's to you Zephk: They were two sheep
   
                                 Love was their sheperd   

                                 Fear was their predator  :cr) :c)
 

Title: Re: Sobering Moments
Post by: jackster on Jun 10, 2007, 04:48 AM
Great and insightful posts zephK, orangetruck, aintfoolin.

A very good discussion and analysis of what is –IMHO- the seminal “sobering moment” of the film, - the collapse of the strongman Ennis, the realization by Jack (as he holds him in his arms, the DE) that Ennis is vulnerable and truly needs him, and Jack’s “last look” which has been interpreted a hundred different ways (rightly so).

Really great work guys.  (:)  (:)  (:)
Title: Re: Sobering Moments
Post by: zephK on Jun 10, 2007, 09:52 AM
Thank you orangetruck, ain'tfoolin', jackster.
   I do kinda beat up on poor Jack, a little, I think just because so many people elevate him to St Jack, the poor guy who has to put up with Ennis.  I think people do this because Jake Gyllenhall is a hottie (which has nothing to do with Jack Twist), and Ennis Del Mar doesn't give as much information verbally as they need to hear to get the story right.  But that's part of Ennis's personality, and is such an integral part of his life (a direct result of the shock of seeing poor old Earl's body with his d*ck ripped off), and Jack's pretty good at "reading" Ennis.  Unfortunately "reading" people's body language doesn't get you much information in the line of specifics about their hopes and dreams.  Imagine you being 9 and having your dad show you a neighbor's corpse, nose and d*ck scraped off or torn off, laying out on the ground, probably overnight, sadistically and sexually mutilated for reasons way beyond your comprehension.  That might put a crimp is your desire to be relaxed, friendly and carefree among your fellow man, despite your natural human needs to be so.
  But Ennis does do his part to protect and provide for Jack whenever they are together, it's just that Jack's needs for closeness and reassurance are greater than Ennis knows, or can know.  There are so many moments in Brokeback that could have been breakthrough events for them, but neither of them trusts their own judgment enough to recognize the "right" way or the "right" time; neither of them is equipped to know that they have together what everybody else aches for, that they are each the love of the other's lifetime; and both have incredibly valid reasons for being as unknowing and unable to recognize what they have, and for being as afraid as they are of taking the chances they get.  (If only Jack had done what I consider natural, and kissed Ennis's hand or arm when it was across his chest in the DE; if only Ennis had said, "Say Bud, can you give me a lift to the highway," at the end of the summer.  Just a few more minutes together and you know?  As far as they knew, at that instant, this was going to be the last opportunity they'd have to talk with one another.  At any rate, "what if..." doesn't solve the pain.)  Their own selves, with their doubts and fears prevent them from seeing what they're looking at: the love of a lifetime.
   Our perceptions are not very far apart at all orangetruck, thanks for your erudite comments; thanks for some great insight aintfoolin; and thanks for the observations and the compliment jackster.
Title: Re: Sobering Moments
Post by: LuvJackNasty on Jun 10, 2007, 10:14 AM
But whether it were to come from Jack's redundant faith or his death, Ennis was destined to learn the language of love.


Great post Orangetruck. This part imparticular set me off  :\'(
Title: Re: Sobering Moments
Post by: JT on Jun 10, 2007, 10:30 AM
Nice in-depth descriptions, zeph  :)

I agree with most of it. More specificly, I tend to agree up until certain points in nearly each paragraph. Where the weight becomes expressed exclusively on Jack, I tend to fall back to neutral. I can see how Jack was one to jump the gun, careless as he was. But I think this characteristic was also the necessary glue, time and time again - something almost identical to his bitching and lashing out. Given circumstance, they both had to lash out. And like how they reacted to love, this act, too, was quite a contrast. I think with having been starcrossed, yin/yang of Ennis and Jack was prominent as the foundation that would always support them when clearly nothing else around them would. They could only eventually agree with each other through the quiet means of rambunctious, secluded love.
When Jack comes off as unprepared, licentious or selfish, I think he's the most misunderstood cowboy, much before a gay one. I think like Ennis he's affected by nonverbal love. That is to say he can feel but not comprehend it. And I agree Jack's childhood must have been sacrificed by his dad's severely traditional ways, leaving his palms wide open. But I still tend to believe Jack's inner responsibility to care for the man he loves is his greatest (naive, yes) motivation, as he continuously interrupts Ennis' path towards becoming much too like father Twist who may not have been as silent as Ennis but in the name of love could only express something much more painful. Ennis' progressive resemblance to father Twist seemed climax before the peak of last confrontation.
To have made it 20 years, unable to verbalize love but able to dish out "... will get you killed if I come to know them" may be an example of how love would have always been conquered by fear had Jack not milked it for 20 years. He clearly understood Ennis needed him, and couldn't bare seeing him swallowed by the lost cause of his past; I'm not dismissng the idea that Jack is still looking to fill the void from his own, but I think he recognizes his father in his lover and something before doom is going to have to give.
And this is what he chooses to do - give love, present love (and yes, expect it as well). Both men need this comfort. Jack must have recognized that the only way to progress from the past is to change. Love already had their feet in the door. Jack wasn't about to shut the door and hide in his room. And Ennis didn't have one to hide into. So he did it with every step. Jack was Ennis' glimpse into the present which, alone, was out of Ennis' league.

When Jack watches the truck roll away into dust, I don't see Jack feeling as though he's pushed Ennis away. I think what hits jack is the sound of Ennis' own wheels and, as the dust begins to thin, the clarity of doom settling down not just with the weight of 20 hopeful years but with the past as a whole and, soon enough, the rest of his life.
But whether it were to come from Jack's redundant faith or his death, Ennis was destined to learn the language of love. He may have found it on some vulnerable SNIT wavelength. He may have seen it, looking out of his trailer's window, adjacent Alma Jr... He may finally have.
But what he didn't do this time was append the voice of his heart to the same dead end accord he'd thus far obeyed. Nope. This time he reckons those bigots can find themselves a new puppet cowboy.


Yes, perhaps a little after the fact, Ennis, but nonetheless ... good for you.



I agree with you orangetruck.  Great post!
Title: Re: Sobering Moments
Post by: LuvJackNasty on Jun 10, 2007, 10:38 AM
                               
They were two sheep
   
                                 Love was their sheperd   

                                 Fear was their predator 

 



That is so beautifully said.  ^f^ :\'( IMO fear ruled them both- Jack had the fear of pushing Ennis away and ultimately losing him and Ennis's fear was that they'd get killed. I think in his own way Ennis was protecting Jack by refusing to be with him. He saw first hand what happens to "boys like them" and I think he loved Jack so much that he'd rather live a half of a life meeting a few times a year, thus keeping Jack "safe". But on the flip side of that is that the rejection(s) were doing damage too. Jack was the dreamer and I'm sure he knew the risks of ranching up but I think he'd rather have had five minutes of living the dream than to spend his life chasing something that was never going to be. Ennis ultimately has that sobering moment in Jack's closet when he finds the shirts and realizes there is a fate worse than death. I think in that moment he'd have faced down an army of tire irons to have Jack back. He spent his life trying to not end up like Earl and he ended up being Rich.
Title: Re: Sobering Moments
Post by: JT on Jun 10, 2007, 11:03 AM
That is so beautifully said.  ^f^ :\'( IMO fear ruled them both- Jack had the fear of pushing Ennis away and ultimately losing him and Ennis's fear was that they'd get killed. I think in his own way Ennis was protecting Jack by refusing to be with him. He saw first hand what happens to "boys like them" and I think he loved Jack so much that he'd rather live a half of a life meeting a few times a year, thus keeping Jack "safe". But on the flip side of that is that the rejection(s) were doing damage too. Jack was the dreamer and I'm sure he knew the risks of ranching up but I think he'd rather have had five minutes of living the dream than to spend his life chasing something that was never going to be. Ennis ultimately has that sobering moment in Jack's closet when he finds the shirts and realizes there is a fate worse than death. I think in that moment he'd have faced down an army of tire irons to have Jack back. He spent his life trying to not end up like Earl and he ended up being Rich.

What a great post, LJN!  Kind of ironic that Ennis tries to save them by being apart, but might have save Jack if he was there with him.  Yup, ended up like Rich, but unlike Rich, he didn't get a chance to live with Jack.
Title: Re: Sobering Moments
Post by: zephK on Jun 10, 2007, 12:34 PM
That is so beautifully said.  ^f^ :\'( IMO fear ruled them both- Jack had the fear of pushing Ennis away and ultimately losing him and Ennis's fear was that they'd get killed. I think in his own way Ennis was protecting Jack by refusing to be with him. He saw first hand what happens to "boys like them" and I think he loved Jack so much that he'd rather live a half of a life meeting a few times a year, thus keeping Jack "safe". But on the flip side of that is that the rejection(s) were doing damage too. Jack was the dreamer and I'm sure he knew the risks of ranching up but I think he'd rather have had five minutes of living the dream than to spend his life chasing something that was never going to be. Ennis ultimately has that sobering moment in Jack's closet when he finds the shirts and realizes there is a fate worse than death. I think in that moment he'd have faced down an army of tire irons to have Jack back. He spent his life trying to not end up like Earl and he ended up being Rich.

   Beautiful post LJN!  I think the bolded part is what kept me so low so long.  That and your following two sentences are the wake up call to all of us here - it's what keeps us posting and what drives us to eliminate the BS, and make changes for the better in our own lives.  What a masterful, affecting work of art this movie is.
Title: Re: Sobering Moments
Post by: orangetruck on Jun 10, 2007, 04:57 PM

......

   Our perceptions are not very far apart at all orangetruck, thanks for your erudite comments; thanks for some great insight aintfoolin; and thanks for the observations and the compliment jackster.

 :c)
One can learn a lot in their trip to/from Brokeback Mountain.

My observation of E and J hasn't yet been characterized by either one's looks. I have a (irritating) habit of focusing on the big picture even when it's considerably blurred by my own emotional responses. I couldn't possibly disagree that they're blind spots had notoriously blotted out critical points of love's progression.
Early on in the film I'd recognized, probably like many had, the fear surrounding the boys. And having been on my own Brokeback Mountain, shortcomings, facades and doom were clearly mocking the whole big picture and sooner than not it becomes apparent that Ennis, with Jack or not, was simply going to have to have the reality check Jack finally gave him, even just to cancel out the first wrongful and inhuman(e) one given him by his f***ed up father.
With this in mind, I'd thus far been naive to many surface matters of the last confrontation. At that point, for me, it was epic, almost ethereal in conjunction to where they'd both been so scheduled by the likes of everyone else.
I love the insight coming from all directions. But when we've analyzed to the point of placing suitcases in one man's hands as the other drives off recoils into the blackhole he'd been this close to being pulled out of, I think the big picture does flutter into the Grand Canyon. Love was a force of nature before it was a force of Jack.

 %) guys/gals.  ^f^
Title: Re: Sobering Moments
Post by: orangetruck on Jun 10, 2007, 05:07 PM
Ennis ultimately has that sobering moment in Jack's closet when he finds the shirts and realizes there is a fate worse than death. I think in that moment he'd have faced down an army of tire irons to have Jack back. He spent his life trying to not end up like Earl and he ended up being Rich.


   Beautiful post LJN!  I think the bolded part is what kept me so low so long.  That and your following two sentences are the wake up call to all of us here - it's what keeps us posting and what drives us to eliminate the BS, and make changes for the better in our own lives.  What a masterful, affecting work of art this movie is.

This is what I'm talking about when I say 'big picture'. Jack clung to this while Ennis clung to dickless Earl. Each had fearful reasons, and each had sympathetic, caring reasons. But they work like yin and yang. I almost don't think the dynamic between Ennis and Jack could have been a more even scale in retrospect.

"You count the damn few times .. "  :\'(
             ***
Ennis opening his closet to see the shirts, to feel Jack's absense:
"Jack I swear.."

     ... just one more time.  :\'( :\'(

Agreed, beautiful.
Title: Re: Sobering Moments
Post by: zephK on Jun 10, 2007, 05:57 PM
The short story from which the movie is made is one of the finest, and very possibly the finest, short story ever written.  It is character driven, and Mr. Proulx has stated that unlike any other characters she's created before, Ennis and Jack became real to her, offering insights into their own lives, their own behaviors, sometimes correcting her descriptions of themselves!  She says the story has been through over 60 rewrites - now, that's being in love with your job!
She created two guys around the same age who meet accidentally, applying with state agencies in different corners of the wide open spaces, by chance assigned to the same herd owner.  They are similar in every respect, including fathers who emotionally and psychologically abused them - jack was even physically abused by a father who actually could have been a closet case (he says he knows where Brokeback Mountain is - yes, it's not a physical place in our real world, that's why I think she's hinting).  Their differences are in their personalities, and in that, they each have what the other needs.

Some people give up on Ennis too soon, just as Jack is tempted, but Jack realizes more than most of us that Ennis will do anything and everything for him, except live tofether, which his experience tells him will get at least one of them killed..  With any other response than his collapse, I think it would've been possible for Jack to pack it in and say good bye, maybe forever, maybe for another four years.  Love and need are stronger than despair, so I believe he'd check in from time to time (said the romantic idealist).
  But of the ending to the big fight, Ms. Proulx says in the story, "Ennis was back on his feet somehow, as a coat hanger is straightened to open a locked car, and then bent again to its original shape, they torqued things almost to where they had been, for what they'd said was no news.  Nothing ended, nothing begun, nothing resolved."  They would be back together, at least as far as she was concerned.  (I accept her insight.)
Jack's death (whether murder or accident is unessential knowledge) comes right as Ennis discovers that his feelings for Jack are in fact love.  He comes to this Aha! moment when he sees the sorrowful Cassie, and hears her describe her sad story as due to love!  It all gels in this moment for Ennis who has yet to be told that his opportunity to live a love-filled life, the chance he had in his hands for 20 years, is gone forever.

For Jack, from Elegy in a Country Churchyard, Thomas Gray
    (written on the occasion of a young man's death, this is only the ending of the poem)

     >snip<

'There at the foot of yonder nodding beech
That wreathes its old fantastic roots so high.
His listless length at noontide would he stretch,
And pour upon the brook that babbles by.

'Hard by yon wood, now smiling as in scorn,
Muttering his wayward fancies he would rove;
Now drooping, woeful wan, like one forlorn,
Or crazed with care, or cross'd in hopeless love.

'One morn I miss'd him on the custom'd hill,
Along the heath, and near his favourite tree;
Another came; nor yet beside the rill,
Nor up the lawn, nor at the wood was he;

'The next with dirges due in sad array
Slow through the church-way path we saw him borne,-
Approach and read (for thou canst read) the lay      (the lay means the verse)
Graved on the stone beneath yon aged thorn.'         (graved =  chiseled in, from engraved)

The Epitaph

Here rests his head upon the lap of Earth
A youth to Fortune and to Fame unknown.
Fair Science frowned not on his humble birth,
And Melancholy marked him for her own.

Large was his bounty, and his soul sincere,
Heaven did a recompense as largely send:
He gave to Misery all he had, a tear,
He gained from Heaven ('twas all he wish'd) a friend.

No farther seek his merits to disclose,
Or draw his frailties from their dread abode
(There they alike in trembling hope repose),
The bosom of his Father and his God.

By Thomas Gray (1716-71).




Title: Re: Sobering Moments
Post by: orangetruck on Jun 10, 2007, 06:14 PM
"Ennis was back on his feet somehow, as a coat hanger is straightened to open a locked car, and then bent again to its original shape, they torqued things almost to where they had been, for what they'd said was no news.  Nothing ended, nothing begun, nothing resolved."  They would be back together, at least as far as she was concerned.  (I accept her insight.)
Jack's death (whether murder or accident is unessential knowledge) comes right as Ennis discovers that his feelings for Jack are in fact love.  He comes to this Aha! moment when he sees the sorrowful Cassie, and hears her describe her sad story as due to love!  It all gels in this moment for Ennis who has yet to be told that his opportunity to live a love-filled life, the chance he had in his hands for 20 years, is gone forever.




Nice. I'm still intrigued that Jack had a better grip on Ennis' susceptibility to love than Ennis himself had, until Cassie delivered the message to him. Smeared it on his toast even, made him choke it down.
These guys needed the same thing, had appropriate (and thick) personalities, but my gawd their timing was fucked.

 :c)
Title: Re: Sobering Moments
Post by: zephK on Jun 10, 2007, 06:50 PM
Nice. I'm still intrigued that Jack had a better grip on Ennis' susceptibility to love than Ennis himself had, until Cassie delivered the message to him. Smeared it on his toast even, made him choke it down.
These guys needed the same thing, had appropriate (and thick) personalities, but my gawd their timing was f***ed.

 :c)

  Think about Ennis - who in his life ever talked with him about what love meant?  Nobody!  But worse than that, in his entire shy life, who did he have to model any kind of partnership on?  Not Mom and Dad, they died too young, just as he might be getting interested in the ways people interact with one another, relationshipwise.  His sister marries and doesn't come back, and his brother marries and throws him out.  Talk about a lifetime of rejection as well as there being a lack of couples around him, interacting, to educate him. 
  And about the timing?  The worst.  Ever.   :\'(
Title: Re: Sobering Moments
Post by: LuvJackNasty on Jun 10, 2007, 07:04 PM
 But of the ending to the big fight, Ms. Proulx says in the story, "Ennis was back on his feet somehow, as a coat hanger is straightened to open a locked car, and then bent again to its original shape, they torqued things almost to where they had been, for what they'd said was no news.  Nothing ended, nothing begun, nothing resolved."  They would be back together, at least as far as she was concerned.  (I accept her insight.)
Jack's death (whether murder or accident is unessential knowledge) comes right as Ennis discovers that his feelings for Jack are in fact love.  He comes to this Aha! moment when he sees the sorrowful Cassie, and hears her describe her sad story as due to love!  It all gels in this moment for Ennis who has yet to be told that his opportunity to live a love-filled life, the chance he had in his hands for 20 years, is gone forever.


Beautiful post  :\'(
Title: Re: Sobering Moments
Post by: orangetruck on Jun 10, 2007, 07:17 PM
  Think about Ennis - who in his life ever talked with him about what love meant?  Nobody!  But worse than that, in his entire shy life, who did he have to model any kind of partnership on?  Not Mom and Dad, they died too young, just as he might be getting interested in the ways people interact with one another, relationshipwise.  His sister marries and doesn't come back, and his brother marries and throws him out.  Talk about a lifetime of rejection as well as there being a lack of couples around him, interacting, to educate him. 
  And about the timing?  The worst.  Ever.   :\'(

Yeah  :-\\

No wonder, no matter how against his stoic grains, he found place and time for jack. Only around that Brokeback place where love accidentally happened, but no wonder.
Well educated no, but Ennis did have BB and JT as reference points; sometimes every four f***in' years, sometimes hanging by a nail in the closet, but he did have that.

 $)
Title: Re: Sobering Moments
Post by: zephK on Jun 10, 2007, 07:36 PM
Do we know that Ennis does say "I love you" to Jack in Jack's bedroom, while holding the shirts?
Title: Re: Sobering Moments
Post by: orangetruck on Jun 10, 2007, 08:04 PM
Do we know that Ennis does say "I love you" to Jack in Jack's bedroom, while holding the shirts?

Yes  :\'(
 :\'(

This movie has mastered always coming back to bite the viewer's ass.
So painfully ironic.
Title: Re: Sobering Moments
Post by: jackster on Jun 10, 2007, 09:26 PM
Do we know that Ennis does say "I love you" to Jack in Jack's bedroom, while holding the shirts?

What we do know is this - he felt it.
Proulx's beautiful rendition:
He pressed his face into the fabric and breathed in slowly through his mouth and nose, hoping for the faintest smoke and mountain sage and salty sweet stink of Jack, but there was no real scent, only the memory of it, the imagined power of Brokeback Mountain of which nothing was left but what he held in his hands.

Ledger's flawless portrayal of this moment, leaves no doubt that the love was there in his hands and in his thoughts.
Just as Jack's love, also unspoken, is doubtless in his eyes as Ennis rides away from the Dozy Embrace.

Beautiful words translated masterfully into beautiful action without words. Great Art in our own time IMO.
Title: Re: Sobering Moments
Post by: orangetruck on Jun 10, 2007, 09:38 PM
What we do know is this - he felt it.
Proulx's beautiful rendition:
He pressed his face into the fabric and breathed in slowly through his mouth and nose, hoping for the faintest smoke and mountain sage and salty sweet stink of Jack, but there was no real scent, only the memory of it, the imagined power of Brokeback Mountain of which nothing was left but what he held in his hands.

Ledger's flawless portrayal of this moment, leaves no doubt that the love was there in his hands and in his thoughts.
Just as Jack's love, also unspoken, is doubtless in his eyes as Ennis rides away from the Dozy Embrace.

Beautiful words translated masterfully into beautiful action without words. Great Art in our own time IMO.

Absolutely with you, here.
Title: Re: Sobering Moments
Post by: zephK on Jun 10, 2007, 09:40 PM
Oh, absolutely!  Ennis radiates so much love that it can be felt.  But I have talked with people who insist that he doesn't say anything there!  Go figure.
Title: Re: Sobering Moments
Post by: orangetruck on Jun 10, 2007, 09:47 PM
Oh, absolutely!  Ennis radiates so much love that it can be felt.  But I have talked with people who insist that he doesn't say anything there!  Go figure.

Eh, those people are just set in their ways.  :8
Title: Re: Sobering Moments
Post by: aintfoolin on Jun 11, 2007, 07:07 AM
Most of us can relate to or identify with these characters. ( not just Jack and Ennis ,either though they are the main topic)  We can all take lessons from the film. We can find moments  in this film where thoughts  or even a feeling  was defined , and we can apply it to our own lives.
 The sobering moments in this film are similar to some of our  own life experiences . fear, desperate mistakes,  divorce, jeaulosy ,infidelities, and abuse.  All in the name of love.. Perhaps this is really what keeps us coming back for more discussion about this honest  film. A sobering moment for me was just seeing this movie for the first time. I was touched, I felt their pain and I sympathized greatly.  I think I experienced every emotion God gave me while watching this .

 Ennis is the most compelling for me , but I was charmed  out of my socks for almost two hours by the  most endearing character called Jack Twist. I felt for him, wanted him to realize his dream of living with Ennis, and then he was gone. taken from Ennis , but I  also felt his loss. I was'nt ready. I never expected one so full of life, (potrayed beautifully by J. Gyllenhaal)  patience , optimism and  hope would not survive the film. 

I must say that Ennis receiving the postcard stamped DECEASED was definitly a sobering moment. This had to feel unbelivable to him.  Probably called Lureen in that half-hoping -it was'nt true ,- but so beleiving it is -mode , some big mistake. maybe  made by the post office. .. etc..The finality of it all was just stunning. I did not expect it at all. Ennis  learned a very valuable lesson  from Jack  Love is alive and well ...hanging on the door of his closet. : .....Jack +Ennis forever.



 
Title: Re: Sobering Moments
Post by: tpe on Jun 11, 2007, 07:15 AM
that walk into the dark is like a descent into hell - it must have shown Jack what his life was - a loveless marriage, rejection by the man he had loved for years, paid-for sex in a dark alley. Hardly surprising that /randall's offer was a wake-up call to show him that there was another way.

Yes, It has the feel of the opening of the Inferno.


Ahi quanto a dir qual era è cosa dura
esta selva selvaggia e aspra e forte
che nel pensier rinova la paura!

Tant’ è amara che poco è più morte;
ma per trattar del ben ch’i’ vi trovai,
dirò de l’altre cose ch’i’ v’ho scorte.


Ah me! how hard a thing it is to say
What was this forest savage, rough, and stern,
Which in the very thought renews the fear.

So bitter is it, death is little more;
But of the good to treat, which there I found,
Speak will I of the other things I saw there.

Title: Re: Sobering Moments
Post by: tpe on Jun 11, 2007, 07:25 AM
Great and insightful posts zephK, orangetruck, aintfoolin.


I second.  Wonderful exchange.  Thank you!
Title: Re: Sobering Moments
Post by: tpe on Jun 11, 2007, 07:33 AM
For Jack, ...

Large was his bounty, and his soul sincere,
Heaven did a recompense as largely send:
He gave to Misery all he had, a tear,
He gained from Heaven ('twas all he wish'd) a friend.

’Tis true, ’tis certain; man, though dead, retains
Part of himself; the immortal mind remains


(Pope -- on the Death of Patroclus)

Title: Re: Sobering Moments
Post by: lamusica on Jun 11, 2007, 03:09 PM
What we do know is this - he felt it.
Proulx's beautiful rendition:
He pressed his face into the fabric and breathed in slowly through his mouth and nose, hoping for the faintest smoke and mountain sage and salty sweet stink of Jack, but there was no real scent, only the memory of it, the imagined power of Brokeback Mountain of which nothing was left but what he held in his hands.

Ledger's flawless portrayal of this moment, leaves no doubt that the love was there in his hands and in his thoughts.
Just as Jack's love, also unspoken, is doubtless in his eyes as Ennis rides away from the Dozy Embrace.

Beautiful words translated masterfully into beautiful action without words. Great Art in our own time IMO.

This is so beautifully stated.  I fully agree that Ennis FELT it, but I just don't think he knew it for what it was -- love.  I think, to Ennis, it was a feeling of Jack being his other half -- someone he didn't want to live without -- someone he thought about all the time, and wanted to be with, but just couldn't work it out in him mind how to do that.  Great discussion, All.
Title: Re: Sobering Moments
Post by: tpe on Jun 11, 2007, 05:49 PM
This is so beautifully stated.  I fully agree that Ennis FELT it, but I just don't think he knew it for what it was -- love.  I think, to Ennis, it was a feeling of Jack being his other half -- someone he didn't want to live without -- someone he thought about all the time, and wanted to be with, but just couldn't work it out in him mind how to do that.  Great discussion, All.

Yes, this is a good distinction.  Sometimes, love comes only after a recognition of one's soulmate.  There is a difference, to be sure.  Love entails unconditional desire, whereas recognition of one's "other half" is to recognize that we are all incomplete, and therefore always seeking for that which completes us.

Title: Re: Sobering Moments
Post by: jackster on Jun 12, 2007, 05:12 AM
I fully agree that Ennis FELT it, but I just don't think he knew it for what it was -- love. 

For myself, I think he did know, but not until this "sobering moment". To me, I think he finally realizes it is love, here in the closet, and it effects him deeply. Deeply enough to prompt him to actually take the shirt(s), not an insignificant act for Ennis, for he knows that when he walks downstairs with that shirt in his hands he's admitting his love (his homosexual love) to Jack's mother and father (might as well be the world to Ennis). And by impication Jack's love for him also, though this may be only clear to Jack's mother who must have known that it's actually a pair of shirts.
Title: Re: Sobering Moments
Post by: orangetruck on Jun 12, 2007, 05:18 AM
For myself, I think he did know, but not until this "sobering moment". To me, I think he finally realizes it is love, here in the closet, and it effects him deeply. Deeply enough to prompt him to actually take the shirt(s), not an insignificant act for Ennis, for he knows that when he walks downstairs with that shirt in his hands he's admitting his love (his homosexual love) to Jack's mother and father (might as well be the world to Ennis). And by impication Jack's love for him also, though this may be only clear to Jack's mother who must have known that it's actually a pair of shirts.

Agreed.  :)
Title: Re: Sobering Moments
Post by: tpe on Jun 12, 2007, 07:01 AM
For myself, I think he did know, but not until this "sobering moment". To me, I think he finally realizes it is love, here in the closet, and it effects him deeply. Deeply enough to prompt him to actually take the shirt(s), not an insignificant act for Ennis, for he knows that when he walks downstairs with that shirt in his hands he's admitting his love (his homosexual love) to Jack's mother and father (might as well be the world to Ennis). And by impication Jack's love for him also, though this may be only clear to Jack's mother who must have known that it's actually a pair of shirts.

Again, well said.  And yes, I believe that his coming down with the shirts was an admission or confirmation of his love for Jack.

Title: Re: Sobering Moments
Post by: aintfoolin on Jun 13, 2007, 04:27 AM
For myself, I think he did know, but not until this "sobering moment". To me, I think he finally realizes it is love, here in the closet, and it effects him deeply. Deeply enough to prompt him to actually take the shirt(s), not an insignificant act for Ennis, for he knows that when he walks downstairs with that shirt in his hands he's admitting his love (his homosexual love) to Jack's mother and father (might as well be the world to Ennis). And by impication Jack's love for him also, though this may be only clear to Jack's mother who must have known that it's actually a pair of shirts.

This is  so beautifully put Jackster. And it had to be a very sobering moment when Mrs. Twist stepped out that door and came face to face with Ennis for the first time. She had heard much about him, unbeknownst to Ennis from Jack.  Finally,  This is Ennis, Jack's * friend* she must have thought.

Ennis held in his hands a culmination of every battle he had, With society, himself and his homosexual love for Jack. It was  his confirmation indeed. Now, with lessons learned, he could live on. He had living proof.,that Jack's love for him  lived and would never die....Another sobering moment. Thanks.

She treated him with respect and kindness.
Title: Re: Sobering Moments
Post by: manhattangirl on Jun 13, 2007, 04:48 AM
Mrs. Twist wanted Ennis to come back.   She needed someone who loved Jack as much as she did in her life.   There was no grieving from the old man, just anger and resentment.   She knew Ennis loved Jack, and Jack loved him.   This is who her son chose to love and she respected that, after all she kept his room the way it was since he was little boy, and he appreciated that, she accepted Ennis and she knew he'd appreciate that too.   
Title: Re: Sobering Moments
Post by: aintfoolin on Jun 13, 2007, 05:05 AM
Your so right MG.   She and Jack probably had some very intimate discussion about Jack's love for Ennis huh? But I don;t think she expected to ever meet him.
Probably felt she had almost gained a son through her son's death. And Ennis finally gets a surrogate mother too. I think Ennis could have handled Mr. Twist . Two stubborn mules butting heads I can see it now.
Title: Re: Sobering Moments
Post by: tpe on Jun 13, 2007, 06:51 AM
Mrs. Twist wanted Ennis to come back.   She needed someone who loved Jack as much as she did in her life.   There was no grieving from the old man, just anger and resentment.   She knew Ennis loved Jack, and Jack loved him.   This is who her son chose to love and she respected that, after all she kept his room the way it was since he was little boy, and he appreciated that, she accepted Ennis and she knew he'd appreciate that too.   

Beautifully said.

I do think seeing Ennis bring down the shirts was a moment of confirmation for Mrs. Twist.  She now knew without a doubt who Ennis really was, and therefore her invitiation as a means of trying to keep a part of Jack with her -- within her lonely life.

Title: Re: Sobering Moments
Post by: tpe on Jun 13, 2007, 06:55 AM
Your so right MG.   She and Jack probably had some very intimate discussion about Jack's love for Ennis huh? But I don;t think she expected to ever meet him.
Probably felt she had almost gained a son through her son's death. And Ennis finally gets a surrogate mother too. I think Ennis could have handled Mr. Twist . Two stubborn mules butting heads I can see it now.

Somehow, the thought of him not coming back seems plausible, although I would like to think that he did every now and then.    This was certainly my initial feeling about it (i.e., his never coming back), which hightened the sense of tragedy.

Title: Re: Sobering Moments
Post by: aintfoolin on Jun 13, 2007, 07:36 AM
Yes, It makes ya wish the film was 3 hours longer don't it?... So much unsaid , so many things unanswerd.
Title: Re: Sobering Moments
Post by: jackster on Jun 13, 2007, 08:41 AM
Somehow, the thought of him not coming back seems plausible, although I would like to think that he did every now and then. 

There's a tie-in here with the thread about what Ennis would do with Jack's ashes. I think Ma Twist desperately wanted and needed Ennis to come back and "liberate" her son's ashes from the family plot. That look in her eyes, when she had her "sobering moment" that the old man wasn't going to let Jack go, the pain and desperation she felt right then, that Ennis was her only hope of seeing that Jack's final wishes be carried out. Clutching her throat like she was being choked by the bitterness spewing from from her so called husband. Great work Roberta!!
Title: Re: Sobering Moments
Post by: orangetruck on Jun 13, 2007, 08:44 AM
There's a tie-in here with the thread about what Ennis would do with Jack's ashes. I think Ma Twist desperately wanted and needed Ennis to come back and "liberate" her son's ashes from the family plot. That look in her eyes, when she had her "sobering moment" that the old man wasn't going to let Jack go, the pain and desperation she felt right then, that Ennis was her only hope of seeing that Jack's final wishes be carried out. Clutching her throat like she was being choked by the bitterness spewing from from her so called husband. Great work Roberta!!

Of course I can't even begin to explain my admiration for her acting role there. So so touching.
Title: Re: Sobering Moments
Post by: JT on Jun 13, 2007, 09:29 AM
Somehow, the thought of him not coming back seems plausible, although I would like to think that he did every now and then.    This was certainly my initial feeling about it (i.e., his never coming back), which hightened the sense of tragedy.



I think since Jack was burried there, Ennis would come back and pay respect for his other half.  And yes, Mrs. Twist would want Ennis to liberate her son also. 

I would like to think that Ennis would look after Mrs. Twist also just like her own son would have.
Title: Re: Sobering Moments
Post by: lamusica on Jun 13, 2007, 10:00 AM
Since my first viewing, I have thought that Ennis would someday come back to visit.  There is something in Mrs. Twist's face when she tells him to come back that is compelling.  She's not just mouthing empty words, but has a deeper meaning.  I think Ennis would have picked up on that and would have accommodated her by returning someday.  Again, the look is subtle -- not a pleading look, but just a glance of itensity that raises her words to the level of need and truth.  Mom's face is marvelous throughout this whole scene.  She says more with just a stoic set to her face than words could ever express. She is used to keeping her feelings inside.  God knows, she wouldn't have been welcome to share them with the old man.  So, when Ennis comes, she has a lot to tell him, but, since she can't speak freely, she has to communicate with him through nonverbals, which she does SOOOOOOO very well. The offer of cherry cake is, I believe, a ploy to keep ENnis there longer.  She revels in his presence -- someone who knew and loved Jack for what he was. She had the paper bag ready when he came downstairs, knowing full well he would be bringing the shirts with him.  This made her so happy.  Oh, I have to quit this post -- can't type through the tears.
Title: Re: Sobering Moments
Post by: jackster on Jun 13, 2007, 11:11 AM
Two "sobering moments" here IMO, within minutes of each other - Ennis finds "the shirts", finally realizes the love and longing that Jack had for him since '63 and that he has had inside himself for Jack. Then, just moments later downstairs, old man Twist puffs up about "we got a family plot, and he's goin' in it", Mrs. T suddenly realizes Jack's not going back to Brokeback where he wanted. The exchange of looks here between Ennis and Mrs. T, their eyes and faces, whew! I'm gonna' have to go watch this again (and again).
 :\'(
Title: Re: Sobering Moments
Post by: orangetruck on Jun 13, 2007, 11:28 AM
Two "sobering moments" here IMO, within minutes of each other - Ennis finds "the shirts", finally realizes the love and longing that Jack had for him since '63 and that he has had inside himself for Jack. Then, just moments later downstairs, old man Twist puffs up about "we got a family plot, and he's goin' in it", Mrs. T suddenly realizes Jack's not going back to Brokeback where he wanted. The exchange of looks here between Ennis and Mrs. T, their eyes and faces, whew! I'm gonna' have to go watch this again (and again).
 :\'(

Her eyes spoke incredible amounts.  :\'(
Title: Re: Sobering Moments
Post by: JT on Jun 13, 2007, 11:29 AM
These two (Ennis and Mrs. Twist) will have a lot to talk about on their next meeting.  The only two people we know of that truly love Jack.  A sobering moment for both of them.
Title: Re: Sobering Moments
Post by: orangetruck on Jun 13, 2007, 11:36 AM
These two (Ennis and Mrs. Twist) will have a lot to talk about on their next meeting.  The only two people we know of that truly love Jack.  A sobering moment for both of them.

So true, right?
I'm afraid I'm not going to be able to keep it 'sober' around them. In fact I'd better not come around Mrs. Twist's place when she's got Ennis over. I'm likely to just turn them into drunks, trying to drown my memories of Jack on Brokeback. Then Ennis would be drunk, and he and I would bump uglies somewhere in the kitchen near the fridge. And then Papa Twist would come out (because his family is supportive  ;D ) looking for a midnight snack and he'd trip over me and Ennis ... literally.
And knowing me, I'd probably open the refridgerator, pull out a slab of bologna and start spankin' him with it. I don't know, I just feel like I'd end up getting kicked out or something.
 >:D
Sorry,  *o) I know.

But I do believe Mrs. Twist and Ennis could really lean on each other, indeed.
Title: Re: Sobering Moments
Post by: JT on Jun 13, 2007, 11:54 AM
Justin, you dirty boy!   ;D

You're going to have three people spanking you.   ~) *o)


Ennis could really learn a lot about Jack from Mrs. Twist.  And Mrs. Twist can learn about their hard life up on Brokeback.  Like mother and son.  One lost his mom and one lost her son.
Title: Re: Sobering Moments
Post by: aintfoolin on Jun 13, 2007, 03:01 PM
  *Bologna spankings* are definitly off limits in the house of John Twist. You can definitly count on gettin kicked out.

The barn outside would'nt would'nt be a bad idea,though. It would drastically reduced your chances of gettin caught in the *intimate moment * with Ennis. >:D ;D :i
Title: Re: Sobering Moments
Post by: zephK on Jun 13, 2007, 03:35 PM
Justin, you dirty boy!   ;D

You're going to have three people spanking you.   ~) *o)


Ennis could really learn a lot about Jack from Mrs. Twist.  And Mrs. Twist can learn about their hard life up on Brokeback.  Like mother and son.  One lost his mom and one lost her son.

four

  I dunno, does the punch count as a sobering moment?  I  mean it does change everything, drastically.
Title: Re: Sobering Moments
Post by: tpe on Jun 13, 2007, 06:01 PM
There's a tie-in here with the thread about what Ennis would do with Jack's ashes. I think Ma Twist desperately wanted and needed Ennis to come back and "liberate" her son's ashes from the family plot. That look in her eyes, when she had her "sobering moment" that the old man wasn't going to let Jack go, the pain and desperation she felt right then, that Ennis was her only hope of seeing that Jack's final wishes be carried out. Clutching her throat like she was being choked by the bitterness spewing from from her so called husband. Great work Roberta!!

I agree.

When she first sees Ennis come down with the shirts, you just see the spark of recognition.

And when John Twist tells Ennis that Jack was staying put, you could tell that she also felt stiffled -- with that gesture towards her neck.

This scene was her sobering moment, IMO.

Title: Re: Sobering Moments
Post by: tpe on Jun 13, 2007, 06:04 PM
I think since Jack was burried there, Ennis would come back and pay respect for his other half.  And yes, Mrs. Twist would want Ennis to liberate her son also. 

I would like to think that Ennis would look after Mrs. Twist also just like her own son would have.

What makes me hesistate is what was written in the screenplay: whenre the shirts were what remained of the power of BBM.

But surely he would not leave Jack alone indefinitely -- there in the midst of the grieving plain...

Title: Re: Sobering Moments
Post by: tpe on Jun 13, 2007, 06:06 PM
Since my first viewing, I have thought that Ennis would someday come back to visit.  There is something in Mrs. Twist's face when she tells him to come back that is compelling.  She's not just mouthing empty words, but has a deeper meaning.  I think Ennis would have picked up on that and would have accommodated her by returning someday.  Again, the look is subtle -- not a pleading look, but just a glance of itensity that raises her words to the level of need and truth.   Mom's face is marvelous throughout this whole scene.  She says more with just a stoic set to her face than words could ever express. She is used to keeping her feelings inside.  God knows, she wouldn't have been welcome to share them with the old man.  So, when Ennis comes, she has a lot to tell him, but, since she can't speak freely, she has to communicate with him through nonverbals, which she does SOOOOOOO very well. The offer of cherry cake is, I believe, a ploy to keep ENnis there longer.  She revels in his presence -- someone who knew and loved Jack for what he was. She had the paper bag ready when he came downstairs, knowing full well he would be bringing the shirts with him.  This made her so happy.  Oh, I have to quit this post -- can't type through the tears.

Beautifully argued, lamusica.  Would Ennis have resisted to stay away forever, after seeing her thus?

Title: Re: Sobering Moments
Post by: tpe on Jun 13, 2007, 06:07 PM
Two "sobering moments" here IMO, within minutes of each other - Ennis finds "the shirts", finally realizes the love and longing that Jack had for him since '63 and that he has had inside himself for Jack. Then, just moments later downstairs, old man Twist puffs up about "we got a family plot, and he's goin' in it", Mrs. T suddenly realizes Jack's not going back to Brokeback where he wanted. The exchange of looks here between Ennis and Mrs. T, their eyes and faces, whew! I'm gonna' have to go watch this again (and again).
 :\'(

Yes, both of them seem to have a near-simultaneous epiphany.  This is what makes this sequence so very intense to watch.

Title: Re: Sobering Moments
Post by: zephK on Jun 13, 2007, 06:43 PM
What makes me hesitate is what was written in the screenplay: when re the shirts were what remained of the power of BBM.

But surely he would not leave Jack alone indefinitely -- there in the midst of the grieving plain...



   Nice posts, Jackster, tpe, and beautifully argued, indeed, lamusica -  I too have seen this: silently with her eyes and face Mom lets Ennis know (and he does pick up on it) that Ennis is welcomed to come back and get Jack and put him where his heart always was, as soon as the old bastard dies, and with as much help as Mom can give.  (I've imagined them walking to that pitiful little cemetery, digging shallowly in the dry ground, Mom taking a symbolic dig or two of earth, freeing her son from his father's curse.) The shirts were the relics of the power that was Brokeback, but its power was to provide a world where they could get away from pain, fear and hate, where they could come to life, away from all their fears, obligations and expectations of misery, back to being able to care.  Ennis comes all the way back from a boy whose emotions and soul were straitjacketed by the horror in his childhood to a father who can ask his own child, "Does he love you?" and know what he's talking about.
   I would add even a third sobering moment in the Twist's kitchen - that look on Ennis's face when the bastard says "...and he's goin' in it."  It obvious he can't believe the old shit would be that mean, but he knows enough to agree and be quiet - he's read Mom that she wants no trouble with the bastard, and Ennis complies, looking a little more sober.
Title: Re: Sobering Moments
Post by: orangetruck on Jun 13, 2007, 07:06 PM
  Nice posts, Jackster, tpe, and beautifully argued, indeed, lamusica -  I too have seen this: silently with her eyes and face Mom lets Ennis know (and he does pick up on it) that Ennis is welcomed to come back and get Jack and put him where his heart always was, as soon as the old bastard dies, and with as much help as Mom can give.  (I've imagined them walking to that pitiful little cemetery, digging shallowly in the dry ground, Mom taking a symbolic dig or two of earth, freeing her son from his father's curse.) The shirts were the relics of the power that was Brokeback, but its power was to provide a world where they could get away from pain, fear and hate, where they could come to life, away from all their fears, obligations and expectations of misery, back to being able to care.  Ennis comes all the way back from a boy whose emotions and soul were straitjacketed by the horror in his childhood to a father who can ask his own child, "Does he love you?" and know what he's talking about.
   I would add even a third sobering moment in the Twist's kitchen - that look on Ennis's face when the bastard says "...and he's goin' in it."  It obvious he can't believe the old shit would be that mean, but he knows enough to agree and be quiet - he's read Mom that she wants no trouble with the bastard, and Ennis complies, looking a little more sober.

Extraordinarily put.  :c)
Title: Re: Sobering Moments
Post by: City Slickin' Cowboy on Jun 13, 2007, 07:12 PM
Wonderful posts here. O0  I need to go back and read some of the earlier ones.
Title: Re: Sobering Moments
Post by: jackster on Jun 13, 2007, 07:13 PM
   I would add even a third sobering moment in the Twist's kitchen - that look on Ennis's face when the bastard says "...and he's goin' in it." 

Good observation zephK.
I've just watched this scene again and there's a fourth "moment" here in the kitchen that may have been mentioned before but I don't recall seeing it - old man Twist: "Then this spring, got another fella' gonna' come up here with him, build a place, help run the ranch . . . ", this revelation hits Ennis like a ton of bricks and you can see it in his face, they way it sags and looks like a little boy who just lost his puppy. At that moment Mrs. T puts her hand out to his shoulder to comfort him, like, it's alright, its alright, (same words spoken by Jack SNIT).
Ennis needs a hug. :\'(
Title: Re: Sobering Moments
Post by: zephK on Jun 13, 2007, 08:14 PM
Good observation zephK.
I've just watched this scene again and there's a fourth "moment" here in the kitchen that may have been mentioned before but I don't recall seeing it - old man Twist: "Then this spring, got another fella' gonna' come up here with him, build a place, help run the ranch . . . ", this revelation hits Ennis like a ton of bricks and you can see it in his face, they way it sags and looks like a little boy who just lost his puppy. At that moment Mrs. T puts her hand out to his shoulder to comfort him, like, it's alright, its alright, (same words spoken by Jack SNIT).
Ennis needs a hug. :\'(

   Oh yes, definitely a sobering moment for Ennis.  I have two things about this scene - I'm not at all sure that the rat is telling the truth: there's that long pause as he looks off as if to pluck something out of the air that will hurt his boy's lover.  I'm sure that's why the old jerk won't let Ennis take Jack's ashes - he says he knows where Brokeback Mountain is, and the only thing in the history of the world that's been Brokeback Mountain is this symbolic Eden where two young "ain't queer" boys can have sex together all summer long.  Perhaps Pa Twist has had his own FNITs (no SNITs, can't even phantom that one) and resents the happiness Ennis shared with his son that lasted all those years.  (Happiness he denied him.) Part two, which kind of drives and supports this theory, is that the old man doesn't look Ennis in the eye until he's trying to guage the effectiveness of his words.  BTW, whatever that medication he was taking, it wasn't working.  He was still breathing and talking after he took it.
Title: Re: Sobering Moments
Post by: chameau on Jun 13, 2007, 09:01 PM
Since my first viewing, I have thought that Ennis would someday come back to visit.  There is something in Mrs. Twist's face when she tells him to come back that is compelling.  She's not just mouthing empty words, but has a deeper meaning.  I think Ennis would have picked up on that and would have accommodated her by returning someday.  Again, the look is subtle -- not a pleading look, but just a glance of itensity that raises her words to the level of need and truth.  Mom's face is marvelous throughout this whole scene.  She says more with just a stoic set to her face than words could ever express. She is used to keeping her feelings inside.  God knows, she wouldn't have been welcome to share them with the old man.  So, when Ennis comes, she has a lot to tell him, but, since she can't speak freely, she has to communicate with him through nonverbals, which she does SOOOOOOO very well. The offer of cherry cake is, I believe, a ploy to keep ENnis there longer.  She revels in his presence -- someone who knew and loved Jack for what he was. She had the paper bag ready when he came downstairs, knowing full well he would be bringing the shirts with him.  This made her so happy.  Oh, I have to quit this post -- can't type through the tears.

Well said lamusica...  :\'(
Title: Re: Sobering Moments
Post by: tpe on Jun 15, 2007, 08:21 AM
Good observation zephK.
I've just watched this scene again and there's a fourth "moment" here in the kitchen that may have been mentioned before but I don't recall seeing it - old man Twist: "Then this spring, got another fella' gonna' come up here with him, build a place, help run the ranch . . . ", this revelation hits Ennis like a ton of bricks and you can see it in his face, they way it sags and looks like a little boy who just lost his puppy. At that moment Mrs. T puts her hand out to his shoulder to comfort him, like, it's alright, its alright, (same words spoken by Jack SNIT).
Ennis needs a hug. :\'(

I agree.  This was a moment that Ennis perhaps dreaded.  I was actually surprised that he didn't lose control at that moment in the movie -- but Mrs. Twist's intervention probably saved him. 

The revalation probably hurty Ennis deep inside -- someone in a previous thread had said that John Twist perhaps did this intentionally, knowing that it would hurt.

Title: Re: Sobering Moments
Post by: aintfoolin on Jun 15, 2007, 07:25 PM
To me personally I think OMT meant it.
Don't think he made it up, just to hurt Ennis intentionally.  I think it was said in the scene to show that Jack was thinking of quitting Ennis at some point and living with Randall. This knowledge hurt Ennis nonetheless. A wake up call  for im, a little to late.. A realization of how much Jack had hoped for a whole life with some one. This was stunning new news to Ennis. He had to wonder who this  ranch neighbor was at this point cuz Jack had mentioned earlier that it was the WIFE with whom he was having the affair with, not the guy himself.   
 The old man remembered exactly in what time frame Jack was planning or thinking about bringing the "other fella" up, ( then this spring...) so he saw a series of changes in Jack's life involving these two men. his lovers.
 fisrt it was Ennis for a while, then it changed to the ranch neighbor.

 How else could he put 2 and 2 together concerning Jack and his *ranch neighbor*?  unless Jack brought it up in the context of  promising to bring one of them up to  help whip the ranch into shape.. Ennis is one thing , Jack truly loved him, but Randall? a different story. It all  suggests  to me that the old  man was telling Ennis that he realized exactly who he was and what the relationship was between Ennis and his son. " Another fella" speaks volumes to me.  Jack was'nt bringing  pretty girls home to meet the parents,, not even Lureen.  only men......although personally, I think Jack had great tastes in his choices. I feel Jack was working on living with Randall  when he died.
Title: Re: Sobering Moments
Post by: orangetruck on Jun 15, 2007, 07:33 PM
To me personally I think OMT meant it.
Don't think he made it up, just to hurt Ennis intentionally.  I think it was said in the scene to show that Jack was thinking of quitting Ennis at some point and living with Randall. This knowledge hurt Ennis nonetheless. A wake up call  for im, a little to late.. A realization of how much Jack had hoped for a whole life with some one. This was stunning new news to Ennis. He had to wonder who this  ranch neighbor was at this point cuz Jack had mentioned earlier that it was the WIFE with whom he was having the affair with, not the guy himself.   
 The old man remembered exactly in what time frame Jack was planning or thinking about bringing the "other fella" up, ( then this spring...) so he saw a series of changes in Jack's life involving these two men. his lovers.
 fisrt it was Ennis for a while, then it changed to the ranch neighbor.

 How else could he put 2 and 2 together concerning Jack and his *ranch neighbor*?  unless Jack brought it up in the context of  promising to bring one of them up to  help whip the ranch into shape.. Ennis is one thing , Jack truly loved him, but Randall? a different story. It all  suggests  to me that the old  man was telling Ennis that he realized exactly who he was and what the relationship was between Ennis and his son. " Another fella" speaks volumes to me.  Jack was'nt bringing  pretty girls home to meet the parents,, not even Lureen.  only men......although personally, I think Jack had great tastes in his choices. I feel Jack was working on living with Randall  when he died.

So I agree that Randall was a different story.  %&)  (^)
A tourniquet for the mean meantimes.
Title: Re: Sobering Moments
Post by: jackster on Jun 15, 2007, 08:07 PM
I feel Jack was working on living with Randall  when he died. 

So I agree that Randall was a different story.

Kinda OT here - but then OMT says "But like most a Jack's ideas, never come ta' pass . . ."  What goin' on here? There's the obvious Randall storyline, but after talkin' 'bout Ennis for what, a dozen years or more, then Jack starts talkin' about a new guy. But then he can't make that happen either. Why did he mention it if he wasn't sure he was able to make it happen? It would just make him look like more of a loser to OMT wouldn't it? Did he and Randall then "split up"? Yeah, Jack's a dreamer so he has  lotsa ideas - A Sweet Life, just to mention one, but this whole thing about it not happening (with Randall) doesn't seem very well worked out to me. Am I off base here, huh?
Title: Re: Sobering Moments
Post by: orangetruck on Jun 15, 2007, 08:26 PM
Kinda OT here - but then OMT says "But like most a Jack's ideas, never come ta' pass . . ."  What goin' on here? There's the obvious Randall storyline, but after talkin' 'bout Ennis for what, a dozen years or more, then Jack starts talkin' about a new guy. But then he can't make that happen either. Why did he mention it if he wasn't sure he was able to make it happen? It would just make him look like more of a loser to OMT wouldn't it? Did he and Randall then "split up"? Yeah, Jack's a dreamer so he has  lotsa ideas - A Sweet Life, just to mention one, but this whole thing about it not happening (with Randall) doesn't seem very well worked out to me. Am I off base here, huh?

For some reason I've always seen it as this:
Jack and Ennis were a starcrossed love, and his dream of living with a man Ennis was born under this star, on the mountain, with just him.
Jack and Ennis wouldn't come to pass because of Ennis' past, the time and the place; Randall and Jack wouldn't because there wasn't a past. There was merely the incentive for Jack to cope in Ennis' absense. There was no other foundation other than Ennis. I think with this established foundation, OMT was able to deliberate, reconstruct, and communicate directly with Ennis without 'outing' OMT's shaded sentiments, if not other.
On the other side of the token, the most Jack could do to express his true self probably was to mention 'bringing guys back' to build something. Any son wants understanding from their parents. Jack .. he couldn't blatantly suggest Ennis was the one and only love of his life, true as this is.
 :-\\
Title: Re: Sobering Moments
Post by: jackster on Jun 15, 2007, 08:56 PM
When OMT says, “Then this spring . . . “ is “this spring” the time Jacks visits LF after the “quit you” argument with Ennis in May? Jack said then that he was going to visit his folks for a few days. Does he tell them he’s got another fella at that time? Did he know this when he and Ennis had the argument? Sorry if this OT, but it seems kind of related to the sobering moment(s) in this scene and the Argument scene too. Is Ennis realizing this at the Twist table and putting the “quit you” and “another fella” statements together in his head? Maybe I’m just dense but I guess I never realized the possible direct connection here.
 :s)
Title: Re: Sobering Moments
Post by: manhattangirl on Jun 15, 2007, 10:21 PM
Randall was already Jack's lover by the time of final confrontation.  I always had the feeling when Ennis ask Jack if he had a better idea, and Jack said "I did once", he was talking about Randall, but Ennis assume it was Mexico,  Jack went along with it.   So when Jack went to LF, after that, he spoke of Randall and not Ennis.      When Old Man Twist was telling the story to Ennis, he must have put it together, because if looks could kill,  Old Man Twist was a goner.
Title: Re: Sobering Moments
Post by: orangetruck on Jun 15, 2007, 11:04 PM
I think if anything, Ennis may have been shocked briefly by OMT's 'spring' talk, but only briefly. Even provided Ennis did make such a connection between 'Quitting him' and 'fella'. Ennis, although coming across like a poorly educated stoic, must have been able to put 2 and 2 together for Jack's compensating his deprived heart in the process of their relationship over 20 years. And if he was somehow led to believe something other than being the one with Jack's heart, the shirts later would bring it back to simple for him.
For me, Randall still very much remains a benign tremor in the development of E and J's love. Too much rehashing of the Twist's house scene is depressing the hell out of me. Knowing it's minutes from the symbol of lost love to be found upstairs, in the closet among some old boots, jeans, cowboy clothing, with a window looking out into the yard and the open; this view must have accumulated so many of Jack's thoughts - a place heavy with the dreams of not just Jack nor just Ennis, but a couple.
He may even have seen both himself and Ennis outside in that yard. I believe that's how deep his love for Ennis goes.
Or so I like to believe.
 ^f^
Title: Re: Sobering Moments
Post by: lamusica on Jun 16, 2007, 10:54 AM
IMO, OMT is such a little shit!  He is a mean-spirited old fool and has to let everyone he comes in contact with know he is the stud-duck of that household.  I'm sure his demeanor didn't shock Ennis; he had heard the stories from Jack about his father's coldness and lack of caring, and Ennis's own father was less than warm and sweet!!!LOL!  I just think Ennis will do what he wants to do, as he always does, and will come back someday and take Jack's ashes where they need to be. If there were ever a sequel, that would be a good place to start.  Let Ennis come back from the PO with a postcard from Mom Twist saying the old man "bought the farm".  That's all she needs to write.  Ennis will know that means he needs to get up to LF and take care of business. The sequel could contain flashback scenes of Jack and with Jack and Ennis together, and there we go -- another insight into this great love affair.  Maybe Mom Twist will come home with Ennis and make him a nicer lifef!  I can't wait!
Title: Re: Sobering Moments
Post by: tpe on Jun 18, 2007, 07:33 AM
Randall was already Jack's lover by the time of final confrontation.  I always had the feeling when Ennis ask Jack if he had a better idea, and Jack said "I did once", he was talking about Randall, but Ennis assume it was Mexico,  Jack went along with it.   So when Jack went to LF, after that, he spoke of Randall and not Ennis.      When Old Man Twist was telling the story to Ennis, he must have put it together, because if looks could kill,  Old Man Twist was a goner.

I had interpreted "I did once" in a different way.  When Jack said this, he wanted to remind Ennis of the time he asked him to join him in  a sleep life together (during the reunion).  The remembrance of this lost opportunity hurt Ennis -- because Jack was implicitly blaming him for the lost opportunity.  When such a thing happens, it is natural for a person to counter with any kind of recrimmination he knew about the other person.  IN this case, Ennis retaliated by reminding Jack of Mexico and all his escapades.  I think this is very faithful to what Proulx meant when she wrote:

Like vast clouds of steam from thermal springs in winter the years of things unsaid and now unsayable—admissions, declarations, shames, guilts, fears—rose around them.
Title: Re: Sobering Moments
Post by: aintfoolin on Jun 18, 2007, 04:08 PM
When OMT says, “Then this spring . . . “ is “this spring” the time Jacks visits LF after the “quit you” argument with Ennis in May? Jack said then that he was going to visit his folks for a few days. Does he tell them he’s got another fella at that time? Did he know this when he and Ennis had the argument? Sorry if this OT, but it seems kind of related to the sobering moment(s) in this scene and the Argument scene too. Is Ennis realizing this at the Twist table and putting the “quit you” and “another fella” statements together in his head? Maybe I’m just dense but I guess I never realized the possible direct connection here.
 :s)

 When OMT mentioned the *ranch neighbor* Ennis must have gotten a clue. He'd heard of this person before from Jack himself the night before the fight. Jack had mentioned him right before he said, "truth is , sometimes I miss you so much etc...." suggesting that although there were other temptations out there , ( like the ranch guy's wife or the guy himself , Ennis was the one he longed for the most. I feel he was already on the road to quitting Ennis then  or at least thinking on it. as Randall was already in the mix.  Apparently Jack had invited Randall to come to LF or at least mentioned it to his parents that there was another guy.
This seems plausible during the visit after the argument. If he coul d'nt convince Ennis to set up a life with him, there was Randall, although second choice for Jack but he was an important factor. By not removing the shirts from the closet, or disturbing them in any way, Jack was saying in this way that no matter who he was bringing up in his place Ennis will always be the one and only in his heart. The one he wanted and loved the most.

It must have been a sobering moment for Mrs. Twist when she discovered that her son had another lover, after so much talk about Ennis for years. I wonder what she thought of the fact that Jack had another *fella* besides the one who had such a gift of love hanging upstairs in the closet?
Title: Re: Sobering Moments
Post by: orangetruck on Jun 18, 2007, 06:32 PM


It must have been a sobering moment for Mrs. Twist when she discovered that her son had another lover, after so much talk about Ennis for years. I wonder what she thought of the fact that Jack had another *fella* besides the one who had such a gift of love hanging upstairs in the closet?


I'd think the realization of Jack's other 'lover' didn't hold much weight with Mrs. Twist. I think if anything, she may have easily recognized it as a way for Jack to 'get by' while living for Ennis. She may have even found a similarity between this and her sticking it out with OMT.   ;D I mean he's not exactly a bowl of cherries.
     She must have felt genuine love with another (or OMT at some point) and, like Jack, couldn't then make it alone. She holds on to OMT and probably saw this Randall guy as something systematic delivering Jack from one moment to the next for the condition of Ennis.
Anyway, she probably brushed Randall off as clutter, something filling Jack's atmosphere until his true love Ennis were to settle in like the cement Jack needed. And the shirts upstairs were Mrs. Twist's way of knowing the specific ingredients of that cement. Anything else would just be filler.
Title: Re: Sobering Moments
Post by: tpe on Jun 19, 2007, 07:08 AM
I'd think the realization of Jack's other 'lover' didn't hold much weight with Mrs. Twist. I think if anything, she may have easily recognized it as a way for Jack to 'get by' while living for Ennis. She may have even found a similarity between this and her sticking it out with OMT.   ;D I mean he's not exactly a bowl of cherries.
     She must have felt genuine love with another (or OMT at some point) and, like Jack, couldn't then make it alone. She holds on to OMT and probably saw this Randall guy as something systematic delivering Jack from one moment to the next for the condition of Ennis.
Anyway, she probably brushed Randall off as clutter, something filling Jack's atmosphere until his true love Ennis were to settle in like the cement Jack needed. And the shirts upstairs were Mrs. Twist's way of knowing the specific ingredients of that cement. Anything else would just be filler.

INteresting points here, orangetruck.

While I am not certain how she may have viewed the ranch neighbor, I do think Mrs. Twist did understand the bond that her son had for Enis.

I think this was the clear thing in that sobering moment when Ennis came down with the shirts -- it was almost like an affirmation of what she had known all along.  She was probably not surprised that Ennis chose the shirts -- she was probably guiding him to it.

Title: Re: Sobering Moments
Post by: welshwitch on Jun 19, 2007, 11:23 AM
Does anyone else thnk as I do that it must have been a pretty sobering moment for OMT when Ennis appeared ? He'd been hearing about him for years, and knew he had always failed to come with Jack - now suddenly when Jack is dead there is Ennis. I wonder if heds thought that both Ennis and the other man Jack mentioned were both figments of Jack's imagination, or at least less of a feature of his life than Jack had made out?
Title: Re: Sobering Moments
Post by: jackster on Jun 20, 2007, 07:09 AM
Does anyone else think as I do that it must have been a pretty sobering moment for OMT when Ennis appeared?

Yes indeed WW, me too, and good point. It may have part of the reason OMT won't give up Jack's ashes. His way of sayin' "He's not yours, he's mine. You two go playing around all them years and then you finally show up here wanting his ashes - no way!" Just being a SOB.
Title: Re: Sobering Moments
Post by: tpe on Jun 20, 2007, 07:17 AM
Does anyone else thnk as I do that it must have been a pretty sobering moment for OMT when Ennis appeared ? He'd been hearing about him for years, and knew he had always failed to come with Jack - now suddenly when Jack is dead there is Ennis. I wonder if heds thought that both Ennis and the other man Jack mentioned were both figments of Jack's imagination, or at least less of a feature of his life than Jack had made out?

Yes, now that you mentioned it, it probably must have been a sobering moment.

Did John Twist sit in judgement on Ennis?  Was it a post-mortem passing of judgement on his son, knowing full well that Ennis was clearly the object of his son's admiration and affection?  Was there a hint of jealousy?  Was there a hint of getting back on the object of his son's true affections?

Title: Re: Sobering Moments
Post by: tpe on Jun 20, 2007, 07:19 AM
Yes indeed WW, me too, and good point. It may have part of the reason OMT won't give up Jack's ashes. His way of sayin' "He's not yours, he's mine. You two go playing around all them years and then you finally show up here wanting his ashes - no way!" Just being a SOB.

jackster, I think you answered part of my question(s) here.

Title: Re: Sobering Moments
Post by: welshwitch on Jun 20, 2007, 01:37 PM
I've wondered if he had some idea about Jack, and Ennis's arrival confirms what he hadn't admitted to himself before - that he had a son who was gay. He seems to be in the grip of some sort of repressed rage all the time Ennis is there.
Title: Re: Sobering Moments
Post by: aintfoolin on Jun 21, 2007, 05:44 AM
 This totally true about OMT WW.! He's probably been carrying this *repressed rage* as you say, around  for a long time. ever since he suspected his son, even as a boy. Perhaps, this is the reason why Jack could never please him.
Jack , I suppose  never knew his father suspected him of being gay as a boy, but This is sometimes intuitive in parents. Jack kept trying to please his father first just as a son. The old man saw a gay son. It indeed must have been a sobering moment for him. I agree, Ennis's arrival was a confrimation of his son's homosexuality. A part of Jack which OMT can never accept, thus Jack's inability to ever please him all those years. MO.

Another sobering moment is for Alma. When Ennis returned home from the motel with Jack she looked like she had been up all night. What she had seen must have stayed with her. Then here comes Ennis, packing to spend days more with Jack. She goes to the window, looks out and see that Jack is still there .and Ennis was leaving with him again.  She immediatley starts trying to get Ennis to stay with her but Ennis did'nt budge. He had answers for all her *worries* and she knew why. .  He's from Texas", "That boss owes me time off"   etc...  To watch Ennis drive off with Jack was probably a double confirmation that her husband 's heart belonged to Jack  long before her ,and it was the *fishing buddy* who sent the postcard "genral delivery"  who was the one her husband really wanted.  "Jack Nasty" had her Ennis. Another  very sobering moment for her I think.
Title: Re: Sobering Moments
Post by: tpe on Jun 21, 2007, 06:30 AM
I've wondered if he had some idea about Jack, and Ennis's arrival confirms what he hadn't admitted to himself before - that he had a son who was gay. He seems to be in the grip of some sort of repressed rage all the time Ennis is there.

It did seem like repressed rage to me -- his glaring eyes, in particular.  It must have been a sobering moment for him too.

Title: Re: Sobering Moments
Post by: tpe on Jun 21, 2007, 06:34 AM
This totally true about OMT WW.! He's probably been carrying this *repressed rage* as you say, around  for a long time. ever since he suspected his son, even as a boy. Perhaps, this is the reason why Jack could never please him.
Jack , I suppose  never knew his father suspected him of being gay as a boy, but This is sometimes intuitive in parents. Jack kept trying to please his father first just as a son. The old man saw a gay son. It indeed must have been a sobering moment for him. I agree, Ennis's arrival was a confrimation of his son's homosexuality. A part of Jack which OMT can never accept, thus Jack's inability to ever please him all those years. MO.

Interesting thought, aintfoolin.  I also harbor the thought of John Twist suspecting somehow that his son was different, and a disappointment, perhaps.  I think what made the meeting with Ennis significant was that he suspected all along that this was the person his son honored and loved -- perhaps more than his father.

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Another sobering moment is for Alma. When Ennis returned home from the motel with Jack she looked like she had been up all night. What she had seen must have stayed with her. Then here comes Ennis, packing to spend days more with Jack. She goes to the window, looks out and see that Jack is still there .and Ennis was leaving with him again.  She immediatley starts trying to get Ennis to stay with her but Ennis did'nt budge. He had answers for all her *worries* and she knew why. .  He's from Texas", "That boss owes me time off"   etc...  To watch Ennis drive off with Jack was probably a double confirmation that her husband 's heart belonged to Jack  long before her ,and it was the *fishing buddy* who sent the postcard "genral delivery"  who was the one her husband really wanted.  "Jack Nasty" had her Ennis. Another  very sobering moment for her I think.


Agreed.  She asked exploratory questions and got no comfort.  Everything was probably confirmed in her mind in that scene.

Title: Re: Sobering Moments
Post by: welshwitch on Jun 21, 2007, 02:31 PM
And then she was left on her own for several days to think over the significance of what she'd seen - the reunion kiss, the evident tension between Jack, Ennis and herself when Jack was introduced to her, Jack's staying outside the next morning  when the natural thing would have been to come in, Ennis's incredible haste to get away, missing work, which he almost never did. This must have shown her a totally different side of her husband. I wonder if she ever felt the same about him after this?
Title: Re: Sobering Moments
Post by: tpe on Jun 22, 2007, 07:18 AM
And then she was left on her own for several days to think over the significance of what she'd seen - the reunion kiss, the evident tension between Jack, Ennis and herself when Jack was introduced to her, Jack's staying outside the next morning  when the natural thing would have been to come in, Ennis's incredible haste to get away, missing work, which he almost never did. This must have shown her a totally different side of her husband. I wonder if she ever felt the same about him after this?

Your comment here reminds me of Alma's first "sobering moment" about Ennis: the July 4 scene.

She was absolutely surprised at Ennis's anger.  It probably frightened her -- having never really seen this side of her husband.  It spoke of pent-up anger.  What was the souce of all this anger?   She must have wondered...

Did she make a connection later between this and the reunion?

Title: Re: Sobering Moments
Post by: aintfoolin on Jun 22, 2007, 08:25 AM
And then she was left on her own for several days to think over the significance of what she'd seen - the reunion kiss, the evident tension between Jack, Ennis and herself when Jack was introduced to her, Jack's staying outside the next morning  when the natural thing would have been to come in, Ennis's incredible haste to get away, missing work, which he almost never did. This must have shown her a totally different side of her husband. I wonder if she ever felt the same about him after this?

I doubt it. . She had to realize that her whol life was a farce, totally blindsided by it. She  also had ywo girls to think about. I feel after this she became much more open to Monroe's interest in her.                 
Title: Re: Sobering Moments
Post by: aintfoolin on Jul 01, 2007, 03:36 PM
 I see another sobering moment when Aguirre informs Jack that he saw them doing * the business* on Brokeback. This had to be very sobering for Jack, judging from his reaction to this news. Perhaps he feared Aguirre would tell others what he saw. Maybe this is why he never told Ennis about this. Probably thought this would definitly spook the hell out of Ennis huh?
Title: Re: Sobering Moments
Post by: chameau on Jul 01, 2007, 06:00 PM
I see another sobering moment when Aguirre informs Jack that he saw them doing * the business* on Brokeback. This had to be very sobering for Jack, judging from his reaction to this news. Perhaps he feared Aguirre would tell others what he saw. Maybe this is why he never told Ennis about this. Probably thought this would definitly spook the hell out of Ennis huh?

In the movie he didn't told Ennis but he told him in the short story, one of the rare excerpt from the short story that wasn't kept in the screenplay.
Title: Re: Sobering Moments
Post by: tpe on Jul 02, 2007, 08:38 AM
I doubt it. . She had to realize that her whol life was a farce, totally blindsided by it. She  also had ywo girls to think about. I feel after this she became much more open to Monroe's interest in her.                 

I agree.  I think this is what hit her when she saw them kiss -- the realization that she had been living a lie.

And yes, I think this is what made her vulnerable to Monroe's interest in her.    She wanted a way out, deep inside of her, even if she tried to keep appearances for may years after this sobering moment.

Title: Re: Sobering Moments
Post by: aintfoolin on Jul 15, 2007, 12:36 AM
Your comment here reminds me of Alma's first "sobering moment" about Ennis: the July 4 scene.

She was absolutely surprised at Ennis's anger.  It probably frightened her -- having never really seen this side of her husband.  It spoke of pent-up anger.  What was the souce of all this anger?   She must have wondered...

Did she make a connection later between this and the reunion?



I feel it was the bikers,  who unbeknownst to them were questioning Ennis's manhood with the vulgar comments and suggestions . Alma appeared shocked and afraid , and perhaps she put two and two together later on with what they were saying concerning  ennis's  manhood.  but what they were saying got too  personal to Ennis besides these ignoramuses were being downright disrespectful to him and his family and others.

To Ennis these could be the * tire iron* people if they Knew of him a Jack. He was defending his family as well as he and Jack's relationship. Alma suggests that  they just move  somewhere else, but they kept it up, especially after Ennis made himself a target when he asked them to stop. An under-lying thought of he and Jack being harmed  by this *type* may account for his ...ahem , ass-kickin seminar.

Title: Re: Sobering Moments
Post by: aintfoolin on Jul 15, 2007, 01:41 AM
Since my first viewing, I have thought that Ennis would someday come back to visit.  There is something in Mrs. Twist's face when she tells him to come back that is compelling.  She's not just mouthing empty words, but has a deeper meaning.  I think Ennis would have picked up on that and would have accommodated her by returning someday.  Again, the look is subtle -- not a pleading look, but just a glance of itensity that raises her words to the level of need and truth.  Mom's face is marvelous throughout this whole scene.  She says more with just a stoic set to her face than words could ever express. She is used to keeping her feelings inside.  God knows, she wouldn't have been welcome to share them with the old man.  So, when Ennis comes, she has a lot to tell him, but, since she can't speak freely, she has to communicate with him through nonverbals, which she does SOOOOOOO very well. The offer of cherry cake is, I believe, a ploy to keep ENnis there longer.  She revels in his presence -- someone who knew and loved Jack for what he was. She had the paper bag ready when he came downstairs, knowing full well he would be bringing the shirts with him.  This made her so happy.  Oh, I have to quit this post -- can't type through the tears.

I love this post. The expression in Mrs. Twist's face in this scene is perfection . Without words she expressed  exactly what she wanted to say to Ennis.

 Do you think that her saying " I kept his room the way it when he was a boy". "A boy " meaning to her 19 years old son?  The time period when Jack first brought the shirts home after, The summer of Brokeback?  A clue for Ennis to please go up to Jack's room and look around . " I think he would appreciate that" = *Jack wants you to find something up there*prompting and nudging Ennis's shoulder to go up. Ennis got it but he had no idea what he would find hanging in Jack's closet.
 
When he came down with the shirts, Ennis knew she knew more about her son's relationship with him and they acknowleged the facts of this commom knowledge to each other.  Ennis loves Jack and of course Jack loved  Ennis and left the shirts in order  to leave no doubts about it in Ennis's mind about it. Ennis left without the ashes, but he had a most precious gift of love. a sobering  Mission accomplished. IMHO
Title: Re: Sobering Moments
Post by: manhattangirl on Jul 15, 2007, 09:16 AM
You  get that sense, that feeling at the very beginning when Mrs. Twist steps out the house to meet Ennis.   She knew who he was, and what he was to Jack, and met him, not waiting for him to come to the door, or waiting for the knock, but meets him as someone important that comes to visit you at your home.

Even when Old Man Twist makes mentioned of Randall, she knew better, and told Ennis he was welcome to go to Jack's room.  There were two emotions at work in this one scene, deep love and bitter disappointment, a battle for the memory of Jack between mother and father expressing distinctly how they felt about their son, to  someone both knew was his lover.     

Ennis got the sense of both people, this was Jack's world, something I don't think he ever really understood, or thought much about, not the way Jack understood him.   

Jack didn't come to manhood with a "Rich or Earl"  looming in the back of his mind, Jack grew up torn between the two people who raised him.   Caught between brutality and love, with Jack choosing love and seeking it, and wanting it and giving it all to Ennis.   When Ennis found the shirts he was just beginning to understand his long time lover,   for these shirts was from the first summer, not after the reunion, but from the very beginning, Jack loved him then, and loved him till his death.   And through it all Mrs. Twist knew and honored it. 

Ennis had to feel a sense of relief, that someone knew and took pity on him. 
Title: Re: Sobering Moments
Post by: orangetruck on Jul 15, 2007, 10:30 AM
You  get that sense, that feeling at the very beginning when Mrs. Twist steps out the house to meet Ennis.   She knew who he was, and what he was to Jack, and met him, not waiting for him to come to the door, or waiting for the knock, but meets him as someone important that comes to visit you at your home.

Even when Old Man Twist makes mentioned of Randall, she knew better, and told Ennis he was welcome to go to Jack's room.  There were two emotions at work in this one scene, deep love and bitter disappointment, a battle for the memory of Jack between mother and father expressing distinctly how they felt about their son, to  someone both knew was his lover.     

Ennis got the sense of both people, this was Jack's world, something I don't think he ever really understood, or thought much about, not the way Jack understood him.   

Jack didn't come to manhood with a "Rich or Earl"  looming in the back of his mind, Jack grew up torn between the two people who raised him.   Caught between brutality and love, with Jack choosing love and seeking it, and wanting it and giving it all to Ennis.   When Ennis found the shirts he was just beginning to understand his long time lover,   for these shirts was from the first summer, not after the reunion, but from the very beginning, Jack loved him then, and loved him till his death.   And through it all Mrs. Twist knew and honored it. 

Ennis had to feel a sense of relief, that someone knew and took pity on him. 

Very nicely put  :c)
Title: Re: Sobering Moments
Post by: aintfoolin on Jul 15, 2007, 11:03 AM
Absolutly MG, This  is beautifully stated. " The battle for the memory of Jack" from both parents. Indeed it was a battle of influence from  both parents. This  is enlightening as I've never looked at it this way !
 
OMT Twist seems insistent on inflicting more pain on Ennis while Mrs. Twist provides comfort and understanding. Certainly Mom had the advantage here for she appealed to Ennis's sense of wanting to do right by Jack and knew about the shirts upstairs and exactly who they were for, what they meant.

Ennis did have a relieved look on his face, nodding in unspoken appreciation to her as he donned his hat and stepped out the door and she did the same.  Agreed readily to Mr. Twist's insistence that Jack's ashes were staying with them in the family plot but he knew he was'nt leaving empty-handed ,for in a simple  brown paper bag he held everything he needed to survve now. Thanks to Jack's loving early insight , a sense of victory over adversity was felt by the three of them in this sobering moment.  Even in death , Jack's love inspired all three with hope again in different ways. Fascinating.
Title: Re: Sobering Moments
Post by: welshwitch on Jul 15, 2007, 12:59 PM
Preceded by that awful moment when John Twist says of Jack's ashes, "We've got a family plot and he's going in it." Ennis knows then there's no hope of of doing as Jack wanted; half his ashes are in Texas and half will by buried " on the grieving plain" - but at least he has the shirts, the significance of which appears to be completely hidden from Jack's father.
Title: Re: Sobering Moments
Post by: orangetruck on Jul 15, 2007, 03:49 PM
For me another sobering moment is the fact of the shirts mentioned:

The ashes were in 2 different places in the country, not for Ennis. What Ennis does have is the Shirts in probably the most wicked familiar place known to him - the closet.
Obviously having the shirts states many emotions, but also I find it symbolizes something, other than love, Ennis can now grip. And that is the feeling that he, like the shirts now, had been dead inside. He may now understand the stoicism that he was made of having not loved the way he'd been taught not to. The beauty and pain of having found and lost Jack's (true) love was a token which now resides in his literal closet providing reflection of everything that makes him (a man) who he is to the second.
He once lived there, but now there's only room for the shirts. I know damn well on my emotional connection and response to the movie alone that it's very sobering for him to have to constantly !@#$ rent each day to the glowing, bursting, violently pulsating underlying messages to the contents of the closet. He now has the option to step aside and feel it.
Maybe with this, on some days, he follows the rare and specific string of having been entirely in this world alone but took for granted the 20 years he was not. Hard to swallow something alla sudden when it's already gone.
"I wish I didn't know now what I didn't know then"
But then... he chose to put the shirts there.
And then, for redundancy, I think the lord had 2 options with Ennis at this point:
See that he makes use of the shirts or kill him.
Title: Re: Sobering Moments
Post by: tpe on Jul 16, 2007, 07:42 AM
Thanks everyone for the thought-provoking posts this weekend.


May I venture to suggest another sobering moment: for Alma Jr., i t was when Ennis discouraged her to live with him.

I think at this point, Alma Jr. realized that there will always be a part of his father that is off-limits to her.  I think this was part of the reason why she didn't see Ennis for a while after Jack died.  She recognized that there was something in her father that evwen she would never be a part of. 
Title: Re: Sobering Moments
Post by: welshwitch on Jul 17, 2007, 12:35 PM
That's part of starting to grow up, isn't it - to realise that your parents have a life that's not accessible to you. It seems likely that Bobby would have learned this too -as he grew up he must have been aware of the "fishing trips" and most kids would ahve asked what they entailed, where dad was going, whether they could come too....
Title: Re: Sobering Moments
Post by: tpe on Jul 17, 2007, 03:29 PM
That's part of starting to grow up, isn't it - to realise that your parents have a life that's not accessible to you. It seems likely that Bobby would have learned this too -as he grew up he must have been aware of the "fishing trips" and most kids would ahve asked what they entailed, where dad was going, whether they could come too....

Yes.  It probably hit Alma Jr. that her dad was not always going to be there for her. It must have been difficult at first to contemplate.  But I think like most of us, she became reconciled to this.

Title: Re: Sobering Moments
Post by: jackster on Jul 17, 2007, 06:08 PM
A sobering moment for old man Twist (OMT)
OMT doesn’t say a thing about Jack’s ashes until Ennis comes down from Jack’s room. When Ennis reappears he’s got something of Jack’s in his hands, as far as OMT knows it may just be one of Jack’s shirts (mother Twist probably knows better). Is it at this moment, when he (OMT) realizes for sure that there was a deep, intimate relationship between these two men, that he decides to not let Jack’s ashes go? As if he’s sayin’ to Ennis “You may have had my son’s love and now you got his shirt, but goddamn you, I’m keepin’ his ashes you SOB”. Was this OMTs sobering moment when he understands for sure the real value of the relationship and this is the way, the only way left to him, to strike back at Ennis and even at Jack’s mother who probably wanted to see Jack’s last wish (his ashes on Brokeback) come true. Makes me feel kind of warm to know that Ennis took this step of exposing his relationship to this bastard and that by doing so proved to him the true value of Jack and Jack’s love in such a way that the old man wanted to react but really had no other options but this little, petty holding back of a dead man’s ashes.
Title: Re: Sobering Moments
Post by: tpe on Jul 18, 2007, 07:28 AM
A sobering moment for old man Twist (OMT)
OMT doesn’t say a thing about Jack’s ashes until Ennis comes down from Jack’s room. When Ennis reappears he’s got something of Jack’s in his hands, as far as OMT knows it may just be one of Jack’s shirts (mother Twist probably knows better). Is it at this moment, when he (OMT) realizes for sure that there was a deep, intimate relationship between these two men, that he decides to not let Jack’s ashes go? As if he’s sayin’ to Ennis “You may have had my son’s love and now you got his shirt, but goddamn you, I’m keepin’ his ashes you SOB”. Was this OMTs sobering moment when he understands for sure the real value of the relationship and this is the way, the only way left to him, to strike back at Ennis and even at Jack’s mother who probably wanted to see Jack’s last wish (his ashes on Brokeback) come true. Makes me feel kind of warm to know that Ennis took this step of exposing his relationship to this bastard and that by doing so proved to him the true value of Jack and Jack’s love in such a way that the old man wanted to react but really had no other options but this little, petty holding back of a dead man’s ashes.


Great point jackster.  I think that OMT somehow FELT that there was some significance in the clothes he brought doen from jack's room -- but he couldn't put his finger on it, and his wife was too quick to agree to Ennis's having it.  Perhaps at that point, OMT felt he had to say something to put Ennis in his place, thinking that his clear refusal would put a damper on whatever satisfaction Ennis may have gotten on getting the shirts, and reassuring OMT himself that he was still in control.

Title: Re: Sobering Moments
Post by: welshwitch on Jul 18, 2007, 01:53 PM
He also clearly sees, maybe for the first time, that his wife hgas a life ( interior life at least) which he doesn't control and is not the doormat he took her for.
Title: Re: Sobering Moments
Post by: aintfoolin on Jul 19, 2007, 05:06 AM
A sobering moment for old man Twist (OMT)
OMT doesn’t say a thing about Jack’s ashes until Ennis comes down from Jack’s room. When Ennis reappears he’s got something of Jack’s in his hands, as far as OMT knows it may just be one of Jack’s shirts (mother Twist probably knows better). Is it at this moment, when he (OMT) realizes for sure that there was a deep, intimate relationship between these two men, that he decides to not let Jack’s ashes go? As if he’s sayin’ to Ennis “You may have had my son’s love and now you got his shirt, but goddamn you, I’m keepin’ his ashes you SOB”. Was this OMTs sobering moment when he understands for sure the real value of the relationship and this is the way, the only way left to him, to strike back at Ennis and even at Jack’s mother who probably wanted to see Jack’s last wish (his ashes on Brokeback) come true. Makes me feel kind of warm to know that Ennis took this step of exposing his relationship to this bastard and that by doing so proved to him the true value of Jack and Jack’s love in such a way that the old man wanted to react but really had no other options but this little, petty holding back of a dead man’s ashes.


Yes Jackser I agree it was a petty thing to do, but if this is true, then he's a heartless old SOB, but what if while Ennis was upstairs, OMT questioned Mrs. Twist about what was going on. Something like "what the hell you sendin him up to Jack's room for? Maybe they did'nt remain silent during this time.  Of course this is only speculation on my part.

Perhaps when Ennis came down with the shirts, Mrs. Twist had informed the old man that Jack wanted his friend to have a keepsake of Jack's or something to that affect?  And what if OMT had tried to stop Ennis from taking the shirts or anything else out of the house? Then what/ A tussle?
I don't think Mr. Twist dared to experience THAT %( >:D ;D sobering moment. Just a thought. Thanks
Title: Re: Sobering Moments
Post by: orangetruck on Jul 19, 2007, 06:30 AM
Yes Jackser I agree it was a petty thing to do, but if this is true, then he's a heartless old SOB, but what if while Ennis was upstairs, OMT questioned Mrs. Twist about what was going on. Something like "what the hell you sendin him up to Jack's room for? Maybe they did'nt remain silent during this time.  Of course this is only speculation on my part.

Perhaps when Ennis came down with the shirts, Mrs. Twist had informed the old man that Jack wanted his friend to have a keepsake of Jack's or something to that affect?  And what if OMT had tried to stop Ennis from taking the shirts or anything else out of the house? Then what/ A tussle?
I don't think Mr. Twist dared to experience THAT %( >:D ;D sobering moment. Just a thought. Thanks

lol  ;D

Hell, maybe the cherry cake OMT'd been eating had hidden sedatives in it, and he could only manage to sit like a lump at the table with an antagonizing constipated look on his face.

I sometimes feel an awkwardness with the age difference between Ennis and OMT there at the table, I think in comparison to the younger Ennis from that first Summer when he'd met Jack. What couldn't be neither avoided or dissolved at the Twists' table now was indeed the beauty that had surfaced those 20 years ago. There was a lot to be said from Ennis' frozenly expressive face at the table, and I wonder if part of what came to him was the idea that OMT's son was gone, was the same age, probably had sat adjacent him just like this. Maybe obvious, but I wonder if E was aware that he took Jack's place at the table briefly and also enscribed the reasons Jack had been the way he'd been, for the love that they both felt.
Ennis, by saying as little as he did, probably realized it was a useless effort to try and steer Jack's parents from the true feelings that connect(ed) him to Jack. Maybe he felt the redundancy taking place not only at the table but echoeing from the distances of his own life. This combined with his pulsating love (now lost) for Jack must have been a strikingly sobering moment for Ennis. Some honestly felt aftermath of vulnerability.
He may just as well have enscribed into the table with his pocket knife.

I wonder what, if any, feelings ripped through his guts when he envisioned the chance to come to the Twists' while Jack was still alive, to perhaps pick him up for fishing or to scope out decent spreads for the shackin' up.
 :-\\
Title: Re: Sobering Moments
Post by: tpe on Jul 19, 2007, 06:51 AM
Another sobering moment for Jack must have been his confrontation with Aguirre in the summer of 64.  IT was the equivalent of being outed, although there was no one else present.  This experience probably molded Jack into accepting who he was in the long run.   

For Ennis, and equivalent scene would have been the Thanksgiving confrontation with Alma -- but unlike Jack, it probably only made him hide deeper into his own shell.

Title: Re: Sobering Moments
Post by: aintfoolin on Jul 19, 2007, 07:03 AM
 I think just being there in their preasence had to have sort of a * spooky* feel. This place where Jack grew up and had spoken of so many times to Ennis. It had to affect Ennis tremendously. This is the place he and Jack were suppose to " whip into shape"  together he must have thought as he scoped out the place even before he went in. Then meeting Mrs. Twist , who seemed to have alot of Jack's qualities and virtues. Must have hit very close to home for Ennis.

I've too often wondered if Ennis ever thought what it may have been to visit LF while Jack was still alive. Especially now in light of Mrs. Twist's  and acceptance and treatment of him.

Has anyone noticed Mrs. Twist's wording when she said " you'll want a cup of coffee don't ya ? A piece of cherry cake? As if Jack has told her Ennis LIKES coffee and cake? Or am I wrong?

Tpe, yeah, these two instances had to make them think about who they really were also confirming that they were willing to fight for their honor when confronted by * outsiders*.
Title: Re: Sobering Moments
Post by: orangetruck on Jul 19, 2007, 07:25 AM
I think just being there in their preasence had to have sort of a * spooky* feel. This place where Jack grew up and had spoken of so many times to Ennis. It had to affect Ennis tremendously. This is the place he and Jack were suppose to " whip into shape"  together he must have thought as he scoped out the place even before he went in. Then meeting Mrs. Twist , who seemed to have alot of Jack's qualities and virtues. Must have hit very close to home for Ennis.

Yes. It's just enthralling to consider what constitutes for spooky here



Has anyone noticed Mrs. Twist's wording when she said " you'll want a cup of coffee don't ya ? A piece of cherry cake? As if Jack has told her Ennis LIKES coffee and cake? Or am I wrong?

Interesting. Just the other day I repeatedly played that line, but I was very much absorbing her expression and tone, specially at the end - her cryptic nod of the head and sincerity with "..of cherry cake." That was deep in its consciousness.



Thomas, I like the comparative outs. I agree, Ennis' version seemed to only add a scratch to his shell, sending his head back under its cover as his fists swung.
Title: Re: Sobering Moments
Post by: tpe on Jul 19, 2007, 09:14 AM
Thanks orangetruck.

As for aintfoolin's comment, I feel that the entire set of scenes in LF are spooky.  It was a somber and sobering moment for all three of them  -- especially because there is a fourth persona that is physically absent but who ties them all together: Jack.  You feel him in the romm, the toys, the clothes, the spooky handprint on the inside of the closet door frame.  And yes, you sense his presence in Mrs. Twist's offer of hospitality.  It is as if Jack prompts her from the shadows...

   
Title: Re: Sobering Moments
Post by: jackster on Jul 19, 2007, 10:29 AM
Thanks orangetruck.

. . . I feel that the entire set of scenes in LF are spooky. . . . It is as if Jack prompts her from the shadows...

Boy, how well said both of you orangetruck and thomas. I remember being so struck during my first viewing of the entire LF scene. The way Mrs. Twist beckons him in, into that WHITE house. Everything is white, like the whole thing is an apparition and Ennis is floating through it, this other world, Jack's old world. And then Ennis comes out the "other side" with this small piece of immortality, the shirts. Spooky is dead on.
Title: Re: Sobering Moments
Post by: orangetruck on Jul 19, 2007, 01:34 PM
Boy, how well said both of you orangetruck and thomas. I remember being so struck during my first viewing of the entire LF scene. The way Mrs. Twist beckons him in, into that WHITE house. Everything is white, like the whole thing is an apparition and Ennis is floating through it, this other world, Jack's old world. And then Ennis comes out the "other side" with this small piece of immortality, the shirts. Spooky is dead on.

Gorgeously painted rendition through word.
 ^f^
Title: Re: Sobering Moments
Post by: welshwitch on Jul 19, 2007, 02:15 PM
Isn't white the color of death in some cultures? And it associates with ghosts and shrouds. So the housein LF is like the afterlife, or a ghostly world - Ennis opens the door and moves back into reality but JT and his wife are left there with Jack's ashes.
Title: Re: Sobering Moments
Post by: aintfoolin on Jul 19, 2007, 02:59 PM
 Yes WW, It's almost akin to a private *wake* for them right there in the Twist kitchen. The white paint giving the place a *ghostly appearance. The cross contributes to the purity of this *wake* Jack's spirit is heavily felt throughout the scene, especially when Ennis goes up to Jack's room. Ennis finding the shirts is like finding Jack himself in the closet hiding, topping the whole thing off. Sobering moments indeed. Almost chilling.
Title: Re: Sobering Moments
Post by: lamusica on Jul 19, 2007, 03:38 PM
Sobering momenet for sure.  The symbolusm of the house being white, inside and out, is a nice touch.  In the ss, it is a very different kind of house and it's brown.  I wonder whose idea it was to make it white.  I always felt the white symbolized the sterility of Jack's upbringing -- no color, no life, little touch or love.
    I agree about feeling Jack is there throughout that whole sequence of scenes.  His essence is so present in many ways, including the little wooden horse he had whittled, the shirts intertwined, the room so bleak with such a withered view.  Surely Ennis felt that Jack was there with him!  Thus the tears and the "I love you" that many say they have heard when ENnis held the shirts to his face.
Title: Re: Sobering Moments
Post by: orangetruck on Jul 19, 2007, 03:41 PM
Sobering momenet for sure.  The symbolusm of the house being white, inside and out, is a nice touch.  In the ss, it is a very different kind of house and it's brown.  I wonder whose idea it was to make it white.  I always felt the white symbolized the sterility of Jack's upbringing -- no color, no life, little touch or love.
    I agree about feeling Jack is there throughout that whole sequence of scenes.  His essence is so present in many ways, including the little wooden horse he had whittled, the shirts intertwined, the room so bleak with such a withered view.  Surely Ennis felt that Jack was there with him!  Thus the tears and the "I love you" that many say they have heard when ENnis held the shirts to his face.

Oh so agreed.   :-\\

They are all pills hard to swallow.
Title: Re: Sobering Moments
Post by: tpe on Jul 19, 2007, 05:17 PM
There is a gothic flavor to the entire sequence of scenes in LF, which probably reinforces the sobering quality with respect to all the characters involved.  Especially in Jack's bedroom, you definitely get the feeling of Jack's disembodied presence.  In fact, it has been discussed that Ennis seems to have been beckoned into the closet.

Title: Re: Sobering Moments
Post by: orangetruck on Jul 19, 2007, 06:02 PM
There is a gothic flavor to the entire sequence of scenes in LF, which probably reinforces the sobering quality with respect to all the characters involved.  Especially in Jack's bedroom, you definitely get the feeling of Jack's disembodied presence.  In fact, it has been discussed that Ennis seems to have been beckoned into the closet.



Probably as well as he'd been beckoned out of it the 20 years before.

What an eerie homestead.  :i
Title: Re: Sobering Moments
Post by: tpe on Jul 20, 2007, 06:46 AM
Probably as well as he'd been beckoned out of it the 20 years before.

What an eerie homestead.  :i

At the heart of this entire sequence of scenes is of course one of Ennis's most sobering moments: the discovery of the shirts and the realization of just how much Jack loved him.

Title: Re: Sobering Moments
Post by: welshwitch on Jul 20, 2007, 01:35 PM
American Gothic - the painting, I mean - comes to my mind when I see the Twist home and Jack's father.
Title: Re: Sobering Moments
Post by: aintfoolin on Jul 20, 2007, 06:08 PM
 It also can be looked at as a contrast of both Dark sobering moments: Ennis's pain and sorrow vs Everthing light symbolized by the white paint everywhere : Jack's world, a world of enlightenment for Ennis.  This is a big step in the first place for Ennis to even show up there. Of all the people Jack must have encountered rodeoing, jobs, and Randall,  It was Ennis who showed up to claim Jack's ashes. This must've been very telling to both parents.  He did'nt know at the time of his decision to go, that Mrs. Twist knew that he was more than just a *fishing buddy*. This had to be a sobering moment for him when he was actually welcomed into her life by her in a loving acceptance of who he really was to her son. It is clearly seen when Ennis looks at her face as she prompts him to go upstairs.
 Ennis walked out of the darkness and into the light in this place, Jack's home ,by way of the shirts there.

 Another sobering moment to me is when Jack first comes face to face with Alma. He must of been a bundle of nervous curiosity, ( and obvious sexually, energetic anticipation., after that makeout with Ennis) but any way, She is Enni's wife,  made Ennis a father,This is the person who he has to vie with for Ennis. His  rival.  The person who stood in the way back in 1963 when Ennis walked a way from him, promised to her to marry. She changed the direction his relationship could have gone with Ennis. So this is Alma? ??? %&)
Title: Re: Sobering Moments
Post by: manhattangirl on Jul 20, 2007, 07:21 PM

 Another sobering moment to me is when Jack first comes face to face with Alma. He must of been a bundle of nervous curiosity, ( and obvious sexually, energetic anticipation., after that makeout with Ennis) but any way, She is Enni's wife,  made Ennis a father,This is the person who he has to vie with for Ennis. His  rival.  The person who stood in the way back in 1963 when Ennis walked a way from him, promised to her to marry. She changed the direction his relationship could have gone with Ennis. So this is Alma? ??? %&)

Jack's reaction to Ennis's kiss,  an unspoken cue for Jack to know nothings changed, he still belonged to Ennis, and Ennis made sure he got that message.  Jack could barely stand, or hold a conversation, he slump against the door sill, and but for a brief glance Ennis knew what he did to Jack.   

Alma sees her rival, helpless to stop it.  She watches what was her man walk out the door, and with "an nice to meet you ma'am" and the tip of his hat, her rival takes her man to his bed. 

When you watch that scene again look at Ennis, watch  how he looks at Jack, knowing he would get him alone, and finish what he started.  That sexual possessiveness rises up in him, and there was nothing to stop it.   Jack returns unleashed something in Ennis that lay dormant for four years.  And this is what clung Ennis to Jack.   He was the only one that could do this to him, and he wasn't going to give it up.  The sexual tension is thick enough to cut with a knife, but told in such a brief scene, you can feel it. 







Title: Re: Sobering Moments
Post by: jackster on Jul 20, 2007, 08:56 PM
The sexual tension is thick enough to cut with a knife, but told in such a brief scene, you can feel it. 


You bet manhattangirl! I love the brilliant way Annie described Jack’s fevered emotional state here in a way that it has to be so visibly apparent to Alma in this very sobering moment for her. Jack’s trembling with excitement over seeing Ennis . . .

His shaking hand grazed Ennis's hand, electrical current snapped between them. . . . . .

From the vibration of the floorboard on which they both stood Ennis could feel how hard Jack was shaking . . . .

"Please to meet you," said Jack, trembling like a run out horse.

Whew!! The years of pent-up emotion wanting to just explode out from him following this surprisingly passionate welcome by Ennis. What a great description and how marvelously translated into action on the big screen.
Title: Re: Sobering Moments
Post by: LuvJackNasty on Jul 20, 2007, 09:16 PM
I was just catching up on the posts here and the LF ones are beautiful and had me teary eyed. Wonderful posts everyone.
Title: Re: Sobering Moments
Post by: aintfoolin on Jul 20, 2007, 09:21 PM
 Yeah, they're both trying to keep it together. The description of the scene by the author stokes the imagination for what was to come later. (no pun intended) , but the mind has a way of going there. I'd love to have seen THAT sobering moment! (t) (t) (t) (t) (t) (t)
But Jack was holding up the wall and Ennis was grinning ear to ear. All they wanted to do is loose Alma, get somewhere alone, and do some  "drinkin $)  and  serious "talkin". :-X Profound ,but definitly NOT somber.
Title: Re: Sobering Moments
Post by: lamusica on Jul 20, 2007, 11:16 PM
Closely following the reunion scene is the motel scene with some very sobering moments of its own.  I think when Jack presses Ennis to make some sort of arrangements so they could either live together or be together on a more regular basis, Ennis rebuffs Jack once again and explains that it "ain't gonna be that way" because he has responsibilities.  He made his life and now he has to live it.  Jack had all these hopes built up inside, and when Ennis greeted him so warmly, Jack was sure Ennis had had a change of heart and was finally ready to make some sort of life with Jack.  Then Ennis goes and breaks Jack's heart all over by refusing to budge.  That had to be a sobering moment.  All Jack's plans just hit the dust once again.
Title: Re: Sobering Moments
Post by: manhattangirl on Jul 21, 2007, 07:29 AM
Closely following the reunion scene is the motel scene with some very sobering moments of its own.  I think when Jack presses Ennis to make some sort of arrangements so they could either live together or be together on a more regular basis, Ennis rebuffs Jack once again and explains that it "ain't gonna be that way" because he has responsibilities.  He made his life and now he has to live it.  Jack had all these hopes built up inside, and when Ennis greeted him so warmly, Jack was sure Ennis had had a change of heart and was finally ready to make some sort of life with Jack.  Then Ennis goes and breaks Jack's heart all over by refusing to budge.  That had to be a sobering moment.  All Jack's plans just hit the dust once again.

And in that space of time the  two Ennis emerges, never fused together until the end of Jack's life.  The Ennis totally and forever in love with Jack, needing, wanting him, and having him.  Never letting him go, and not be able to live without him.

Then the Ennis that was able to keep him away, denying the lover what he wanted,  a life with him.  Excuse after excuse of whys and the howcomes of not having a life.  Scheduling their meetings.   Controlling his own need so well, and so masterfully that he couldn't see his other life, his "straight life" slowly fading away to almost a  "nonexistent" existence. 

Why this was sobering moment we are witness to a man splitting himself in two in order to survive.  Self protection from the very thing he wanted and couldn't fight.  Being able to succumb to it then walk away from it.     

Title: Re: Sobering Moments
Post by: lamusica on Jul 21, 2007, 07:46 PM
Beautifully stated, manhattangirl.  That was a very sad sobering moment indeed.
Title: Re: Sobering Moments
Post by: tpe on Jul 23, 2007, 07:47 AM
American Gothic - the painting, I mean - comes to my mind when I see the Twist home and Jack's father.

It was supposedly one of the inspirations, no?

Title: Re: Sobering Moments
Post by: tpe on Jul 23, 2007, 07:51 AM
  Another sobering moment to me is when Jack first comes face to face with Alma. He must of been a bundle of nervous curiosity, ( and obvious sexually, energetic anticipation., after that makeout with Ennis) but any way, She is Enni's wife,  made Ennis a father,This is the person who he has to vie with for Ennis. His  rival.  The person who stood in the way back in 1963 when Ennis walked a way from him, promised to her to marry. She changed the direction his relationship could have gone with Ennis. So this is Alma? ??? %&)

This was the only time both of them met, no?  It was sobering to both of them.  To Alma, it was certainly sobering also, on account of what she just witnessed.

It can be contrasted with the scene years later when Ennis talked with Lureen over the phone.  This was a sobering moment for the two, although it was softened by the fact that it was all carried out over the phone.  The meeting of Jack and Alma was much more brief and silent -- understandable, because their very presence constrained each other to leave so many things unsaid.

 
Title: Re: Sobering Moments
Post by: tpe on Jul 23, 2007, 07:55 AM
Closely following the reunion scene is the motel scene with some very sobering moments of its own.  I think when Jack presses Ennis to make some sort of arrangements so they could either live together or be together on a more regular basis, Ennis rebuffs Jack once again and explains that it "ain't gonna be that way" because he has responsibilities.  He made his life and now he has to live it.  Jack had all these hopes built up inside, and when Ennis greeted him so warmly, Jack was sure Ennis had had a change of heart and was finally ready to make some sort of life with Jack.  Then Ennis goes and breaks Jack's heart all over by refusing to budge.  That had to be a sobering moment.  All Jack's plans just hit the dust once again.

It was sobering, especially close to the end when the questionwas asked "What are we going to do now?" There really was no good answer at that point, and Ennis skirts the issue by pleading the demands of his family.  Jack seemed to be strangely non-reactive: as if he had steeled himself to ignore any response at that point.

Title: Re: Sobering Moments
Post by: tpe on Jul 23, 2007, 07:56 AM
Beautifully stated, manhattangirl.  That was a very sad sobering moment indeed.

I agree. It was beautifully stated.
Title: Re: Sobering Moments
Post by: aintfoolin on Jul 25, 2007, 03:17 PM
And in that space of time the  two Ennis emerges, never fused together until the end of Jack's life.  The Ennis totally and forever in love with Jack, needing, wanting him, and having him.  Never letting him go, and not be able to live without him.

Then the Ennis that was able to keep him away, denying the lover what he wanted,  a life with him.  Excuse after excuse of whys and the howcomes of not having a life.  Scheduling their meetings.   Controlling his own need so well, and so masterfully that he couldn't see his other life, his "straight life" slowly fading away to almost a  "nonexistent" existence. 

Why this was sobering moment we are witness to a man splitting himself in two in order to survive.  Self protection from the very thing he wanted and couldn't fight.  Being able to succumb to it then walk away from it.     



Ennis's was a tortured soul indeed. This "duel" going on inside him fear and shame vs longing for a love he cannot freely express , and knowing that neither part of him can win this. A lose/lose situation for him. Can't live with it, can't live without it.

Here's another sobering (literally) moment for Ennis. FNIT. When  Ennis awakes and finds his hand on Jack. A WTF, then a realization that he was being prompted to do the deed with Jack. and he was'nt taking no for an answer!   He knew they liked each other alot but this was totally out of the blue for him.

I imagine that Ennis went through many sobering moments in a short time leading up to the act itself. ( " he wants me to do something" )  He could have opted for something other  than what he decided to partake in. I wonder what it was that made him go " all the way"  this first time, as opposed to maybe ....ahem.. just a mutual ..hand job.? He may have been a little drunk still but THIS sobering moment brought him back to reality real fast!. An " opportunity"  he could'nt refuse.
It was also a sobering moment for Jack when Ennis did go as far as he did with this. Sometimes, I think that Jack really did'nt expect it to go this far though he may have wanted it to.  After all it was he that unbuckeled his own belt, instead of Ennis's, leaving it up to Ennis to take the next step himself. Ennis took it from there.
 Did'nt have to take it this far, but he did. An unexpected  dream come true?  Maybe so. MHO.
Title: Re: Sobering Moments
Post by: orangetruck on Jul 25, 2007, 04:14 PM
Ennis's was a tortured soul indeed. This "duel" going on inside him fear and shame vs longing for a love he cannot freely express , and knowing that neither part of him can win this. A lose/lose situation for him. Can't live with it, can't live without it.

Here's another sobering (literally) moment for Ennis. FNIT. When  Ennis awakes and finds his hand on Jack. A WTF, then a realization that he was being prompted to do the deed with Jack. and he was'nt taking no for an answer!   He knew they liked each other alot but this was totally out of the blue for him.

I imagine that Ennis went through many sobering moments in a short time leading up to the act itself. ( " he wants me to do something" )  He could have opted for something other  than what he decided to partake in. I wonder what it was that made him go " all the way"  this first time, as opposed to maybe ....ahem.. just a mutual ..hand job.? He may have been a little drunk still but THIS sobering moment brought him back to reality real fast!. An " opportunity"  he could'nt refuse.
It was also a sobering moment for Jack when Ennis did go as far as he did with this. Sometimes, I think that Jack really did'nt expect it to go this far though he may have wanted it to.  After all it was he that unbuckeled his own belt, instead of Ennis's, leaving it up to Ennis to take the next step himself. Ennis took it from there.
 Did'nt have to take it this far, but he did. An unexpected  dream come true?  Maybe so. MHO.

Interesting this comes up. I think what made him go 'all the way' was the idea that none of it was 'kosher' in Ennis' mind to begin with. Just like in Ennis' general expression and demeanor, there wasn't any room to be creative or passionate. It was easiest probably to simply fill in the blank so to speak, in and out. We notice this was done rough and quick. Taking time to be sensual or to actually explore Jack would have probably equated Ennis shutting down before guns fired. No, Ennis needed to be thrown into this one like he'd been thrown into everything else in his life.
Naturally, however, I would have loved to see other forms of intimate contact, even just insinuated (i.e. handjob, oral). But then I think I would have been overly distracted, or that Ennis' character would not have vibrated with the same poignant fragility (had he been more sexually open) throughout the film.
I find myself searching for excuses though, to be honest. There is also just something primitive and satisfying about the idea of those two, alone, out there in the mountains with so much nature, exploring and taking in each other by means of all senses, namely scent and taste.
Of course, they did have 20 years for this..
Sobering moment still being: Ennis smelled Jack during his insurmountable emotional response (to love) to Jack during SNIT; He could not, as hard as he tried, smell Jack in his upstairs closet during that second century of loving him.
It's that 1-shot business.  ^*)
Title: Re: Sobering Moments
Post by: lamusica on Jul 25, 2007, 09:48 PM
Sometimes less is more.  As wonderful as the FNIT and SNIT and Motel scenes were, they were minimal.  They showed just enough that we all knew what was going down, but no one was overwhelmed with too much of a good thing.  Again, that's Annie's style.  She doesn't use three paragraphs to explain what one word will take care of.  So, in the movie, the few intimate scenes we are priviledged to see carry so much weight.  After all, we've been discussing them now for a year and a half, and, I imagine, we will be discussing them well into the future.  Everytime we see the movie or read the ss or script, some other possibility rears its head.  That's because Annie allows us this freedom through her minimalist writing to which Ang stayed true throughout the whole movie.  My imagination, like most of your's, has filled in the blanks many times in many different ways, and who's to say who's right or wrong.
Title: Re: Sobering Moments
Post by: manhattangirl on Jul 26, 2007, 12:31 AM
I don't know if any of you would agree with me.  The aggressiveness of sex and the tempered pace of making love had to be learned by both, there wasn't a "Dr. Ruth" around to guide them.     

The FNIT was instinct coming from somewhere deep inside, and the satisfaction of the need.  How did Jack know to grasp Ennis's hand, how did Ennis know to take Jack, and give his virginity to him?  Why did Jack egg Ennis on saying " come on, come on".

Was not IMO a drunken rage Ennis had against Jack, but something simmering inside for each other the need to be closer to each other,  physically closer.

SNIT totally aware of that need, wanting each other again, with no rush, no aggression, but giving over and giving in to it.  Loving it, this thing.     

What do they do now?  What do they call it?  All they really knew it was nobody's business but theirs. 
Title: Re: Sobering Moments
Post by: tpe on Jul 26, 2007, 07:13 AM
Interesting this comes up. I think what made him go 'all the way' was the idea that none of it was 'kosher' in Ennis' mind to begin with. Just like in Ennis' general expression and demeanor, there wasn't any room to be creative or passionate. It was easiest probably to simply fill in the blank so to speak, in and out. We notice this was done rough and quick. Taking time to be sensual or to actually explore Jack would have probably equated Ennis shutting down before guns fired. No, Ennis needed to be thrown into this one like he'd been thrown into everything else in his life.
Naturally, however, I would have loved to see other forms of intimate contact, even just insinuated (i.e. handjob, oral). But then I think I would have been overly distracted, or that Ennis' character would not have vibrated with the same poignant fragility (had he been more sexually open) throughout the film.
I find myself searching for excuses though, to be honest. There is also just something primitive and satisfying about the idea of those two, alone, out there in the mountains with so much nature, exploring and taking in each other by means of all senses, namely scent and taste.
Of course, they did have 20 years for this..
Sobering moment still being: Ennis smelled Jack during his insurmountable emotional response (to love) to Jack during SNIT; He could not, as hard as he tried, smell Jack in his upstairs closet during that second century of loving him.
It's that 1-shot business.  ^*)

I like your contrasting these 2 scenes via that visceral connection made by the sense of smell.  Indeed, by recalling the earlier scene (SNIT), we are drawn to that overpowering realization that Jack is gone in the closet scene -- when Ennis tries to smell Jack (in vain!) via the shirt, and realizes that much of the power that was BBM has gone with his beloved.

Title: Re: Sobering Moments
Post by: tpe on Jul 26, 2007, 07:16 AM
I don't know if any of you would agree with me.  The aggressiveness of sex and the tempered pace of making love had to be learned by both, there wasn't a "Dr. Ruth" around to guide them.     

The FNIT was instinct coming from somewhere deep inside, and the satisfaction of the need.  How did Jack know to grasp Ennis's hand, how did Ennis know to take Jack, and give his virginity to him?  Why did Jack egg Ennis on saying " come on, come on".

Was not IMO a drunken rage Ennis had against Jack, but something simmering inside for each other the need to be closer to each other,  physically closer.

SNIT totally aware of that need, wanting each other again, with no rush, no aggression, but giving over and giving in to it.  Loving it, this thing.     

What do they do now?  What do they call it?  All they really knew it was nobody's business but theirs. 

Well, I think I agree.  They had to know each other's boundaries -- how far the other is willing to go.  This is so apparent in the FNIT, where they were almost wrestling with each other -- trying to see how far they can go without overstepping the bounds seemingly defined by the other, even as they realize that for each step, there was no turning back.



Title: Re: Sobering Moments
Post by: tamlynn on Jul 26, 2007, 10:42 AM
A sobering moment for me was when Ennis talked about love in the final scene with his daughter and gave in to going to her wedding.  cooperating at last.  making someone happy at last.  After a lifetime of pushing people away who loved him.  Could this be because he was abandoned and pushed away as a child?  Absence of love was a way of life for him.  So, it was a big deal for him to step up to the plate and come forward to Jr.  It was so un-Ennis.
Title: Re: Sobering Moments
Post by: welshwitch on Jul 26, 2007, 01:34 PM
Yes, and it was also unlike Ennis to give up work/money for any reason other than to see Jack - now here he is doing it for his daughter, and again out of love.
Title: Re: Sobering Moments
Post by: tpe on Jul 26, 2007, 03:08 PM
A sobering moment for me was when Ennis talked about love in the final scene with his daughter and gave in to going to her wedding.  cooperating at last.  making someone happy at last.  After a lifetime of pushing people away who loved him.  Could this be because he was abandoned and pushed away as a child?  Absence of love was a way of life for him.  So, it was a big deal for him to step up to the plate and come forward to Jr.  It was so un-Ennis.

Ennis certainly must have surprised himself!   I agree, Ennis finally seemed to acknowledge that love is not something to take passively, or even ignore in the face of other demands in life.  If there was anything that Jack's death achieved, perhaps it gave Ennis some insight into the nature of love as risk.   
Title: Re: Sobering Moments
Post by: orangetruck on Jul 26, 2007, 09:30 PM
(the Hours represents this so well) I tend to believe that once something has entered one's history, it simply is delt with. It's not thrown away, it's either present or it's put into a dresser drawer so to speak; and those dresser drawers are open not always intentionally because we forget exactly where everything is tucked in. While looking for or acquiring certain emotions or memories we may uncover something significant. The love Jack'd left Ennis certainly isn't going to just vanish; this is like a ninja star in one of Ennis's drawers, so when it's found ... something happens.
Like that term "... oh my heart bleeds"... Ennis doesn't exactly have the leeway of letting it be, for Jack is a rather violent knock on the door of Ennis' heart, one that was never made to be ignored..
 I think Jr., had she been allowed to move into Ennis' place or not, is going to get good at arranging her dad's dresser in order to keep him as human (responsive to love) as she'd finally started seeing him.
Initially it won't seem it - but I reckon it's lucky for Ennis that J's star reflects more than Earl's crowbar.
Title: Re: Sobering Moments
Post by: tpe on Jul 27, 2007, 07:56 AM
(the Hours represents this so well) I tend to believe that once something has entered one's history, it simply is delt with. It's not thrown away, it's either present or it's put into a dresser drawer so to speak; and those dresser drawers are open not always intentionally because we forget exactly where everything is tucked in. While looking for or acquiring certain emotions or memories we may uncover something significant. The love Jack'd left Ennis certainly isn't going to just vanish; this is like a ninja star in one of Ennis's drawers, so when it's found ... something happens.
Like that term "... oh my heart bleeds"... Ennis doesn't exactly have the leeway of letting it be, for Jack is a rather violent knock on the door of Ennis' heart, one that was never made to be ignored..
 I think Jr., had she been allowed to move into Ennis' place or not, is going to get good at arranging her dad's dresser in order to keep him as human (responsive to love) as she'd finally started seeing him.
Initially it won't seem it - but I reckon it's lucky for Ennis that J's star reflects more than Earl's crowbar.

And I do believe that that Jack's love resurfaced during the exchange between Alma Jr. and Ennis at the end of the film.   It opened a drawer, so to speak, close to the core of Ennis's heart where Jack's love had always resided.  It was not just a sobering moment.  It was a moment of awakening, similar to the madeleine incident at the start of Proust's great work.  The mere mention of the phrase "He loves me" brought the reality home to Ennis -- that he was loved.  And that made all the difference.

Title: Re: Sobering Moments
Post by: orangetruck on Jul 27, 2007, 12:17 PM
And I do believe that that Jack's love resurfaced during the exchange between Alma Jr. and Ennis at the end of the film.   It opened a drawer, so to speak, close to the core of Ennis's heart where Jack's love had always resided.  It was not just a sobering moment.  It was a moment of awakening, similar to the madeleine incident at the start of Proust's great work.  The mere mention of the phrase "He loves me" brought the reality home to Ennis -- that he was loved.  And that made all the difference.



:) Yeah.
The Jr. and dad in trailer scene, to me, is poignant like the last confrontation one, the SNIT, etc. They were powerful turning points for the boys (namely lastly Ennis), however subtle or not..
Jr. answering that question was like an awakening, another powerful lesson but without Jack's coaching. It was very sobering for me to watch Ennis unable to stifle the emotions being cast out of the window of the trailer perhaps in some dire response to not just Alma Jr. but Ennis' own inexperience of losing something he felt for. He was clearly drawing straws as he spoke to Jr. from the corner of his sun lit face.
Jr. being about the same age now as Ennis had been when Jack had come into his life. Seeing his daughter in 'naive' love must hit Ennis so ironically hard and all at once. Not only does hearing Jr. answer Ennis when he asked ".. He loves you?" touch Ennis, but hearing himself finally ask this question while having never done so for himself when, as he knows now, it had been so damn applicable years back was, I believe, very spiritually stimulating. Ennis and stoic no longer share the same definition.
A little something about how he folds and smells Jr.'s sweater before putting it in his closet above (as opposed to the dead below? Nevermind that eerie idea, just thinking out loud) Jack's protected shirt:
It must have been sobering or maybe just noticable for Ennis to, say, realize he could have worked much better with having been given the lesson of Jr.'s shirt before that of Jack's.
He holds onto Alma Jr.'s shirt, having crossed over to her language of love. But he wouldn't cross that bridge with Jack and, now, putting the sweater up temporarily probably provides grousome contrast between love and its absense; fear itself made Ennis susceptible to learning the hard way.
But now I think he can feel the words come out of his soul when he insists:
If you can't fix it, you got to stand it.
Title: Re: Sobering Moments
Post by: welshwitch on Jul 28, 2007, 12:20 PM
It must jar Ennis when he realises that Alma Jr is the same age as he was when he met Jack but because she's doing the conventional thing she can talk about being in love, plan her wedding, speak about here intended husband, all the things Ennis was never able to do. At thispoint Ennismust be 40 but one tends to see him as nmuch older, someone whose life has become a long process of getting through the lonely years  to come.

 *o) Incidentlally, I wonder how people of Jack's and Ennis's period would have reacted to the way things have changed? Here at least we have civil parnerships and remarks like the one in a newspaper interview with Tom Ford this morning - it's a series where people in the news are asked the same set of questions. To where was his favorite place to eat he replied, "In bed, having a Chinese takeout with " then the name of his partner. Then the interview moved on.   
Title: Re: Sobering Moments
Post by: lamusica on Jul 28, 2007, 09:39 PM
You bring up a real good point -- one that makes you think.  I, too, wonder what Ennis and Jack would do if they found themselves in love etoday.  Things really have not changed in Wyoming or many other places in the US, especially in the rural areas and the wildwest.  I wonder if Ennis would have been any different that he was in 1963.  I think he still would have the shame his father instilled in him.  I can't see him openly admitting he was gay and openly having a relationship with another man.  Jack, though, might have moved to a more accepting area of the country and lived his life out of the closet, so to speak.  He was more willing to take chances and push the envelope.  This is  a good discussion point, ww.  I am interested in hearing other's view on this issue.
Title: Re: Sobering Moments
Post by: tpe on Jul 30, 2007, 08:04 AM
:) Yeah.
The Jr. and dad in trailer scene, to me, is poignant like the last confrontation one, the SNIT, etc. They were powerful turning points for the boys (namely lastly Ennis), however subtle or not..
Jr. answering that question was like an awakening, another powerful lesson but without Jack's coaching. It was very sobering for me to watch Ennis unable to stifle the emotions being cast out of the window of the trailer perhaps in some dire response to not just Alma Jr. but Ennis' own inexperience of losing something he felt for. He was clearly drawing straws as he spoke to Jr. from the corner of his sun lit face.
Jr. being about the same age now as Ennis had been when Jack had come into his life. Seeing his daughter in 'naive' love must hit Ennis so ironically hard and all at once. Not only does hearing Jr. answer Ennis when he asked ".. He loves you?" touch Ennis, but hearing himself finally ask this question while having never done so for himself when, as he knows now, it had been so damn applicable years back was, I believe, very spiritually stimulating. Ennis and stoic no longer share the same definition.
A little something about how he folds and smells Jr.'s sweater before putting it in his closet above (as opposed to the dead below? Nevermind that eerie idea, just thinking out loud) Jack's protected shirt:
It must have been sobering or maybe just noticable for Ennis to, say, realize he could have worked much better with having been given the lesson of Jr.'s shirt before that of Jack's.
He holds onto Alma Jr.'s shirt, having crossed over to her language of love. But he wouldn't cross that bridge with Jack and, now, putting the sweater up temporarily probably provides grousome contrast between love and its absense; fear itself made Ennis susceptible to learning the hard way.
But now I think he can feel the words come out of his soul when he insists:
If you can't fix it, you got to stand it.

I had thought that that moment was a moment of satori[/b] for Ennis.  It came as a thunderclap, so to speak. I guess it was made possible through the love of his daughter for the husband and the father. Love has a way of bringing to light what is deeply hidden in our own hearts.

Title: Re: Sobering Moments
Post by: tpe on Jul 30, 2007, 08:06 AM
It must jar Ennis when he realises that Alma Jr is the same age as he was when he met Jack but because she's doing the conventional thing she can talk about being in love, plan her wedding, speak about here intended husband, all the things Ennis was never able to do. At thispoint Ennismust be 40 but one tends to see him as nmuch older, someone whose life has become a long process of getting through the lonely years  to come.

 *o) Incidentlally, I wonder how people of Jack's and Ennis's period would have reacted to the way things have changed? Here at least we have civil parnerships and remarks like the one in a newspaper interview with Tom Ford this morning - it's a series where people in the news are asked the same set of questions. To where was his favorite place to eat he replied, "In bed, having a Chinese takeout with " then the name of his partner. Then the interview moved on.   

That is indeed interesting to note: that Ennis was at the same age when he also met the love of his life.  The poigniant detail is that back then, he was not able to express it outright.

Title: Re: Sobering Moments
Post by: tpe on Jul 30, 2007, 08:08 AM
You bring up a real good point -- one that makes you think.  I, too, wonder what Ennis and Jack would do if they found themselves in love etoday.  Things really have not changed in Wyoming or many other places in the US, especially in the rural areas and the wildwest.  I wonder if Ennis would have been any different that he was in 1963.  I think he still would have the shame his father instilled in him.  I can't see him openly admitting he was gay and openly having a relationship with another man.  Jack, though, might have moved to a more accepting area of the country and lived his life out of the closet, so to speak.  He was more willing to take chances and push the envelope.  This is  a good discussion point, ww.  I am interested in hearing other's view on this issue.

This may well be a separate topic, suitable for a new thread.  Suffice it to say that that are still many "Ennises" out there in this day and age.  So many people chose to remain cloaked in shadows.

 
Title: Re: Sobering Moments
Post by: aintfoolin on Aug 10, 2007, 04:19 PM
Another sobering moment seemed to be when Jack told Ennis that 42 sheep had been killed by lightening the previous summer Jack worked Brokeback. He must have thought " What the hell am I getting into here?" This could be very dangerous . That's ALOT of sheep! The mountain, in it's beautiful majesty held alot of dangers. Bears, snowstorms, hailstorms, lightening ,cliffs , isolation ,+ Aguirre was asking them to do something against the rules in the first place. At 19 , these were two brave young men, mature beyond their years concerning work ethic, especially when compared to today's breed of 19 year olds. MO.
Title: Re: Sobering Moments
Post by: tpe on Aug 13, 2007, 08:19 AM
Another sobering moment seemed to be when Jack told Ennis that 42 sheep had been killed by lightening the previous summer Jack worked Brokeback. He must have thought " What the hell am I getting into here?" This could be very dangerous . That's ALOT of sheep! The mountain, in it's beautiful majesty held alot of dangers. Bears, snowstorms, hailstorms, lightening ,cliffs , isolation ,+ Aguirre was asking them to do something against the rules in the first place. At 19 , these were two brave young men, mature beyond their years concerning work ethic, especially when compared to today's breed of 19 year olds. MO.

Somehow, Ennis's face in this scene is a mixture of incredulity and surprise.  Perhaps some concern? 

I think he did realize then that they would need to lean on each other while they were up on BBM.  And it would seem that he got the point that they would get very little sympathy from Aguirre.