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Title: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: ethan on May 10, 2006, 03:14 PM
This is the most heartbreaking scene for many of us. It got me tears every single time. Yes Jack and Ennis could have and should have a good life together. It breaks my heart just to type the words from Jack....   :'( :'(

"Tell you what, we could of had a good life together, a fu**in' real good life, had a place of our own. You wouldn't want it, Ennis, so what got now is Brokeback Mountain. Everything built on that. It's all we got, boy, fu**in' all, so I hope you know that if you don't never know the rest....."

What could Jack mean by the rest? Any thought?

The rest - how much love Jack was giving Ennis?
Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: dirtbiker on May 10, 2006, 03:23 PM
God I hope he doesn't mean his trysts in Mexico!
Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: tpe on May 10, 2006, 03:26 PM
He probably availed himself of male prostitutes, as he did in that scene in Mexico.

But I think this is really a reference to Randall.  Jack probably already had something going with his neighbor, and I am sure Jack was torn between his deep love for Ennis and a desire to have a shared life with somebody.



Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: ethan on May 10, 2006, 04:09 PM
Reference to Randall  :'(

No  :'( No Randall. Jack was definitely torn. Why couldn't Ennis understand?  :'( This is too frastrating.

Yes Ennis - you are no fun. But Jack didn't fall in love with fun. Sorry for rambling. My PBS just kicks in.

Thanks, tpe & dirtbiker.  :D

Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: tpe on May 10, 2006, 04:23 PM
Ethan, I do think when Jack said this, he was definitely echoing Ennis's words 'all them things I don't know...will get you killed if I come to know them'.  I guess Jack was pointing out that all those things Ennis did not know did not really matter. 

Everything was built on BBM.  It was ALL.  Their love endures so long as the Mountain itself endures with them.

On the surface, it sounded like a taunt -- this statement from Jack.  In a deeper sense, it was an affirmation of faith -- a faith in the endurance of their love -- a love that was founded on so little and yet endures all the same.

Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: Valandil Eluch on May 10, 2006, 04:26 PM
 :'( :'( :'( :'(
Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: stacp on May 10, 2006, 04:43 PM
You know, I have a completely different take on this line.  Jack says this right after he says that all they have is BBM.  Then he says "I hope you know this if you don't never know the rest."  To me Jack is saying, their relationship is based on the fantasy that was BBM.  They haven't moved beyond this "thing" they had on BBM.  Knowing the rest for Ennis, would mean realizing and accepting that they love each other and could have had a life together.  "The rest" to me is the equivalent of Ennis knowing and owning up to how much he loved Jack.  It's just my interpretation, though.  I see the interpretation of the posts, above, too.
Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: tpe on May 10, 2006, 04:52 PM
You know, I have a completely different take on this line.  Jack says this right after he says that all they have is BBM.  Then he says "I hope you know this if you don't never know the rest."  To me Jack is saying, their relationship is based on the fantasy that was BBM.  They haven't moved beyond this "thing" they had on BBM.  Knowing the rest for Ennis, would mean realizing and accepting that they love each other and could have had a life together.  "The rest" to me is the equivalent of Ennis knowing and owning up to how much he loved Jack.  It's just my interpretation, though.  I see the interpretation of the posts, above, too.

I too can see this.

The ambivalence is based on the words "so I hope you know that...".  Indeed, one can interpret this to mean that "this is the ONLY thing we have going after 20 years".  Then again, it can be read with reference to "...I hope you know this if you don't never know the rest."  to mean "I hope you know AT LEAST THIS in spite of not knowing anything else".

Like Jack's feelings, this entire speech has the richness and ambivalence born of true emotion: love, frustration, hate, and hope. 

Jack's hope was dying at this point, and he was clutching now on straws...  Whether or not his love was dying is the subject of another thread...

Thanks stacp.



Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: Sunflower79 on May 10, 2006, 05:37 PM
I think it could be a combination of everything..he was frustrated that they could have had this wonderful life together but it didnt happen. He also could have been meaning that he missed Ennis so much when they weren't together that he had to go seek male prostritution to fill as a void. He could be saying that he felt that all they had was Brokeback..and everything was centered around that fact.  :'( :'( I do agree his speech speaks of love, frustration, hate, disappointment, and a dream he once had lost..so sad.. :'( :'( maybe he was always saying that he loved Ennis so much it hurt too..
Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: karen1129 on May 10, 2006, 06:06 PM
You know, I have a completely different take on this line.  Jack says this right after he says that all they have is BBM.  Then he says "I hope you know this if you don't never know the rest."  To me Jack is saying, their relationship is based on the fantasy that was BBM.  They haven't moved beyond this "thing" they had on BBM.  Knowing the rest for Ennis, would mean realizing and accepting that they love each other and could have had a life together.  "The rest" to me is the equivalent of Ennis knowing and owning up to how much he loved Jack.  It's just my interpretation, though.  I see the interpretation of the posts, above, too.

You know, I honestly never put a whole lot of thought into Jack saying that.  This is all very interesting.
I think you are right.  They never moved beyond this "thing".  I think Jack accepted what it was, and
Lord knows he wanted to set up a ranch somewhere with Ennis, but I don't think Ennis ever got beyond
the belief that it was more then a "thing".  Until it was too late.
Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: shieldmaid on May 10, 2006, 07:12 PM
I think it could be a combination of everything..he was frustrated that they could have had this wonderful life together but it didnt happen. He also could have been meaning that he missed Ennis so much when they weren't together that he had to go seek male prostritution to fill as a void. He could be saying that he felt that all they had was Brokeback..and everything was centered around that fact.  :'( :'( I do agree his speech speaks of love, frustration, hate, disappointment, and a dream he once had lost..so sad.. :'( :'( maybe he was always saying that he loved Ennis so much it hurt too..

You put it beautifully, Sunflower79.  I think that Jack here is saying that he's at least going to make Ennis hear--if not acknowledge--that they lost out on the chance they had to make a good life together.  "The rest" to me means that Jack loves him, that nothing else in his life has mattered as much, and that he knows Ennis feels the same way, even though he knows Ennis wouldn't be able to tell him that.  :(
Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: Valandil Eluch on May 10, 2006, 08:53 PM
I did used my lunch wisely and pulled my copy of closed range and my laptop and my copy of the BBM DVD and went to a part of the cafeteria and watched that scene and reread the that part. And well on my personal thought Jack was on his ending, i mean he was at the border of desperation for almost 20 he had being working hard to get Ennis with him and to make a life but he is always unable to get that. he hides his desperation to Ennis and always shows him his happiness and like a glass of water, his anger, bitterness, and all he the feelings he have are getting bigger and bigger. He love Ennis and he hates him, he love him, he always did and will do, but he also hates him because thanks to his fears they can't go further than a couple of hight altitude F***s. and his anger grows bigger when he his plans for their next meeting were changed.

They both know what brokeback mountain mean to them, it was the place where their bodies fell under the spell of love and where they became one and doomed, i have said this many times before. but they were one soul and each time they were together they were sharing their happiness, but sometimes that is not enough. and that is what happens to jack, this is not enough for him and since he didn't want to loose Ennis he stand it. he is forced to not tell his feelings to Ennis he tries on many occasions but the fact that he don't know how would Ennis react doesn't let him. Ennis meant his world to him and G'd knows that he is more than willing to leave his wife and his kid to be with Ennis, he don't care about the world  and how they would judge him he don't care for money he just want Ennis.

Ennis is his sacred realm his soul  is only and only Jack knows that but Ennis doesn't, he don't know that Jack love him more than anything that only a minute with him is a paradise for jack and I'm gonna quote a part of the short story when they were at the motel "Come on Ennis, you just shot my airplane out a the sky---give me something a go on" he was aware that he wanted Ennis so badly.

"I hope you know that if you don't never know the rest...." What is the rest? it is not about Randall or the Mexican prostitutes it is about how they missed each other, how they deeply love and how their souls went to a higher state of unity that can't allow them to be appart, how he love him and how he wanted to tell him that. how much he wanted to be with him and spent his last days with him ( :'( :'( :'( :'() jack was telling in a hidden language I love you bastard why you don't want to be with me.  he was aware that Ennis was in denial of accepting his love toward him and he wanted to make him wake up of that state. this words hit him and were the ones that caused him to cry it was  truth Ennis understood it but too late.....
Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: ethan on May 10, 2006, 09:19 PM
"I hope you know that if you don't never know the rest...." What is the rest? it is not about Randall or the Mexican prostitutes it is about how they missed each other, how they deeply love and how their souls went to a higher state of unity that can't allow them to be appart, how he love him and how he wanted to tell him that. how much he wanted to be with him and spent his last days with him ( :'( :'( :'( :'() jack was telling in a hidden language I love you bastard why you don't want to be with me.  he was aware that Ennis was in denial of accepting his love toward him and he wanted to make him wake up of that state. this words hit him and were the ones that caused him to cry it was  truth Ennis understood it but too late.....

Carlos, you hit it. Reading your post along with my mental images of the scence -- just made my eyes teary.

Jack loved Ennis so much to the point that he had to set him free.

Ennis didn't know the rest until the shirts.   :'( :'( :'( :'( Thank you Carlos for your wonderful post.
Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: Valandil Eluch on May 10, 2006, 09:28 PM
"I hope you know that if you don't never know the rest...." What is the rest? it is not about Randall or the Mexican prostitutes it is about how they missed each other, how they deeply love and how their souls went to a higher state of unity that can't allow them to be appart, how he love him and how he wanted to tell him that. how much he wanted to be with him and spent his last days with him ( :'( :'( :'( :'() jack was telling in a hidden language I love you bastard why you don't want to be with me.  he was aware that Ennis was in denial of accepting his love toward him and he wanted to make him wake up of that state. this words hit him and were the ones that caused him to cry it was  truth Ennis understood it but too late.....

Carlos, you hit it. Reading your post along with my mental images of the scence -- just made my eyes teary.

Jack loved Ennis so much to the point that he had to set him free.

Ennis didn't know the rest until the shirts.   :'( :'( :'( :'( Thank you Carlos for your wonderful post.

Ethan  :'( :'( :'(  :'( :'( you are not the only one crying if i keep crying like this during work they would start thinking something is going on with me.
Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: chameau on May 10, 2006, 10:27 PM
Thank you Carlos  :'( :'( :'( :'(

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Jack loved Ennis so much to the point that he had to set him free.


Who is not going to bed now but gonna watch that scene with story to screenplay on his lap?

It's all your fault Carlos and Ethan if I'll be a mess at work tomorrow  :'(

Don't worry guys, I assume my decisions  ;)
Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: Patriot1 on May 10, 2006, 11:48 PM
Ennis is his sacred realm his soul  is only and only Jack knows that but Ennis doesn't, he don't know that Jack love him more than anything that only a minute with him is a paradise for jack and I'm gonna quote a part of the short story when they were at the motel "Come on Ennis, you just shot my airplane out a the sky---give me something a go on" he was aware that he wanted Ennis so badly.

"I hope you know that if you don't never know the rest...." What is the rest? it is not about Randall or the Mexican prostitutes it is about how they missed each other, how they deeply love and how their souls went to a higher state of unity that can't allow them to be appart, how he love him and how he wanted to tell him that. how much he wanted to be with him and spent his last days with him ( :'( :'( :'( :'() jack was telling in a hidden language I love you bastard why you don't want to be with me.  he was aware that Ennis was in denial of accepting his love toward him and he wanted to make him wake up of that state. this words hit him and were the ones that caused him to cry it was  truth Ennis understood it but too late.....

For as long as I have lived, I NEVER thought I would ever see the day a straight man would make me cry talking about a gay subject.  I come to this forum and not one, not two, but three straight men have managed to do just that.

Carlos, I don't know if your analysis of Jack's statement to Ennis is correct or not, but it sure sounded great to me.  All you said seemed to fit the situation perfectly.  How did you get so smart when it comes to gay men?

Thank you for a beautiful post Carlos.

Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: Kemmer on May 10, 2006, 11:58 PM
I can't accept that Jack was going to set Ennis free.  From the very start--the first reunion--Jack was ready to chuck everything in order to build a life with Ennis.  Jack had 20 years invested in Ennis; if Jack had ever had second thoughts about finding someone else, he would have done it long ago.  We need to try thinking in terms of 1963-83.  I was 19 in 1963, same as Jack and Ennis, and I would rather have died than admit I was a queer or had someone call me a queer.  And I was born and raised in California.
Jack didn't tell Ennis about Aguirre seeing them on the mountain to protect him; they were both always protecting each other.  But when Mexico came up, this was Jack's last strategy to force Ennis to admit the truth and finally commit to the rest of their lives together.
Jack had played around in Texas and Mexico, but never lost the love he had for Ennis.  Ennis lived in a self-imposed fishbowl and was going to have to be dragged kicking and screaming out of it if they were going to have a life together.

Jack may have planned to use Randall as his weapon of last resort.  If he had brought Randall back to the Twist ranch, he surely would have let Ennis know about it, and I'm sure that would have been the turning point.  If Ennis would have shown the slightest anger at the Jack/Randall arrangement, Randall would be history and forgotten by dinnertime.  Even though Ennis was wishy-washy about committment, he surely threatened to kill Jack if he ever found out about his playing around in Mexico or elsewhere.  That is what I think Jack had in mind by bringing Randall to the Twist's.

Jack was the other half of Ennis, and Ennis was the other half of Jack; I think that became a reality shortly after the first reunion.
Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: Patriot1 on May 11, 2006, 12:31 AM
Jack may have planned to use Randall as his weapon of last resort.  If he had brought Randall back to the Twist ranch, he surely would have let Ennis know about it, and I'm sure that would have been the turning point.  If Ennis would have shown the slightest anger at the Jack/Randall arrangement, Randall would be history and forgotten by dinnertime.  Even though Ennis was wishy-washy about committment, he surely threatened to kill Jack if he ever found out about his playing around in Mexico or elsewhere.  That is what I think Jack had in mind by bringing Randall to the Twist's.

Kremmer, unless I am misunderstanding you, I don't like the picture of Jack you have painted.  You are making Jack sound like a very uncaring person. Are you saying that Jack would let Randall divorce his wife, move to the Twist ranch and let Ennis know to get a reaction from Ennis?  And, if the reaction was jealousy Jack would then dump Randall, who no longer had a wife?  Did I understand your thoughts correctly?

Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: tpe on May 11, 2006, 06:57 AM
"I hope you know that if you don't never know the rest...." What is the rest? it is not about Randall or the Mexican prostitutes it is about how they missed each other, how they deeply love and how their souls went to a higher state of unity that can't allow them to be appart, how he love him and how he wanted to tell him that. how much he wanted to be with him and spent his last days with him ( :'( :'( :'( :'() jack was telling in a hidden language I love you bastard why you don't want to be with me.  he was aware that Ennis was in denial of accepting his love toward him and he wanted to make him wake up of that state. this words hit him and were the ones that caused him to cry it was  truth Ennis understood it but too late.....

Beautifully put.  I could never have said it any better than this.

Thanks Carlos_H82.


Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: tpe on May 11, 2006, 07:06 AM
I can't accept that Jack was going to set Ennis free.  From the very start--the first reunion--Jack was ready to chuck everything in order to build a life with Ennis.  Jack had 20 years invested in Ennis; if Jack had ever had second thoughts about finding someone else, he would have done it long ago.  We need to try thinking in terms of 1963-83.  I was 19 in 1963, same as Jack and Ennis, and I would rather have died than admit I was a queer or had someone call me a queer.  And I was born and raised in California.
Jack didn't tell Ennis about Aguirre seeing them on the mountain to protect him; they were both always protecting each other.  But when Mexico came up, this was Jack's last strategy to force Ennis to admit the truth and finally commit to the rest of their lives together.
Jack had played around in Texas and Mexico, but never lost the love he had for Ennis.  Ennis lived in a self-imposed fishbowl and was going to have to be dragged kicking and screaming out of it if they were going to have a life together.

Jack may have planned to use Randall as his weapon of last resort.  If he had brought Randall back to the Twist ranch, he surely would have let Ennis know about it, and I'm sure that would have been the turning point.  If Ennis would have shown the slightest anger at the Jack/Randall arrangement, Randall would be history and forgotten by dinnertime.  Even though Ennis was wishy-washy about committment, he surely threatened to kill Jack if he ever found out about his playing around in Mexico or elsewhere.  That is what I think Jack had in mind by bringing Randall to the Twist's.

Jack was the other half of Ennis, and Ennis was the other half of Jack; I think that became a reality shortly after the first reunion.

This thread is getting more and more deep.  Thanks Kemmer for sharing your opinion.

I do think there is no real contradition with what you believe in and the idea that Jack was setting Ennis free.  As I had mentioned in other posts, I do believe what dies in that last meeting was Jack's hope for a shared life with Ennis -- Jack's love for Ennis will never die.  In this sense, Jack was willing to let go of his dream and move one, secure in his love for Ennis.  It must have been painful for Jack to relinquish his dream, but he probably thought this was the only recourse that would save Ennis all the conflicted feelings and pain he revealed in that last meeting.

Your comment about Randall being a last recourse has indeed been raised in some other threads, and I do think it is also as plausible as any of the other explanations here.  Again, the many avenues we can take with just this one statement from Jack informs us of the incredible richness of both the movie and the story.

Thanks again.



Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: tpe on May 11, 2006, 07:09 AM
Jack may have planned to use Randall as his weapon of last resort.  If he had brought Randall back to the Twist ranch, he surely would have let Ennis know about it, and I'm sure that would have been the turning point.  If Ennis would have shown the slightest anger at the Jack/Randall arrangement, Randall would be history and forgotten by dinnertime.  Even though Ennis was wishy-washy about committment, he surely threatened to kill Jack if he ever found out about his playing around in Mexico or elsewhere.  That is what I think Jack had in mind by bringing Randall to the Twist's.

Kremmer, unless I am misunderstanding you, I don't like the picture of Jack you have painted.  You are making Jack sound like a very uncaring person. Are you saying that Jack would let Randall divorce his wife, move to the Twist ranch and let Ennis know to get a reaction from Ennis?  And, if the reaction was jealousy Jack would then dump Randall, who no longer had a wife?  Did I understand your thoughts correctly?

Hello Patriot1.  Yes, IMO, such as scenario does indeed put Jack in a bad light.  But I personally am intrigued of this possibility, as implied in my last post.  Your deduction is indeed a disturbing corollary to accepting this scenario as plausible...

Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: Patriot1 on May 11, 2006, 07:15 AM
Kremmer, unless I am misunderstanding you, I don't like the picture of Jack you have painted.  You are making Jack sound like a very uncaring person. Are you saying that Jack would let Randall divorce his wife, move to the Twist ranch and let Ennis know to get a reaction from Ennis?  And, if the reaction was jealousy Jack would then dump Randall, who no longer had a wife?  Did I understand your thoughts correctly?

Hello Patriot1.  Yes, IMO, such as scenario does indeed put Jack in a bad light.  But I personally am intrigued of this possibility, as implied in my last post.  Your deduction is indeed a disturbing corollary to accepting this scenario as plausible...
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Do you think Jack could ever do anything like that to anyone?

Jack is a good person. 
Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: donnaread on May 11, 2006, 07:18 AM
"Tell you what, we could of had a good life together, a f***in' real good life, had a place of our own. You wouldn't want it, Ennis, so what got now is Brokeback Mountain. Everything built on that. It's all we got, boy, f***in' all, so I hope you know that if you don't never know the rest....."

What could Jack mean by the rest? Any thought?

The rest - how much love Jack was giving Ennis?
I always thought it was a reference to what Ennis said about what goes on in Mexico, but your last line could be right "...how much love Jack was giving Ennis".  Ennis is ALWAYS hurting Jack, and just like a puppy that's been kicked, Jack comes right back for more.  Perhaps Jack means that Ennis doesn't even realize what Jack goes through to keep their relationship going...1400 miles trips two or three times a year, and never having the life Jack wants with Ennis.  Unfortunately Ennis only makes this sad realization after Jack is dead...when he finds out from Jack's dad that Jack always talked about Ennis to his parents, and of course when the found the shirts.  "Too late, then, by a long, long while"  He finally realizes how much Jack loved him.

Donna  :'(
Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: tpe on May 11, 2006, 07:20 AM
Kremmer, unless I am misunderstanding you, I don't like the picture of Jack you have painted.  You are making Jack sound like a very uncaring person. Are you saying that Jack would let Randall divorce his wife, move to the Twist ranch and let Ennis know to get a reaction from Ennis?  And, if the reaction was jealousy Jack would then dump Randall, who no longer had a wife?  Did I understand your thoughts correctly?

Hello Patriot1.  Yes, IMO, such as scenario does indeed put Jack in a bad light.  But I personally am intrigued of this possibility, as implied in my last post.  Your deduction is indeed a disturbing corollary to accepting this scenario as plausible...
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Do you think Jack could ever do anything like that to anyone?

Jack is a good person. 

Personally, I believe that Jack did let go as far as the dream of a shared life was concerned.  I interprest Jack's iinvolvement with Randall in this light: to set Ennis free and try to salvage something of his dream.  I expect that not everyone will share this opinion.

I do so love Jack.  It breaks my heart just to think of the alternative possibility.  I would not want to believe it.



Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: Valandil Eluch on May 11, 2006, 07:29 AM
Patriot, well i don't know how i know about gay men maybe observation? i'm really good on that but anyway i just said what i understand  from both the movie and the short story.

about jack planning this well, i do think jack is a good person but desperate people tend to do desperate things and well sometimes they do things that are actually away from their regular behavior. who knows but maybe as kemmer said Randall was his last ace to make ennis wake up but i don't think he was referring to that but it could be? yes IMO jack was desperate and with hope lost so those two little factors could influence anyone.

Jack is a good perso we know that but when someone is in love everything is permited. like Maquiavello said once "El fin justifica los medios"
Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: Kemmer on May 11, 2006, 07:36 AM
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Kremmer, unless I am misunderstanding you, I don't like the picture of Jack you have painted.  You are making Jack sound like a very uncaring person. Are you saying that Jack would let Randall divorce his wife, move to the Twist ranch and let Ennis know to get a reaction from Ennis?  And, if the reaction was jealousy Jack would then dump Randall, who no longer had a wife?  Did I understand your thoughts correctly?

Jack an uncaring person?  No; Jack was driven to desperation to have Ennis in the life he's always dreamt of---a life that would have made Ennis happy if somehow, something could have overcome his fears and dragged him into it.  I see Randall as a cypher.  Randal was obviously not in love with his wife; she was a marriage of convenience and against his nature just as Alma and Lureen were to Jack and Ennis.  Jack had already devoted 20 years of his life to Ennis, and I don't believe he would have hesitated to use Randal as a ruse to convince Ennis that it was at long last decision time.

Ennis and Jack had a history of two decades; Randall was a fling.  Nobody knows Randall's feelings in the matter.  Love for Jack?  Too soon.  His first real "natural" sexual relationship? Probably.  Notice that Jack's parents never heard from Randall after Jack's death.
Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: frances on May 11, 2006, 07:48 AM
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Kremmer, unless I am misunderstanding you, I don't like the picture of Jack you have painted.  You are making Jack sound like a very uncaring person. Are you saying that Jack would let Randall divorce his wife, move to the Twist ranch and let Ennis know to get a reaction from Ennis?  And, if the reaction was jealousy Jack would then dump Randall, who no longer had a wife?  Did I understand your thoughts correctly?

Jack an uncaring person?  No; Jack was driven to desperation to have Ennis in the life he's always dreamt of---a life that would have made Ennis happy if somehow, something could have overcome his fears and dragged him into it.  I see Randall as a cypher.  Randal was obviously not in love with his wife; she was a marriage of convenience and against his nature just as Alma and Lureen were to Jack and Ennis.  Jack had already devoted 20 years of his life to Ennis, and I don't believe he would have hesitated to use Randal as a ruse to convince Ennis that it was at long last decision time.

Ennis and Jack had a history of two decades; Randall was a fling.  Nobody knows Randall's feelings in the matter.  Love for Jack?  Too soon.  His first real "natural" sexual relationship? Probably.  Notice that Jack's parents never heard from Randall after Jack's death.

Randal a fling? Of course

Randal a ruse to convince Ennis? Don't know, actually

Maybe he represents for Jack the occasion, the way, the (useless?) try to move on, to quit Ennis, to have "somethin' he doesn't hardly never get"

Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: shieldmaid on May 11, 2006, 07:52 AM

Jack an uncaring person?  No; Jack was driven to desperation to have Ennis in the life he's always dreamt of---a life that would have made Ennis happy if somehow, something could have overcome his fears and dragged him into it.  I see Randall as a cypher.  Randal was obviously not in love with his wife; she was a marriage of convenience and against his nature just as Alma and Lureen were to Jack and Ennis.  Jack had already devoted 20 years of his life to Ennis, and I don't believe he would have hesitated to use Randal as a ruse to convince Ennis that it was at long last decision time.

Ennis and Jack had a history of two decades; Randall was a fling.  Nobody knows Randall's feelings in the matter.  Love for Jack?  Too soon.  His first real "natural" sexual relationship? Probably.  Notice that Jack's parents never heard from Randall after Jack's death.

Kemmer, I have to agree with you here.  People do change after 20 years; it's inevitable.  Naturally Jack feels at least a little bitter about his relationship with Ennis, which had the potential to become much richer and more rewarding than it did in reality.  It's not surprising to me that he would resort to manipulation to get a reaction out of Ennis.  If Ennis had responded to him with more openness, Jack would never have felt the need to seek out Randall's companionship at all.  I'm not saying that Jack gave up on Ennis--it's clear that his passion and commitment to him are still very strong.  But he is using the means available to him to get what he can out of his life--to get some response from Ennis, still his biggest priority.  And that's a great point about Randall--he never really has a voice in this story, so we have no way of knowing what he really felt about Jack, their relationship, its consequences, etc.

This section for me really highlights the tragedy of their relationship.  It's heartbreaking.  :(
Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: CrimsonSky on May 11, 2006, 07:55 AM
"Tell you what, we could of had a good life together, a f***in' real good life, had a place of our own. You wouldn't want it, Ennis, so what got now is Brokeback Mountain. Everything built on that. It's all we got, boy, f***in' all, so I hope you know that if you don't never know the rest....."

What could Jack mean by the rest? Any thought?

The rest - how much love Jack was giving Ennis?
I always thought it was a reference to what Ennis said about what goes on in Mexico, but your last line could be right "...how much love Jack was giving Ennis".  Ennis is ALWAYS hurting Jack, and just like a puppy that's been kicked, Jack comes right back for more.  Perhaps Jack means that Ennis doesn't even realize what Jack goes through to keep their relationship going...1400 miles trips two or three times a year, and never having the life Jack wants with Ennis.  Unfortunately Ennis only makes this sad realization after Jack is dead...when he finds out from Jack's dad that Jack always talked about Ennis to his parents, and of course when the found the shirts.  "Too late, then, by a long, long while"  He finally realizes how much Jack loved him.

Donna  :'(

I think it's a bit of both. When Jack says "I did once" to Ennis asking if Jack has a better idea, Ennis's reply "You did once" seems (to me anyway), kind of sarcastic, then he asks about Mexico. Ennis may well be gay, but he's also homophobic, and probably believes the stereotype about gay men being promiscuous and unable to be faithful, so his comeback to Jack, asking him about Mexico, could be saying that them living together would never have worked anyway because Jack would ineveitably have been unfaithful at some point. That angers Jack, because he only ever really wanted Ennis, but Ennis never even gave him a chance to prove it :(
 So to me, "the rest" means Mexico, Randall (and anyone else there might have been along the way), and it also means Jack's years of unfulfilled love and longing to be with Ennis :'( I think Jack is saying that "the rest" doesn't matter anyway, because it only happened because Ennis woudn't commit to him in the first place :(   
Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: coguaro on May 11, 2006, 08:08 AM
In my opinion the rest is every single think that Ennis renounced because of his fears! Jack is accusing Ennis because of failing their love and he tell that Ennis will never know what could mean to live a love in reality and not only in some rare occasions in the mountains.
Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: tpe on May 11, 2006, 08:36 AM
Jack is accusing Ennis because of failing their love and he tell that Ennis will never know what could mean to live a love in reality and not only in some rare occasions in the mountains.


Thanks coguaro.  This is true.  It hits very close to the heart of it all.

 
Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: keren_b on May 11, 2006, 10:47 AM
I also think, like others have said before me, that "the rest" is not just one spesific thing but a number of things. The way I understand it, Jack is saying "I hope you know that" - that all we have is Brokeback mountain and we have nothing beyond that, because you wouldn't commit to our love and you wouldn't come and live with me, so I hope you know that this situation is your fault, "if you don't never know the rest" - if you never know how much I love you, how much I need you, if you never know how much I miss you and how much it hurts, and how bad it gets, to the point that I seek relief in the arms of other men just because I can't be with you... There are a lot of things that Ennis doesn't know or realise until it's too late.
Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: MississaugaRed on May 11, 2006, 11:08 AM
I also think, like others have said before me, that "the rest" is not just one specific thing but a number of things.  .. snip ... There are a lot of things that Ennis doesn't know or realise until it's too late.
Keren, so true, everything that has been said here.  This one is very powerful, can't even begin to "sum up" the feelings that line of Jack's evokes; you've managed to articulate many of them ...  the turmoil inside Jack as he said this must have been incredibly painful to bear ... or to give voice to ...  :'(
Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: ethan on May 11, 2006, 01:54 PM
So many great thought. Thank you.

The rest - one little words with abundance of emotions as keren_b pointed out. We really have no idea how bad it gets inside Jack's heart when he said that to Ennis.
Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: edgar on May 11, 2006, 04:56 PM
I also think, like others have said before me, that "the rest" is not just one spesific thing but a number of things. The way I understand it, Jack is saying "I hope you know that" - that all we have is Brokeback mountain and we have nothing beyond that, because you wouldn't commit to our love and you wouldn't come and live with me, so I hope you know that this situation is your fault, "if you don't never know the rest" - if you never know how much I love you, how much I need you, if you never know how much I miss you and how much it hurts, and how bad it gets, to the point that I seek relief in the arms of other men just because I can't be with you... There are a lot of things that Ennis doesn't know or realise until it's too late.

Yes. Your post links the love, the pain, and the other men. That's it. :'(
Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: welshwitch on May 11, 2006, 05:11 PM
I thought " the rest" referred to Jack's feelings suffered - that he sensed that Ennis didn't fell as/as deeply as he did and given that there was no way he could ever see himslef getting through to Ennis and Ennis changing, it was as well if Ennis never came to experience the misery Jack had suffered. In other words I see the line as a manifestation of Jack's love. In the ss it's c;ear that Jack realises after this that nothing can or will change- that's followed by "Let be, let be." So I see him as hoping that Ennis will at least be spared the agonising realisation of what he's lost; the irony is, of course, that Ennis does realise it, but too late.
Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: NoReins on May 11, 2006, 05:26 PM
I also think, like others have said before me, that "the rest" is not just one spesific thing but a number of things. The way I understand it, Jack is saying "I hope you know that" - that all we have is Brokeback mountain and we have nothing beyond that, because you wouldn't commit to our love and you wouldn't come and live with me, so I hope you know that this situation is your fault, "if you don't never know the rest" - if you never know how much I love you, how much I need you, if you never know how much I miss you and how much it hurts, and how bad it gets, to the point that I seek relief in the arms of other men just because I can't be with you... There are a lot of things that Ennis doesn't know or realise until it's too late.

Jesus Keren - that's so beautifully put. You've got me choking up again :'( This bit...

if you never know how much I love you, how much I need you, if you never know how much I miss you and how much it hurts, and how bad it gets, to the point that I seek relief in the arms of other men just because I can't be with you... There are a lot of things that Ennis doesn't know or realise until it's too late

...is especially well said, and I totally agree with your take on it. And now I'll stop typing 'cos your words are a million times better than any I could use.

Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: LuvJackNasty on May 11, 2006, 05:36 PM
 I read this at lunchtime-yet another day of crying at my desk!  :'(
The rest is so many things to me- much of which has already been expressed so beautifully by everyone here.

The rest is the missed opportunities and a love squandered due to Ennis' fear and reluctance to accept the truth about himself and ultimately their relationship.
I can only imagine that each time Jack's suggestions were rebuffed that it killed Jack a little more each time and that it was like being hit with a tire iron emotionally.

The rest is the love Jack has for Ennis and him being fed up with only feeling truly alive when Ennis sees fit. Jack put his hopes and dreams on the backburner for 20 years. He is not able to express what is truly in his heart for fear that he would scare Ennis off. The sacrifices and concessions that Jack has made over the years to keep the relationship going. That Jack would have given up everything for a life with Ennis

The rest is that Ennis will only be with Jack hidden away- Jack feeling Ennis is ashamed of him and the truth about what he represents in his life.

"What we got now is BBM"- all we have is what could have been- everything is built on trying to recapture that perfect summer of 1963. The rest: "I've been doing everything in my power to keep that alive and you've thrown up roadblocks every step of the way. But no matter how many times you've rejected me, I could never stop loving you." "But you didn't want it Ennis"- You didn't want to accept the truth. You didn't want it to be me."

Ennis could no longer deny "the rest" when he found those shirts.   



Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: karen1129 on May 11, 2006, 06:30 PM
I read this at lunchtime-yet another day of crying at my desk!  :'(
The rest is so many things to me- much of which has already been expressed so beautifully by everyone here.

The rest is the missed opportunities and a love squandered due to Ennis' fear and reluctance to accept the truth about himself and ultimately their relationship.
I can only imagine that each time Jack's suggestions were rebuffed that it killed Jack a little more each time and that it was like being hit with a tire iron emotionally.

The rest is the love Jack has for Ennis and him being fed up with only feeling truly alive when Ennis sees fit. Jack put his hopes and dreams on the backburner for 20 years. He is not able to express what is truly in his heart for fear that he would scare Ennis off. The sacrifices and concessions that Jack has made over the years to keep the relationship going. That Jack would have given up everything for a life with Ennis

The rest is that Ennis will only be with Jack hidden away- Jack feeling Ennis is ashamed of him and the truth about what he represents in his life.

"What we got now is BBM"- all we have is what could have been- everything is built on trying to recapture that perfect summer of 1963. The rest: "I've been doing everything in my power to keep that alive and you've thrown up roadblocks every step of the way. But no matter how many times you've rejected me, I could never stop loving you." "But you didn't want it Ennis"- You didn't want to accept the truth. You didn't want it to be me."

Ennis could no longer deny "the rest" when he found those shirts.   





Amen.  Very well put !  Can you imagine how Jack felt each time Ennis put up roadblocks? 
Poor Ennis...."you know I ain't queer".  It was this "thing". Denial denial, denial.
I don't know if I could have hung in for 20 years ! 
God, I love these two characters !!
 
Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: City Slickin' Cowboy on May 11, 2006, 06:44 PM
Ennis could no longer deny "the rest" when he found those shirts.   

I was ok until this statement :'( :'( :'(
Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: Kemmer on May 11, 2006, 06:52 PM
[quoteThe rest is the love Jack has for Ennis and him being fed up with only feeling truly alive when Ennis sees fit. Jack put his hopes and dreams on the backburner for 20 years. He is not able to express what is truly in his heart for fear that he would scare Ennis off. The sacrifices and concessions that Jack has made over the years to keep the relationship going. That Jack would have given up everything for a life with Ennis
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Even though it's not in the original story, when Ennis, sobbing, tells Jack, "It's because a you Jack that I'm like this; I'm  nobody, nowhere!" , I can see in Ennis' convoluted/cramped vision of their relationship, that he's lived life on the edge ever since the first reunion.  Ennis has taken only fleeting and temporary, low-paying jobs which he could quit or take off at a moment's notice whenever an opportunity to be with Jack appeared.  He moved willingly into Riverton, into an apartment, so he could leave anytime; something he couldn't do on a ranch, leaving only Alma and the girls.  It seems to me Ennis sacrificed any and all financial security just to be ready to be with Jack on the Mountain.  Perhaps Ennis' way of showing "love" for Jack was clumsy and tunnel-visioned, but his utter devotion to Jack seems apparent to me.  The tragedy of the entire relationship was Ennis' deathly fear of being discovered, and his fear of relocating somewhere else out of Wyoming,  something Jack didn't care about overmuch.  The two dear, tragic men were never able to reconcile themselves to any sort of happy medium for a fulfilling life together.
Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: ethan on May 11, 2006, 06:53 PM
LuvJackNasty, you took the words of my mouth. Well said.

I think "the rest" has sparked many questions as we try to understand the relationship between Jack and Ennis.

Did Jack finally give up on Ennis? (http://www.ennisjack.com/index.php?topic=304.0)
Keeper of Fire (http://www.ennisjack.com/index.php?topic=823.0)

There is no doubt - love is there. Ennis - the island of the sea. For Jack, he has been floating in the sea alone. He saw an island not far away for him to land. He thought he is getting closer and closer each time to the island but only to know there is stiill some distance.
Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: LuvJackNasty on May 11, 2006, 07:55 PM

There is no doubt - love is there. Ennis - the island of the sea. For Jack, he has been floating in the sea alone. He saw an island not far away for him to land. He thought he is getting closer and closer each time to the island but only to know there is stiill some distance.

 :'(
Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: stacp on May 12, 2006, 07:19 AM
Keren b, LuvJackNasty, those were moving, wonderful posts.  Thank you.   :'(
Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: MississaugaRed on May 12, 2006, 08:26 AM
[quoteThe rest is the love Jack has for Ennis and him being fed up with only feeling truly alive when Ennis sees fit. Jack put his hopes and dreams on the backburner for 20 years. He is not able to express what is truly in his heart for fear that he would scare Ennis off. The sacrifices and concessions that Jack has made over the years to keep the relationship going. That Jack would have given up everything for a life with Ennis
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Even though it's not in the original story, when Ennis, sobbing, tells Jack, "It's because a you Jack that I'm like this; I'm  nobody, nowhere!" , I can see in Ennis' convoluted/cramped vision of their relationship, that he's lived life on the edge ever since the first reunion.   Ennis has taken only fleeting and temporary, low-paying jobs which he could quit or take off at a moment's notice whenever an opportunity to be with Jack appeared.  He moved willingly into Riverton, into an apartment, so he could leave anytime; something he couldn't do on a ranch, leaving only Alma and the girls.  It seems to me Ennis sacrificed any and all financial security just to be ready to be with Jack on the Mountain.  Perhaps Ennis' way of showing "love" for Jack was clumsy and tunnel-visioned, but his utter devotion to Jack seems apparent to me.  The tragedy of the entire relationship was Ennis' deathly fear of being discovered, and his fear of relocating somewhere else out of Wyoming,  something Jack didn't care about overmuch.  The two dear, tragic men were never able to reconcile themselves to any sort of happy medium for a fulfilling life together.

Kemmer, what a beautiful way to sum up Ennis's plea for Jack to understand what he's sacrificed to keep any kind of relationship between them alive all these years, however painful the process.  Until this particular moment, I would have wondered if Ennis had had any self-awareness about the path their choices had put them on.  This one line shows that he was capable of self-reflection and although may have acted often on instinct as much as reason, part of him knew the cost of all he had done - or not done.

I hear this line, though, and I often think that Jack could have said the exact same thing back to Ennis.  "It's because of you, Ennis, that I'm like this ..".  i.e., as LJN said - hopes and dreams on the back burner for 20 years. Maybe Jack's "never know the rest" is his version of the same cry that Ennis makes at the end. ???

LJN, Lindsay, Karen, Ethan et al ... all your posts have made me  :'(     :'(... again!  Very emotional thread, isn't it?
Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: ethan on May 12, 2006, 11:01 AM
"It's because of you, Ennis, that I'm like this ..".  i.e., as LJN said - hopes and dreams on the back burner for 20 years. Maybe Jack's "never know the rest" is his version of the same cry that Ennis makes at the end. ???

Great point. Unlike Ennis, Jack's love to Ennis is unconditional. I don't think Jack would say something like "It's because of you, Ennis, that I'm like this" Jack understood Ennis so well as he was meant for Ennis.
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LJN, Lindsay, Karen, Ethan et al ... all your posts have made me  :'(     :'(... again!  Very emotional thread, isn't it?

Yes thank you very much for many great thoughts. "The rest" is the love story between Ennis and Jack. It is emotional so is the thread.
Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: tpe on May 12, 2006, 11:13 AM
So emotional I begin to fear reading it too much.

Thanks, all.

Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: LuvJackNasty on May 13, 2006, 08:13 AM


Even though it's not in the original story, when Ennis, sobbing, tells Jack, "It's because a you Jack that I'm like this; I'm  nobody, nowhere!" , I can see in Ennis' convoluted/cramped vision of their relationship, that he's lived life on the edge ever since the first reunion.   Ennis has taken only fleeting and temporary, low-paying jobs which he could quit or take off at a moment's notice whenever an opportunity to be with Jack appeared.  He moved willingly into Riverton, into an apartment, so he could leave anytime; something he couldn't do on a ranch, leaving only Alma and the girls.  It seems to me Ennis sacrificed any and all financial security just to be ready to be with Jack on the Mountain.  Perhaps Ennis' way of showing "love" for Jack was clumsy and tunnel-visioned, but his utter devotion to Jack seems apparent to me.  The tragedy of the entire relationship was Ennis' deathly fear of being discovered, and his fear of relocating somewhere else out of Wyoming,  something Jack didn't care about overmuch.  The two dear, tragic men were never able to reconcile themselves to any sort of happy medium for a fulfilling life together.

Kemmer, what a beautiful way to sum up Ennis's plea for Jack to understand what he's sacrificed to keep any kind of relationship between them alive all these years, however painful the process.  Until this particular moment, I would have wondered if Ennis had had any self-awareness about the path their choices had put them on.  This one line shows that he was capable of self-reflection and although may have acted often on instinct as much as reason, part of him knew the cost of all he had done - or not done.

I hear this line, though, and I often think that Jack could have said the exact same thing back to Ennis.  "It's because of you, Ennis, that I'm like this ..".  i.e., as LJN said - hopes and dreams on the back burner for 20 years. Maybe Jack's "never know the rest" is his version of the same cry that Ennis makes at the end. ???

LJN, Lindsay, Karen, Ethan et al ... all your posts have made me  :'(     :'(... again!  Very emotional thread, isn't it?

Well put Kemmer and Miss-Red- Neither of them knew the rest and that is what compounds the tragedy.
Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: Kemmer on May 13, 2006, 08:41 AM


Even though it's not in the original story, when Ennis, sobbing, tells Jack, "It's because a you Jack that I'm like this; I'm  nobody, nowhere!" , I can see in Ennis' convoluted/cramped vision of their relationship, that he's lived life on the edge ever since the first reunion.   Ennis has taken only fleeting and temporary, low-paying jobs which he could quit or take off at a moment's notice whenever an opportunity to be with Jack appeared.  He moved willingly into Riverton, into an apartment, so he could leave anytime; something he couldn't do on a ranch, leaving only Alma and the girls.  It seems to me Ennis sacrificed any and all financial security just to be ready to be with Jack on the Mountain.  Perhaps Ennis' way of showing "love" for Jack was clumsy and tunnel-visioned, but his utter devotion to Jack seems apparent to me.  The tragedy of the entire relationship was Ennis' deathly fear of being discovered, and his fear of relocating somewhere else out of Wyoming,  something Jack didn't care about overmuch.  The two dear, tragic men were never able to reconcile themselves to any sort of happy medium for a fulfilling life together.

Kemmer, what a beautiful way to sum up Ennis's plea for Jack to understand what he's sacrificed to keep any kind of relationship between them alive all these years, however painful the process.  Until this particular moment, I would have wondered if Ennis had had any self-awareness about the path their choices had put them on.  This one line shows that he was capable of self-reflection and although may have acted often on instinct as much as reason, part of him knew the cost of all he had done - or not done.

I hear this line, though, and I often think that Jack could have said the exact same thing back to Ennis.  "It's because of you, Ennis, that I'm like this ..".  i.e., as LJN said - hopes and dreams on the back burner for 20 years. Maybe Jack's "never know the rest" is his version of the same cry that Ennis makes at the end. ???

LJN, Lindsay, Karen, Ethan et al ... all your posts have made me  :'(     :'(... again!  Very emotional thread, isn't it?

Well put Kemmer and Miss-Red- Neither of them knew the rest and that is what compounds the tragedy.

It's heartbreaking to think how differently things might have tirned out for Jack and Ennis if they had met in 1993.  But I supposed that would only would have opened up many other cans of worms. 

 :-\I withdraw my speculation.
Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: Valandil Eluch on May 13, 2006, 07:20 PM
Guys this is going to kill me all this comments breaks my heart in pieces!
Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: tpe on May 14, 2006, 04:36 PM
Guys this is going to kill me all this comments breaks my heart in pieces!

This is why I attempt to read this thread cautiously nowadays...

And yet...and yet...we hopelessly read on...we ever so hopelessly read on...

Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: ethan on May 14, 2006, 04:54 PM
And yet...and yet...we hopelessly read on...we ever so hopelessly read on...

Hopelessly yet satisfactorily. We wanna know "the rest"
Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: Valandil Eluch on May 14, 2006, 05:15 PM
And yet...and yet...we hopelessly read on...we ever so hopelessly read on...

Hopelessly yet satisfactorily. We wanna know "the rest"

so true we wanna know the rest
Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: Valandil Eluch on May 14, 2006, 05:17 PM
kinda ot but in the short story it says that Ennis said something that only the horses heard after that so i'm also wondering what could that have being
Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: Rønnaug on May 14, 2006, 05:28 PM
The rest immediatly made me think of the shirts :)
Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: Kemmer on May 14, 2006, 05:49 PM
And yet...and yet...we hopelessly read on...we ever so hopelessly read on...

Hopelessly yet satisfactorily. We wanna know "the rest"
 

Not only "the rest", but the hearts and souls and minds of the two simple, tragic men who have brought such wonder, pathos, grief, and soaring hope into our lives.  :'(
Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: BBBOY on May 14, 2006, 09:35 PM
And yet...and yet...we hopelessly read on...we ever so hopelessly read on...

Hopelessly yet satisfactorily. We wanna know "the rest"
 

Not only "the rest", but the hearts and souls and minds of the two simple, tragic men who have brought such wonder, pathos, grief, and soaring hope into our lives.  :'(

Yes, that is it, hope. Their pain and tragedy gives us hope. That is the message of the story and the movie and I don't think they even knew it. Brokeback Mountain is a slap in the face, a wake up call for all of us. Love isn't something to be played with. It's not a toy, some stupid moment of lust to be followed by years of shallow acceptence and ultimately regret. I saw the target and failed to hit the bull's eye. Not a pretty picture but I will keep shooting and hope I have learned from this experience.
Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: Kemmer on May 14, 2006, 09:48 PM
And yet...and yet...we hopelessly read on...we ever so hopelessly read on...

Hopelessly yet satisfactorily. We wanna know "the rest"
 

Not only "the rest", but the hearts and souls and minds of the two simple, tragic men who have brought such wonder, pathos, grief, and soaring hope into our lives.  :'(

Yes, that is it, hope. Their pain and tragedy gives us hope. That is the message of the story and the movie and I don't think they even knew it. Brokeback Mountain is a slap in the face, a wake up call for all of us. Love isn't something to be played with. It's not a toy, some stupid moment of lust to be followed by years of shallow acceptence and ultimately regret. I saw the target and failed to hit the bull's eye. Not a pretty picture but I will keep shooting and hope I have learned from this experience.

Beautiful thoughts, BBBoy.  Thank you.
Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: edgar on May 15, 2006, 12:21 AM
kinda ot but in the short story it says that Ennis said something that only the horses heard after that so i'm also wondering what could that have being

Sorry to say, it was probably some cursing Jack using homophobic language from Ennis's past.

Jack has hit a nerve in Ennis with the satement "We coulda had a real good life," and Ennis, feeling pain, just wants to strike out and cause pain. At least he said it quietly to the horses; he has some self-control. Jack is at his wit's end.
Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: Patriot1 on May 15, 2006, 12:49 AM
Jack has hit a nerve in Ennis with the satement "We coulda had a real good life," and Ennis, feeling pain, just wants to strike out and cause pain. At least he said it quietly to the horses; he has some self-control. Jack is at his wit's end.

But I am sure you have noticed his self-control is limited to Jack. 

Instead of walking over to the horses and saying something nobody can hear, he says it as he turns his back to Jack.  He says, "G*d damn.........(something)


Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: MississaugaRed on May 15, 2006, 05:49 AM
Jack has hit a nerve in Ennis with the satement "We coulda had a real good life," and Ennis, feeling pain, just wants to strike out and cause pain. At least he said it quietly to the horses; he has some self-control. Jack is at his wit's end.

But I am sure you have noticed his self-control is limited to Jack. 

Instead of walking over to the horses and saying something nobody can hear, he says it as he turns his back to Jack.  He says, "G*d damn.........(something)

From what we'd seen of Ennis before this, could easily have been "G*d damn .. Jack F**king Twist."  He says that a lot, both as a curse and a prayer.
Beautiful words earlier, too, BBBoy and Kemmer.  Love isn't a toy, Amen to that. The teachings of Brokeback; maybe we'll learn enough to "know the rest" someday when it's important to us in our own lives.
Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: welshwitch on May 21, 2006, 01:26 PM
Perhaps we know the rest. Perhaps we are the rest.
Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: tpe on May 22, 2006, 07:44 AM
Perhaps we know the rest. Perhaps we are the rest.

Indeed. 

Beautiful.


Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: mactwck on May 22, 2006, 06:12 PM
So if Ennis had been available in August this never would have come out?  I was always amazed at how mad Jack got when Ennis said no August, according to the book and movie, they only met once or twice a year, so this year it would have been May, August and November?

I always felt that these painful words were said in anger and disappointment of not only being together in August, but like the punch Ennis dealt to Jack when they came off the mountain and they could not deal with the reality of having to leave the mountain early.

I do not think Jack was giving up on Ennis, just the night before he told him how much he missed him.

How often in our lives do we keep the status quo because we do not want to give up hope that things will be different?
Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: tpe on May 22, 2006, 06:24 PM
So if Ennis had been available in August this never would have come out?  I was always amazed at how mad Jack got when Ennis said no August, according to the book and movie, they only met once or twice a year, so this year it would have been May, August and November?

I always felt that these painful words were said in anger and disappointment of not only being together in August, but like the punch Ennis dealt to Jack when they came off the mountain and they could not deal with the reality of having to leave the mountain early.

I do not think Jack was giving up on Ennis, just the night before he told him how much he missed him.

How often in our lives do we keep the status quo because we do not want to give up hope that things will be different?

Hello mactwck.  The time frame alluded to in the last meeting is a bit tricky.  If we are to believe the screenplay dates, it could very well imply that it was November of NEXT YEAR that Ennis was proposing.

This is a tricky topic.  I point you to an old thread with a number of interesting posts.  It is entitled something like Timeline of the Last Scenes (I have not checked this in a while).

Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: BBBOY on May 22, 2006, 10:08 PM
So if Ennis had been available in August this never would have come out?  I was always amazed at how mad Jack got when Ennis said no August, according to the book and movie, they only met once or twice a year, so this year it would have been May, August and November?

I always felt that these painful words were said in anger and disappointment of not only being together in August, but like the punch Ennis dealt to Jack when they came off the mountain and they could not deal with the reality of having to leave the mountain early.

I do not think Jack was giving up on Ennis, just the night before he told him how much he missed him.

How often in our lives do we keep the status quo because we do not want to give up hope that things will be different?

Hello mactwck.  The time frame alluded to in the last meeting is a bit tricky.  If we are to believe the screenplay dates, it could very well imply that it was November of NEXT YEAR that Ennis was proposing.

This is a tricky topic.  I point you to an old thread with a number of interesting posts.  It is entitled something like Timeline of the Last Scenes (I have not checked this in a while).



As tpe points out, the timeline gets real murky here. I'm not sure if it was just sloopy continuity or we are missing something.
Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: NoReins on May 23, 2006, 02:17 AM
I can't believe that Ennis was meaning November of next year - no way could he have stood it if their next meeting wasn't going to be for a year and a half. I always thought their last meeting was earlier in the year than May, though - maybe February or March, just judging from the clothes they were wearing. I think when he says "it was hard enough getting this time, the trade off was August" that indicates that it's the same calendar year they're talking about.
Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: Patriot1 on May 23, 2006, 02:25 AM
I can't believe that Ennis was meaning November of next year - no way could he have stood it if their next meeting wasn't going to be for a year and a half. I always thought their last meeting was earlier in the year than May, though - maybe February or March, just judging from the clothes they were wearing. I think when he says "it was hard enough getting this time, the trade off was August" that indicates that it's the same calendar year they're talking about.

Yes, I agree NoReins.  There is no way either of them could have waited a year and a half.

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Post by: welshwitch on May 23, 2006, 05:07 AM
I agree too, and if you look at the list in the short story of the numerous places they went together, they musthave ben meeting every few months - why would that change now?
Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: tpe on May 23, 2006, 06:40 AM
For those interested, here is the old thread I referred to.

http://www.ennisjack.com/index.php?PHPSESSID=715a5c3b1adf956b7d4d765988e9015a&topic=968.0

Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: tpe on May 23, 2006, 06:43 AM
A bit cursory to the main topic, but here is the best summary from the Timeline Thread comparing the short story and screenplay.

I posted this on IMDB.  Hope you enjoy it too:

Here goes after seeing the movie eight times, and reading the published version of the screenplay, certain year milestones are noted:

1963 - The year they meet, summer. After Brokeback, Ennis marries Alma the same year.

1964 - Ennis and Alma are married, and expecting their first child. The movie at the Drive-in is "Surf Party", from 1964.

1966 - Fourth of July when Ennis beats up the foul mouthed Biker. The announcer in the background clearly says Fourth of July, 1966. Same summer, Jack attempts to pick up Jimbo the Rodeo Clown, then meets Lureen.

1967 - Four years after the summer on Brokeback, Jack and Ennis reunite.

Flashback: 1952 - Ennis' father takes him and his brother to see the murdered body of Earl, the rancher. Ennis says he is 9 years old, which means he must have turned 20 later in the fall of 1963, after the summer on Brokeback, which makes sense since the book says he was "not yet twenty", which seems to imply "not yet twenty, but almost/soon will be".

1969 - The "Where's my Blue Parka?" scene. The screenplay is messed up here about dates. In the space of two pages the year changes from 1971 to 1969 to a scene with a wall calendar that says 1973! I think that 1969 is supposed to be the correct year, but then why would little Bobby need a tutor at age of only 2 or 3? In the movie though we are free to place it in any year we choose in a given late sixties, early 70's range.

1972 - The montage where Jack is letting bobby drive the tractor and Ennis is baling hay out the back of a truck

1973 - Ennis and Alma sit in their apartment on a Saturday night and watch an episode of "Kojack". Alma wants to go to the Church social, but Ennis dosesn't feel like hanging out with "..that fire and brimstone crowd."

1975 - Ennis and Alma divorce. The date is read by the judge. I believe it's in July. The 5th? (Correction: The date of their divorce is November 6th) Jack drives up to see Ennis, hoping this means they will now be able to live together.

1977 - Thanksgiving with Ennis at Alma and Monroe's, and at the Twist Household. You hear the year read by the announcer at the football game on television. The screenplay describes Bobby as being 10, which means he would have had to be two when he needed the tutor.

1978 - Jack and Ennis go to the Mountains again, "Aww go to hell Ennis Del Mar, you want to live your miserable *beep* life, go ahead..." Jack and Lureen meet Randall and LaShawn Malone, at a benefit dinner dance. Ennis meets Cassie.

1979 - Scene with Ennis, Cassie, and Alma Jr. at the bar. The screenplay describes Alma Jr. as 15 yrs,

1981/1983 - Jack and Ennis meet for the last time in 1981 (screenplay) or 1983 (book). In the book, Proulx says they go everywhere but back to Brokeback. In the movie it seems like they always return to Brokeback or we assume so. Cassie confronts Ennis in the Diner.

1982 - In the screenplay, this is the year Jack is killed, and Ennis has the phone coversation with Lureen. Ennis meets Jack's parents.

1984 - Final scenes in movie with Ennis and Alma Jr., the reversed shirts.

"You know it could be like this, just like this, always"
Black Hat White Hat
Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: frenchcda on May 23, 2006, 06:48 AM
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Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: mactwck on May 23, 2006, 06:10 PM
A bit cursory to the main topic, but here is the best summary from the Timeline Thread comparing the short story and screenplay.

I posted this on IMDB.  Hope you enjoy it too:

Here goes after seeing the movie eight times, and reading the published version of the screenplay, certain year milestones are noted:

1963 - The year they meet, summer. After Brokeback, Ennis marries Alma the same year.

1964 - Ennis and Alma are married, and expecting their first child. The movie at the Drive-in is "Surf Party", from 1964.

1966 - Fourth of July when Ennis beats up the foul mouthed Biker. The announcer in the background clearly says Fourth of July, 1966. Same summer, Jack attempts to pick up Jimbo the Rodeo Clown, then meets Lureen.

1967 - Four years after the summer on Brokeback, Jack and Ennis reunite.

Flashback: 1952 - Ennis' father takes him and his brother to see the murdered body of Earl, the rancher. Ennis says he is 9 years old, which means he must have turned 20 later in the fall of 1963, after the summer on Brokeback, which makes sense since the book says he was "not yet twenty", which seems to imply "not yet twenty, but almost/soon will be".

1969 - The "Where's my Blue Parka?" scene. The screenplay is messed up here about dates. In the space of two pages the year changes from 1971 to 1969 to a scene with a wall calendar that says 1973! I think that 1969 is supposed to be the correct year, but then why would little Bobby need a tutor at age of only 2 or 3? In the movie though we are free to place it in any year we choose in a given late sixties, early 70's range.

1972 - The montage where Jack is letting bobby drive the tractor and Ennis is baling hay out the back of a truck

1973 - Ennis and Alma sit in their apartment on a Saturday night and watch an episode of "Kojack". Alma wants to go to the Church social, but Ennis dosesn't feel like hanging out with "..that fire and brimstone crowd."

1975 - Ennis and Alma divorce. The date is read by the judge. I believe it's in July. The 5th? (Correction: The date of their divorce is November 6th) Jack drives up to see Ennis, hoping this means they will now be able to live together.

1977 - Thanksgiving with Ennis at Alma and Monroe's, and at the Twist Household. You hear the year read by the announcer at the football game on television. The screenplay describes Bobby as being 10, which means he would have had to be two when he needed the tutor.

1978 - Jack and Ennis go to the Mountains again, "Aww go to hell Ennis Del Mar, you want to live your miserable *beep* life, go ahead..." Jack and Lureen meet Randall and LaShawn Malone, at a benefit dinner dance. Ennis meets Cassie.

1979 - Scene with Ennis, Cassie, and Alma Jr. at the bar. The screenplay describes Alma Jr. as 15 yrs,

1981/1983 - Jack and Ennis meet for the last time in 1981 (screenplay) or 1983 (book). In the book, Proulx says they go everywhere but back to Brokeback. In the movie it seems like they always return to Brokeback or we assume so. Cassie confronts Ennis in the Diner.

1982 - In the screenplay, this is the year Jack is killed, and Ennis has the phone coversation with Lureen. Ennis meets Jack's parents.

1984 - Final scenes in movie with Ennis and Alma Jr., the reversed shirts.

"You know it could be like this, just like this, always"
Black Hat White Hat

Yes but Lureen says Jack was only 39 years old so we know it was 1983 because in 1963 he was 19 and on Brokeback with Ennis.  I guess I always assumed that there last meeting was in May of 1983 like the short story says. 
Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: Valandil Eluch on May 23, 2006, 06:17 PM
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Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: tpe on May 23, 2006, 06:21 PM
Yes but Lureen says Jack was only 39 years old so we know it was 1983 because in 1963 he was 19 and on Brokeback with Ennis.  I guess I always assumed that there last meeting was in May of 1983 like the short story says. 

Yes, in the old thread I referred to, it is cited that Jack and Ennis would have been 20 when they met.  This is consistent with the screenplay, but not with the short story.

Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: tpe on May 23, 2006, 06:28 PM
From the old thread:

By the way, a fallout to our above conclusions is the following:  Jack died in 1982 at the age of 39.  This means that he was 20 years old (NOT 19) when he and Ennis met in the summer of 1963.  Ennis was also probably 20 years old at the time of the first meeting.

Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: pierralex on May 24, 2006, 01:04 PM
It depends wether he was born in the beginning or in the end of the year...
Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: tpe on May 24, 2006, 01:11 PM
It depends wether he was born in the beginning or in the end of the year...

This true.  Unlike in the case of Alma Jr., we don't really have a handle on this.

With reference to the original topic: if there was indeed a year between the final meeting and the proposed November meeting, then there was probably enough time for Jack to have come to terms with his Texas neighbor in nit so uncertain terms.  This would add extra meaning to 'all the rest'.  Perhaps we shall never really know that rest...
Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: frenchboy on May 24, 2006, 01:12 PM
Could they have had celebrated their birthday on Brokeback Mountain? #)
Cut scenes??? ^*() I would love it... By a whisky spring  :cr)
Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: welshwitch on May 25, 2006, 03:28 PM
There's so much irony in this line - there was never going to be any rest for the two of them, and only a sort of maimed one for Ennis. Dylan Thomas's wife wrote an autobiographical book called "Leftover Life to Kill" and that seems to me to be true of Ennis after Jack's death. "The rest" for him might involve knowing what he'd felt for Jack and being more attuned to his own emotions,but it also involved the permanent absece of the one person who gave his life meaning. 
Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: tpe on May 25, 2006, 03:31 PM
There's so much irony in this line - there was never going to be any rest for the two of them, and only a sort of maimed one for Ennis. Dylan Thomas's wife wrote an autobiographical book called "Leftover Life to Kill" and that seems to me to be true of Ennis after Jack's death. "The rest" for him might involve knowing what he'd felt for Jack and being more attuned to his own emotions,but it also involved the permanent absece of the one person who gave his life meaning. 


Beautiful, welshwitch.

 
Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: karen1129 on May 25, 2006, 03:33 PM
There's so much irony in this line - there was never going to be any rest for the two of them, and only a sort of maimed one for Ennis. Dylan Thomas's wife wrote an autobiographical book called "Leftover Life to Kill" and that seems to me to be true of Ennis after Jack's death. "The rest" for him might involve knowing what he'd felt for Jack and being more attuned to his own emotions,but it also involved the permanent absece of the one person who gave his life meaning. 

So true, there was not going to be a happy ending .  The rest really was we coulda had a good life.
You didn't want it.  Ennis could not accept he was in love with a man.
Living with Jack would mean he was queer.  To this day, I see Ennis Del Mar sitting all alone saying to himself....
Ya know I ain't queer !
Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: amtamburo on May 25, 2006, 04:22 PM
 ::) Kinda going back to the original topic here...

I always felt that Jack's "I hope you know that if you don't ever know the rest" is basically his way of saying that he blames Ennis for making things the way they were... think about everything he said before that line...

Quote

Jack: Tell you what, we coulda had a good life together, fu**kn real good life, had us a place of our own, but you didn't want it, Ennis! So what we got now, is Brokeback Mountain! Everything’s built on that, that's all we got boy, fu**kn all! So I hope you know that if you don't ever know the rest!

Ennis: G*dammit...

Jack: You count the damn few times that we have been together in nearly twenty years, and you measure the short fu**kn leash that you keep me on and then you ask me about Mexico and tell me you'll kill me for wanting something I don't hardly never get!

If you look at it this way, Ennis has just told him that he might kill him if he was to learn all about Mexico etc. and Jack is basically coming back and saying "You have only yourself to blame for driving me to Mexico... I wanted to make a life with you, and you didn't want me except on your terms."

In truth, Ennis was entirely unfair to Jack pretty much from the beginning of their after-reunion relationship. "Sure, I'll spend time with you and all... but only when it's convenient for me. So don't ever contact me in between, don’t ever complain or get upset about not being able to see me, don't ever just show up out of the blue, and don’t ever say things that even smack of your feelings for me because they make me uncomfortable and I won’t respond or return the sentiment in anyway… Oh… and by the way… don’t ever see any other men. Women are fine… but no men!”

Hmm... frankly, in a situation like that I am surprised that Jack didn't give up years ago, and sadly, much as it hurts to think it... I believe that Jack had given up. The fact that he was talking about another man at his parents house suggests that, while he truly does love Ennis and would do anything to be with him, he had perhaps finally accepted that he and Ennis would never be together and had decided to try to grab a bit of happiness where he could. That defeated, look of pure pain that he has on his face as Ennis drives away... I think he looks that way because his heart has been broken once again, and he has decided that it is time to give up.

If so, one can hardly blame him.  :\'(

(I am aware that I have pretty much just trashed Ennis into the ground... and I apologize if I have offended anyone.  :-[ Truthfully I love Ennis and I can relate to his fear and anxiety... but at the same time, there are times during the movie when I want to grab him and shake him until his teeth rattle while yelling "You are such an IDIOT!!" :X)
Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: tpe on May 25, 2006, 04:30 PM
Hmm... frankly, in a situation like that I am surprised that Jack didn't give up years ago, and sadly, much as it hurts to think it... I believe that Jack had given up. The fact that he was talking about another man at his parents house suggests that, while he truly does love Ennis and would do anything to be with him, he had perhaps finally accepted that he and Ennis would never be together and had decided to try to grab a bit of happiness where he could. That defeated, look of pure pain that he has on his face as Ennis drives away... I think he looks that way because his heart has been broken once again, and he has decided that it is time to give up.

I profess (and fear) that this is indeed the truth.

Thanks amtamburo



Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: karen1129 on May 25, 2006, 04:45 PM
::) Kinda going back to the original topic here...

I always felt that Jack's "I hope you know that if you don't ever know the rest" is basically his way of saying that he blames Ennis for making things the way they were... think about everything he said before that line...

Quote

Jack: Tell you what, we coulda had a good life together, fu**kn real good life, had us a place of our own, but you didn't want it, Ennis! So what we got now, is Brokeback Mountain! Everything’s built on that, that's all we got boy, fu**kn all! So I hope you know that if you don't ever know the rest!

Ennis: G*dammit...

Jack: You count the damn few times that we have been together in nearly twenty years, and you measure the short fu**kn lease that you keep me on and then you ask me about Mexico and tell me you'll kill me for wanting something I don't hardly never get!

If you look at it this way, Ennis has just told him that he might kill him if he was to learn all about Mexico etc. and Jack is basically coming back and saying "You have only yourself to blame for driving me to Mexico... I wanted to make a life with you, and you didn't want me except on your terms."

In truth, Ennis was entirely unfair to Jack pretty much from the beginning of their after-reunion relationship. "Sure, I'll spend time with you and all... but only when it's convenient for me. So don't ever contact me in between, don’t ever complain or get upset about not being able to see me, don't ever just show up out of the blue, and don’t ever say things that even smack of your feelings for me because they make me uncomfortable and I won’t respond or return the sentiment in anyway… Oh… and by the way… don’t ever see any other men. Women are fine… but no men!”

Hmm... frankly, in a situation like that I am surprised that Jack didn't give up years ago, and sadly, much as it hurts to think it... I believe that Jack had given up. The fact that he was talking about another man at his parents house suggests that, while he truly does love Ennis and would do anything to be with him, he had perhaps finally accepted that he and Ennis would never be together and had decided to try to grab a bit of happiness where he could. That defeated, look of pure pain that he has on his face as Ennis drives away... I think he looks that way because his heart has been broken once again, and he has decided that it is time to give up.

If so, one can hardly blame him.  :'(

(I am aware that I have pretty much just trashed Ennis into the ground... and I apologize if I have offended anyone.  :-[ Truthfully I love Ennis and I can relate to his fear and anxiety... but at the same time, there are times during the movie when I want to grab him and shake him until his teeth rattle while yelling "You are such an IDIOT!!" :X)


Hear... Hear...     very good post.  I agree whole heartedly.  I loved  both these guys, but ....
Ennis did keep Jack on a short leash.   I think he finally accepted Ennis wasn't going to change.
Love does not conquer all.  Jack dserved a chance at happiness.  I have been in love like that....
I wouldn't have hung in for 20 years.  I did 5 years once.  Jack deserved better.  Ennis realized
that after Jack was gone.......   
Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: edgar on May 25, 2006, 04:55 PM
Quoting amtamburo:

"That defeated, look of pure pain that he has on his face as Ennis drives away... I think he looks that way because his heart has been broken once again, and he has decided that it is time to give up."

One little quibble: it is not a look of pure pain. It is a look of resignation, despair. As I have said before, Jack's blue eyes which can express such hope and love turn to ice in that scene.

I think if one looks into those eyes, one sees that Jack has indeed given up on Ennis--at least on being able to have a real relationship with Ennis--for the time being.

 :\'(
Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: amtamburo on May 25, 2006, 05:12 PM
I do agree that it is definitely a look of resignation and despair... but I also see a wealth (20 years if you will) of pain there as well.  :(
Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: BBBOY on May 25, 2006, 05:32 PM
  :-[ Truthfully I love Ennis and I can relate to his fear and anxiety... but at the same time, there are times during the movie when I want to grab him and shake him until his teeth rattle while yelling "You are such an IDIOT!!" :X)


You are not alone with this sentiment amtamburo.
Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: mactwck on May 25, 2006, 07:38 PM
  :-[ Truthfully I love Ennis and I can relate to his fear and anxiety... but at the same time, there are times during the movie when I want to grab him and shake him until his teeth rattle while yelling "You are such an IDIOT!!" :X)


You are not alone with this sentiment amtamburo.

No you are not alone....but at the same time I just watched the love of my life drive away (just two short months ago) and I did not tell him how I felt because he is married. Life has a way of getting in the way of how we want things to go.  I do not know how they did 20 years of goodbyes. My friend is coming back next week for a visit and I am so excited and dreading it at the same time.  OT, but what do I do?
Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: tpe on May 26, 2006, 07:15 AM
  :-[ Truthfully I love Ennis and I can relate to his fear and anxiety... but at the same time, there are times during the movie when I want to grab him and shake him until his teeth rattle while yelling "You are such an IDIOT!!" :X)


You are not alone with this sentiment amtamburo.

No you are not alone....but at the same time I just watched the love of my life drive away (just two short months ago) and I did not tell him how I felt because he is married. Life has a way of getting in the way of how we want things to go.  I do not know how they did 20 years of goodbyes. My friend is coming back next week for a visit and I am so excited and dreading it at the same time.  OT, but what do I do?

Perhaps OOT.  But I suggest that you don't plan.  Nothing wonderful or untoward has to happen. Just trust your heart. If you are secure in your own love, nothing changes.  That was how they withstood the 20 years of goodbyes.

 
Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: welshwitch on May 26, 2006, 04:43 PM
If it's the real thing, love lasts - that's its glory and its agony.
Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: LuvJackNasty on May 26, 2006, 05:35 PM
There's so much irony in this line - there was never going to be any rest for the two of them, and only a sort of maimed one for Ennis. Dylan Thomas's wife wrote an autobiographical book called "Leftover Life to Kill" and that seems to me to be true of Ennis after Jack's death. "The rest" for him might involve knowing what he'd felt for Jack and being more attuned to his own emotions,but it also involved the permanent absece of the one person who gave his life meaning. 

That is so beautiful and so sad.  :\'(
Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: amtamburo on May 27, 2006, 10:15 AM
Quote
If it's the real thing, love lasts - that's its glory and its agony.

This is so true... however, I also believe (been there... done that) that love can be squashed and bent and mangled to the point that, even though the love is still there, it simply hurts to much to continue with it. I think that is what happened for Jack.

I believe that he still loved Ennis very much, but I think that he had finally realized that that love... the one he had put so much time, energy, tenderness, hope, pain and effort into... was never going to come to fruitation. I believe that although he would always love Ennis, and perhaps he might have even continued with their meetings for a time, he had decided that he needed to push that love aside a bit and perhaps explore other means of finding happiness... aka Randall.

Having been in that position, I know how heart rending and soul tearing giving up on someone that you love above all others can be. It leaves a scar that never truly heals and is easily made to bleed again and again. However, there does come a time when having your heart trounced over and over becomes so unbearable that you simply can't do it anymore!

Of course, that is me projecting my experiences onto Jack... and I could be totally off, but I can relate so deeply to Jack's pain and loss that I can't help but think that must have been how it was for him as well.  :-[
Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: karen1129 on May 27, 2006, 10:37 AM
Quote
If it's the real thing, love lasts - that's its glory and its agony.

This is so true... however, I also believe (been there... done that) that love can be squashed and bent and mangled to the point that, even though the love is still there, it simply hurts to much to continue with it. I think that is what happened for Jack.

I believe that he still loved Ennis very much, but I think that he had finally realized that that love... the one he had put so much time, energy, tenderness, hope, pain and effort into... was never going to come to fruitation. I believe that although he would always love Ennis, and perhaps he might have even continued with their meetings for a time, he had decided that he needed to push that love aside a bit and perhaps explore other means of finding happiness... aka Randall.

Having been in that position, I know how heart rending and soul tearing giving up on someone that you love above all others can be. It leaves a scar that never truly heals and is easily made to bleed again and again. However, there does come a time when having your heart trounced over and over becomes so unbearable that you simply can't do it anymore!

Of course, that is me projecting my experiences onto Jack... and I could be totally off, but I can relate so deeply to Jack's pain and loss that I can't help but think that must have been how it was for him as well.  :-[


Hear... hear.   
I too have been there done that.  Just recently.  There does come a time, like I believe it did for
Jack, where you have to step back and decide , even if you both love each other, if YOU
are being fulfilled in that relationship.  It's going to be painful whether you go, or stay.
If you stay too long, bitterness sets in, because you know things are not going to change.
That was the point Jack got to.  20 years of disappointments can change a person.
 
Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: jesseanne21 on Jun 12, 2006, 04:25 PM
I don't think Jack was planning to end things with Ennis.  Also, in the story, Annie P. says after the fight, "nothing was ended, nothing resolved." 

Just the night before Jack told Ennis "Sometimes I miss you so much I can hardly stand it."  Jack stilled loved Ennis, no matter what.

Jack hit a nerve with Ennis and Ennis retaliated (typical lover's spat)...and, Ennis' jealousy about what he imaged Jack MIGHT be doing when they were not together showed itself.  Ennis didn't care if Jack was having an affair with a woman, but he was furious at the thought of Jack with another man!

I think Jack's line "if you don't never know the rest." was more like "even if you can't UNDERSTAND the rest."  Jack told Ennis, "I'm not you."  And, basically, I can't do what you do, this is not enough for me ("Never enough time, never enough")

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Post by: tpe on Jun 12, 2006, 04:30 PM
I don't think Jack was planning to end things with Ennis.  Also, in the story, Annie P. says after the fight, "nothing was ended, nothing resolved." 

Just the night before Jack told Ennis "Sometimes I miss you so much I can hardly stand it."  Jack stilled loved Ennis, no matter what.

Jack hit a nerve with Ennis and Ennis retaliated (typical lover's spat)...and, Ennis' jealousy about what he imaged Jack MIGHT be doing when they were not together showed itself.  Ennis didn't care if Jack was having an affair with a woman, but he was furious at the thought of Jack with another man!

I think Jack's line "if you don't never know the rest." was more like "even if you can't UNDERSTAND the rest."  Jack told Ennis, "I'm not you."  And, basically, I can't do what you do, this is not enough for me ("Never enough time, never enough")



Welcome jesseanne21.

I don't think Jack would have found it possible to stop loving Ennis.  But I am more and more convinced over time that he did plan to move on at finding someone to have a shared life.

Jack's final plans make him an enigma.  A beautiful enigma -- full of seep sorrow and love.  And passion.

Jack's love sets you afire.

 
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Post by: welshwitch on Jun 12, 2006, 04:33 PM
And now I look the ss uses that image of the coat-hanger, bent out of shape then forced back almost into the one it had had, which implies that the relationship had to some degree been restored. And Jack would never, could never, give up on Ennis, because he was what completed him, and that's I think why Jack went looking, though futilely, for someone else, but would always be ready to return to Ennis given the opportunity.
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Post by: tpe on Jun 12, 2006, 04:47 PM
And now I look the ss uses that image of the coat-hanger, bent out of shape then forced back almost into the one it had had, which implies that the relationship had to some degree been restored. And Jack would never, could never, give up on Ennis, because he was what completed him, and that's I think why Jack went looking, though futilely, for someone else, but would always be ready to return to Ennis given the opportunity.

Yes, I do think that he would have dropped everything to be with Ennis -- even in that last year. 

He would have been there in November!  Is this an article of faith?

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Post by: Patriot1 on Jun 12, 2006, 05:01 PM
Yes, I do think that he would have dropped everything to be with Ennis -- even in that last year. 

He would have been there in November!  Is this an article of faith?

I think Jack had already taken up with Randall.  If what you say is true, then Jack would have been cheating on Randall just as he had cheated on Lureen.

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Post by: tpe on Jun 12, 2006, 05:03 PM
Yes, I do think that he would have dropped everything to be with Ennis -- even in that last year. 

He would have been there in November!  Is this an article of faith?

I think Jack had already taken up with Randall.  If what you say is true, then Jack would have been cheating on Randall just as he had cheated on Lureen.



Indeed Patriot1, it would be so. 

I would like to think that he cheats to love as much as he cheats in love.

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Post by: Valandil Eluch on Jun 12, 2006, 05:09 PM
i agree with TPE and Patriot
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Post by: shieldmaid on Jun 12, 2006, 09:34 PM


I would like to think that he cheats to love as much as he cheats in love.



I agree, tpe.  It's a heartbreaking but true parallel.
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Post by: welshwitch on Jun 13, 2006, 12:08 AM
Jack wouldn't see it as cheating. He didn't love Randall, and I don't think he loved Lureen or she him. He loved Ennis, so if he could be with Ennis, he would. How can you resist love?
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Post by: tpe on Jun 13, 2006, 07:16 AM
Jack wouldn't see it as cheating. He didn't love Randall, and I don't think he loved Lureen or she him. He loved Ennis, so if he could be with Ennis, he would. How can you resist love?

I do think we all agree that Ennis is Jack's true love (tiresome or trite as the phrase may be).  I think it cruel for me to say this, but Jack was always left with "second best" as far as choices were concerned.  This is why I find him so sympathetic.  How many times in our own lives do we find ourselves dealing with compromises that never bring us the comfort of fulfillment, the sense of completeness...

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Post by: MississaugaRed on Jun 13, 2006, 07:32 AM
Jack wouldn't see it as cheating. He didn't love Randall, and I don't think he loved Lureen or she him. He loved Ennis, so if he could be with Ennis, he would. How can you resist love?

I do think we all agree that Ennis is Jack's true love (tiresome or trite as the phrase may be).  I think it cruel for me to say this, but Jack was always left with "second best" as far as choices were concerned.  This is why I find him so sympathetic.  How many times in our own lives do we find ourselves dealing with compromises that never bring us the comfort of fulfillment, the sense of completeness...


 :\'(    :^^)

tpe, this strikes such a nerve; perhaps this is why so many of us are able to identify deeply with Jack.  Especially as we add to our years and experience the realities of life, the choices we're forced to make that shortchange our desires.  Lives half lived, what can be more heartbreaking? 

Ennis responds to Jack's outburst by telling him "It's because of you, Jack, that I'm like this", but Jack could say the same back to Ennis.  Jack's life only half lived when he could SEE his dream, practically taste it, almost (so very close) touch it ... but ... always just out of reach.  All this is part of the "rest" Jack can't begin to give form to with mere words.
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Post by: tpe on Jun 13, 2006, 08:19 AM
:\'(    :^^)

tpe, this strikes such a nerve; perhaps this is why so many of us are able to identify deeply with Jack.  Especially as we add to our years and experience the realities of life, the choices we're forced to make that shortchange our desires.  Lives half lived, what can be more heartbreaking? 

Ennis responds to Jack's outburst by telling him "It's because of you, Jack, that I'm like this", but Jack could say the same back to Ennis.  Jack's life only half lived when he could SEE his dream, practically taste it, almost (so very close) touch it ... but ... always just out of reach.  All this is part of the "rest" Jack can't begin to give form to with mere words.

MississaugaRed, I myself am not ashamed to admit that I have lived life half-way many times in the past.  And yes, it is not out of keeping to admit that I sense I have not learned fully from experience.  But that is the beauty of life, no?  The ability to repeat one's mistakes and live the consequences of other people's wrong choices.  This is so achingly human.  I am glad for every mistake that informs me that I truly live.

 
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Post by: karen1129 on Jun 13, 2006, 08:34 AM
:\'(    :^^)

tpe, this strikes such a nerve; perhaps this is why so many of us are able to identify deeply with Jack.  Especially as we add to our years and experience the realities of life, the choices we're forced to make that shortchange our desires.  Lives half lived, what can be more heartbreaking? 

Ennis responds to Jack's outburst by telling him "It's because of you, Jack, that I'm like this", but Jack could say the same back to Ennis.  Jack's life only half lived when he could SEE his dream, practically taste it, almost (so very close) touch it ... but ... always just out of reach.  All this is part of the "rest" Jack can't begin to give form to with mere words.

MississaugaRed, I myself am not ashamed to admit that I have lived life half-way many times in the past.  And yes, it is not out of keeping to admit that I sense I have not learned fully from experience.  But that is the beauty of life, no?  The ability to repeat one's mistakes and live the consequences of other people's wrong choices.  This is so achingly human.  I am glad for every mistake that informs me that I truly live.

 

You guys are good.  Hit the nail on the head. 
Jack would have done ANYTHING to have that sweet life with Ennis.  Poor Ennis was too repressed to ever let that happen.
I too have lived my life half-way many times, and it is so very hard to "settle".  There comes a time when you have to
move on for your own good.  Gotta tell ya...... I don't know how Jack did it for 20 years. 
 
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Post by: tpe on Jun 13, 2006, 08:37 AM
You guys are good.  Hit the nail on the head. 
Jack would have done ANYTHING to have that sweet life with Ennis.  Poor Ennis was too repressed to ever let that happen.
I too have lived my life half-way many times, and it is so very hard to "settle".  There comes a time when you have to
move on for your own good.  Gotta tell ya...... I don't know how Jack did it for 20 years. 

Thank you, karen1129.  Sometimes, it is a comfort: not being able to know the rest.

We just move on.  But we try to remember.
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Post by: MississaugaRed on Jun 13, 2006, 08:51 AM

You guys are good.  Hit the nail on the head. 
Jack would have done ANYTHING to have that sweet life with Ennis.  Poor Ennis was too repressed to ever let that happen.
I too have lived my life half-way many times, and it is so very hard to "settle".  There comes a time when you have to
move on for your own good.  Gotta tell ya...... I don't know how Jack did it for 20 years.  
 
Karen1129, this was the beauty and strength of Jack, as you say, that he counted his love worth the price of all the wounds it left on his soul.  I can't imagine living that for 20 years, either ... and then to still have the grace to offer Ennis comfort at the end, even after the bitter truths they both let fly.  Jack was the stuff of heroes, IMO.  As tpe's beautiful words suggests, he represents that which makes us achingly human.
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Post by: welshwitch on Jun 13, 2006, 12:01 PM
Jack knew the rest, and knew Ennis, deep down in the fibres of his being - he knew what he was involved in. He also knew, I think, that it was a compromise, a life half-fulfilled, half-lived - but that was what he had. He could try to find physical satisfaction elsewhere, but no more than that. The older one gets, the more one sees the compromises one has made through life, and many of us have been involved in situations where, like Jack, there was no ideal solution because we were prisoners of someone else's choices. That's partly what gives the movie such a resonance.
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Post by: tpe on Jun 13, 2006, 12:24 PM
Jack knew the rest, and knew Ennis, deep down in the fibres of his being - he knew what he was involved in. He also knew, I think, that it was a compromise, a life half-fulfilled, half-lived - but that was what he had. He could try to find physical satisfaction elsewhere, but no more than that. The older one gets, the more one sees the compromises one has made through life, and many of us have been involved in situations where, like Jack, there was no ideal solution because we were prisoners of someone else's choices. That's partly what gives the movie such a resonance.

welshwitch: you speak the truth.


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Post by: MississaugaRed on Jun 13, 2006, 12:44 PM
Jack knew the rest, and knew Ennis, deep down in the fibres of his being - he knew what he was involved in. He also knew, I think, that it was a compromise, a life half-fulfilled, half-lived - but that was what he had. He could try to find physical satisfaction elsewhere, but no more than that. The older one gets, the more one sees the compromises one has made through life, and many of us have been involved in situations where, like Jack, there was no ideal solution because we were prisoners of someone else's choices. That's partly what gives the movie such a resonance.

welshwitch: you speak the truth.




Here, here!  :)  Great observation on life, for us and them.  :(

Those who adapt, survive.  Those who learn to bend can endure the wind until it changes.

After reading your postings, welshwitch and tpe, it seems to me that in some way, though Jack died with his poor body broken there by the roadside, his spirit was even then resilient.  It was Ennis who was perhaps the more broken in the end, body intact but spirit horribly wounded; learning to bend only after Jack was taken from him - when he starts to understand "the rest".  May be completely off the mark with that, but you've both given me much to muse on ... as usual.  Thank you!  ^f^
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Post by: tpe on Jun 13, 2006, 12:59 PM
Here, here!  :)  Great observation on life, for us and them.  :(

Those who adapt, survive.  Those who learn to bend can endure the wind until it changes.

After reading your postings, welshwitch and tpe, it seems to me that in some way, though Jack died with his poor body broken there by the roadside, his spirit was even then resilient.  It was Ennis who was perhaps the more broken in the end, body intact but spirit horribly wounded; learning to bend only after Jack was taken from him - when he starts to understand "the rest".  May be completely off the mark with that, but you've both given me much to muse on ... as usual.  Thank you!  ^f^
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MississaugaRed, I do think you are on the mark.  Ennis, in the end, is both saved and cursed by the love he shared with Jack.  He came in wounded, to be sure, but he let it fester for 20 years until it was too late to attain any semblance of a fix.

Jack's spirit may have been broken by Ennis's refusal to share a life with him, and he dies never fully knowing that Ennis did love him deeply.  This is his great tragedy.

For Ennis, it is ironic that, indeed, he will never know the rest.  At this point, it is no longer limited to the notion of Jack's infidelities.  It becomes an ironic commentary to Ennis never fully knowing the joy of love selflessly and wholeheartedly shared.  This is his great tragedy.

Indeed, he shall never know the rest.

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Post by: LuvJackNasty on Jun 13, 2006, 04:52 PM
Jack knew the rest, and knew Ennis, deep down in the fibres of his being - he knew what he was involved in. He also knew, I think, that it was a compromise, a life half-fulfilled, half-lived - but that was what he had. He could try to find physical satisfaction elsewhere, but no more than that. The older one gets, the more one sees the compromises one has made through life, and many of us have been involved in situations where, like Jack, there was no ideal solution because we were prisoners of someone else's choices. That's partly what gives the movie such a resonance.

Beautifully said!
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Post by: LuvJackNasty on Jun 13, 2006, 04:53 PM
Here, here!  :)  Great observation on life, for us and them.  :(

Those who adapt, survive.  Those who learn to bend can endure the wind until it changes.

After reading your postings, welshwitch and tpe, it seems to me that in some way, though Jack died with his poor body broken there by the roadside, his spirit was even then resilient.  It was Ennis who was perhaps the more broken in the end, body intact but spirit horribly wounded; learning to bend only after Jack was taken from him - when he starts to understand "the rest".  May be completely off the mark with that, but you've both given me much to muse on ... as usual.  Thank you!  ^f^
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MississaugaRed, I do think you are on the mark.  Ennis, in the end, is both saved and cursed by the love he shared with Jack.  He came in wounded, to be sure, but he let it fester for 20 years until it was too late to attain any semblance of a fix.

Jack's spirit may have been broken by Ennis's refusal to share a life with him, and he dies never fully knowing that Ennis did love him deeply.  This is his great tragedy.

For Ennis, it is ironic that, indeed, he will never know the rest.  At this point, it is no longer limited to the notion of Jack's infidelities.  It becomes an ironic commentary to Ennis never fully knowing the joy of love selflessly and wholeheartedly shared.  This is his great tragedy.

Indeed, he shall never know the rest.



Well said Miss-Red and TPE. Of course I am sitting here all teary again.  :\'(
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Post by: tpe on Jun 13, 2006, 04:58 PM
Well said Miss-Red and TPE. Of course I am sitting here all teary again.  :\'(

We are one in tears.

Faced with this double tragedy, it is perhaps best that WE never know the rest...

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Post by: welshwitch on Jun 13, 2006, 05:10 PM
Now I've gone off on to another track entirely, to the idea of rest in the sense of death or peace, which even Jack's ashes didn't find and which I don;t think ennis's will either. No-one to ask for them to be granted eternal rest, and no-one to sing a requiem.
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Post by: tpe on Jun 13, 2006, 05:21 PM
Now I've gone off on to another track entirely, to the idea of rest in the sense of death or peace, which even Jack's ashes didn't find and which I don;t think ennis's will either. No-one to ask for them to be granted eternal rest, and no-one to sing a requiem.

Even in death they will be alone and apart.

The parting scene in the last meeting was the defining point.  It became irrevocable.  But for all that they never did come to know -- for all the rest that was never addressed in that one last separation that became forever -- I have come to believe that their love endured. 

It is their love that will bridge the great void.  All the rest shall melt away.

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Post by: welshwitch on Jun 13, 2006, 05:29 PM
"Thaw, and resolve itself into a dew"?

Thomas, you're a romantic. You should have been a poet.
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Post by: tpe on Jun 13, 2006, 05:34 PM
"Thaw, and resolve itself into a dew"?

Thomas, you're a romantic. You should have been a poet.

As in The Tale of Genji: life is but as fleeting as the morning dew.

welshwitch, perhaps I am simply hopeless.  I know you understand...
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Post by: mactwck on Jun 13, 2006, 08:52 PM
To get back to the cheating part....
I love jack and I do feel his pain, but it is not that hard to be faithful to someone.  If he truely loved Ennis in a way that they were soulmate he would not have gone looking for other men.  I know this will not be a popular opinion, but it is how I feel.  Even when things were bad his love for Ennis did not stop him from looking?  Remember 20 years of somethings are better than nothing.  Damn you Jack, I swear.....
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Post by: Patriot1 on Jun 13, 2006, 10:02 PM
To get back to the cheating part....
I love jack and I do feel his pain, but it is not that hard to be faithful to someone.  If he truely loved Ennis in a way that they were soulmate he would not have gone looking for other men.  I know this will not be a popular opinion, but it is how I feel.  Even when things were bad his love for Ennis did not stop him from looking?  Remember 20 years of somethings are better than nothing.  Damn you Jack, I swear.....

Well, you got a friend here mactwck.  The first time I heard Jack say he couldn't make it in a couple of high-altitude f**ks a year, I burst into laughter in the theater.  I then mentioned it here.  It was not a popular stand.  What about people who have never had it?  What about soldiers who go away from home for a year at a time, or longer. Are they to be unfaithful? Don't think I am condemning Jack for his unfaithfulness but I sure don't understand it.

Having said that, I suppose that when there is no commitment from both parties, there is no reason to be faithful. I may love Jake Gyllenhaal but until he made a commitment to me, why be faithful?

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Post by: tpe on Jun 14, 2006, 07:08 AM
I would even venture to say that I love Jack Twist because of this failing.  So many of us relate to this.  It is all too human: the need to find surrogates when the desire goes unfulfilled.  Faithfulness, even in heterosexual marriages, is always harder without physical proximity.  It is certainly one important reason why couples have children -- to solidify a bond in the form of flesh and blood intermingled.

I love the characters precisely for their failings.  These failings -- they are the power and the glory of BBM.  The story would be banal without it.  It reminds us that human relationships are never so simple.  People are never so simple.  And love can be so complex by virtue of its inherent simplicity.

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Post by: MississaugaRed on Jun 14, 2006, 07:47 AM
I would even venture to say that I love Jack Twist because of this failing.  So many of us relate to this.  It is all too human: the need to find surrogates when the desire goes unfulfilled.  Faithfulness, even in heterosexual marriages, is always harder without physical proximity.  It is certainly one important reason why couples have children -- to solidify a bond in the form of flesh and blood intermingled.

I love the characters precisely for their failings.  These failings -- they are the power and the glory of BBM.  The story would be banal without it.  It reminds us that human relationships are never so simple.
  People are never so simple.  And love can be so complex by virtue of its inherent simplicity.



tpe, so true ... this was no "Hollywood" love story.  It felt like we were watching real people, real lives unfold before our eyes; it felt intimate. And it has made almost everything else I've seen before or since seem banal by comparison.  A new pinnacle has been reached with BBM in terms of  connection between story-tellers and story-viewers.

Jack and Ennis did not lead fairy-tale perfect lives, together or apart.  If we can know that, and still love them, it's possible to love ourselves in the face of our own failings.  It was possible for them to love each other even after it became apparent that "the rest" included their failings; those failings which had lead them to this place and this moment of revelation.

If BBM reads as real-life (which to me it does) and is considered a masterpiece, then I guess life itself is a masterpiece. We just rarely see it portrayed as such.  BBM is a true gift.
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Post by: tpe on Jun 14, 2006, 08:16 AM
tpe, so true ... this was no "Hollywood" love story.  It felt like we were watching real people, real lives unfold before our eyes; it felt intimate. And it has made almost everything else I've seen before or since seem banal by comparison.  A new pinnacle has been reached with BBM in terms of  connection between story-tellers and story-viewers.

Jack and Ennis did not lead fairy-tale perfect lives, together or apart.  If we can know that, and still love them, it's possible to love ourselves in the face of our own failings.  It was possible for them to love each other even after it became apparent that "the rest" included their failings; those failings which had lead them to this place and this moment of revelation.

If BBM reads as real-life (which to me it does) and is considered a masterpiece, then I guess life itself is a masterpiece. We just rarely see it portrayed as such.  BBM is a true gift.

Yes.  We love them because we have been there.

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Post by: welshwitch on Jun 14, 2006, 10:59 AM
And because like all the great fictional characters they are imperfect, damaged, the golden bowl with its flaw.
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Post by: LuvJackNasty on Jun 14, 2006, 11:07 AM
Well said {as usual} Tpe & Miss-Red and so true.
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Post by: tpe on Jun 14, 2006, 11:35 AM
And because like all the great fictional characters they are imperfect, damaged, the golden bowl with its flaw.


"The golden bowl--as it WAS to have been." And Maggie dwelt musingly on this obscured figure. "The bowl with all our happiness in it. The bowl without the crack."


Henry James -- 'The Golden Bowl'


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Post by: edgar on Jun 14, 2006, 04:21 PM
And because like all the great fictional characters they are imperfect, damaged, the golden bowl with its flaw.


"The golden bowl--as it WAS to have been." And Maggie dwelt musingly on this obscured figure. "The bowl with all our happiness in it. The bowl without the crack."


Henry James -- 'The Golden Bowl'


"Lest the pitcher be broken at the fountain, or the golden bowl be broken at the cistern..." (Ecclesiastes)
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Post by: tpe on Jun 14, 2006, 06:02 PM
And because like all the great fictional characters they are imperfect, damaged, the golden bowl with its flaw.


"The golden bowl--as it WAS to have been." And Maggie dwelt musingly on this obscured figure. "The bowl with all our happiness in it. The bowl without the crack."


Henry James -- 'The Golden Bowl'


"Lest the pitcher be broken at the fountain, or the golden bowl be broken at the cistern..." (Ecclesiastes)

Thanks you edgar.  The obscured figure: so true to the spirit of BBM!!  :)

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Post by: shieldmaid on Jun 14, 2006, 06:55 PM
I love the golden bowl metaphor here--so appropriate.

I think it's important for us, too, to see Jack's imperfections.  After reading the many threads here over the past 5 months, I feel like Ennis sometimes gets more of the blame than he maybe deserves.  He wasn't perfect, but neither was Jack.  They were totally human, with human frailties--and that's why we love them, and why they love each other, so much.

On a more personal note, I do wish that Jack hadn't been unfaithful to Ennis--but I also wish Ennis had been willing to try a life together with Jack.  So it goes.
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Post by: mactwck on Jun 14, 2006, 08:27 PM
To get back to the cheating part....
I love jack and I do feel his pain, but it is not that hard to be faithful to someone.  If he truely loved Ennis in a way that they were soulmate he would not have gone looking for other men.  I know this will not be a popular opinion, but it is how I feel.  Even when things were bad his love for Ennis did not stop him from looking?  Remember 20 years of somethings are better than nothing.  Damn you Jack, I swear.....

Well, you got a friend here mactwck.  The first time I heard Jack say he couldn't make it in a couple of high-altitude f**ks a year, I burst into laughter in the theater.  I then mentioned it here.  It was not a popular stand.  What about people who have never had it?  What about soldiers who go away from home for a year at a time, or longer. Are they to be unfaithful? Don't think I am condemning Jack for his unfaithfulness but I sure don't understand it.

Having said that, I suppose that when there is no commitment from both parties, there is no reason to be faithful. I may love Jake Gyllenhaal but until he made a commitment to me, why be faithful?



Nice to know that I am not the only one.  And the Jake thing, if I had actually slept with Jake I would be faithful...then again he would probably be dead from exhaustion.
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Post by: karen1129 on Jun 14, 2006, 08:29 PM
I love the golden bowl metaphor here--so appropriate.

I think it's important for us, too, to see Jack's imperfections.  After reading the many threads here over the past 5 months, I feel like Ennis sometimes gets more of the blame than he maybe deserves.  He wasn't perfect, but neither was Jack.  They were totally human, with human frailties--and that's why we love them, and why they love each other, so much.

On a more personal note, I do wish that Jack hadn't been unfaithful to Ennis--but I also wish Ennis had been willing to try a life together with Jack.  So it goes.

Ennis never gave Jack any reason to believe they would ever be in a committed relationship.
Jack wanted one.  Jack's needs were indeed more than Ennis's.  He was satisfied with
a couple of high altitude f...ks a couple of times a years.
Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: frances on Jun 15, 2006, 02:19 AM
I would even venture to say that I love Jack Twist because of this failing.  So many of us relate to this.  It is all too human: the need to find surrogates when the desire goes unfulfilled.  Faithfulness, even in heterosexual marriages, is always harder without physical proximity.  It is certainly one important reason why couples have children -- to solidify a bond in the form of flesh and blood intermingled.

I love the characters precisely for their failings.  These failings -- they are the power and the glory of BBM.  The story would be banal without it.  It reminds us that human relationships are never so simple.
  People are never so simple.  And love can be so complex by virtue of its inherent simplicity.



tpe, so true ... this was no "Hollywood" love story.  It felt like we were watching real people, real lives unfold before our eyes; it felt intimate. And it has made almost everything else I've seen before or since seem banal by comparison.  A new pinnacle has been reached with BBM in terms of  connection between story-tellers and story-viewers.

Jack and Ennis did not lead fairy-tale perfect lives, together or apart.  If we can know that, and still love them, it's possible to love ourselves in the face of our own failings.  It was possible for them to love each other even after it became apparent that "the rest" included their failings; those failings which had lead them to this place and this moment of revelation.

If BBM reads as real-life (which to me it does) and is considered a masterpiece, then I guess life itself is a masterpiece. We just rarely see it portrayed as such.  BBM is a true gift.

"To look life in the face, always, to look life in the face and to know it for what it is"

That's why I loved BBM so much.


Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: tpe on Jun 15, 2006, 07:50 AM
"To look life in the face, always, to look life in the face and to know it for what it is"

That's why I loved BBM so much.

And I have come to love that quote very much.  I keep it by my side.

Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: keren_b on Jun 15, 2006, 11:44 AM
Ennis never gave Jack any reason to believe they would ever be in a committed relationship.
Jack wanted one.  Jack's needs were indeed more than Ennis's.  He was satisfied with
a couple of high altitude f...ks a couple of times a years.

I'm not sure Jack's needs were more than Ennis's, or that Ennis was satisfied with a couple of high altitude f**ks a couple of times a year. I'm sure Ennis wanted more, but he was too inhibited and repressed to act on his wanting. They were different in character. Jack expressed his frustration and his needs, while Ennis held everything inside. While Jack went to Mexico, Ennis probably wrang himself up constantly thinking about Jack but never said a word about it, it wasn't in his character to admit how much he wanted and needed Jack. He had all kinds of psychological reasons to hold back, but it doesn't mean he didn't feel just as strong.
Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: Valandil Eluch on Jun 15, 2006, 02:34 PM
Ennis never gave Jack any reason to believe they would ever be in a committed relationship.
Jack wanted one.  Jack's needs were indeed more than Ennis's.  He was satisfied with
a couple of high altitude f...ks a couple of times a years.

I'm not sure Jack's needs were more than Ennis's, or that Ennis was satisfied with a couple of high altitude f**ks a couple of times a year. I'm sure Ennis wanted more, but he was too inhibited and repressed to act on his wanting. They were different in character. Jack expressed his frustration and his needs, while Ennis held everything inside. While Jack went to Mexico, Ennis probably wrang himself up constantly thinking about Jack but never said a word about it, it wasn't in his character to admit how much he wanted and needed Jack. He had all kinds of psychological reasons to hold back, but it doesn't mean he didn't feel just as strong.

you are right Keren, besides even in the begining is expressed that with the statement that he had being riding more than bulls now wranging up himself and Ennis admitting he wrang himself up thinking about Jack many times. so that is not the real truth

Ennis and Jack were completely different in their needs and saying that for he was satisfied with once or twice a year that is totally unfair! for Ennis that wasn't enough either but he was afraid of the Tire Irons, so he forced himself to have Jack only that way protecting themselves in the middle of nowhere. And Jack he was more emotive in the relationship but we are not going to give him a crown and say it i was all Ennis fault when it's not it none of them fault. if we look for a guilty that would but the society (mmmm i think that i just went  *o))
Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: tpe on Jun 15, 2006, 04:43 PM
Thanks all for sharing these wonderful thoughts.  The final meeting illuminates as much as it obscures the relationship of Ennis and Jack.  For every answer, there are more questions.  This is true to life itself.  And this is why your posts move me as much as they challenge me to see what we shall never truly know...



Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: Valandil Eluch on Jun 15, 2006, 05:19 PM
tpe thanks to you!!!
Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: tpe on Jun 15, 2006, 06:07 PM
Carlos_H82, when you said:

Ennis and Jack were completely different in their needs...

you were not really OOT.  What you said is at the root of "all the rest". 

What Ennis and Jack certainly did not realize then was that "all the rest" meant everything they did not want to face up to -- all the needs one had that the other could have provided.  Their needs are indeed different.  But the tragedy is one and the same.

Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: Valandil Eluch on Jun 15, 2006, 06:11 PM
Carlos_H82, when you said:

Ennis and Jack were completely different in their needs...

you were not really OOT.  What you said is at the root of "all the rest". 

What Ennis and Jack certainly did not realize then was that "all the rest" meant everything they did not want to face up to -- all the needs one had that the other could have provided.  Their needs are indeed different.  But the tragedy is one and the same.



which hits you more because we were unable to do anything we just saw them and were unable to help them
Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: tpe on Jun 15, 2006, 06:16 PM
which hits you more because we were unable to do anything we just saw them and were unable to help them

How many times in that last quarrel did we not just feel that we HAD to intervene.  I certainly did.  That is I think why I am so emotionally affected by that one scene.  It is because we know that we are powerless to help them.

Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: Valandil Eluch on Jun 15, 2006, 06:19 PM
which hits you more because we were unable to do anything we just saw them and were unable to help them

How many times in that last quarrel did we not just feel that we HAD to intervene.  I certainly did.  That is I think why I am so emotionally affected by that one scene.  It is because we know that we are powerless to help them.



sad but true we are just watching them hurting each other with those lines  :\'( :\'( :\'( even thogh we knew they love each other!
Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: LuvJackNasty on Jun 15, 2006, 07:47 PM
which hits you more because we were unable to do anything we just saw them and were unable to help them

How many times in that last quarrel did we not just feel that we HAD to intervene.  I certainly did.  That is I think why I am so emotionally affected by that one scene.  It is because we know that we are powerless to help them.



sad but true we are just watching them hurting each other with those lines  :\'( :\'( :\'( even thogh we knew they love each other!

So true Carlos and TPE. That scene gets me everytime.  :\'(
Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: hpv on Jun 23, 2006, 04:08 AM

Reading all those  mesmerizing interpretations is one of the resons I love to be here   %)
 <^(
Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: tpe on Jun 23, 2006, 06:57 AM

Reading all those  mesmerizing interpretations is one of the resons I love to be here   %)
 <^(

So true hpv.  I am happy to be here  with friends who love the scenes in BBM in surprisingly deep and meaningful ways.


Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: welshwitch on Jun 23, 2006, 08:48 AM
The more I look at those lines, the same ones in both the ss and the script, the more I don't understand them. When Jack says, " if you don't never know the rest" is he implying that he hopes Ennis never will understand all the other things about their relationship, because there's no point in his doing so now? In  other words, is he saying this is the end, he's said all he can and there's no way Ennis is going to change so there's no point in going on?
Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: keren_b on Jun 23, 2006, 09:02 AM
The more I look at those lines, the same ones in both the ss and the script, the more I don't understand them. When Jack says, " if you don't never know the rest" is he implying that he hopes Ennis never will understand all the other things about their relationship, because there's no point in his doing so now? In  other words, is he saying this is the end, he's said all he can and there's no way Ennis is going to change so there's no point in going on?

I don't think he doesn't want Ennis to know the rest and to understand all the things about their relationship, but I think he realize that Ennis is not willing to know, and can't deal with all these truths. whether it's the good stuff (like how deeply and totally Jack loves him) or the bad stuff (Jack having sex with other men), Ennis refuses to recognize all that. Saying "all these things I don't know could get you killed if I come to know them", is actually a way to say "I don't wanna hear it and I don't wanna know". So I thought jack meant to say, I hope you know that because of your stubborness and your refusal the only thing we got left now is this mountain, and I hope you know this one truth even if you can't accept all the others... and I don't think he meant this is the end, because after that he said "I wish I knew how to quit you" and by that admitted that he can't quit Ennis, and that this thing will never be over...
Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: welshwitch on Jun 23, 2006, 03:07 PM
In which case he's saying he accepts Ennis with all his limitations and emotional hang-ups, but still can;t give him up? I like that.
Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: ksxks on Jun 23, 2006, 05:59 PM
I also think, like others have said before me, that "the rest" is not just one spesific thing but a number of things. The way I understand it, Jack is saying "I hope you know that" - that all we have is Brokeback mountain and we have nothing beyond that, because you wouldn't commit to our love and you wouldn't come and live with me, so I hope you know that this situation is your fault, "if you don't never know the rest" - if you never know how much I love you, how much I need you, if you never know how much I miss you and how much it hurts, and how bad it gets, to the point that I seek relief in the arms of other men just because I can't be with you... There are a lot of things that Ennis doesn't know or realise until it's too late.

This such a fascinating and difficult scene to discuss, such pent-up love and frustration.  All summing up, as ethan said I think, the state of their relationship.  I love how you've said it here, keren, and I would add at the end of what Ennis doesn't know:  if you never know...the life we could have had, how much love I could have given you...

kathy
Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: ksxks on Jun 23, 2006, 06:34 PM
I read this at lunchtime-yet another day of crying at my desk!  :'(
The rest is so many things to me- much of which has already been expressed so beautifully by everyone here.

The rest is the missed opportunities and a love squandered due to Ennis' fear and reluctance to accept the truth about himself and ultimately their relationship.
I can only imagine that each time Jack's suggestions were rebuffed that it killed Jack a little more each time and that it was like being hit with a tire iron emotionally.

The rest is the love Jack has for Ennis and him being fed up with only feeling truly alive when Ennis sees fit. Jack put his hopes and dreams on the backburner for 20 years. He is not able to express what is truly in his heart for fear that he would scare Ennis off. The sacrifices and concessions that Jack has made over the years to keep the relationship going. That Jack would have given up everything for a life with Ennis

The rest is that Ennis will only be with Jack hidden away- Jack feeling Ennis is ashamed of him and the truth about what he represents in his life.

"What we got now is BBM"- all we have is what could have been- everything is built on trying to recapture that perfect summer of 1963. The rest: "I've been doing everything in my power to keep that alive and you've thrown up roadblocks every step of the way. But no matter how many times you've rejected me, I could never stop loving you." "But you didn't want it Ennis"- You didn't want to accept the truth. You didn't want it to be me."

Ennis could no longer deny "the rest" when he found those shirts.   


Beautiful, poignant words, LJN.  You've said it so well.  You really understand Jack.  Here's what got me the most, an aspect I hadn't quite realized before:  "He [Jack] is not able to express what is truly in his heart for fear that he would scare Ennis off."  Just heartbreaking.

I think I'm going to go visit someplace silly and fun like Jakelicks; I don't want any more deep thinking and feeling right now.

kathy
Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: ksxks on Jun 23, 2006, 06:44 PM
[quoteThe rest is the love Jack has for Ennis and him being fed up with only feeling truly alive when Ennis sees fit. Jack put his hopes and dreams on the backburner for 20 years. He is not able to express what is truly in his heart for fear that he would scare Ennis off. The sacrifices and concessions that Jack has made over the years to keep the relationship going. That Jack would have given up everything for a life with Ennis
Quote

Even though it's not in the original story, when Ennis, sobbing, tells Jack, "It's because a you Jack that I'm like this; I'm  nobody, nowhere!" , I can see in Ennis' convoluted/cramped vision of their relationship, that he's lived life on the edge ever since the first reunion.  Ennis has taken only fleeting and temporary, low-paying jobs which he could quit or take off at a moment's notice whenever an opportunity to be with Jack appeared.  He moved willingly into Riverton, into an apartment, so he could leave anytime; something he couldn't do on a ranch, leaving only Alma and the girls.  It seems to me Ennis sacrificed any and all financial security just to be ready to be with Jack on the Mountain.  Perhaps Ennis' way of showing "love" for Jack was clumsy and tunnel-visioned, but his utter devotion to Jack seems apparent to me.  The tragedy of the entire relationship was Ennis' deathly fear of being discovered, and his fear of relocating somewhere else out of Wyoming,  something Jack didn't care about overmuch.  The two dear, tragic men were never able to reconcile themselves to any sort of happy medium for a fulfilling life together.

More breaking my heart, Kemmer.  Most posts so far focus on how Jack has been getting the shaft from Ennis, so I love what you say here about Ennis -- his love for Jack is no less certain than Jack's for his, but he doesn't know how to make it his real life, life with Jack.

kathy
Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: ksxks on Jun 23, 2006, 06:48 PM

It's heartbreaking to think how differently things might have tirned out for Jack and Ennis if they had met in 1993.  But I supposed that would only would have opened up many other cans of worms. 

 :-\I withdraw my speculation.

That's very funny -- I just now started on that train of thought myself and started writing about it, in my previous reply to your previous post, but deleted it -- it gets too complicated, the what-if's...  I'm withdrawing my speculation also.   ;)

kathy
Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: tpe on Jun 27, 2006, 07:10 AM

It's heartbreaking to think how differently things might have tirned out for Jack and Ennis if they had met in 1993.  But I supposed that would only would have opened up many other cans of worms. 

 :-\I withdraw my speculation.

That's very funny -- I just now started on that train of thought myself and started writing about it, in my previous reply to your previous post, but deleted it -- it gets too complicated, the what-if's...  I'm withdrawing my speculation also.   ;)

kathy


I am sure there would have been sharp differences.  But sometimes I do wonder.  After all, Matthew Sheppard was murdered in 1997...

Bigotry is as old as sin itself.



Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: Patriot1 on Jun 27, 2006, 08:11 AM
I am sure there would have been sharp differences.  But sometimes I do wonder.  After all, Matthew Sheppard was murdered in 1997...

 Just two minor corrections TPE. 

:\'(   Matthew Shepard died at 12:53am on October 12, 1998.   :\'(

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http://www.matthewshepard.org/index.html

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Matthew_Shepard


"His face was caked with blood, except where it had been partially washed clean by tears."





Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: tpe on Jun 27, 2006, 09:07 AM
I am sure there would have been sharp differences.  But sometimes I do wonder.  After all, Matthew Sheppard was murdered in 1997...

 Just two minor corrections TPE. 

:\'(   Matthew Shepard died at 12:53am on October 12, 1998.   :\'(

(https://ennisjack.com/forum/proxy.php?request=http%3A%2F%2Fi43.photobucket.com%2Falbums%2Fe359%2FPatriotOne%2FMatthewShepardFoundation001.jpg&hash=9fb63418d2cfdc2c9536c068ca6bd5f572c94a31)

http://www.matthewshepard.org/index.html

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Matthew_Shepard


You are right Patriot1.  The murder occured a full year after the publication of BBM in 1997. 

It certainly drives the point home, doesn't it?

Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: Twisted on Jun 27, 2006, 09:15 AM
Why the world is so cruel? :\'( :\'(
Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: tpe on Jun 27, 2006, 09:20 AM
Why the world is so cruel? :\'( :\'(


I am just glad that it is not all cruel. 

So long as there are people willing to know the rest, there is hope.

Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: hpv on Jun 27, 2006, 11:23 AM
I am sure there would have been sharp differences.  But sometimes I do wonder.  After all, Matthew Sheppard was murdered in 1997...

 Just two minor corrections TPE. 

:'(   Matthew Shepard died at 12:53am on October 12, 1998.   :'(

(https://ennisjack.com/forum/proxy.php?request=http%3A%2F%2Fi43.photobucket.com%2Falbums%2Fe359%2FPatriotOne%2FMatthewShepardFoundation001.jpg&hash=9fb63418d2cfdc2c9536c068ca6bd5f572c94a31)

http://www.matthewshepard.org/index.html

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Matthew_Shepard

"His face was caked with blood, except where it had been partially washed clean by tears."

Why the world is so cruel? :'( :'(

I am just glad that it is not all cruel. 
So long as there are people willing to know the rest, there is hope.


We can't  live without a hope for a better tomorrow..
Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: tpe on Jun 27, 2006, 01:05 PM
We can't  live without a hope for a better tomorrow..

Yes, we cannot.  And we will not.

I do see Kemmer's original point.  Without the will to change things for the future, it will not have mattered if it was 1963 or today.  We all hope that some progress has been made.



Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: keren_b on Jun 29, 2006, 07:23 AM
I am sure there would have been sharp differences.  But sometimes I do wonder.  After all, Matthew Sheppard was murdered in 1997...

 Just two minor corrections TPE. 

:\'(   Matthew Shepard died at 12:53am on October 12, 1998.   :\'(

(https://ennisjack.com/forum/proxy.php?request=http%3A%2F%2Fi43.photobucket.com%2Falbums%2Fe359%2FPatriotOne%2FMatthewShepardFoundation001.jpg&hash=9fb63418d2cfdc2c9536c068ca6bd5f572c94a31)

http://www.matthewshepard.org/index.html

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Matthew_Shepard


"His face was caked with blood, except where it had been partially washed clean by tears."

"Every time I think of him, I just can't keep from crying"...  trully, every mention of Matthew Shepard brings tears to my eyes. it really gets to me, every time.

Thank you for the link Patriot. I ordered my set of "erase hate" wristbands.
Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: aintfoolin on Jul 01, 2006, 10:59 AM
Hello, first time here nice toknow. I'm not alone in this fanatic state. loved the movie. In this scene I feel that Jack has finnally been pushed over the edge with Ennis's obsessive fear. after 20 years he still does'nt ( get it!). The frustration Jack must be feeling. The pressures of both their lives away from each other are so overwhelming, although I feel Jack has more at this point. Ennis is now single with 2 girls but they do not live with them ,but he loves them dearly I believe . Jack on the other hand has job ,wife,son,and a father-in-law who's so disgusted with him he'd pay to see him gone. On top of that he's got Ennis's fears to deal with. Mexico, Randall are all part of ("the rest")I can understand some of Ennis's frustration too, coming from a chilhood of loneliness as he did to a certain extent , but here is Jack being told that he won't see Ennis, the love of his life, for month's and month's. Again! The look on Jack's face as they're loading the trucks o leave says alot,sadness,anger and a sense of wondering when all thiwill finnally come to an end ,when he can finnally stay with Ennis forever.The ("fishing trips") are not enough any more. He needs, wants, and deserves more Ennis may not ever know the rest but he's had 20 years to know enough . sorry for rambling on.
Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: hpv on Jul 01, 2006, 01:51 PM
Hello, first time here nice to know. I'm not alone in this fanatic state. loved the movie. In this scene I feel that Jack has finally been  He needs, wants, and deserves more Ennis may not ever know the rest but he's had 20 years to know enough . sorry for rambling on.
Hi ! aintfoolin!! ^f^

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You absolutely right!!
Never enough time..never enough... :(
 But don't be shy  you can rambling on,your in the right place for it O0
Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: tpe on Jul 01, 2006, 04:28 PM
Hello, first time here nice to know. I'm not alone in this fanatic state. loved the movie. In this scene I feel that Jack has finally been  He needs, wants, and deserves more Ennis may not ever know the rest but he's had 20 years to know enough . sorry for rambling on.
Hi ! aintfoolin!! ^f^

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You absolutely right!!
Never enough time..never enough... :(
 But don't be shy  you can rambling on,your in the right place for it O0


Hello aintfoolin, and welcome.  I echo hpv here. 

Love and fear are hopelessly intertwined in this scene from the final meeting.   That is why the frustration is immense on both sides.   This is why we feel for them everytime. 

No apologies needed.  We feel for them everytime.



 
Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: welshwitch on Jul 01, 2006, 10:30 PM
All through the movie Ennis has been shown to be literally and metaphorically enclosed, cut off, limited. This line seems to be Jack's acknowledgement that Ennis is never going to break free of what keeps him from changing, that he will always be imprisoned by his past experiences, that the unsatisfactory situation isn't something that will change eventually.
Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: ksxks on Jul 02, 2006, 02:02 AM
All through the movie Ennis has been shown to be literally and metaphorically enclosed, cut off, limited. This line seems to be Jack's acknowledgement that Ennis is never going to break free of what keeps him from changing, that he will always be imprisoned by his past experiences, that the unsatisfactory situation isn't something that will change eventually.

So you mean "the rest" that Ennis will never know is how to live as a free man, free from being so shut into himself?  That's a good way to look at it...and so sad, that Jack would think Ennis would never learn how to feel free to live his love.

kathy
Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: welshwitch on Jul 02, 2006, 06:24 AM
If you want to push it on a little, that's why Jack's death is significant in a sacrificail sense. It's the only thing that can set Ennis free to aknowledge what heis true feelings were/are; he would never have done so while Jack was alive. So I can see why some people, though not me, see Jack as a Christ-figure, or at least one in the Christian tradition. "Greater love hath no man than that he lay down his life for his friend." I don't subscribe to this - it's a step too far, and Jack didn't and wouldn't have willed his own death. Nevertheless, it works as a means of opening Ennis up to the world of felling and being rather than that of doing, which is the one he's tried to stay in.
Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: aintfoolin on Jul 02, 2006, 01:51 PM
Even if he never knows "the rest" it will always be ther in Ennis's mind don't you think? The way Ennis compartmentalizes everything I think that Jack admitting to Mexico opened up a whole can of worms for him. There's so much going on with Ennis at this point that the thought of losing Jack for goodis just too much for him to take.Sad.
Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: tpe on Jul 17, 2006, 08:08 AM
Even if he never knows "the rest" it will always be ther in Ennis's mind don't you think? The way Ennis compartmentalizes everything I think that Jack admitting to Mexico opened up a whole can of worms for him. There's so much going on with Ennis at this point that the thought of losing Jack for goodis just too much for him to take.Sad.

I missed this post.  Very well said.  Thanks.

Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: aintfoolin on Aug 03, 2007, 06:59 PM
 This  is the thread of my very first post here on ennisjack. com, and i am just as fascinated now by this story as then .Thanks to all of you here I am truly enlightened to much .
 The sense of

 To an extent, I think Ennis suspected some of ' the rest" . Meaning imo Jack's affairs outside the relationship. Jack was keeping secrets, only revealing flings with LaShawn/ and or the hustlers, when Ennis prodded him about Mexico.  but Randall I feel, was a bigger part of " the rest" .  Though hard, Jack was trying to figure a way to give up this dream he had to someday live on a ranch with Ennis. I think Randall was going to play a part in this plan to try and move on.  His significance in the film? He came into Jack;s life at a time when Jack's hopes were dim for a life together with Ennis, a vulnerable time. He needed hope, and Randall gave him that.

Ennis never heard of Randall until after Jack's death.  Mr. Twist said " some ranch neighbor", not his wife. The idea that Jack's parents knew about Randall and Ennis did'nt says to him that Jack was more far gone in his frustration over the whole thing than Ennis ever realized. Jack was already letting go of his sweet life dream with Ennis. It was hard on both of them. I wonder at times had had Jack revealed Randall's existence during this confrontation. What would Ennis's reaction be then? Could Randall have been a catylist? Loosing Jack to another man?
A real live threat to his relationship with Jack.

Ennis wanted to meet with Jack at PineCreek, Would that postcard have been sent if Ennis knew of Randall? Did Ennis feel their love was worth fighting for?  Some say Jack was setting Ennis free, but I don't feel Ennis really wanted to be free of Jack, too dependent and too much in love. Jack had taken a stand, cursed Ennis while held him in his arms. Damn powerful stuff. In light of everything that was said and done during the confrontation, Ennis sent Jack the postcard to meet again. This is deep...But he did'nt know about Randall yet.
, They were'nt kids any more and Jack was tired of playing this wait and wonder game.  With age, perspectives and priorities get juggled around .Though he still loved Ennis deeply. Randall was  a  part of what Ennis did'nt know about the rest of Jack's story at that point.

 Some say that Randall's significance is nil, but I respectfully disagree, He was a big part of "the rest". MO
Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: MississaugaRed on Aug 03, 2007, 11:34 PM
Hey, there, aintfoolin ..  ^f^

Your post has me walking down memory lane, too. I remember my early days discussing every nuance of BBM too.  Never get tired of seeing new fans experience all the excitement of exploring what might or might not have been.  I learned so much about the implications of everything from the comments of others, and I can't say enough good things about all the BBM fans who post here.   <^(

Randall has been a source of much contension, considering how brief his appearance in the film was.   Ironic, isn't it, the weight he carried was/is disproportionate to his time in the light, but there it is.  :)

Like you, aintfoolin, I always felt that Randall was a significant part of "the rest".  Mostly because I think this was the time for Jack when he stepped over a new boundary, another blow to his relationship with Ennis.  I'm awed everytime I see the look on Jack's face, that moment on the bench outside the party when Randall suggests that he and Jack get together, "do a little fishin'".   This is different, it's a whole other step away from Ennis, beyond an anonymous encounter into the realm of "real" people.  I always felt that this moment really broke Jack's heart.  If he does this (which it is heavily implied he does), it's one more step away from his dreams of a life with Ennis; one more admission that what he most dearly dreams of isn't within his grasp.

Anyway, I think that the start of Jack's relationship with Randall was one of those watershed moments, one that impacted him through the following years and weighted heavy on his mind when he was with Ennis; "all the rest", that he likely dreaded and wanted Ennis to know, maybe.   :-\\
Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: aintfoolin on Aug 04, 2007, 02:07 AM
Hey, there, aintfoolin ..  ^f^

Your post has me walking down memory lane, too. I remember my early days discussing every nuance of BBM too.  Never get tired of seeing new fans experience all the excitement of exploring what might or might not have been.  I learned so much about the implications of everything from the comments of others, and I can't say enough good things about all the BBM fans who post here.   <^(

Randall has been a source of much contension, considering how brief his appearance in the film was.   Ironic, isn't it, the weight he carried was/is disproportionate to his time in the light, but there it is.  :)

Like you, aintfoolin, I always felt that Randall was a significant part of "the rest".  Mostly because I think this was the time for Jack when he stepped over a new boundary, another blow to his relationship with Ennis.  I'm awed everytime I see the look on Jack's face, that moment on the bench outside the party when Randall suggests that he and Jack get together, "do a little fishin'".   This is different, it's a whole other step away from Ennis, beyond an anonymous encounter into the realm of "real" people.  I always felt that this moment really broke Jack's heart.  If he does this (which it is heavily implied he does), it's one more step away from his dreams of a life with Ennis; one more admission that what he most dearly dreams of isn't within his grasp.

Anyway, I think that the start of Jack's relationship with Randall was one of those watershed moments, one that impacted him through the following years and weighted heavy on his mind when he was with Ennis; "all the rest", that he likely dreaded and wanted Ennis to know, maybe.   :-\\

  Your absolutly right about the forums MissG, if I may. I never tire of reading new perspectives on the threads about this classic film. Some of these older threads are simply fascinating! ..Love reading them.


I'm glad you feel as I do that Randall , even though his role  in the film was small the sigificance of his relationship with Jack makes him  huge. Had Jack really hooked up with Randall he would leave in his wake a road paved with bad decisions, a man  he loved, who did'nt know how to commit fully to a loving relationship due to fear. A failing marrige, entered into for all the wrong reasons and all the drama these relationship entail. I think Jack found Randall's approach refreshing and new.  The sense of the scene that preceded this one where they are packing to leave, You just sense Jack's thinking..".Here we are, once again packing to seperate for months at a time one more f-ckin  time." "I cannot keep doing this.". His face said it all.  :( After 20 years, he's still drifting along. I think as he got older his perspective of his own role in the affair changed at some point, I think it had to. Started to  think of what HE wanted in his maturity. Instead of what every one else wanted. .. including Ennis  He was just  plain tired of having his feelings hurt.

Then along comes Randall... He's different from Ennis ..but not that different. He is calm,softspoken and seems non-threatening. A married man, who was taking a chance of being the one rejected, or something worse, but he did proposition Jack,  This gentle , matter-of-fact approach put Jack at ease somewhat, but as he sat on the bench, I always thought that Jack was questioning the possibilities and the impossibilities. The impications and the what ifs.
Someone wanted him for once. He was was'nt carrying the load by himself  for once. This was new to Jack . Randall was on his level of thinking concerning a secret affair between two men ,not above or below it. Unlike Ennis , he had found a *comfort zone* , and had come to an understanding with his sexuality it seems.  Jack had to appreciate this.
 In his maturity he is aware that Brokeback was the beginning for he and Ennis ,but BB had consumed he and Ennis's lives for 20 years and  it was time to take the relationship  move to a more permanent level and this  is when he discovers that Ennis was stuck in nuetral. Jack had no real solution to convince him otherwise. " that's all we got boy, f-ckin all"!  Randall was a tall ,cool .glass of water in this transitional moment for him. <^( by an  #) :cr) I'll stop rambling now.

Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: manhattangirl on Aug 04, 2007, 08:16 AM
Was Ennis really working under the illusion that Jack was his and his alone?   What a shot in the gut when he finally understood Jack was not like him.   And how close Ennis wanted to hurt him, because of it. 

"If you don't never know the rest",  Ennis had to understand what it was Jack was telling him.  To understand your lover, you have to understand your lover's nature.  Jack's nature was sensual, open, loving, what did he think drew him to Jack.   Did he really think that a man like Jack could be satisfied with a couple of High Altitude F#@Ks once or twice a year.  Jack was not him.

Jack never totally understood the pain Ennis himself was going through, and Ennis not understanding how much Jack needed him.    So there was Randall a factor that could have brought Jack and Ennis finally together, or rip them apart.  Jack not outright mentioning it was the unknown.
Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: welshwitch on Aug 04, 2007, 11:23 AM
I think in a sense Jack had got to the point where he didn't care what Ennis knew about him; it was evident to him by now that Ennis was not going to change and their relationship could only continue in the same sort of way. A life together was not going to happen. In the past he's dulled the sexual desire by his trips to Mexico, maybe, but they must have been as unsatsifactory as perely physical sex is - he needed more.

When Randall enters the picture and makes that suggestion, I imagine Jack's mind being in a turmoil. If he accepts, he will be unfaithful to Ennis in a way that he hasn't been before - Randall isn't some Mexican hustler he'll only see once in a dark alley. He has a good idea of LaShawn's character and her attitude to Randall - he wouldn't be doing any great harm if he were to become involved with Randall, and he and Lureen have little left between them. He certainly takes the idea seriously enough to talk to his parents about getting divorced, leaving Texas and coming back to LF with someone other than Ennis, and I don't think he's have done that if he hadn't at least thought he meant to do it. His father is already contemptuous of his failure to bring the man he's  mentioned before to help on the ranch.

I think in his mind he's moving on and away from Ennis; Ennis, he thinks, doesn't know what he's suffered and gone through because of Ennis's intransigence and he isn't going to go any further by telling him what's in his mind as a possible future with someone else. Ennis can;t see that anyone can feel so differently from the way Jack does, and Jack knows now that he's never going to be able to get through to him.
Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: aintfoolin on Aug 04, 2007, 01:38 PM
Was Ennis really working under the illusion that Jack was his and his alone?   What a shot in the gut when he finally understood Jack was not like him.   And how close Ennis wanted to hurt him, because of it. 

"If you don't never know the rest",  Ennis had to understand what it was Jack was telling him.  To understand your lover, you have to understand your lover's nature.  Jack's nature was sensual, open, loving, what did he think drew him to Jack.   Did he really think that a man like Jack could be satisfied with a couple of High Altitude F#@Ks once or twice a year.  Jack was not him.

Jack never totally understood the pain Ennis himself was going through, and Ennis not understanding how much Jack needed him.    So there was Randall a factor that could have brought Jack and Ennis finally together, or rip them apart.  Jack not outright mentioning it was the unknown.

I feel he was Ennis was living under the assumption that Jack was his alone. Jack was controlling the nature of the relationship, but Ennis controlled the direction of it.
As time went on through the years , Jack discovered that he did not like the direction they were going. He loved Ennis, no doubt, but Ennis was'nt leading them  down the road toward a permanent solution to this thing. Jack was seeking some kind of resolution to the problem. Ennis was not. They were out of sinct in the worst way imo opinion. Someone was not holding up their end of this unspoken bargain. Jack felt it all slipping slowing away from him.

I agree with WW that Jack eventually got to a point where he did'nt care what Ennis thought of his infedlities(" hell yeah I been to Mexico. Is that a f-ckin problem?) . In other words Jack was questioning Ennis's concern by asserting his own right to seek comfort elsewhere. (" Oh yeah?  Do you really f***-in care?") He was daring Ennis and Ennis did'nt like it one bit. As far as Ennis was concerned, Jack belonged to him alone. Was demanding Jack to be faithful under these very trying circumstances.,

But as you said MG, Jack was not Ennis. Ennis was content with his life in Riverton, whereas Jack was more "out there" in the world. He saw a much bigger picture than Ennis .  So what Ennis did'nt know, did'nt hurt him, but he knew he was hurting inside himself in spite of it.

There were  reasons  why Jack felt he had to do it  and all them things Ennis did'nt know("the rest" ) were subs  to what the real desires were, And that was Ennis  getting past some of his fears and commiting to a living arrangment with him. Tried to get Ennis to see that with this arrangement,  "the rest"  would be unessessary,

 Randall was the next best thing to being where he wanted to be at this point in his life.  Ennis should have gotten a grip,  but Randall was in the picture already. Jack  never brought up Randall to Ennis,  lied about the nature of their freindship.  Perhaps aside from Ennis, he meant more than all the others .   MO.
Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: myprivatejack on Aug 04, 2007, 01:46 PM
Jack at the point of Randall proposition was having a battle in his mind between his love and,then,loyalty to Ennis and his need to have a life of his own.He knew that,as welshwitch say,this new relationship wouldn´t be like a pure sexual relief as with the Mexican hustlers;he needed to "make" something with his life,something that moved him away from his frustration,something that aloows him to live more in accordance with his inner self.I´ve never believed that Jack was quitting Ennis,but at that point he has already given up all his wild dreams and the possibility that one day Ennis shared them.For me,it´s not a question of loving or not,but a question of LIVING.Jack never stopped loving Ennis,never,but he needed to "rebuild" his life;however,sometimes I´ve wondered if to be with Randall was a way to force Ennis to have a decision soon,if he arrived to know it.
Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: aintfoolin on Aug 06, 2007, 08:08 AM
I don't think he doesn't want Ennis to know the rest and to understand all the things about their relationship, but I think he realize that Ennis is not willing to know, and can't deal with all these truths. whether it's the good stuff (like how deeply and totally Jack loves him) or the bad stuff (Jack having sex with other men), Ennis refuses to recognize all that. Saying "all these things I don't know could get you killed if I come to know them", is actually a way to say "I don't wanna hear it and I don't wanna know". So I thought jack meant to say, I hope you know that because of your stubborness and your refusal the only thing we got left now is this mountain, and I hope you know this one truth even if you can't accept all the others... and I don't think he meant this is the end, because after that he said "I wish I knew how to quit you" and by that admitted that he can't quit Ennis, and that this thing will never be over...

 Ennis saying those words tells me he knew or suspected Jack was cheating in some way. Are you saying that Ennis just lied to himself about it? Put it away so as not to beleive it could be true?  He did ask Jack if he'd been to Mexico. Was he not jeaulous? or upset that Jack confirmed his worst fears?

 And was ALL this cheating Ennis's fault or could Jack have such low self-esteem? He had a wife , Lureen, had Ennis, Randall? and possibly LaShawn?( Cringe ) now what's up with all this? Ennis's morality has been recently called into question because of his treatment of Alma. Were they moral men?
Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: aintfoolin on Aug 06, 2007, 08:17 AM
Well, you got a friend here mactwck.  The first time I heard Jack say he couldn't make it in a couple of high-altitude f**ks a year, I burst into laughter in the theater.  I then mentioned it here.  It was not a popular stand.  What about people who have never had it?  What about soldiers who go away from home for a year at a time, or longer. Are they to be unfaithful? Don't think I am condemning Jack for his unfaithfulness but I sure don't understand it.

Having said that, I suppose that when there is no commitment from both parties, there is no reason to be faithful. I may love Jake Gyllenhaal but until he made a commitment to me, why be faithful?



Was there a commitment made? A silent one maybe, but this is due to lack of communication between these two. Nobody is talking. Neither one of them was perfect. Human beings rarely are.
Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: keren_b on Aug 06, 2007, 02:52 PM
Ennis saying those words tells me he knew or suspected Jack was cheating in some way. Are you saying that Ennis just lied to himself about it? Put it away so as not to beleive it could be true?  He did ask Jack if he'd been to Mexico. Was he not jeaulous? or upset that Jack confirmed his worst fears?

Oh, Ennis definitely suspected. If he didn't suspect he wouldn't have asked Jack if he'd been to Mexico. But once Jack admitted that and confronted Ennis with the truth, Ennis didn't wanna hear about it. When people suspect that their beloveds are cheating on them they go to great length to find out if their suspicions are true, they even hire private detectives for that! But once they find out they were right, they might fall apart. It is because Ennis was so jealous and upset that he didn't wanna hear about it anymore, he just didn't know how to deal with it. I don't know if you can call it "lied to himself about it", but I think that he repressed that thought because it was too painful, made him too jealous to think of Jack with other men. That's why I thought his reaction meant "I don't wanna know about it because I can't deal with that, and if I have to think about it I might kill you". It only confirms how jealous and possessive Ennis was.
Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: aintfoolin on Aug 06, 2007, 04:15 PM
Was Jack blamng Ennis for the cheating ? As Ennis threatened to kill him, Jack was shaking his head no. Was he blaming Ennis that Ennis had the nerve to be livid and jeaulous? I suppose Jack felt he was justified.
Also Ennis spit on the ground next to Jack as he stomped away. Was he spitting on Jack? not literally, but ..well You know, the whole idea that Jack was'nt faithful?
Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: manhattangirl on Aug 07, 2007, 07:17 AM
When Ennis tells Jack of the change of plans, he was nervously bitting his finger nails, he had to know how Jack was going react.  But what he didn't count on was Jack admission of unfaithfulness to him.   

Ennis could have kill Jack on the spot, but he didn't, he spit out the finger nail he was chewing on and walk away. 

Jack wasn't done, he look at Ennis listened to his threats shook his head, then let him have it.  No Jack wasn't going to back down. 

How dense was Ennis, Jack confess the night before how much he missed him.  Then the very next morning a change in plans.  What in the world Ennis was thinking, how did  he think this was going to effect Jack.

Well he got his answer.  Jack was unfaithful, and it was his fault, pure and simple.  Jack need more than what Ennis was willing to give him, and this are the consequences.   Jack was not Ennis.  Jack needed to be with him always, or he'd be with someone else.
Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: freetraveller on Aug 08, 2007, 10:13 AM
Hello all,
sorry I haven't posted in a while, but I haven't forgotten the good memories from our get-together in London last December!
I find the discussion on this thread very interesting. I agree with most of the views posted here.
I think "the rest" Jack is hinting at is one of those expressions that deep down we know, or we think we know, what they might mean, but somehow they elude our conscious thought, especially as our attention as viewers is  trying to follow the painful argument the two men are sharing in their last meeting together.

I agree with stacp, who said Ennis and Jack have not moved beyond this "thing" they had on BBM. I've always felt that Ennis, much more than Jack, has been living all those years in his own fantasy world, where the summer spent on BBM represented that ideal he was trying to re-create every time he had a reunion with Jack once or twice a year. As we know, Jack had moved on, he was restless and more adventurous to start with, and never lingered too much on his memories of BBM to keep him going. He wanted a life, a real life, with Ennis, not to relive a fantasy. And I think "the rest" he's alluding to might be referring to Jack's realisation/acceptance he's gay, something he knows Ennis will never face up to and never accept.
Ennis might have suspected Jack was being unfaithful to him, but again he never faced up to the fact that Jack might have wanted much more from their relationship than he was prepared to give.
So many unspoken truths for so many years between them... it's painful to see them bubbling on the surface at their last meeting.

I also think that "the rest" alludes to the amount of unspoken suffering, humiliation and bitter disappointments Jack went through for the past 16 years, that Ennis never allowed himself to see, and that will hit him with a ton of bricks when he will finally discover the shirts hidden in the closet.

In the film the viewer knows more about what Jack went through because his character has been fleshed out more in the film than it was in the short story.
In the story, most of the events are told/seen from Ennis' POV and both Ennis and the reader are hit by the force of Jack's feelings only at the end of the short story, with the 'dozy embrace' (told from Jack's POV) and obviously the discovery of the shirts.
Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: tpe on Aug 08, 2007, 10:28 AM
Hello all,
sorry I haven't posted in a while, but I haven't forgotten the good memories from our get-together in London last December!
I find the discussion on this thread very interesting. I agree with most of the views posted here.
I think "the rest" Jack is hinting at is one of those expressions that deep down we know, or we think we know, what they might mean, but somehow they elude our conscious thought, especially as our attention as viewers is  trying to follow the painful argument the two men are sharing in their last meeting together.

I agree with stacp, who said Ennis and Jack have not moved beyond this "thing" they had on BBM. I've always felt that Ennis, much more than Jack, has been living all those years in his own fantasy world, where the summer spent on BBM represented that ideal he was trying to re-create every time he had a reunion with Jack once or twice a year. As we know, Jack had moved on, he was restless and more adventurous to start with, and never lingered too much on his memories of BBM to keep him going. He wanted a life, a real life, with Ennis, not to relive a fantasy. And I think "the rest" he's alluding to might be referring to Jack's realisation/acceptance he's gay, something he knows Ennis will never face up to and never accept.
Ennis might have suspected Jack was being unfaithful to him, but again he never faced up to the fact that Jack might have wanted much more from their relationship than he was prepared to give.
So many unspoken truths for so many years between them... it's painful to see them bubbling on the surface at their last meeting.

I also think that "the rest" alludes to the amount of unspoken suffering, humiliation and bitter disappointments Jack went through for the past 16 years, that Ennis never allowed himself to see, and that will hit him with a ton of bricks when he will finally discover the shirts hidden in the closet.

In the film the viewer knows more about what Jack went through because his character has been fleshed out more in the film than it was in the short story.
In the story, most of the events are told/seen from Ennis' POV and both Ennis and the reader are hit by the force of Jack's feelings only at the end of the short story, with the 'dozy embrace' (told from Jack's POV) and obviously the discovery of the shirts.


Wonderful point of view.  Most especially the pasaage in boldface.  And it makes sense with what Jack said before this: about BBM being all that they got and that Ennis should at least know that, even if he would never know all the rest that he had in his heart for Ennis.
Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: freetraveller on Aug 08, 2007, 11:29 AM
Wonderful point of view.  Most especially the pasaage in boldface.  And it makes sense with what Jack said before this: about BBM being all that they got and that Ennis should at least know that, even if he would never know all the rest that he had in his heart for Ennis.

Thank you, tpe.
It's amazing how many subtleties we can still find out after so many months since the film came out.
Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: tpe on Aug 09, 2007, 08:29 AM
Thank you, tpe.
It's amazing how many subtleties we can still find out after so many months since the film came out.

Yes, so many subtleties.  "...If you don't never know the rest" is just one example of how ambiguity is used to add power and (in Gyllenhaal's terminology) and an "unresolved cadence" into the story.

Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: aintfoolin on Aug 09, 2007, 12:20 PM
Yes, and in a way this "unresolved cadence" empowers us  viewers to fill in those blanks here at ennisjack.com. We are enlightened to new interpretations of the facts through these threads everyday. This knowledge is power.
Thanks  to the outstanding talents of Jake,G, Heath L,  Anne H, Michelle W. Ang Lee  and everyone else involved ,for this brilliant work of art!.
Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: freetraveller on Aug 10, 2007, 12:27 PM
Exactly, ainfoolin.
I was reminded of what Heath said in an interview, about the first time he read the screenplay, well before he signed up to do the movie. He said something about the fact the reader was being immediately drawn into it, without "being spoonfed".
Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: aintfoolin on Aug 10, 2007, 07:12 PM
At the risk of being OT, personally I never heard of Brokeback Mountain until all the talk surrounding the film at the Academy Awards that year, but I was curious about what all the noise was about it. Needless to say, I was blown away by the film when I bought the dvd. I knew who was Ledger was but not Gyllanhaal. Fortunately my daughter filled me in on this extraordinary actor. ( Mom, you don't know?!!!) I've been hooked ever since....{ small side note}....Ledger's role in Brother's Grimm , ( his character's name being "Jake" and speaking of "magic beans" seemed ironic to me. Far out film.

Anyway, getting back to the topic, this whole confrontation scene is one of the most powerful scenes in film history, Perhaps becuse there are so many interpretations to be found here, not to mention the excellent acting.   What was Ennis thinking getting in Jack's face about Mexico in a jeaulous rage?  Yes, Jack had told him the night before, these affairs meant nothing saying, " truth is, I miss you so much, I can hardly stand it." Truth" meaning above all "the rest" what ever form that might take. "I want you" "no matter who I've had  and where, they were only substitutes for you"  "It is you and only you  that I really want" period.

 I agree Jack was not him, and he needed much more than Ennis was giving. Though he cheated, I found it justified at this point. Ennis was reliving those months on Brokeback , never stepping out of bounds to the next level. Jack was ready to move on in more ways than one.  He knew Ennis would not act favortably to "the rest" but at this point I don't really think he cared. From Ennis' point of view, thinking or suspecting Jack of cheating is one thing, hearing it confirmed is quite another.
Jack was already trying to quit Ennis, though Ennis did not know this at the time. He was once again  still trying to give Ennis a clue how much he needed him.

 If he was going to give up his dream, he was going to make sure Ennis knew why. This was one challenge Ennis could not excuse or rationalize away. Game over . Jack had played long enough. Can't blame him after all this time. Just a thought.
Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: BBBOY on Aug 10, 2007, 09:02 PM
If he was going to give up his dream, he was going to make sure Ennis knew why. This was one challenge Ennis could not excuse or rationalize away. Game over . Jack had played long enough. Can't blame him after all this time. Just a thought.

Great post aintfoolin and this is a wonderful thread. I wish I had seen it sooner. "All the rest". I had never thought about that.  :s)
Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: LuvJackNasty on Aug 10, 2007, 09:16 PM
Great post aintfoolin. I agree about the power of this scene- this is where you just feel the complete weight of 20 years come crashing down.
Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: manhattangirl on Aug 10, 2007, 10:29 PM
The Final Confrontation and The Dozy Embrace, these two scenes back to back I find so disturbing.  

Jack's almost admission of being unfaithful, and Ennis jealous rage, threats of killing Jack. Jack dissatisfaction with the way the their relationship was going, Ennis' feeling of worthlessness, and loss, what did he really have to offer Jack, culminating with his breakdown in Jack's arms.   

Then we're ask to witness Jack's memory of what all this pain was about, and why it hurt so much,the dozy embrace scene.

Ennis walks up to Jack,  look at the expression on Ennis face, confident, no fear, but knowing that the man standing before him was his, and Ennis takes possession wrapping his arms around Jack.  Jack moans and leans against him, Ennis hums a lullaby and rocks his lover gently.  And with tenderness in a voice and tone we never heard before when Ennis spoke, saying "I've got to go, see you in the morning", something that needn't be said, of course  he'll see him in the morning,  but said in a way like a promise.

We see in one scene what fear, lack of trust, anger, blame, hurt, misunderstanding can do then in the next scene see such a deep level of understanding, of joy, and peace and a deep love, that it rips your heart out.  
 
We see the disconnect in each man's view of the other, but have to remember they did love each other deeply, and wanted to hold on.  The way to hold on is problem.    

 
Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: ksxks on Aug 11, 2007, 10:56 PM
This  is the thread of my very first post here on ennisjack. com, and i am just as fascinated now by this story as then .Thanks to all of you here I am truly enlightened to much .
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Ennis never heard of Randall until after Jack's death.  Mr. Twist said " some ranch neighbor", not his wife. The idea that Jack's parents knew about Randall and Ennis did'nt says to him that Jack was more far gone in his frustration over the whole thing than Ennis ever realized. Jack was already letting go of his sweet life dream with Ennis. It was hard on both of them. I wonder at times had had Jack revealed Randall's existence during this confrontation. What would Ennis's reaction be then? Could Randall have been a catylist? Loosing Jack to another man?  A real live threat to his relationship with Jack.
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Some say that Randall's significance is nil, but I respectfully disagree, He was a big part of "the rest". MO

Most interesting, aintfoolin.  If Jack had told Ennis about Randall, I do believe that may have been the catalyst for Ennis.  He was willing to live with Jack messing around, but not being with someone in a more meaningful relationship.  Why didn't Jack tell him about Randall, I wonder.  He just kept hoping, every time he and Ennis met, that that would be the time Ennis would finally say okay, I am ready for that sweet life with you...

kathy
Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: LuvJackNasty on Aug 11, 2007, 11:06 PM
Interesting question, Kathy. IMO it was "okay" to see other women- no breach of the "rules", so to speak. I agree that if Jack had told Ennis about Randall it would have been a catalyst but I think Jack was afraid that that could spell the end. I think that Ennis was content in thinking that they were only "queer" with each other- that "this thing" was just something they did.
Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: ksxks on Aug 11, 2007, 11:22 PM
Great post aintfoolin. I agree about the power of this scene- this is where you just feel the complete weight of 20 years come crashing down.

These last pages of this thread are giving me PBS bad.  This scene juxtaposed with the DE, show just what you said.  Breaks my heart...

kathy
Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: BBBOY on Aug 12, 2007, 12:21 AM
These last pages of this thread are giving me PBS bad.  This scene juxtaposed with the DE, show just what you said.  Breaks my heart...

kathy

None of us, be we gay or str8 can ever feel the emotion these two men had to go through. That is the power of this story. We live in a time and a world so removed from what their's was. I grew up in the 60's but lived in an environment that was ready to move on, reluctantly to be sure, but at least it moved. Jack and Ennis had no idea the world would change and so were forced to believe that what they had, the love they had, would always be rejected. For some it is still the same.  :\'(
Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: manhattangirl on Aug 12, 2007, 09:27 AM
None of us, be we gay or str8 can ever feel the emotion these two men had to go through. That is the power of this story. We live in a time and a world so removed from what their's was. I grew up in the 60's but lived in an environment that was ready to move on, reluctantly to be sure, but at least it moved. Jack and Ennis had no idea the world would change and so were forced to believe that what they had, the love they had, would always be rejected. For some it is still the same.  :\'(

I also grew up during the 60's, you couldn't help but feel the changes that were going on and I was a child.  I was only 13 in 1968, and saw in my own neighborhood those changes, and some of what I witness will stay with me. 

It hard for us to understand the intensity of feeling these two men had for each other and protectiveness they felt towards each other, and say with ease "the times are achangin'" .  Their love last from '63 to '83 but they were still 19 years old, still in the first  summer of those Brokeback days.   The fear never changed, was never set aside, or looked at, never stared down, but harbored, kept , and was put at the head of their table.

If they only knew.   
Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: keren_b on Aug 12, 2007, 10:43 AM
But Jack could find the power inside him to overcome those fears. He was really willing to take that chance, that risk, and make a life with Ennis despite the fears, while Ennis remained a prisoner of his fears his whole life. Why is that? was Jack more brave, or more desperate? more optimistic, a dreamer? or naive, as Ennis would probably think? Jack had crossed some barrier that Ennis could never get over, Ennis's fears had killed their chances of a future together long before the tire irons did.
Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: manhattangirl on Aug 12, 2007, 11:18 AM
But Jack could find the power inside him to overcome those fears. He was really willing to take that chance, that risk, and make a life with Ennis despite the fears, while Ennis remained a prisoner of his fears his whole life. Why is that? was Jack more brave, or more desperate? more optimistic, a dreamer? or naive, as Ennis would probably think? Jack had crossed some barrier that Ennis could never get over, Ennis's fears had killed their chances of a future together long before the tire irons did.

You're right.  My only problem with Jack is that he let it go on for so long.  Remember when Ennis related the story of Earl and Rich, and Jack asked him, "you seen this",  Jack should have know then that he was dealing with a guy who is pretty screwed up.  Some may say, "well Jack wasn't sophisticated enough to know what was eating at Ennis?"  but I think even asking that question, he was getting deeper into Ennis than most people got.  He always could, and that fact alone is heartbreaking,  the unknown influence he had on Ennis.  He didn't recognized how much Ennis depended on him, and how much he had the  power to get Ennis to a point where not even Earl and Rich could hurt him anymore.  But he was so afraid to scare Ennis away from him.  Funny how fear in different ways plays part in their story. 

Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: aintfoolin on Aug 12, 2007, 01:35 PM
But Jack could find the power inside him to overcome those fears. He was really willing to take that chance, that risk, and make a life with Ennis despite the fears, while Ennis remained a prisoner of his fears his whole life. Why is that? was Jack more brave, or more desperate? more optimistic, a dreamer? or naive, as Ennis would probably think? Jack had crossed some barrier that Ennis could never get over, Ennis's fears had killed their chances of a future together long before the tire irons did.

I feel that Jack had *been around* more, He had seen, perhaps while on the rodeo circuit a more open view of society. Learned bigger lessons already.  Maybe he'd seen people with  what he considered worst problems than this or maybe the same problem as this, who knows? Perhaps he had a more restsored faith in society, especially after he married Lureen and all the social obligations entailed in that adventure.  After growing up isolated, and rejected perhaps Jack saw a bigger picture of the world and thought in terms of this. He saw more than  the close-minded , isolated small towns of Wyoming. Ennis never ventured from the handle of the coffee pot.Makes a difference.
Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: aintfoolin on Aug 12, 2007, 02:24 PM
Interesting question, Kathy. IMO it was "okay" to see other women- no breach of the "rules", so to speak. I agree that if Jack had told Ennis about Randall it would have been a catalyst but I think Jack was afraid that that could spell the end. I think that Ennis was content in thinking that they were only "queer" with each other- that "this thing" was just something they did.

Women posed no direct threat to the aspects of the relationship. They were *in* , whereas other men were out.  There is the saftey factor as well as the discretion elements.There is  also the possibility of Randall taking Jack away somewhere where he and Jack could have no contact ever again. The thought of this alone and the finality of it I feel could spark Ennis into a compromise at least. Alot would depend on how Jack could finesse the wording of an ultimatum but he's good at that sort of thing with Ennis.

Sometimes I feel that Jack underestimated how much Ennis needed him , in some ways more than Jack needed him. Jack has accepted who he is, Ennis is still struggling yet he knew that this relationship completed him. He kept his secrets inside, though he needed the constant reassurence the Jack loved, wanted, and needed him as much as he needed Jack.  but knowledge of Randall during this confrontation imo would effect Ennis deeply in one way or another. Ennis never spoke it ( his need for Jack) outright, but it was felt and shown.

 Jack had his fears also. To him , this could have gone either way for em. It could spook Ennis away, on one hand, but on the other hand it could've  givin Ennis the wake up call he needed. Jack's fear of loosing Ennis caused him to settle on the side of caution. He did'nt admit to Randall's existence.
But after all was said and done during this confrontation, with Jack's stinging words ringing in his ears, and with  what he now knows some of "the rest", STILL, he wants to see Jack again. I don't know what would have been settled or transpired at Pine Creek, but this fact shows the need Ennis had for Jack and the strength and depth of his love for him. Hopefully, Jack knew this before he died.
Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: ragtimecowboy on Aug 12, 2007, 10:26 PM
     He's referring to the fact that Ennis only wants to confine his love to the mountain mettings Brokeback and the others as well rather than having the rich and full life they could have had together. Jack was trying to make him see that he loved him to the very core of his being, and if it was necessary to let him go to make him realize this he would make the sacrifice.
Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: tpe on Aug 13, 2007, 07:53 AM
Most interesting, aintfoolin.  If Jack had told Ennis about Randall, I do believe that may have been the catalyst for Ennis.  He was willing to live with Jack messing around, but not being with someone in a more meaningful relationship.  Why didn't Jack tell him about Randall, I wonder.  He just kept hoping, every time he and Ennis met, that that would be the time Ennis would finally say okay, I am ready for that sweet life with you...

kathy

Jack did sort of told him -- in an oblique way, I admit.   The fact that he follows the oblique confession with the heart-rending  "Sometimes I miss you so much I can hardly stand it" looks to me that he was desperately crying out to Ennis.  It was so sad.  I guess a part of Jack tried to make Ennis see the rest, but I think it may have been a fear of hurting Ennis (and himself, btw) that made him couch it in a language seemingly opaque and roundabout...

 
Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: tpe on Aug 13, 2007, 07:56 AM
I feel that Jack had *been around* more, He had seen, perhaps while on the rodeo circuit a more open view of society. Learned bigger lessons already.  Maybe he'd seen people with  what he considered worst problems than this or maybe the same problem as this, who knows? Perhaps he had a more restsored faith in society, especially after he married Lureen and all the social obligations entailed in that adventure.  After growing up isolated, and rejected perhaps Jack saw a bigger picture of the world and thought in terms of this. He saw more than  the close-minded , isolated small towns of Wyoming. Ennis never ventured from the handle of the coffee pot.Makes a difference.

Indeed it does.  Could this be part of it all when Jack said "...If you don't never know the rest"?

Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: tpe on Aug 13, 2007, 08:00 AM
     He's referring to the fact that Ennis only wants to confine his love to the mountain mettings Brokeback and the others as well rather than having the rich and full life they could have had together. Jack was trying to make him see that he loved him to the very core of his being, and if it was necessary to let him go to make him realize this he would make the sacrifice.

Yes, that there was so much unsaid -- and unseakable, I guess.  Jack was I think struggling with coming to grips with his own desire to live a full life with someone he loved.   The "rest" was perhaps up to Ennis.

Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: ksxks on Aug 13, 2007, 10:53 PM
Jack did sort of told him -- in an oblique way, I admit.   The fact that he follows the oblique confession with the heart-rending  "Sometimes I miss you so much I can hardly stand it" looks to me that he was desperately crying out to Ennis.  It was so sad.  I guess a part of Jack tried to make Ennis see the rest, but I think it may have been a fear of hurting Ennis (and himself, btw) that made him couch it in a language seemingly opaque and roundabout...

This just breaks my heart.  I believe we the viewers can just almost see what is in Jack's mind during those moments, but as you said, he is not saying things outright.  Ennis maybe doesn't know how to express his feelings well in words, but Jack has his fears and doesn't say his feelings, either; he sometimes must feel he has to walk on eggshells with Ennis.  That is so sad...

kathy
Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: manhattangirl on Aug 14, 2007, 05:35 AM
Isn't this the classic argument between lovers, "not enough time", "I gotta work".     But this magnified a hundred times because these lovers see each other only a couple of times a year. 

So the fight between them was on.  Years were going by quicker for them.  Middle age  now, it wasn't like they were nineteen years old, and look down from the mountain like the world was theirs and no one could touch them.  Their world was getting smaller, and time is passing them by. 

And if Ennis didn't know the rest he knew this, "he didn't want a life with Jack", and Jack knew it and Jack let him know he knew it.   So Ennis wants to kill him because of the lovers Jack may have had.  This was too much to ask in Jack's way of thinking. 

Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: tpe on Aug 14, 2007, 07:26 AM
This just breaks my heart.  I believe we the viewers can just almost see what is in Jack's mind during those moments, but as you said, he is not saying things outright.  Ennis maybe doesn't know how to express his feelings well in words, but Jack has his fears and doesn't say his feelings, either; he sometimes must feel he has to walk on eggshells with Ennis.  That is so sad...

kathy

So much about their relationship was oblique and unspoken, no?  And Ennis's state of mind certainly didn't make matter easier, as you said.  It must have been torture for Jack to tread ever so lightly and yet get the point across.  "Walking on egshells" (or, perhaps, "dancing")  is an apt description.


Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: tpe on Aug 14, 2007, 07:28 AM
Isn't this the classic argument between lovers, "not enough time", "I gotta work".     But this magnified a hundred times because these lovers see each other only a couple of times a year. 

So the fight between them was on.  Years were going by quicker for them.  Middle age  now, it wasn't like they were nineteen years old, and look down from the mountain like the world was theirs and no one could touch them.  Their world was getting smaller, and time is passing them by. 

And if Ennis didn't know the rest he knew this, "he didn't want a life with Jack", and Jack knew it and Jack let him know he knew it.   So Ennis wants to kill him because of the lovers Jack may have had.  This was too much to ask in Jack's way of thinking. 



This is harsh, but I fear that there is a great deal of truth to what you say here, MG. 

Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: aintfoolin on Aug 14, 2007, 03:32 PM
Isn't this the classic argument between lovers, "not enough time", "I gotta work".     But this magnified a hundred times because these lovers see each other only a couple of times a year. 

So the fight between them was on.  Years were going by quicker for them.  Middle age  now, it wasn't like they were nineteen years old, and look down from the mountain like the world was theirs and no one could touch them.  Their world was getting smaller, and time is passing them by. 

And if Ennis didn't know the rest he knew this, "he didn't want a life with Jack", and Jack knew it and Jack let him know he knew it.   So Ennis wants to kill him because of the lovers Jack may have had.  This was too much to ask in Jack's way of thinking. 



MG, I certainly share your passion concerning this, but I must respectfully disagree that Ennis did'nt want a life with Jack. he wanted Jack in his life but could'nt bring himself to live with him. Ennis can in a sense be described as a walking contradiction. He is in denial about his sexuality,  and everything is built on that to use Jack's wording,yet he happily meets Jack like clockwork  for many years. We must ask what each one was personally getting out of this relationship?
 How and where they meet goes to Ennis's state of fear of discovery.
 I think at some point, during this confrontation, the conversation becomes divided, What I mean by this is that about the time Ennis reveals the change in plans, Jack slams the truck door and says: " You've had a week to say a little somethin about this" , and imo opinion, Jack was feeling Ennis had somehow manipulated the timing of the revelation. Jack's only hope and  solace being he would see Ennis in Aug, sooner than later and suddenly his hope for this was snatched away.
 Ennis had seen this frustrated angry mood from Jack before, only this time it was'nt Aguirre's rules that had Jack going, it was directed at him. At this point Jack was dealing with the *big picture" of what was happening as Ennis continued to speak in terms of this one narrowed down incident. Tried to make some sense out out all of it. As Ennis tried to calm Jack pleading with him to "lighten up" on him and promises of future outings at Don Wroe's cabin etc,  the camera angle at this juncture shows Jack was dealing with the cumulative effect of Ennis's refusals, saying " there's never enough time, never enough".
...
 Then , Ennis goes on to reveal that he had struck a deal of some kind with his employer to get away this time and it was'nt easy doing so ...but he did it anyway. This shows that Ennis WANTED Jack in his life and really needed him there, but getting away to see him was becoming difficult. " In the beginning I just quit the job."  I" I can't quit this one." 
Jack was not in the best of moods here to begin with, having to part with Ennis after their week together. " Why are we always in the friggin cold "? means why do we always have to be as if were still on Brokeback as Ennis was indeed in a sense, as if a change in location would snap Ennis out of his  fear and denial. Jack's patience had worn thin.
 Lays all  his frustrations out to Ennis.  In other words . He was tired of pulling this load seemimgly alone.
 When Ennis finally breaks down and says he can't take the pressure  anymore, Jack comforts him still as Ennis desperatly tries to hold on to the one person he cannot live without.  Though complicated and outwardly contradictary, at times ,Jack sees through to Ennis's heart and finds despite everything ,he still owns it, but for both their sakes he must let go. 
In the DE Ennis rides away with a promise to "see Jack in the morning" In present no such promise is made as again ,Ennis rides away. Tragic. MO
Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: liketheyallknow on Aug 14, 2007, 06:00 PM
MG, I certainly share your passion concerning this, but I must respectfully disagree that Ennis did'nt want a life with Jack. he wanted Jack in his life but could'nt bring himself to live with him. Ennis can in a sense be described as a walking contradiction. He is in denial about his sexuality,  and everything is built on that to use Jack's wording,yet he happily meets Jack like clockwork  for many years. We must ask what each one was personally getting out of this relationship?
 How and where they meet goes to Ennis's state of fear of discovery.
 I think at some point, during this confrontation, the conversation becomes divided, What I mean by this is that about the time Ennis reveals the change in plans, Jack slams the truck door and says: " You've had a week to say a little somethin about this" , and imo opinion, Jack was feeling Ennis had somehow manipulated the timing of the revelation. Jack's only hope and  solace being he would see Ennis in Aug, sooner than later and suddenly his hope for this was snatched away.
 Ennis had seen this frustrated angry mood from Jack before, only this time it was'nt Aguirre's rules that had Jack going, it was directed at him. At this point Jack was dealing with the *big picture" of what was happening as Ennis continued to speak in terms of this one narrowed down incident. Tried to make some sense out out all of it. As Ennis tried to calm Jack pleading with him to "lighten up" on him and promises of future outings at Don Wroe's cabin etc,  the camera angle at this juncture shows Jack was dealing with the cumulative effect of Ennis's refusals, saying " there's never enough time, never enough".
...
 Then , Ennis goes on to reveal that he had struck a deal of some kind with his employer to get away this time and it was'nt easy doing so ...but he did it anyway. This shows that Ennis WANTED Jack in his life and really needed him there, but getting away to see him was becoming difficult. " In the beginning I just quit the job."  I" I can't quit this one." 
Jack was not in the best of moods here to begin with, having to part with Ennis after their week together. " Why are we always in the friggin cold "? means why do we always have to be as if were still on Brokeback as Ennis was indeed in a sense, as if a change in location would snap Ennis out of his  fear and denial. Jack's patience had worn thin.
 Lays all  his frustrations out to Ennis.  In other words . He was tired of pulling this load seemimgly alone.
 When Ennis finally breaks down and says he can't take the pressure  anymore, Jack comforts him still as Ennis desperatly tries to hold on to the one person he cannot live without.  Though complicated and outwardly contradictary, at times ,Jack sees through to Ennis's heart and finds despite everything ,he still owns it, but for both their sakes he must let go. 
In the DE Ennis rides away with a promise to "see Jack in the morning" In present no such promise is made as again ,Ennis rides away. Tragic. MO

Hi, I agree with this point, aintfoolin (and pretty much the  rest too!) . Ennis is doing the best he can from his narrow perspective to have a relationship with Jack. Jack pressures him about August, and when Ennis says 'I can't quit this one' (referring to his job) he is really straight faced, and firm - he is not changing his mind. This line is Ennis explaining 'the rest' to Jack. Jack can't really argue because he knows Ennis needs his job to pay child support.  Either of them could have legitimately said ' If you don't never know the rest' - they both had pain, longings, fears that they never fully shared with each other - their own private nightmare which was only lifted when they met. One big part of the rest that I think Jack overlooked (or possibly underestimated) was the pain that the divorce caused Ennis - mainly in terms of separating him from his children.
Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: manhattangirl on Aug 14, 2007, 08:05 PM
Hi Aintfoolin,

Great post I've been reading  and rereading it gives me a lot to think about.  My only question is the "life" aspect of it.  Ennis always had Jack in his life, but not a life with Jack.  Isn't there a difference?  Isn't the tug-a-war with both men is concerning exactly that point.

Jack's frustration, his need was more than just being with Ennis a few times a years, and whether Ennis wanted it deep down inside is something Jack was unaware of.  All he saw, all he felt was Ennis drifting away. He can see the Pope easier than it was to see Ennis.  In other words, "why are you making it so hard for me". 

Jack put in his time with Ennis, almost twenty years, he played by Ennis's rules, he did as he was ask, and its getting him no closer to Ennis. 

We forget sometimes of  how all this effects Jack.  We can understand Ennis's POV, but what about Jack's.  Lets go back to the morning after Jack's confession of how much he missed Ennis and how difficult it was for him.   In the morning when they  were to say good bye,  Jack was in foul mood to begin with, leaving Ennis was getting to be more difficult for him.  Ennis knew the kind of mood Jack was that morning and reason passing understanding why he chose that moment to tell Jack the change in plans is up for discussion.

You can tell Ennis was nervous, biting his fingers nails, the cautious look he gave to Jack.  He knew how Jack would react.  Ennis mistake was he thinking logically and Jack at that point was running on pure emotions, and when your lover feels slighted, or being taken for granted, watch out, they will tell you things you never knew, or if you did know you were hearing it in words.

When Ennis pleads to Jack to lighten up on him as if he was alone is this relationship, and Jack should understand.  Well if anyone who's ever been in relationship where your lover said "hey look, give me a break" is really asking for it with both barrels.  And Jack doesn't disappoint, he let Ennis have it. 

You see Jack was speaking of something higher than just the work a day world of Ennis Del Mar.  He wanted to know where he stood, who he was to him, and the fact quiting him was something he actually wished for. This pushed Ennis to his breakdown, and broke him down to him being more honest with Jack than ever before, the reins were slipping, and he needed Jack's understanding. This a twenty year love affair and the cracks were showing.

IMO:   Jack gets lost in translation sometimes, when all he does is love Ennis, and always did.
 



   



 
Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: aintfoolin on Aug 15, 2007, 03:26 PM
Hi Aintfoolin,

Great post I've been reading  and rereading it gives me a lot to think about.  My only question is the "life" aspect of it.  Ennis always had Jack in his life, but not a life with Jack.  Isn't there a difference?  Isn't the tug-a-war with both men is concerning exactly that point.

Jack's frustration, his need was more than just being with Ennis a few times a years, and whether Ennis wanted it deep down inside is something Jack was unaware of.  All he saw, all he felt was Ennis drifting away. He can see the Pope easier than it was to see Ennis.  In other words, "why are you making it so hard for me". 

Jack put in his time with Ennis, almost twenty years, he played by Ennis's rules, he did as he was ask, and its getting him no closer to Ennis. 

We forget sometimes of  how all this effects Jack.  We can understand Ennis's POV, but what about Jack's.  Lets go back to the morning after Jack's confession of how much he missed Ennis and how difficult it was for him.   In the morning when they  were to say good bye,  Jack was in foul mood to begin with, leaving Ennis was getting to be more difficult for him.  Ennis knew the kind of mood Jack was that morning and reason passing understanding why he chose that moment to tell Jack the change in plans is up for discussion.

You can tell Ennis was nervous, biting his fingers nails, the cautious look he gave to Jack.  He knew how Jack would react.  Ennis mistake was he thinking logically and Jack at that point was running on pure emotions, and when your lover feels slighted, or being taken for granted, watch out, they will tell you things you never knew, or if you did know you were hearing it in words.

When Ennis pleads to Jack to lighten up on him as if he was alone is this relationship, and Jack should understand.  Well if anyone who's ever been in relationship where your lover said "hey look, give me a break" is really asking for it with both barrels.  And Jack doesn't disappoint, he let Ennis have it. 

You see Jack was speaking of something higher than just the work a day world of Ennis Del Mar.  He wanted to know where he stood, who he was to him, and the fact quiting him was something he actually wished for. This pushed Ennis to his breakdown, and broke him down to him being more honest with Jack than ever before, the reins were slipping, and he needed Jack's understanding. This a twenty year love affair and the cracks were showing.

IMO:   Jack gets lost in translation sometimes, when all he does is love Ennis, and always did.
 



   



 

MG, I've wondered often if Jack could have explored more of his options, such as moving within closer proximity to Ennis. Maybe not right next door but within an area close enough that he could see Ennis whenever he wanted. Part of the problem imo is the long distance between them. This would allow him to work on Ennis gradually and get what he wanted out of him eventually.
 Maybe it would'nt be the sweet life on the ranch that Jack wanted , but as Randall handled  this advantage  discreetly, of living closer to Jack, so could Ennis have it.

 Ennis must be constantly coaxed and prompted by Jack to take such a big step of actually co-habitating. Living closer would narrow Ennis's option of saying no imo.  Ennis was'nt going anywhere and a constant barrage of Jack on his doorstep? What could Ennis do except accept it. He cannot stop Jack from living whereever he wanted right?I think having Jack near would grow on Ennis and eventually cause him to accept seeing Jack every weekend or more often if it pleases him, leading up to something more permanent perhaps. It's a compromise I know but at least Jack would'nt have to live this nightmare of frustrated wishing , hoping and assuming.  Ennis wanted Jack in his life. Perhaps this scenario would go a long way in convincing Ennis of how much Jack wanted him in his.Just a thought.
Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: manhattangirl on Aug 15, 2007, 06:12 PM
MG, I've wondered often if Jack could have explored more of his options, such as moving within closer proximity to Ennis. Maybe not right next door but within an area close enough that he could see Ennis whenever he wanted. Part of the problem imo is the long distance between them. This would allow him to work on Ennis gradually and get what he wanted out of him eventually.
 Maybe it would'nt be the sweet life on the ranch that Jack wanted , but as Randall handled  this advantage  discreetly, of living closer to Jack, so could Ennis have it.

 Ennis must be constantly coaxed and prompted by Jack to take such a big step of actually co-habitating. Living closer would narrow Ennis's option of saying no imo.  Ennis was'nt going anywhere and a constant barrage of Jack on his doorstep? What could Ennis do except accept it. He cannot stop Jack from living whereever he wanted right?I think having Jack near would grow on Ennis and eventually cause him to accept seeing Jack every weekend or more often if it pleases him, leading up to something more permanent perhaps. It's a compromise I know but at least Jack would'nt have to live this nightmare of frustrated wishing , hoping and assuming.  Ennis wanted Jack in his life. Perhaps this scenario would go a long way in convincing Ennis of how much Jack wanted him in his.Just a thought.

Remember that night before the final confrontation?  Ennis asked Jack about his marriage, Jack said "Lureen was good at making the hard deals, but as far as our marriage was concern you can phone it in".   

Here both men sit, in love with each other, broken marriages, and not a thought of finally living together, but continue to speak of  women, Ennis speaking of Cassie and Jack fooling around with La Shawn, as if  being with a woman, any woman is a solution to the state of their lives.  Denying deep down inside it wasn't the woman, but themselves, and their love for each other that led to where they were.

I wonder too that why doesn't Jack just pick and leave Texas, live closer to Ennis if not live with him, but be nearer to him. One thing Jack never did was force Ennis's hand, moving closer to him would have done just that force his hand, and Jack wanted Ennis to accept the idea of a life together fully, openly, wantingly, like they accepted each other SNIT.

Just my thoughts.   

 

 
Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: BBBOY on Aug 15, 2007, 09:49 PM
I think that Jack understood that Ennis would never come to terms with their relationship, no matter where he lived. It was the thing that was tearing him apart, even after all the years and the empty liasons he had been through. We are looking at an American tragedy here friends, men who can't give vent to their real emotions, no matter how powerful they are.
Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: ksxks on Aug 15, 2007, 11:57 PM
MG, I've wondered often if Jack could have explored more of his options, such as moving within closer proximity to Ennis. Maybe not right next door but within an area close enough that he could see Ennis whenever he wanted. Part of the problem imo is the long distance between them. This would allow him to work on Ennis gradually and get what he wanted out of him eventually.
 Maybe it would'nt be the sweet life on the ranch that Jack wanted , but as Randall handled  this advantage  discreetly, of living closer to Jack, so could Ennis have it.

 Ennis must be constantly coaxed and prompted by Jack to take such a big step of actually co-habitating. Living closer would narrow Ennis's option of saying no imo.  Ennis was'nt going anywhere and a constant barrage of Jack on his doorstep? What could Ennis do except accept it. He cannot stop Jack from living whereever he wanted right?I think having Jack near would grow on Ennis and eventually cause him to accept seeing Jack every weekend or more often if it pleases him, leading up to something more permanent perhaps. It's a compromise I know but at least Jack would'nt have to live this nightmare of frustrated wishing , hoping and assuming.  Ennis wanted Jack in his life. Perhaps this scenario would go a long way in convincing Ennis of how much Jack wanted him in his.Just a thought.

And a good thought it is.  (And the premise of many fics.)  As you describe, this would have not only made Jack's life easier, made it easier for him to see Ennis, but I bet you that Enis would have come to see that maybe nobody was paying attention to him, to them, after all.  The paranoia would ease away. 

So...this leads to the whole thing of why Jack didn't divorce and move closer to Ennis.

kathy
Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: ksxks on Aug 15, 2007, 11:59 PM
Indeed, BBBoy.  Not only Ennis, on whom it's so easy to put the "blame," but neither was Jack dealing with his feelings, their feelings, in a healthy way.

kathy
Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: manhattangirl on Aug 16, 2007, 04:25 AM
I think that Jack understood that Ennis would never come to terms with their relationship, no matter where he lived. It was the thing that was tearing him apart, even after all the years and the empty liasons he had been through. We are looking at an American tragedy here friends, men who can't give vent to their real emotions, no matter how powerful they are.

If Jack just accepted this is how Ennis was, and he would never change, and just move on, he could have had a chance at a life with someone else, if he only believed in self-preservation, and moved on and take a chance at life?

Self-preservation sometimes, many times is the only option, no matter how much you love someone.   If Jack only believed his life was worth it.  Jack had a better shot at living a whole life, than Ennis.  If he only moved on.  IMO
Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: tpe on Aug 16, 2007, 07:21 AM
I wonder too that why doesn't Jack just pick and leave Texas, live closer to Ennis if not live with him, but be nearer to him. One thing Jack never did was force Ennis's hand, moving closer to him would have done just that force his hand, and Jack wanted Ennis to accept the idea of a life together fully, openly, wantingly, like they accepted each other SNIT.

Just my thoughts.     

I think the "rest" has a lot to do with this.  If Ennis were to agree to live with Jack, jack would have no problem moving back to WY  --  or any place where Ennis was, I suspect.  But to stay close to the person and not have him the way it was meant to be -- that would have been torture for Jack.  He probably felt that he needed the distance -- he needed "the rest", in order to forget this painful fact.  For example, I suspect that his drinking problem is linked to this -- the desire to forget, the need for some distance. 

Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: tpe on Aug 16, 2007, 07:27 AM
I think that Jack understood that Ennis would never come to terms with their relationship, no matter where he lived. It was the thing that was tearing him apart, even after all the years and the empty liasons he had been through. We are looking at an American tragedy here friends, men who can't give vent to their real emotions, no matter how powerful they are.

I think that in the end, this was the case.  When he decided to move back to LF with Randall -- it was partly perhaps with the belief that fulfilling his dream would make the pain finally come to rest.   That is, Ennis's proximity would no longer matter.

Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: welshwitch on Aug 16, 2007, 02:39 PM
If they lived nearer, it wouldn't work, IMO. Ennis couldn't compartmentalize it if Jack were anywhere within easy reach, and Jack couldn't bear seeing him in a  casual way - look at how much they evidently want to kiss when the girls are there in the scene after the divorce. There's too much emotion crackling between them; sure, if they were together all the time it would eventually die down, as it would be bound to do, but long before that they'd have given themselves away, which is of course what Ennis is afraid of - look at the way he watches the guy who drives past in the pickup when he and Jack are doing no more than talking.Ennis at least can ONLY live a sham life because Jack is far away - no way he could keep up the act with Jack appearing regularly, or even knowing he could. And Jack would be even more frustrated, I think, if Ennis were within reach but he couldn't behave as he wanted to around him but had to cover up his feelings and watch every word he said.
Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: ksxks on Aug 16, 2007, 09:52 PM
I totally can see it this way, WW, but I like to think that with the time's a'changing as they were, that Ennis would see maybe it wasn't as bad as he thought it was...except that's probably wishful thinking, in Wyoming.  This wasn't the 70's and 80's in the big cities, after all.

kathy
Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: BBBOY on Aug 16, 2007, 10:06 PM
If they lived nearer, it wouldn't work, IMO. Ennis couldn't compartmentalize it if Jack were anywhere within easy reach, and Jack couldn't bear seeing him in a  casual way - look at how much they evidently want to kiss when the girls are there in the scene after the divorce. There's too much emotion crackling between them; sure, if they were together all the time it would eventually die down, as it would be bound to do, but long before that they'd have given themselves away, which is of course what Ennis is afraid of - look at the way he watches the guy who drives past in the pickup when he and Jack are doing no more than talking.Ennis at least can ONLY live a sham life because Jack is far away - no way he could keep up the act with Jack appearing regularly, or even knowing he could. And Jack would be even more frustrated, I think, if Ennis were within reach but he couldn't behave as he wanted to around him but had to cover up his feelings and watch every word he said.

Well said WW. Perhaps distance is what enabled them to keep the fire going for them.
Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: LuvJackNasty on Aug 16, 2007, 10:41 PM
I think the "rest" has a lot to do with this.  If Ennis were to agree to live with Jack, jack would have no problem moving back to WY  --  or any place where Ennis was, I suspect.  But to stay close to the person and not have him the way it was meant to be -- that would have been torture for Jack.  He probably felt that he needed the distance -- he needed "the rest", in order to forget this painful fact.  For example, I suspect that his drinking problem is linked to this -- the desire to forget, the need for some distance. 



That's how I feel, Thomas.  :-\\ While Jack wasn't happy in Texas, I think he was fine with the situation because he had companionship. I think he just needed to feel like he belonged somewhere and with someone. Ennis being the ultimate someone. I think at his core, Jack was lonely and he didn't pick up and leave his marriage because it was a case of something is better than nothing.
Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: BBBOY on Aug 16, 2007, 10:42 PM
That's how I feel, Thomas.  :-\\ While Jack wasn't happy in Texas, I think he was fine with the situation because he had companionship. I think he just needed to feel like he belonged somewhere and with someone. Ennis being the ultimate someone. I think at his core, Jack was lonely and he didn't pick up and leave his marriage because it was a case of something is better than nothing.

And Ennis, sadly, gave him nothing, until it was too late.
Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: welshwitch on Aug 17, 2007, 05:10 AM
I don't know, BBB, maybe Ennis gave Jack all he could manage to give - and when Jack was dead it was evidently easier to feel and express some of his feelings, because he knew he didn't have to act on them. I think the difference between them is that Jack put up with Texas ands Lureen because he kept hoping deep down that Ennis would change; Ennis kept putting up with the status quo because he didn't know how to do anything else and clung desperately to what he had.
Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: aintfoolin on Aug 17, 2007, 07:13 AM
 A lot of speculation on my part...but...are you saying that ,had Jack moved closer to Ennis and saw him more often say,  once or twice a week,that Ennis would not ever accept Jack?
 Not saying that this would happen overnight, Ennis would be easily spooked, has a *low startle point*  then maybe Jack should just go home and leave Ennis to himself.  let him stew,rationalize, and what-iff till the cows come home but he'll know Jack is there. think it out for as long as it takes, then see if  Ennis comes to him.
 If Ennis in his vulnerable state decides to see Jack, he would'nt have to go far. No long distance calls, postcards, etc, Jack would be right there. It would be a true test of Ennis's strength in his love for Jack.  I don't believe that Ennis is so resigned  to a life of lonliness,that he will not grow to want Jack around him  Sooner or later Ennis would want to see him. If Jack knew deep inside that Ennis would never learn to live with him, then what's Jack's point of going through what he went through for 20 years.? Ennis is the only one whom Jack would settle down for.
 Jack really thought he could make this happen for them.  He wanted  and needed more time with Ennis to make it happen. It may even be a slow process, but it's makes more sense to me than Jack living  un happy clear down in Texas.
 Again, it is a compromise, but could lead to something better than  what he had.
  Yep, it's a game of chance on Jack's part  of course, and imo chances they had.  after all ...he was the Jack of hearts <^( <^( and he had Ennis's. Worth a shot.  just MHO . :t)
Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: tpe on Aug 17, 2007, 07:22 AM
If they lived nearer, it wouldn't work, IMO. Ennis couldn't compartmentalize it if Jack were anywhere within easy reach, and Jack couldn't bear seeing him in a  casual way - look at how much they evidently want to kiss when the girls are there in the scene after the divorce. There's too much emotion crackling between them; sure, if they were together all the time it would eventually die down, as it would be bound to do, but long before that they'd have given themselves away, which is of course what Ennis is afraid of - look at the way he watches the guy who drives past in the pickup when he and Jack are doing no more than talking.Ennis at least can ONLY live a sham life because Jack is far away - no way he could keep up the act with Jack appearing regularly, or even knowing he could. And Jack would be even more frustrated, I think, if Ennis were within reach but he couldn't behave as he wanted to around him but had to cover up his feelings and watch every word he said.

I admit that I feel the same way. Ennis must have been somewhat relieved that Jack did not live in the vicinity.  And not for entirely selfish reasons, I should say: he most certainly feared for their safety if they would have been found out -- and proximity would increase the risks.

That said, "the rest" is also something that Ennis refused to acknowledge, because he probably knew that he couldn't take it.  So, proximity is a two-edged sword.  It would provide easier access to Jack, as well as possible knowledge of "the rest".  But would there have been a "rest" had Jack had Ennis?

Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: tpe on Aug 17, 2007, 07:25 AM
I totally can see it this way, WW, but I like to think that with the time's a'changing as they were, that Ennis would see maybe it wasn't as bad as he thought it was...except that's probably wishful thinking, in Wyoming.  This wasn't the 70's and 80's in the big cities, after all.

kathy

Probably.  In many parts of the US, I doubt that things have changed very much -- even today.  There was some substance behind Ennis's paranoia.  He probably felt that Jack was putting himself at risk. 
Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: tpe on Aug 17, 2007, 07:28 AM
That's how I feel, Thomas.  :-\\ While Jack wasn't happy in Texas, I think he was fine with the situation because he had companionship. I think he just needed to feel like he belonged somewhere and with someone. Ennis being the ultimate someone. I think at his core, Jack was lonely and he didn't pick up and leave his marriage because it was a case of something is better than nothing.

I think so too.  "You have no idea how bad it gets..." was a cry from the heart.  It was an attempt to justify himself and rebuke Ennis's jealousy and suspicions, but it revealed much more about Jack's loneliness. 

So sad.

Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: tpe on Aug 17, 2007, 07:32 AM
A lot of speculation on my part...but...are you saying that ,had Jack moved closer to Ennis and saw him more often say,  once or twice a week,that Ennis would not ever accept Jack?
 Not saying that this would happen overnight, Ennis would be easily spooked, has a *low startle point*  then maybe Jack should just go home and leave Ennis to himself.  let him stew,rationalize, and what-iff till the cows come home but he'll know Jack is there. think it out for as long as it takes, then see if  Ennis comes to him.
 If Ennis in his vulnerable state decides to see Jack, he would'nt have to go far. No long distance calls, postcards, etc, Jack would be right there. It would be a true test of Ennis's strength in his love for Jack.  I don't believe that Ennis is so resigned  to a life of lonliness,that he will not grow to want Jack around him  Sooner or later Ennis would want to see him. If Jack knew deep inside that Ennis would never learn to live with him, then what's Jack's point of going through what he went through for 20 years.? Ennis is the only one whom Jack would settle down for.
 Jack really thought he could make this happen for them.  He wanted  and needed more time with Ennis to make it happen. It may even be a slow process, but it's makes more sense to me than Jack living  un happy clear down in Texas.
 Again, it is a compromise, but could lead to something better than  what he had.
  Yep, it's a game of chance on Jack's part  of course, and imo chances they had.  after all ...he was the Jack of hearts <^( <^( and he had Ennis's. Worth a shot.  just MHO . :t)

Thanks aintfoolin .  What you say here is certainly a valid perspective, although I still can't help thinking that Ennis's fears -- and perhaps his jealousy -- would negate anything gained by Jack's proximity.  It seemed to me that he didn't really want to know the "rest", which means that he half wanted the distance between them...

Just a thought...

Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: manhattangirl on Aug 17, 2007, 11:06 AM
The new fear of Ennis wouldn't be being found out, but where was Jack, and who was he with.   Ennis is possessive of Jack.   Ennis still resisting on living with Jack, and maybe just seeing him may on weekends or set days during the week would have caused a whole new set of problems. 

Now Jack was near to him,  the "rest" was in Ennis face.  It would have been that one phone Ennis was waiting and didn't come, that two three day of not seeing or  hearing from Jack which would have made him crazy.  Jack being an hour late for that time together they have planned.  Who found out wouldn't be the problem but where Jack was would be.  And if Ennis was still wasn't willing to commit to him, but still dragging his feet, not that Jack would have been unfaithful to Ennis, but the short leash sure would have gotten shorter.
 
tpe makes a good point when he said:
It seemed to me that he didn't really want to know the "rest", which means that he half wanted the distance between them...

Just a thought...


Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: aintfoolin on Aug 17, 2007, 10:03 PM
If they lived nearer, it wouldn't work, IMO. Ennis couldn't compartmentalize it if Jack were anywhere within easy reach, and Jack couldn't bear seeing him in a  casual way - look at how much they evidently want to kiss when the girls are there in the scene after the divorce. There's too much emotion crackling between them; sure, if they were together all the time it would eventually die down, as it would be bound to do, but long before that they'd have given themselves away, which is of course what Ennis is afraid of - look at the way he watches the guy who drives past in the pickup when he and Jack are doing no more than talking.Ennis at least can ONLY live a sham life because Jack is far away - no way he could keep up the act with Jack appearing regularly, or even knowing he could. And Jack would be even more frustrated, I think, if Ennis were within reach but he couldn't behave as he wanted to around him but had to cover up his feelings and watch every word he said.

These are all excellent posts! This one struck me as  I see this is exactly my point. Jack's goal is to stir that which is within Ennis so strongly that he WON"T be able to compartmentalize.  I feel strongly that He could accomplish so much more if he was not way down in "the whole nother country",.. deep in the heart of  Texas. were distractions  .. His plan is to get Ennis in state where he  won't be able to deny him, won't be able to keep up the act and convince himself that Jack is  "non-existent" till they meet again.
Yes, safety is a factor, but I'm sure they both knew better than to  kiss in  the middle of the local IGA grocery market in front of the world, and   they did'nt need  that anyway to prove their love.  Times were a' changin, but they need'nt be careless in 1967 rural Wy.  Jack sure was not ignorant  about how Ennis felt about public displays of affection. He aint dumb.  Ennis was'nt comfortable with it even in his "traditional" relationships. Sure, Ennis would be antsy, but in time this would fade, replaced with a cautious comfortability with Jack.

 In these isolated areas, Jack could just be *the guy who brought the old farm /ranch near Del Mar's place* as far as the town's folk would know. they need'nt advertise it or become targets.    Ennis becomes more malleable with time, gradually adapts more to the  mindset of having Jack nearer. Jack is in his life then, but not * in his face* per se, but there's  no time to think about escaping into the world of  3 months down the road till he sees or feels Jack's actual presence again. It's all part of the problem, not the solution. Jack needed a solution.

He was only successful in bringing Ennis's real feelings to the surface on Brokeback when he was persistent. He got Ennis to let go and be who he really was up there with determination. Every  positive action from Jack , warrants  a positive  reaction from Ennis.  Ennis needs this.  It's an established pattern with him, but Jack must be consistent. A persistent, continuation of Jack's presence, his love, put into action and words I feel is the key to at least getting Ennis to a point of allowing Jack to be more  of an  open part of his life. Never enough time? , Never enough, Jack said, this would give him all the time in the world . With a little bold persistence, he got what he desired out of Ennis on BBM, and whole lot more. I see Ennis as in SNIT , forcing himself courageously into doing something he told himself he'd never do.  Jack had laid the groundwork for it. Why not here?  Force of nature anyone?  just MHO.
Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: manhattangirl on Aug 20, 2007, 05:46 AM
Could Ennis really  push Jack out of his mind when he wasn't with him?  I felt he carried Jack within him always.  That's why his life was so desolate without him.   Ennis biggest mistake was thinking that time was infinite for them, with his laundry list of obligateions he couldn't see beyond that, when Jack knew it wasn't, "not enough time, not enough".

It took Jack's death for Ennis to take that time.  He called Lureen, he went to Jack's parents and learned about who Jack was, and how it was for him no matter how painful the things Ennis found out was.  And because of the time he took, he found more about his lover than all of the twenty years he was with him.

And what Ennis learned in the end we see when he agree to go Alma, Jr. wedding, and not go to the roundup, he had to take the time for the ones he loved and loved him. 

When Jack said "If you don't never know the rest", maybe that what Ennis found, "the rest".  IMO
Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: tpe on Aug 20, 2007, 07:12 AM


I think so too: that Ennis always carried Jack within him.  It sounds perverse that The person you keep away is the one always in in your mind -- but it happenes so many times in real life, no?

Funny, but just now, I read manhattangirl's last line and thought I detected a pun about Ennis ever being at "rest".  It startled me somewhat...

Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: welshwitch on Aug 21, 2007, 12:59 PM
There must be at least a suggestion that /ennis is more at rest, or at peace maybem, oncee Jack is dead. Now the potential can never be realised, but neither  can he be forced to deal with his fears and fins d more an more excuses for not doing as Jack wishes. He's free of that pressure and can carry his love within him, only showing the tiniest part of it to someone he trusts, as he does Alma Jr. Jack is the great might-have-been of Ennis's life, part of a parallel universe which he never dared to enter and now he doesn't need to.
Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: aintfoolin on Aug 22, 2007, 06:59 AM
 I'm now confused. :s) Does "the rest" mean everything Jack can see as possible and Ennis can't? or is "the rest" "All them things" Ennis don't know but suspects Jack is doing in his absence. I'm still leaning towards Randall's role in Jack's life post-Ennis.In any case Jack had had enough IMO. While Ennis is still waundering around Brokeback in his mind,, ( " all we got now? is Brokeback Mt! everything's built on that" "I hope you know that"....) .
Jack came down from Brokeback thinking of the past, present, and  future with Ennis at his side. From the mountain,stems a sweet life for him. Having Ennis to have and to hold forever, his dream. Ennis came down holding on to memories of the past,  got stuck there.. Brokeback was only the beginning for Jack, he wanted to make something out of the time and experiences there, but Ennis tried to fight any long term plans beyond the mountain  with Alma , Cassie , kids, jobs, etc. ..  and that they did'nt really have a *thing* , just a one-shot deal....so he thought. Forgetting what happened to him and Jack up there proved harder than he imagined.  To deny Jack was to deny himself. Jack was just reminding him of that. The "rest" was up to him. My 2 cents.
Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: tpe on Aug 22, 2007, 07:20 AM
I'm now confused. :s) Does "the rest" mean everything Jack can see as possible and Ennis can't? or is "the rest" "All them things" Ennis don't know but suspects Jack is doing in his absence. I'm still leaning towards Randall's role in Jack's life post-Ennis.In any case Jack had had enough IMO. While Ennis is still waundering around Brokeback in his mind,, ( " all we got now? is Brokeback Mt! everything's built on that" "I hope you know that"....) .
Jack came down from Brokeback thinking of the past, present, and  future with Ennis at his side. From the mountain,stems a sweet life for him. Having Ennis to have and to hold forever, his dream. Ennis came down holding on to memories of the past,  got stuck there.. Brokeback was only the beginning for Jack, he wanted to make something out of the time and experiences there, but Ennis tried to fight any long term plans beyond the mountain  with Alma , Cassie , kids, jobs, etc. ..  and that they did'nt really have a *thing* , just a one-shot deal....so he thought. Forgetting what happened to him and Jack up there proved harder than he imagined.  To deny Jack was to deny himself. Jack was just reminding him of that. The "rest" was up to him. My 2 cents.

I think there is a dual meaning here.  It means both:  "the rest" refers to all the things Jack did that Ennis didn't know about AND all the things that Ennis will never know, because he let the opportunities pass him by.

Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: welshwitch on Aug 22, 2007, 11:29 AM
To me it implies also that Jack does know the rest in the sense of what they could have had; he's envisaged it, seen it in his mind's eye, given it " a local habitation and a name", as Ennis never has. If he were able to see it, it would terrify him, so in a way he's better offf lacking the imaginative ability to see and alternative to what he has.
Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: tpe on Aug 23, 2007, 07:29 AM
To me it implies also that Jack does know the rest in the sense of what they could have had; he's envisaged it, seen it in his mind's eye, given it " a local habitation and a name", as Ennis never has. If he were able to see it, it would terrify him, so in a way he's better offf lacking the imaginative ability to see and alternative to what he has.

Exactly.  When I said this referred to things that Ennis would never know because he let opportunities pass him by, I was referring primarily to a life with Jack.

Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: myprivatejack on Aug 28, 2007, 12:07 PM
Well,perhaps we´ve been divagating about what would have happenned if Jack had lived closer to Ennis, and all this;the only real thing is the frustration that the final confrontation scene breathes...Why?Don ´t you think that both of them are right and wrong at the same time?And that both of them are in some way a little selfish?I mean,it´s easier for Jack to leave it all than for Ennis,because he has a social status that allows him a freedom than his lover hasn´t.As somebody told,he also forgets or underestimates the pain Ennis felt for his divorce and the following separation from his daughters.In this sense,he´s wrong and a little selfish;but he´s right because twenty years of loving without hope answer for him.Then,the wrong and sellfish is Ennis, when he doesn´t understand all what the other has left for him,including more time spent with his own son precisely.
Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: ksxks on Aug 28, 2007, 10:56 PM
Interesting post, myprivatejack, about selfishness -- not really being able to put themselves in each other's shoes perhaps.

But what is "divagating"?  I don't think it's a word, though I could be wrong...but I like it, for what we do here on the forum -- divagating!   Like this?  ^*)  Or like this?  (^)

kathy
Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: myprivatejack on Aug 29, 2007, 07:09 AM
 :( UUH,I think I´ve translated directly from Spanish¡I meant that we were perhaps letting aside the topic and the thread,speaking about something that there wasn´t on the movie nor in the book,and almost making our own plot,it´s to say,"divagating".But,what is your opinion about their respective reasons in the confrontation scene?
Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: tpe on Aug 29, 2007, 07:13 AM
Well,perhaps we´ve been divagating about what would have happenned if Jack had lived closer to Ennis, and all this;the only real thing is the frustration that the final confrontation scene breathes...Why?Don ´t you think that both of them are right and wrong at the same time?And that both of them are in some way a little selfish?I mean,it´s easier for Jack to leave it all than for Ennis,because he has a social status that allows him a freedom than his lover hasn´t.As somebody told,he also forgets or underestimates the pain Ennis felt for his divorce and the following separation from his daughters.In this sense,he´s wrong and a little selfish;but he´s right because twenty years of loving without hope answer for him.Then,the wrong and sellfish is Ennis, when he doesn´t understand all what the other has left for him,including more time spent with his own son precisely.

The interesting thing, of course, is that I think Jack also has more to lose, as far as social status and stability. 

I think it is really a matter of what you are willing to do in order to get something. 

For Jack, this led him to try other things and seek connections with other people, even as he held on to the dream of having a life with Ennis.  Ennis was perhaps mindful of these connections and chose not to confront Jack about them until the final meeting. 

But I think both of them understood that the "rest" was all of the unknown opportunities open to them if they took the leap of faith together. 

For Ennis, there was a dread of the unknown. 

For Jack, there was an imperfect understanding of the consequences.


Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: myprivatejack on Aug 29, 2007, 10:36 AM
Ah,Kathy¡I don´t know your own way,but on this forum I divagate so: :d)
Speaking seriously,Tpe,Jack not only had left a lot of things for Ennis,but also had run some dangers;he was a man with a social status and a father-in-law that "hate his guts"-what probably led him to death-.But Ennis also has something to lose,precisely because his social status was not so high;a job with all what this means,the possibility of not seeing his daughters for a long time,and his dignity in sum-letting aside the same dangers that Jack also ran and that frightened him so much,not without being right-.I agree with you in that "the rest" was all the opportunities they lost and perhaps in Jack´s case,all the love and hopes he had put on Ennis and that sometimes he felt as if this one didn´t share.His doubts and fears often seem stronger than his love and this inner fight broke out in this final confrontation.
Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: tpe on Aug 30, 2007, 08:00 AM
Ah,Kathy¡I don´t know your own way,but on this forum I divagate so: :d)
Speaking seriously,Tpe,Jack not only had left a lot of things for Ennis,but also had run some dangers;he was a man with a social status and a father-in-law that "hate his guts"-what probably led him to death-.But Ennis also has something to lose,precisely because his social status was not so high;a job with all what this means,the possibility of not seeing his daughters for a long time,and his dignity in sum-letting aside the same dangers that Jack also ran and that frightened him so much,not without being right-.I agree with you in that "the rest" was all the opportunities they lost and perhaps in Jack´s case,all the love and hopes he had put on Ennis and that sometimes he felt as if this one didn´t share.His doubts and fears often seem stronger than his love and this inner fight broke out in this final confrontation.

What you said here is true MPJ. Ennis also did have a lot to lose, if we consider things more carefully.  The fact is that Ennis seemed more emotionally invested with his family (i.e., his daughters) or the idea of family.

Whatever kept Ennis way from a life with Jack, it must be admitted that Ennis also lost a great deal.  All the "rest" that Jack was alluding to must have also meant all the possibilities of a life share together -- well, as much as all the secrets they did not share openly with each other. Either way, some form of loss is entailed: we close the door on something if only to move on to the next room.  Perhaps what Ennis realized too late in the end was that the important thing was not to lose, but to keep on moving -- seeing what else is out there.


Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: myprivatejack on Aug 30, 2007, 12:20 PM
Hello again,tpe¡And again I totally agree with you :clap: again... I think that Ennis realized too late too many questions:what you´ve said,but also knowing how to fight for what he wanted-what at least Jack knew very well-,be loyal to his family and comitments,but also to the love of his life,understand that life is too short to quite an illusion before being accomplished,etc.etc.... and,what´s worse,perhaps he realized too late how much Jack loved and needed him and even how much he loved and needed Jack.
These questions for me are part of "the rest" that he never know until it was too late and here lies the great tragedy of the relationship and theirs.Perhaps the "Jack,I swear..." meant:"Jack,I swear I won´t be so stupid..."
Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: tpe on Aug 31, 2007, 07:42 AM
Hello again,tpe¡And again I totally agree with you :clap: again... I think that Ennis realized too late too many questions:what you´ve said,but also knowing how to fight for what he wanted-what at least Jack knew very well-,be loyal to his family and comitments,but also to the love of his life,understand that life is too short to quite an illusion before being accomplished,etc.etc.... and,what´s worse,perhaps he realized too late how much Jack loved and needed him and even how much he loved and needed Jack.
These questions for me are part of "the rest" that he never know until it was too late and here lies the great tragedy of the relationship and theirs.Perhaps the "Jack,I swear..." meant:"Jack,I swear I won´t be so stupid..."

Your last statement is a thought-provoking interpretation of Ennis's last line.  It never occured to me before, but makes sense, especially when juxtaposed with his recent acceptance to attend Jr.'s wedding. 

Perhaps there is both hope and finality to that last line.  I had always interpretetd it as his "marriage" vow.  But there may be more than one level of meaning in it.

Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: myprivatejack on Aug 31, 2007, 10:00 AM
Thanks,tpe¡I like to provoke...good interpretations¡. ^-^ Seriously,when I wrote "stupid" I meant not to have in the future some actions, or "inactions" with ,for example,his daughters and that,for me,can be resumed with this word in a very simple way...

Of course,there many interpretations in very different levels one can make of this last line,and I think you have done it in another thread before.It can be:
"I swear I won´t do with my daughters what I´ve done with you";"...I´ve always loved you although not always I´ve showed to you properly";"...I´ll leave your ashes to BBM";"...you will always be the love of my life",and so on,and on,and on.But this is another topic.And for me perhaps is "the rest".
Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: lightnin flat on Sep 01, 2007, 07:33 AM



  even if ennis didnt know the rest he did know by the end of their time togther that jack couldnt make it on a couple of high altitude f---s one or twice a year.                 

      presuming jack was talking about men in this statement what must ennis have been thinking at this point.i wonder.                                                             
Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: aintfoolin on Sep 01, 2007, 08:17 AM
I think maybe Ennis connected this statement from Jack to  Mexico and all the other things he did'nt know , but suspected. Once or twice a year? Hell ,who could blame him?  If Ennis had any feeling for Jack at all , he has to know that this is not acceptable.
Jack was not living the isolated exisitence that Ennis lived. He was *out there* in the midst of much temptation. Wether it's hustlers, Randall, or even LaShawn? ,Jack was vulnerable to that temptation due to Ennis not tcb in that respect. Jack said it " I'm not you". Ennis demands Jack's faithfulness no matter what, Jack says ,what Ennis don't know...well, it certainly can't hurt him. It's not like he wanted it this way, only Ennis held the solution to this.  MO.
Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: tpe on Sep 04, 2007, 11:16 AM
Yes, I originally also thought that Ennis must have thought about all the other "activities" that Jack hid from him, although I now have this feeling that Ennis also must have understood that it also referred to all the missed opportunities in their lives. 

I now think that both of them understood "the rest" to mean both...

 
Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: ragtimecowboy on Oct 09, 2007, 09:56 PM
Yes, I originally also thought that Ennis must have thought about all the other "activities" that Jack hid from him, although I now have this feeling that Ennis also must have understood that it also referred to all the missed opportunities in their lives. 

I now think that both of them understood "the rest" to mean both...

 

  Your dead right on this. When Ennis fell to his knees he realized the full weight of the situation at hand, as well Jack did as he drew Ennis to him to comfort him. When I see this scene, the hauntingly beautiful lyrics of "Dreams" sung by Stevie Nicks come to mind.
Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: tpe on Oct 10, 2007, 08:42 AM
  Your dead right on this. When Ennis fell to his knees he realized the full weight of the situation at hand, as well Jack did as he drew Ennis to him to comfort him. When I see this scene, the hauntingly beautiful lyrics of "Dreams" sung by Stevie Nicks come to mind.

Thanks ragtimecowboy.  (And I must check the lyrics of this song). 

So many layers of meaning in this one scene...

Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: myprivatejack on Oct 10, 2007, 11:29 AM
I think both of them knew very well at that point,not only of the "confrontation scene",but of their relationship what "the rest" meant,and they only were looking unconsciously for the right situation to deal with it.Yes,tpe,I also think there´re so many layers of meaning and interpretation on this scene,everyone can give theirs according to their feelings,but I think mainly that "the rest" means the opportunities of being together that they had lost for Ennis behaviour.And also,perhaps,bearing in mind Jack´s touching speech,it can means:..."You´ll never know how much I´ve loved you;in spite of my occassional reliefs in Mexico,I´m not speaking only about sex when I´m referring to you".
Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: tpe on Oct 11, 2007, 08:15 AM
I think both of them knew very well at that point,not only of the "confrontation scene",but of their relationship what "the rest" meant,and they only were looking unconsciously for the right situation to deal with it.Yes,tpe,I also think there´re so many layers of meaning and interpretation on this scene,everyone can give theirs according to their feelings,but I think mainly that "the rest" means the opportunities of being together that they had lost for Ennis behaviour.And also,perhaps,bearing in mind Jack´s touching speech,it can means:..."You´ll never know how much I´ve loved you;in spite of my occassional reliefs in Mexico,I´m not speaking only about sex when I´m referring to you".

Yes, I do think that by the time the confrontation scene rolled in, they were ripe for dealing with it.  The ripening was really a gradual process, which I think manifested itself early on.  Certainly, by the time Jack left Ennis for his visit to Mexico, a line had been crossed subconsciously, and once that line had been crossed, they were never the same in their understanding as to "the rest".

Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: myprivatejack on Sep 10, 2008, 11:10 AM
I'd like to "resuscitate" this old thread by saying that,as a resume,this phrase "...if you don't never know the rest" is,above all,a kind of love's declaration on Jack's side.It could be-and,as a matter of fact,is too...-that Ennis didn't know about Randall or his Mexico trips; but I think that specially is some intangible things that there're in that "rest":the lots of times Jack had cried for the death of his "sweet life together" dream,the things he had left and the risks he had run for being with Ennis,the time they had lost,etc.And,above all still,for me "the rest" is "How much I've loved you and I love you still,and you had never seemed to realise it."
Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: ksxks on Sep 10, 2008, 10:37 PM
I'd like to "resuscitate" this old thread by saying that,as a resume,this phrase "...if you don't never know the rest" is,above all,a kind of love's declaration on Jack's side.It could be-and,as a matter of fact,is too...-that Ennis didn't know about Randall or his Mexico trips; but I think that specially is some intangible things that there're in that "rest":the lots of times Jack had cried for the death of his "sweet life together" dream,the things he had left and the risks he had run for being with Ennis,the time they had lost,etc.And,above all still,for me "the rest" is "How much I've loved you and I love you still,and you had never seemed to realise it."

I never fully understood exactly what that line meant, but the way you put it here, MPJ, I get it.  "The rest" being all the ways Jack felt.  Maybe Ennis was too busy denying himself to really understand or know or think about how "this thing" was for Jack over all these years.

Only slightly off topic, there is something in this scene I also don't really get.  Ennis says, "You got a better idea?"  Jack says, "I did, once."  Then Ennis says, "You been to Mexico?" and it goes from there.  I've always wondered why Ennis says that right then.  Doesn't seem anything brought it up.

However, I kind of just answered my own question.  In the screenplay, it's expressed more clearly.  There is a little bit in there between the dialogue that explains Ennis's thought process right then, and also that Jack had been waiting for Ennis to comment on this all these years.

Thanks for listening -- I was just thinkin' out loud.

kathy
Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: rimasworld on Sep 11, 2008, 12:44 AM
I never fully understood exactly what that line meant, but the way you put it here, MPJ, I get it.  "The rest" being all the ways Jack felt.  Maybe Ennis was too busy denying himself to really understand or know or think about how "this thing" was for Jack over all these years.

Only slightly off topic, there is something in this scene I also don't really get.  Ennis says, "You got a better idea?"  Jack says, "I did, once."  Then Ennis says, "You been to Mexico?" and it goes from there.  I've always wondered why Ennis says that right then.  Doesn't seem anything brought it up.

However, I kind of just answered my own question.  In the screenplay, it's expressed more clearly.  There is a little bit in there between the dialogue that explains Ennis's thought process right then, and also that Jack had been waiting for Ennis to comment on this all these years.

Thanks for listening -- I was just thinkin' out loud.

kathy
I guess because Jack had mentioned a bit before that they should go some place warm like Mexico but I kind of wondered how Ennis knew what went on there. I think Ennis was more aware of the ways of the world than he let on. Again like that old saying goes "still waters run deep" He kept quiet a lot but that mind of his was always working.
Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: manhattangirl on Sep 11, 2008, 03:46 AM
In the ss it implied Ennis knew exactly what went on in Mexico, but only by what he heard, sometimes we think of Ennis living a "cloistered life", but on the contrary.  I think sometimes Ennis knew "the rest", he loved Jack.  JMO.
Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: tpe on Sep 11, 2008, 07:14 AM
I think I did say it before also that there is a double meawning behind this declaration by Jack.  On the surface, it meant all his affairs and hook-ups with other men.  On a deeper level, it refers to the joy of love and the experience of a life lived in love -- in other words, Jack's dream of a sweet life.  On a totally different level, it may serve as a premonition of Jack's death.  Certainly, with hindsight, many menaings (intended or unintended) can be overlayed in this enigmantic statement.

Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: atalley on Sep 11, 2008, 05:13 PM
I'm working my way through this thread.  It's gut-wrenching, but IMO I think it's the best thread online!
Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: myprivatejack on Sep 11, 2008, 05:24 PM
I never fully understood exactly what that line meant, but the way you put it here, MPJ, I get it.  "The rest" being all the ways Jack felt.  Maybe Ennis was too busy denying himself to really understand or know or think about how "this thing" was for Jack over all these years.

Only slightly off topic, there is something in this scene I also don't really get.  Ennis says, "You got a better idea?"  Jack says, "I did, once."  Then Ennis says, "You been to Mexico?" and it goes from there.  I've always wondered why Ennis says that right then.  Doesn't seem anything brought it up.

However, I kind of just answered my own question.  In the screenplay, it's expressed more clearly.  There is a little bit in there between the dialogue that explains Ennis's thought process right then, and also that Jack had been waiting for Ennis to comment on this all these years.

Thanks for listening -- I was just thinkin' out loud.

kathy

Perhaps off topic too;Jack answers "I did,once" and Ennis repeats this phrase to ask him in his turn if he has been to Mexico...I think that Ennis uses this suspicion about his lover's faithfulness to avoid really speaking about this idea Jack had once.Maybe he didn't suspect in that moment that this excuse would serve precisely to make the confrontation he wanted to avoid explode with more strength.JMHO.
Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: ksxks on Sep 11, 2008, 10:24 PM
I guess because Jack had mentioned a bit before that they should go some place warm like Mexico but I kind of wondered how Ennis knew what went on there. I think Ennis was more aware of the ways of the world than he let on. Again like that old saying goes "still waters run deep" He kept quiet a lot but that mind of his was always working.

I think so, too.  I do remember that Jack mentioned Mexico earlier, but still, Ennis's comment at that moment seemed to come out of nowhere.  But that goes along with what you just said about Ennis.  That Jack had mentioned Mexico was still stewing in Ennis's brain during the rest of the "confrontation" conversation -- it just took awhile for him to formulate how he felt about it or how Jack would feel about it, and to let the words out.

But as I said, my questioning it came from taking the movie at face value, without the benefit of the story or screenplay.  They both answer many questions.

kathy
Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: ksxks on Sep 11, 2008, 10:25 PM
Perhaps off topic too;Jack answers "I did,once" and Ennis repeats this phrase to ask him in his turn if he has been to Mexico...I think that Ennis uses this suspicion about his lover's faithfulness to avoid really speaking about this idea Jack had once.Maybe he didn't suspect in that moment that this excuse would serve precisely to make the confrontation he wanted to avoid explode with more strength.JMHO.

Aha!  Excellent observation and explanation of it.  That seems just right.

And I'd forgotten how Ennis repeats Jack, says "you did, once." 

kathy
Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: lancecowboy on Sep 12, 2008, 07:06 AM
I'm working my way through this thread.  It's gut-wrenching, but IMO I think it's the best thread online!

I second every word. It's about the core of the love between Ennis and Jack.
Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: tpe on Sep 12, 2008, 07:25 AM
Ennis read "I did once" as a provocation -- which was why he brought up the trips to Mexico.  The culmination leads to Ennis's threat to Jack.  It is interesting to note that Jack's response is part justification and part prophecy.   The "rest" is left intentionally vague -- so that it lingers in our mind as we see the succeeding scenes unfold.

 
Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: ksxks on Sep 12, 2008, 09:06 PM
Ennis read "I did once" as a provocation -- which was why he brought up the trips to Mexico.  The culmination leads to Ennis's threat to Jack.  It is interesting to note that Jack's response is part justification and part prophecy.   The "rest" is left intentionally vague -- so that it lingers in our mind as we see the succeeding scenes unfold.


This is so true.  His saying, "I did once" may well be heard to mean that he doesn't anymore.  Which could lead Ennis to believe Jack has given up on the sweet life with Ennis (which to Ennis means of course a totally monogamous sweet life).  So he feels Jack might be messing around...and then after the comment about Mexico, it all comes together in Ennis's mind.

Good -- I get it now.  Thank you all.

kathy
Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: lancecowboy on Sep 12, 2008, 09:35 PM
I guess because Jack had mentioned a bit before that they should go some place warm like Mexico but I kind of wondered how Ennis knew what went on there. I think Ennis was more aware of the ways of the world than he let on. Again like that old saying goes "still waters run deep" He kept quiet a lot but that mind of his was always working.

I have always thought that Ennis is a lot smarter than he let on. He just takes longer to think things through. He is faster on his horse than thinking on his feet. He may not travel farther than looking for the handle around coffee pot, but he knew about Colorado (in the short story) and Mexico.

In the ss it implied Ennis knew exactly what went on in Mexico, but only by what he heard, sometimes we think of Ennis living a "cloistered life", but on the contrary.  I think sometimes Ennis knew "the rest", he loved Jack.  JMO.

I think so, too. He knew about Jack's needs, and he was willing to let it pass, as long as Jack doesn't flaunt it in his face. That's why he said "if I come to know..." he suspected already, just didn't want to know in words. He loved Jack just as he was, without trying to change him. Jack went along with Ennis the way he was, too, but, it was just too much, to love someone for twenty years, and get nothing more than a couple high-altitude f@#S a few times a year, and a couple shirts in the closet back home. He was going to spend a couple days in Lightning Flats. No doubt Jack would be hugging those shirts. I think Ennis would know that, too, a few months later, hugging those same shirts, breathing in Jack's smells. With Cassie's words fresh in his mind, he'd know why much Jack loved him, not just for fun. That was 'the rest'. What Jack probably never told Ennis, that he wanted him to move to Lightning Flats...for the sweet life.
Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: tpe on Sep 16, 2008, 08:56 AM
This is so true.  His saying, "I did once" may well be heard to mean that he doesn't anymore.  Which could lead Ennis to believe Jack has given up on the sweet life with Ennis (which to Ennis means of course a totally monogamous sweet life).  So he feels Jack might be messing around...and then after the comment about Mexico, it all comes together in Ennis's mind.

Good -- I get it now.  Thank you all.

kathy

That is a better wasy of putting it, kathy.  I guess this is why there was something in Jack's response that struck me as vaguely unpleasant.  Ennis must have took the supposition as an insult -- or close to it; hence, his response.  But what was perhaps most painful to Ennis was the fact that Jack spoke the truth, and that perhaps Jack had finally given up hope, when he said "I did once."
Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: myprivatejack on Sep 16, 2008, 09:43 AM
That is a better wasy of putting it, kathy.  I guess this is why there was something in Jack's response that struck me as vaguely unpleasant.  Ennis must have took the supposition as an insult -- or close to it; hence, his response.  But what was perhaps most painful to Ennis was the fact that Jack spoke the truth, and that perhaps Jack had finally given up hope, when he said "I did once."
It could have been taken for Ennis as an insult or,at least,as a renounce of the part of Jack of this "sweet life together".This,joined with the suspicions he had about Jack's faithfulness,made him answer in this way.
But I tend to suppose that,mainly,he was suspicious,yes,but he was waiting for the right moment to tell it.He knew perfectly that he couldn't "attack" Jack with this suspicion after having told him that they didn't see each other in months.But his friend "served it in argent plate",as we say here,when he said this "I did once"; Ennis then had a good excuse to avoid the subject by speaking,at his turn,about what happenned with Mexico.JMHO.
Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: LuvJackNasty on Sep 16, 2008, 09:44 PM
That is a better wasy of putting it, kathy.  I guess this is why there was something in Jack's response that struck me as vaguely unpleasant.  Ennis must have took the supposition as an insult -- or close to it; hence, his response.  But what was perhaps most painful to Ennis was the fact that Jack spoke the truth, and that perhaps Jack had finally given up hope, when he said "I did once."

That's what I think. It almost reminds me of Ennis saying "once burned" to Alma.
Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: tpe on Sep 17, 2008, 08:45 AM
It could have been taken for Ennis as an insult or,at least,as a renounce of the part of Jack of this "sweet life together".This,joined with the suspicions he had about Jack's faithfulness,made him answer in this way.
But I tend to suppose that,mainly,he was suspicious,yes,but he was waiting for the right moment to tell it.He knew perfectly that he couldn't "attack" Jack with this suspicion after having told him that they didn't see each other in months.But his friend "served it in argent plate",as we say here,when he said this "I did once"; Ennis then had a good excuse to avoid the subject by speaking,at his turn,about what happenned with Mexico.JMHO.

yes, Ennis certainly must have taken this for an opportunity to unload his resentment regarding his suspicions about Jack's faithfulness. 

As to the sweet life, I wonder whether Ennis would have cared that much.  I think what he resented most was not that Jack was renouncing it -- rather, he resented the fact that he was somehow being blamed for the renouncement.

Title: Re: Jack: "...If you don't never know the rest"
Post by: tpe on Sep 17, 2008, 08:47 AM
That's what I think. It almost reminds me of Ennis saying "once burned" to Alma.

So true.  Perhaps this is even a deliberate parallel.  Thanks LJN: one does indeed recall the other...  But the tables have turned in this case...