it's so nice to read your answers! I feel so understood...I hugh you all
What if we all justify him in the light of the epoch and context of the story?
Do you think Ennis nowadays would be different?
I do not think so. I cannot see him waiving a rainobow flag in a gay pride. I think he would be the same d*** Jack and we are used too.
There is a lot of closethed gay men who break the heart of their loved ones, still today. 2022.
And there always was, in every epoch I bet.
Many movies narrate this issue (for example Freier Fall which is interesting, Firebird that totally sucks IMO, God's Own Country that is...a sort of son of BBM, have you seen it? It's kinda cute).
Ok, Ennis was deeply traumatized by his father. That's another justification...But... Traumatized people love quite a lot, actually.
What if it's just that Ennis avoids love because - altough he seems the mature one (accusing Jack of being a childish dreamer) - he is scared of love like a little boy. Love is commitment, is everyday, is fatigue, is facing adversities together... BBM is a paradise where he and Jack can be little boys forever only savoring an ideal heavenly perspective of life. BBM it's a lot like Eden.
It's easy only meeting up a few days, savoring only the love making, the romantic reunions, the moon, the stars. Love is holiday for Ennis, it is an escape from an unsatisfactory life.
But at some point Jack wants to grow up...Wants more...
Maybe macho-s*** epoch is the perfect cover for immature!Ennis.