Topic: Heath Ledger - In Loving Memory

[Emzan]

especially when they talk of his childhood because thats were we realize again heath was just 28 and he had so much more to offer this world not just as an actor

He was just 28...This is not the way it should be, he still had a long life to live, why did he have to go away? This is just so wrong :\'( :\'(

I miss you sweet angel :\'(

[sportstalk23]

I am a person who finds it unacceptable when a young person dies famous or not its not a natural order rather it be accident, murder, illness, whatever I felt the same way when it was the  singer AAliayah, Brandon Lee, John F.Kennedy Jr., Tupac, Biggie Smalls and they all died within the last 12 years and you know what I still feel the lost because each of them had something to bring to music,movies and politics that is sorely needed right now and it will be no different in 10, 20, 30 years when I look back and see Heath Ledger's name added to this sad list they say time heals all wounds I'm not sure about that anymore

[FlwrChild]

I don't think the hurt ever goes away; it just becomes incorporated with the rest of who you are, and you carry it with you along with all of the wonderful memories that gave you a reason to hurt when you lost that person. And all of the lessons you learned, or the things you felt, help shape who you are for the rest of your life. Do I wish it were different? Oh God yes. Do I wish it didn't hurt? Of course. Would I have missed this ride, and feeling the things I feel about him, for anything in the world? Not a chance. He's worth the pain. And having all of you in my life makes it all that much more worth it.

[Emzan]

I am a person who finds it unacceptable when a young person dies famous or not its not a natural order rather it be accident, murder, illness, whatever I felt the same way when it was the  singer AAliayah, Brandon Lee, John F.Kennedy Jr., Tupac, Biggie Smalls and they all died within the last 12 years and you know what I still feel the lost because each of them had something to bring to music,movies and politics that is sorely needed right now and it will be no different in 10, 20, 30 years when I look back and see Heath Ledger's name added to this sad list they say time heals all wounds I'm not sure about that anymore

I'm not so sure about that either...

[Matt Nasty]

I don't think the hurt ever goes away; it just becomes incorporated with the rest of who you are, and you carry it with you along with all of the wonderful memories that gave you a reason to hurt when you lost that person. And all of the lessons you learned, or the things you felt, help shape who you are for the rest of your life. Do I wish it were different? Oh God yes. Do I wish it didn't hurt? Of course. Would I have missed this ride, and feeling the things I feel about him, for anything in the world? Not a chance. He's worth the pain. And having all of you in my life makes it all that much more worth it.

i couldnt agree more

[Emzan]

I don't think the hurt ever goes away; it just becomes incorporated with the rest of who you are, and you carry it with you along with all of the wonderful memories that gave you a reason to hurt when you lost that person. And all of the lessons you learned, or the things you felt, help shape who you are for the rest of your life. Do I wish it were different? Oh God yes. Do I wish it didn't hurt? Of course. Would I have missed this ride, and feeling the things I feel about him, for anything in the world? Not a chance. He's worth the pain. And having all of you in my life makes it all that much more worth it.

He is worth the pain. If I didnt feel anything about his death then I would start to get worried. Even if I wasnt a big fan of him a long time before he died I'm going to love him forever...

[froggy]

I am not looking forward to seeing the E true hollywood story of our boy

[jessicat80]

I am a person who finds it unacceptable when a young person dies famous or not its not a natural order rather it be accident, murder, illness, whatever I felt the same way when it was the  singer AAliayah, Brandon Lee, John F.Kennedy Jr., Tupac, Biggie Smalls and they all died within the last 12 years and you know what I still feel the lost because each of them had something to bring to music,movies and politics that is sorely needed right now and it will be no different in 10, 20, 30 years when I look back and see Heath Ledger's name added to this sad list they say time heals all wounds I'm not sure about that anymore

I know what you mean, I remember being shocked when Aaliyah died, I hadn't had any idea who she was for most of her short career, I knew her name and songs, but nothing of her, then MTV aired "Diary of Aaliyah" and she seemed so sweet, so did her hairdresser(who was also killed)...I remember the episode ending with her saying something about God, and how he's blessed her, and she is so lucky. She died 1 week after the episode aired. I never even would have known who she was.

It's still so unreal that Heath has been added to that list of lost too soon...I had been so numb after his death, then the first time I remember it seeming real was a couple days later the news was talking about River Phoenix and Anna Nicole Smith, and then they said, "And now we add Heath Ledger to that list". I had been crying for days and yet it was like, wait a minute, you can't put him on that list. It made it too real.

It still doesn't seem real always, sometimes I think I'm fine, then I see something like the commercial for the E! THS and they even mention the word death, and show his picture, and it's still like...what are doing, he can't really be dead; that's crazy.

[Matt Nasty]

i know what you mean jess, it sometimes feels so surreal...

[sportstalk23]

I know what you mean, I remember being shocked when Aaliyah died, I hadn't had any idea who she was for most of her short career, I knew her name and songs, but nothing of her, then MTV aired "Diary of Aaliyah" and she seemed so sweet, so did her hairdresser(who was also killed)...I remember the episode ending with her saying something about God, and how he's blessed her, and she is so lucky. She died 1 week after the episode aired. I never even would have known who she was.

It's still so unreal that Heath has been added to that list of lost too soon...I had been so numb after his death, then the first time I remember it seeming real was a couple days later the news was talking about River Phoenix and Anna Nicole Smith, and then they said, "And now we add Heath Ledger to that list". I had been crying for days and yet it was like, wait a minute, you can't put him on that list. It made it too real.

It still doesn't seem real always, sometimes I think I'm fine, then I see something like the commercial for the E! THS and they even mention the word death, and show his picture, and it's still like...what are doing, he can't really be dead; that's crazy.

 


you know what jess I saw that episode when it aired and the day after she died they showed it again and my sister said OMG isnt some of the people in that Diary were with her on the plane? 2 people featured was AAliyah hairdresser as you said  and her makeup artist who was killed as well and her birthday is Jan 16 and me and my friends never forget that day to have Heath's death 6 days after that was just too much just hearing the term "the late Heath Ledger" doesnt seem right and it never will be and just thinking that I looked forward to seeing him as an older man how his acting would further progress and now to think him playing an older Ennis Del Mar would be all we get of and older Heath Ledger and then I see people with talent like Amy Winehouse who is throwing away her life and career makes me angry when Heath just wanted some rest and wound up paying for it with his life not of this will ever make sense

[Lis]

He is worth the pain. If I didnt feel anything about his death then I would start to get worried. Even if I wasnt a big fan of him a long time before he died I'm going to love him forever...

I couldn't agree more, Emelie! He is, and will forever be in my heart..

[Lis]

I just looked at the earlier post and I was actually wondering when they would put a E! Hollywood Story about Heath. I know when Anna Nicole Smith died that they had done one as well. Of course, not knowing much about Anna Nicole, I wasn't as fazed, though I felt deeply for her little girl. But now, to go and watch the story, the history, and the tragic loss of a man that we, as fans of his work, have come to love so deeply, it is going to be SO hard. Earlier in the year they had a 30 min. segment I believe on Heath and that was even hard to watch...I could just imagine what this would to me.. :\'(

[sportstalk23]

that show was basically a timeline of what happened to Heath from what he was working on til death and the reaction of it by the industry this one looks to be more in depth but still hard to watch 

[rimasworld]

It's still hard for me to believe and realize he's not in this world anymore. His death was so sudden and tragic. I loved Heath, he was such a wonderful actor. He would have only gotten better with age and it pains me to know he will never be able to show us that.

[jessi]

I'm sorry for the deaths of those young people, so many more, so many, yet the loss doesn't take my breath, make my gut feel much like Ennis in that alley, haunt me.  He was incredibly special.

jessi

[ksxks]

I don't think the hurt ever goes away; it just becomes incorporated with the rest of who you are, and you carry it with you along with all of the wonderful memories that gave you a reason to hurt when you lost that person. And all of the lessons you learned, or the things you felt, help shape who you are for the rest of your life. Do I wish it were different? Oh God yes. Do I wish it didn't hurt? Of course. Would I have missed this ride, and feeling the things I feel about him, for anything in the world? Not a chance. He's worth the pain. And having all of you in my life makes it all that much more worth it.

OMG, such beautiful words, as usual, FC.  Having had a number of losses of people in my life, I've had plenty of opportunites to "incorporate" those people into my life.  You said it so well.  Everything that they were, everything they were to us personally -- including the pain of their deaths -- we continue to carry with us, and it makes us all the more dimensional.  Also, maybe when Heath was here, he carried himself by himself, but now, he has a million people carrying him forward inside them.

kathy

[ksxks]

It's still hard for me to believe and realize he's not in this world anymore. His death was so sudden and tragic. I loved Heath, he was such a wonderful actor. He would have only gotten better with age and it pains me to know he will never be able to show us that.

That's what I mourn so much also -- I wanted to see him (and want to see Jake also) as they get older.  People say "forever young" like it's a good thing, but it's a privilege to get older -- that's what I would have liked to have seen for Heath...

kathy

[myprivatejack]

That's what I mourn so much also -- I wanted to see him (and want to see Jake also) as they get older.  People say "forever young" like it's a good thing, but it's a privilege to get older -- that's what I would have liked to have seen for Heath...

kathy

I completely agree,Kathy.We all would have liked to see him as he was getting older,to proving how much his skills as an actor and his feelings as a person had got better with the years.If we say "forever young" is because we'll see him forever as young and beautiful,beyond of good and bad,without being hit by life's troubles anymore.But,of course,getting older is a privilege; it's a natural part of life.And it's unfair that Heath won't have this privilege for himself...

[keren_b]

I know its going to be really hard to watch and I was thinking about avoid it, but I just cant...

I'm going to record it so if you want I can send it to you or something

Thanks Emelie.

[keren_b]

It's still so unreal that Heath has been added to that list of lost too soon...I had been so numb after his death, then the first time I remember it seeming real was a couple days later the news was talking about River Phoenix and Anna Nicole Smith, and then they said, "And now we add Heath Ledger to that list". I had been crying for days and yet it was like, wait a minute, you can't put him on that list. It made it too real.

It still doesn't seem real always, sometimes I think I'm fine, then I see something like the commercial for the E! THS and they even mention the word death, and show his picture, and it's still like...what are doing, he can't really be dead; that's crazy.

I still feel like that too. I still can't accept it. I often ask myself, why him? Why him of all people? Of all people, why did it have to be Heath, this one person who is so amazing and beautiful and talented and special and that I loved so much. I can never accept that.

[myprivatejack]

I still feel like that too. I still can't accept it. I often ask myself, why him? Why him of all people? Of all people, why did it have to be Heath, this one person who is so amazing and beautiful and talented and special and that I loved so much. I can never accept that.

Keren,this phase of not acceptation is more or less longer,depending of each person;in feelings case,there's no magical recipes nor concretes times to overcoming or not something.This is not a relief,but sometimes I also think that it can't be true,that somebody has lied about and stuff...But I guess that sooner or later,we'll accept it,that doesn't mean forget nor don't matter,but learn to living with this reality.Until that moment,

[jessi]

My sister died in a blink, freak accident, in 1985.  I knew my loss, knew she was gone, saw the body but have never in my head got over with it can't be real, it can't be real, I'll wake and call her, hear her voice and she'll laugh at how creepy my dream was.  I visited her grave in Ala. two weeks ago, made myself graphically remember that is where her body, NO not her spirit, but her body was and still it can't be real.  That is being haunted, and Heath will haunt my heart till I die, then my spirit will kick his spirit butt and tell him how much he has been missed and loved.  My sister too, for she died in a car accident caused by a violent storm and tornado and she had no business in that damn car.  I am haunted by a few losses and very bad choices. 

jessi

[jessicat80]

I still feel like that too. I still can't accept it. I often ask myself, why him? Why him of all people? Of all people, why did it have to be Heath, this one person who is so amazing and beautiful and talented and special and that I loved so much. I can never accept that.

i feel the same way sometimes, then I feel selfish, like I'm focusing on what the loss of him means to me, not to him and the people truly in his life.

But it does start to feel like why him of all people, I remember literally fearing he might die, it's something that always gets in my head when I really like an actor because I had loved one so much before, then lost him...that fear and hesitation is just always there somewhere.

Then I remember I'd think, stop it Jess, how many young actors really die...or OD...what are the chances in the thousands of famous people out there, it's going to be your favorite entertainer again.

I guess the chances were pretty f'n strong.

But again, not about me...selfish, selfish selfish

[Matt Nasty]

i feel the same way sometimes, then I feel selfish, like I'm focusing on what the loss of him means to me, not to him and the people truly in his life.

But it does start to feel like why him of all people, I remember literally fearing he might die, it's something that always gets in my head when I really like an actor because I had loved one so much before, then lost him...that fear and hesitation is just always there somewhere.

Then I remember I'd think, stop it Jess, how many young actors really die...or OD...what are the chances in the thousands of famous people out there, it's going to be your favorite entertainer again.

I guess the chances were pretty f'n strong.

But again, not about me...selfish, selfish selfish

thats not selfish at all. slefish would be trying to get all the attention as if only yoy were affected by it do as far as i can ee you are not ebing even slightly selfish . i know what you mean about your fears, after heath i get similar and i cant talk about them cos it makes me feel so damn awful that i even think about it...

[jessicat80]

I am haunted by a few losses and very bad choices. 

jessi

Oh Jessi

That's awful, no I wouldn't suppose that's something you could ever accept. Your words are haunting :\'(

It just reinforces to me how much this affects those that really knew Heath, yet I'm very fascinated by the fact that you feel his death haunts you also.

Sometimes nothing makes sense...except how much I care for you all

[myprivatejack]

Oh Jessi

That's awful, no I wouldn't suppose that's something you could ever accept. Your words are haunting :\'(

It just reinforces to me how much this affects those that really knew Heath, yet I'm very fascinated by the fact that you feel his death haunts you also.

Sometimes nothing makes sense...except how much I care for you all

Jessica and Jessi     

They say death is a part of life,but ;why,then,won't we ever get used to it?

[Emzan]

Jessica and Jessi     

They say death is a part of life,but ;why,then,won't we ever get used to it?

Thats a very good question. And I dont have a good answer for it, I guess that some things you are just not ment to get used to or understand and thats why it hurts so much...

[jessi]

Jessica and Jessi     

They say death is a part of life,but ;why,then,won't we ever get used to it?

I have an older friend, and I'm in upper, way way upper, lol, 50s who debates with me about death being natural.  It is in nature and part of living so I guess he's right, maybe.  Death is wrong though, our spirits know that; getting old is too, and our spirits know that too, but dying young is an abomation and children and someone as incredible as heath, no words.

jessi

[myprivatejack]

I have an older friend, and I'm in upper, way way upper, lol, 50s who debates with me about death being natural.  It is in nature and part of living so I guess he's right, maybe.  Death is wrong though, our spirits know that; getting old is too, and our spirits know that too, but dying young is an abomation and children and someone as incredible as heath, no words.

jessi

Yes,it`s true,but also,unfortunately,dying being young or a child is also part of living.Since there're so many illness and other problems we can't have a solution for,for example.It's so unfair,but,have we said that life is completely fair?.

[Matt Nasty]

life is unfair but i beleive death is a better place...