He didn't really give up on Ennis and his love for him - but I'm sure he knew there was no way Ennis would ever accept to live together, to live their love openly. After their fight, he understood that, I think. Of course, he couldn't let go, but I believe something in him died when he realized he'd never really be with Ennis. When he tried to move on, his heart wasn't really in it. We all know that one sign from Ennis, and he would have gone to him without a second thought. But I don't think he had any hope left. Their fight was the last straw.
Personnally, when Jack talks about the rancher's wife to Ennis, I was pretty sure it was really about Randall. Whether he decided to live with him before or after the fight, I can't really figure out.
Yes, I agree with you Lilie. I don't think that Jack 'gave-up' on Ennis for 100%. I think that he just resigned himself at that moment in time to what you say: that there was no way Ennis would ever accept to live together, to live their love openly...
I therefore think that he (taking into consideration what Ennis had said to him at the end of their fight on the Mountain: "Sorry I can't stand much anymore, Jack.") decided to make do with what we often call in Life: "second best"...
(Sam wipes a tear away here...)
I think that Jack, shocked and deeply pained by Ennis' inner turmoil regarding their relationship (revealed to him during that final fight on the Mountain...) finally decides to let Ennis go free...purely and completely out of Love...
And that he decides to move-on with his own life at that moment, only now replacing 'Ennis' with 'Randall'...(-->Randall being: the second best choice)
Of course, this is
NOT what Jack truly wanted...what he had hoped for all those years...but...
like many of the other characters in this multi-facetted film who had had to also make do with 'second-best' (Alma, Lureen!)...he resigns himself to embracing 'second best' (as best he could)...
And, we all know what happens to you when you have to decide for just 'second best'...you slowly lose interest...get demotivated...become depressed...and feel sad...
which sometimes leads to: becoming 'careless' or 'sloppy' in area's where previously you were always 'sharp' and 'alert'... It's so easy to then take on a lightly stoic: "I just don't care anymore..." attitude...
Perhaps, this is what happened that led to Jack's tragic ending...
Maybe he 'approached' the wrong guys (those "killer mechanics"?)...'said' the wrong thing....'gave-out' the wrong impression...leading to:
the
dreaded 'tire iron' scene... BIG SIGH!
We will never know for sure...it's all up to the viewer's personal interpretation. Proulx, McMurtry and Ossana, Lee all made sure of this...
That's what makes this such a wonderful picture! It's all left up to the audience's discretion.
If you ask me, I don't think that Jack ever entirely gives up on Ennis. I think...that he still hopes that someday...maybe, long, long aways in the future...that maybe Ennis will have a change of mind...
I think that no matter what happens on 'the outside'/'the surface' (for example: eventually moving to Lightning Flat with Randall...), deep down inside, Jack still holds on to this sliver of hope...(that's why he never discards the two shirts)
It's truly heartbreaking that now that Jack is gone...we will never know...Jack died young...a mere 39...with a crack in his heart...unfulfilled...never ever having a full chance to resolve this poignant issue...
Jack: unresolved, unfulfilled...with lead in his heart...
Ennis: idem ditto
And that's what makes this story so awfully, awfully sad...
BM: shows us how ignorance and intolerance can force people to deny their love and deny who they are...shows us what can happen when love is hidden or denied...and spins us a tale of love stumbled into, love thwarted, and love held sorrowfully in the heart...
sam