I find that scene really, really sad. Although they're supposedly talking about their relationships with women (we know in Jack's case he's talking about a man), and Ennis makes that "you probably deserve it" comment, it comes through so clearly to me that Ennis loves Jack, and cannot stand the thought of him with anyone else, but because of his inability to communicate this, makes a joke and a forced laugh, which trails off as if even he realised it was unconvincing. You can almost taste the bitter heartache and frustration in both of them at this moment.....and then Jack, coming back to reality, realises none of that matters, and has to tell Ennis how he feels. Ennis says nothing. :'( :'( :'(
sorry, we've gone off topic again, but hard not to do with this amazing film!!!