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myprivatejack, babytammy7, I am glad to learn about an European perspective of the sex scenes, and you brought up an interesting point that I am not sure anyone else has covered. Please let me know if I am wrong. Namely, why is it, that the two cowboys are so reluctant to talk about their feelings? I think it is the central theme that Anne Proulx makes in the short story. These stoic reticent cowboys are confronted with a love that they did not understand, and has no vocabulary to handle it, as Ennis said, there ain't no reins on this one. They simply lived it, first in the tent at night, then out in the open under the warm sun, by the fire in the evening and so on. They didn't talk about it. The closest they did was when Jack related to Ennis how much he missed him, and when Ennis talked about Earl and Rich. The rest of the time, they simply didn't talk about the love of their life that is nobody else's business.
Is it a North American male thing? At least, the non-metromale? Cowboys don't cry, they put up. No need to talk about things, when getting the job done is what's important.
Perhaps all the new direction our Canadian and American society has been heading is correct. Men need to learn to communicate their feelings, their emotion, more openly and with more awareness, so that they can deal with what are truly important in life.
When we can talk about sex openly, without shame and innuendo, without snickers or misconception, without assumptions or prejudgement, that's when boys and men will be able to take reins of their own feelings, and make them good feelings. We don't need to be explicit, or do we? What's the difference between using the f word, and saying having sex (other than the extra letters), what about making love? Do all the euphemism distract from the power of the most primitive instinct we have? Isn't that the sole reason for the fascination with it in all media, including the fanfic? Sex is the oldest and most powerful addiction known to men. Women know this and often use it to their advantage, and also often fall victim to it. What is the answer? Does the Scandinavian experiment work? When sex becomes as common as love, no big deal, except as a celebration of two people's feelings and life? We know for certain that the Victorian or British experiment failed. No offense intended, but making sex a sinful shameful act only makes it more powerful, but uncontrolled, uncontrollable... We need a middle ground that makes sex a celebration, but with full awareness of its power and consequences. It is not just another word, but a sacred commitment between two people, not to be taken lightly, but also not to be hidden under layers of clothing, physical nor metaphorical.
Would I change the sex scenes in the movie? Not a bit, because they are perfect in the way they told the story. Would I have sex scenes in sequel to the movie? Absolutely, especially if the sequel is to explore fully Ennis' life after Jack's death.
