I'm glad I'm not the only person who thinks that Jack's mom wants Ennis to take his ashes to BBM. I think her body-language is very pointed in that she knows what these two men meant to one another, and she wants her baby to have his way as to where his ashes are laid to rest. When she looks at her husband, you can see a look of resignation on her face. She can't speak up out loud for Jack, because she has never spoken up for herself or Jack in her life -- how could she start now? I think that old man ruled the roost, but, we all know, that mama can find ways around the old bastard. She's a heart-breaking character to me, because I think her silence and acceptance of what life dealt her was, in the long run, a neqative thing. But, then again, it's the 60's when Jack was growing up. Many women ( more than now) just kept their mouth shut and let their man rule the family -- even when they knew he was harming her and the children.