Thank you lance for your clever words!
I for one am stil in disbelieve and burst in tears with no reason at all...
I was only quoting what Tamara was quoting Heath. The words are his and hers, and I am but a reflection of his wisdom. Yes, I also feel the tears, but I have learned to managed them better.
I think having this forum to write down my feelings helps me a lot. Like the character in Orson Scott Card's book, Songmaster, the tears and the feelings are all mixed in with the words (songs). When I cannot write them down (or the character not able to sing), the emotions just burst out uncontrollably by themselves, and I am a wreck. When I can write them down, and make some sense out of all this mess, I feel better.
I hope you feel better soon, too, hpv.
You have always been like a rock of strength, with you sense of humor in the Make 'em Laugh topic, and your wisdom in the other threads. I am forever grateful to you for posting the Garbage Truck. That's a wonderful and wise essay.
I think in PHS, we will find the laughter and the smiles again, eventually. I think getting to know more about Heath helps a lot, and perhaps, one day, visiting his resting place in Perth, will also bring closure. But truly, learning the quotation I mentioned, that Tamara posted the other day, brings a lot of closure to me, because now I understand the source, the motivation of Heath's work, not only in Brokeback Mountain, but in all his movies, all his life.
Love you all.